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Kira Asatryan (@KiraAsatryan) discusses the epidemic of loneliness felt by modern Americans -- millennials in particular -- and how it can be countered by closeness, the foundation of all happy and long-lasting relationships. She is the author of Stop Being Lonely: Three Simple Steps to Developing Close Friendships and Deep Relationships.The Cheat Sheet:One in five Americans suffers from chronic loneliness (and among millennials, the percentage is even higher). Time Magazine slates it as the next big public health crisis.Because loneliness isn't as readily identifiable as depression, many -- especially men -- choose to suffer it in silence.Cultivating close relationships with others counters this loneliness, and it's a skill that can be learned rather than an inherent quality that only the lucky few possess.What is loneliness? What is closeness?How does social media -- in spite of keeping us in touch with possibly hundreds or thousands of people -- exacerbate loneliness for many?And so much more...Show notes

Kimberly Seltzer (@SeltzerKimberly) is a dating and makeover expert who draws upon her experience as a therapist for an inside-out approach to helping people look and feel their best. We welcome her back to the show to share the top five mistakes women make when trying to attract a man.The Cheat Sheet:Is it really true that "there are no good men out there?"Do you feel like the one who never gets approached or, if you do the approaching, you never get the response you're looking for?Body language, first impressions, messaging, social confidence, and your image play a huge role in how you come across to potential romantic partners.With which of the five archetypes of women do you most strongly identify -- and which mistakes are you most prone to make when trying to attract a man?What's the secret weapon that will help you overcome the mistakes commonly made by your prevailing archetype?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/kimberly-seltzer-top-5-mistakes-women-make-when-try

Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right.In this episode:What do you do for the friend who seems to need you as a cheerleader to pursue their life goals, but won't make any progress toward those goals on their own?You used to be the life of the party, but now social situations leave you feeling drained. Is there a way to regain emotional and mental endurance?An advanced degree doesn't have to come from an Ivy League school to demonstrate that you're serious about improving yourself."Getting drunk and high used to help lower my inhibitions so I could enjoy things, but now I've found that, when I'm in a good place spiritually, I'm simply not so inhibited any more."The idea of a "covert contract" applies just as much to places and things as it does to people, and sometimes we even make these contracts with ourselves. Does your current romantic interest really need to know how inexperienced you are at this st

Bert Jacobs (@Lifeisgood) is co-founder and CEO (Chief Executive Optimist) of The Life is Good Company, which spreads the power of optimism through inspiring art, a passionate community, and groundbreaking nonprofit work. He's also the co-author of the recently published Life is Good: The Book.The Cheat Sheet:Why is optimism so important?How did Bert Jacobs and his brother John turn a t-shirt company that operated from a van into a multi-million dollar business celebrating optimism?Gratitude is just one "superpower" unlocked by practicing optimism -- we talk about nine more.Learn how these superpowers allow you to overcome obstacles and embrace opportunities.Less is more: why do simple things often resonate more than the complex?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/bert-jacobs-life-good-episode-502/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible

Chris Guillebeau (@chrisguillebeau) is a bestselling author and host of the annual World Domination Summit. He's here to tell us how his new book Born for This will help you find the work you were meant to do.The Cheat Sheet:Why don't more people pursue a life of freedom/independence?The actual lottery isn't hackable, but the career lottery is.A side hustle isn't just "nice," it's a necessity.Learn the difference between hard and soft skills (and which are more valuable in the long run).Don't think like a CEO -- think like a janitor.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/chris-guillebeau-born-episode-501/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right.AJ fills in for Jordan this time around, so let's cut to it!In this episode:The cold shoulder is a poor way to communicate. How do you react when you're on the receiving end of this faulty connection?As complicated as all other factors in your younger sibling's life seem to be, they'll better fall into place if you set the example of positive role model first.These are the narcissists in your neighborhood. But do they really think they're better than you, or is it the other way around?How do you work yourself out of the funk caused by the worries of "real" life when it's ruining the drive you used to have for pursuing regular exercise and a vibrant social life?Can a long-distance relationship based more on intellect and reason rather than passion survive?Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com

Dan Harris (@danbharris) is a co-anchor of Nightline and the weekend edition of Good Morning America on ABC News. He's the author of 10% Happier: How I Tamed the Voice in My Head, Reduced Stress Without Losing My Edge, and Found Self-Help That Actually Works -- A True Story, about a fidgety, skeptical newsman who reluctantly became a meditator.The Cheat Sheet:If you're like most people, your deceptive inner voice acts as a malevolent puppeteer -- and it doesn't have your best interests at heart.When trying to come to terms with this malevolent puppeteer, meditation is more effective (and much easier) than you probably think.Contrary to popular misconception, meditation is more than just thinking about nothing (that's reserved for Zen masters and dead people).Even those of us with short attention spans (like Dan Harris) can learn to focus for the nanoseconds it takes to meditate and use it to come to terms with our malevolent puppeteer.The mindfulness found through meditation is a way to view the contents of o

Kimberly Seltzer (@SeltzerKimberly) is a dating and makeover expert who draws upon her experience as a therapist for an inside-out approach to helping people look and feel their best. We welcome her back to the show to give us a woman's perspective on setting boundaries and cracking the Narcissist Code.The Cheat Sheet:Women often fall into the role of the caretaker -- but how can they avoid becoming overcaretakers who habitually attract jerks, narcissists, and man children?Understand what it takes to set boundaries and how this filters out the wrong type of partner.Learn how to crack the Narcissist Code from the minute you say "hello."Get rid of old, harmful patterns of behavior with the Old Tape exercise.Discover what it takes for people to stop accusing you of being "too nice."And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/kimberly-seltzer-how-to-set-boundaries-episode-499/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what

Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right.If you're new to The Art of Charm Podcast, this isn't a great place to start. Most of our content is more in-depth and longer format, so check out our Best Of picks or the Fundamentals Toolbox episodes. There, we've got the fundamentals of body language and nonverbal communication, attraction, negotiation, networking, and everything else we teach here at The Art of Charm.We'll send all of this to your inbox if you text CHARMED to 33444.And if you want to ask us a question by phone to possibly be featured in a future Fan Mail Friday, drop us a line at (415) 429-1915!In this episode:Should you be content with a so-called "good" career at a good company and stop complaining just because you're not using the skills and natural talents that make you feel alive?Do millennials really deserve most of the bashing they get from their supposedly wiser elders? As discussed rec

Dr. Jeff Spencer (@jeffspencer) is here to tell us how he enables the impossible when everything's on the line. He's helped Olympic athletes win gold medals, he's helped businessmen make millions of dollars, and he's helped thought leaders move to the next level with his Champion's Blueprint program. "I'm the red telephone!" -Dr. Jeff Spencer The Cheat Sheet: Learn how to create a life that's in alignment with your talents. Hear Dr. Spencer's personal account of the 1972 Munich Summer Olympics tragedy. Decide how you're going to show up every day -- because how you act reflects on other people's performance. What's your legacy statement? (If you don't have one, you'll learn how to create it.) Why can't you outrun your blind spots? And so much more... Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/dr-jeff-spencer-champions-blueprint-episode-498/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help peo

Kimberly Seltzer (@SeltzerKimberly) is a dating and makeover expert who draws upon her experience as a therapist for an inside-out approach to helping people look and feel their best. We welcome her back to the show to give us a woman's perspective on flirting.The Cheat Sheet:What is the definition of flirting -- and how does it differ between women and men?Learn the top five excuses why women don't flirt or use femininity in dating and in the work force.Discover three practical ways to flirt that will attract what you want.Use Kimberly's magic formula for attraction (The Three Fs: have Fun, pay attention to Fashion, and tap into your Flirty femininity).Tune in to Kimberly's Dating GPS.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/kimberly-seltzer-flirting-for-women-episode-497/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the sh

Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right.And if you want to ask us a question by phone to possibly be featured in a future Fan Mail Friday, drop us a line at (415) 429-1915!AJ fills in for Jordan this time around, so let's cut to it!In this episode:No matter how confident you are, presentations take preparation. Don't let one bombed presentation knock you off a confident course. Have you checked out Toastmasters?Is it ever too soon to tell a romantic interest that you'll be moving to a new town (or a new country)?As a man, are you ever too old to rock the long hair?What do you do when your significant other seemingly stops caring about their appearance?Can a remorseful emotional cheater restore trust and mend the relationship they broke?Do you have to be hard wired to be an entrepreneur -- and if you're not, can you change your programming?Ever wondered how to anticipate someone's thought patterns?Have an

Scott Barry Kaufman (@sbkaufman) believes in the power of imagination and creativity to transform society for the better. He's the co-author of Wired to Create: Unraveling the Mysteries of the Creative Mind, which details the 10 habits of highly creative people.The Cheat Sheet:What's the difference between imagination and creativity?Learn how creative people have "messy" minds (and why this doesn't mean what it sounds like it means).What is creative thinking?Openness to new experiences is the number one best predictor of creativity.Understand how adopting the Outsider's Mindset -- looking at your everyday experiences (such as work) as an outsider -- can give you new and creative insights.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/scott-barry-kaufman-wired-to-create-episode-496/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the

Philip McKernan (@PhilipMcKernan) is like a life flow chiropractor. He helps people find or reconnect to what it is they truly love by aligning with their own intuition instead of suppressing it for the expectations of others and appeasement of a misleading mindset."We will literally live entire existences, build entire empires, and build entire businesses because we are seeking the validation of people around us -- and most people would be in complete denial of that reality." -Philip McKernanThe Cheat Sheet:If you're not living a life you love, it's time to have a tough conversation with yourself.How will an intuitive "soulset" serve you beyond the limitations of an intellectually driven (and inauthentic) mindset?What is intuition, and does it have a place in business?Why do we build webs of ever-increasing complexity around ourselves?It takes courage to step away from something that's not working -- but it's almost always worth it.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/ph

Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right.If you're new to The Art of Charm Podcast, this isn't a great place to start. Most of our content is more in-depth and longer format, so check out our Best Of picks or the Fundamentals Toolbox episodes. There, we've got the fundamentals of body language and nonverbal communication, attraction, negotiation, networking, and everything else we teach here at The Art of Charm.We'll send all of this to your inbox if you text CHARMED to 33444.And if you want to ask us a question by phone to possibly be featured in a future Fan Mail Friday, drop us a line at (415) 429-1915!In this episode:What should you do when you start falling for your best friend's girlfriend?Can a college kid go through a midlife crisis?Do grandparents have any right to complain about the name that's been given to their grandkid?Approach anxiety happens to us all. How do we get over it?You're vanilla

Gary Vaynerchuk (@garyvee) revisits The Art of Charm to talk about his new book #AskGaryVee: One Entrepreneur's Take on Leadership, Social Media, and Self-Awareness and answer questions from listeners and AoC alumni."Everybody old cares way more about how they made their money vs. how much they made." -Gary VaynerchukThe Cheat Sheet:With so many platforms at his disposal, why does Gary continue to write books?Where does a workaholic like Gary stand on the concept of work/life balance?When do we quit if something isn't working?How do you know if you're hard-wired to be an entrepreneur?How do we balance the hunger required to achieve Plan A while not taking too much comfort in Plan B?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/gary-vaynerchuk-askgaryvee-episode-494/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes!

Teresa de Grosbois (@TeresaDee) is an influence expert sought by entrepreneurs and large corporations wanting to better understand how local word of mouth can suddenly turn epidemic, and she's the author of Mass Influence: The Habits of the Highly Influential.The Cheat Sheet:Why is developing a knack for mass influence more important than just offering improvement to your own life?Learn the simple habits you can build to become someone who can easily create meaningful change and support others in doing the same.Discover how influencers think and the habits they follow, including the unspoken rule book they play byWhat are the top mistakes to avoid when dealing with influential people?Discover what you need to know to get past the gatekeepers in meeting influencers.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/teresa-de-grosbois-mass-influence-episode-493/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out f

Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right.In this episode:Can your personal growth still thrive if you're in a relationship with an underachiever?A man in sweatpants every night is just as unsexy as a woman in sweatpants every night.Should an interviewer ever challenge a subject matter expert if their experience with the subject differs?An Art of Charm bootcamp veteran explains why he chose our residency program over some of the larger ones out there (and what he told his friends who asked what he was doing on his week away).How important is your grade point average in college compared to actually learning something useful?What do you do when you see someone clearly engaging in supplicative behavior?Check out Jordan's video this week about why you need to cultivate discipline to win.Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com or even, tha

Dr. Duana Welch (@duanawelch), author of Love Factually, rejoins us to explain how men can enter, exit, and recover from relationships in a way that benefits them...all based on science.The Cheat Sheet:Is "love at first sight" a real thing? Science has the surprising answer.Women have shaped men psychologically over the course of evolutionary history.How do mating strategies differ between men and women?Learn the best predictors for whether your partner will cheat or be faithful.What (specifically) should you say to someone you need to break up with?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/duana-welch-love-logically-episode-492/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jay Baer (@JayBaer), author of Hug Your Haters: How to Embrace Complaints and Keep Your Customers, shows us why we should strive to understand our haters and communicate with them instead of getting defensive or -- worse -- ignoring them altogether."When you answer your critics in public, they never see it coming. You can blow their minds and steal their hearts." -Jay BaerThe Cheat Sheet:Customer retention should take precedence over acquiring new customers in any business, yet marketing budgets overwhelmingly exceed customer service budgets across all industries. Why?Thanks to social media, customer complaints are more public than ever. A smart company will see this as an opportunity for customer engagement and satisfaction rather than a setback.80 percent of businesses say they deliver superior customer service. Eight percent of their customers agree.The Rule of Two: never interact with someone online more than twice. If they love you, there's no need to answer more than twice. If they hate you, there's no