Sex With Emily

What do you actually want to feel during sex? On today’s best-of episode, my friends Celeste Hirshman & Danielle Harel, co-authors of Coming Together: Embracing Your Core Desires for Sexual Fulfillment and Long-Term Compatibility, help reveal your core desires – your personal, psychological motivation for having sex, and how to get that feeling in the moment. Celeste, Danielle and I talk about how sex can be a medicine for old wounds we felt growing up: whether you want to feel powerful, special, even degraded in bed – it all goes back to our personal history, and what we’re looking for when we have sex. We also talk about creating your hottest sexual movie, how to perform sexual breathing, and why – if you want sex to last in a long-term relationship – you really have to do this core desire work. It’s a can’t miss episode of sexual wisdom, whether you’re single, partnered, or simply want to know what gets you hot. For more Celeste, Danielle & Somatica Institute: Website | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube | Fa

Here’s something wild: nearly half of people in monogamous relationships report they’ve had affairs, according to recent research. Half! And that’s just the people who admitted it.   We can all agree that getting cheated on feels awful – as in, the literal worst. So why is it so common? In this episode, we’re talking trust and infidelity as we break down the reasons why people cheat, what to do if an affair has happened, and deciding whether to rebuild or break up and move on. Plus, I take your questions on trust and infidelity: how to restore your confidence after an affair, what to do if you suspect or just caught your partner cheating, and how to come back from online infidelity.  Show Notes: Ask Emily: How Do I Tell My Partner I Don’t Like Something?  The Gottmans on Compatibility, Conflict & Conversation For More Information on EMDR Therapy Tips for Better Communication Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

So you’re ready to date. Fantastic! But are you feeling a little rusty on flirting? Making the first move? And, real talk: how’s your dating app profile?  Today’s show is your dating primer 101, so you can walk into every date knowing exactly what you want: whether it’s a long-term partner, or a just-for-the-night hookup. I’m talking how to meet people, how to make sexy conversations, how to take your best dating app pics, and what people are looking for when they’re on a date. Plus, I take your questions! How to feel more confident saying “yes” to dates, how to express your intentions around sex, when to bring sex toys into the bedroom and much more.  Show Notes: 15 Types of Sexuality and Attraction to Help You Understand Your Desire Style Friends with Benefits: A Guide Esther Perel’s Game: So Where Should We Begin? We’re Not Really Strangers Game The Gottman Institute’s Game The Magic Wand Emily’s Crave Vesper Vibrator Necklace Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When it comes to relationships across the board – from sex, to work, to friendships – do you actually know what impression you’re having on others? Especially when you first meet someone? In this best of show, I’m throwing it back to my conversation with fellow podcaster Jordan Harbinger, who gets real on social behaviors and the power of body language.  Jordan and I talk about the difference between authenticity and hustling, confidence while dating, and the shocking power of nonverbal communication. He coaches us on developing open, positive body postures, and helps all of us walk into a room with charisma and curiosity.  For More Jordan Harbinger Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Youtube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is there a vulva owner in your life you’d love to treat? By giving them the best oral sex of their life? You’ve come to the right place. Whether or not you’re with someone currently, or simply want to brush up on your oral skills for the future, it’s never a bad time to sharpen your pleasure techniques. After the blow job episode I did earlier this month I promised that you’d get an oral sex show specifically for vulvas – and it’s here. In today’s episode, I’m talking you through everything you need to know to deliver A+ oral sex, specifically for vulvas. I’m teaching how to tease, how to use your tongue, how to perform the Kivin method, and how to stimulate the famous G-spot. Plus, I take your questions!  What to do if you desperately want oral but your partner isn’t too keen on giving. How to let go of potential insecurities and truly enjoy receiving. What to do when your hygiene concerns are getting in the way of pleasure, How to reduce discomfort while giving. Plus, how to give your partner pointers on wh

Breakups completely, fundamentally suck – full stop. Especially if you’re still connected to the person: you still live together, you share friends, or…you can’t stop fantasizing about them sexually. And that’s because breakups function exactly like withdrawal: this other person was a drug of sorts, and now, you can’t get your hit.  But breakups also teach us a lot about ourselves, especially if that person was annoyingly awesome in bed. So in this episode, we’re looking at the psychology of breakups, empowering ways to cope and move on, and most importantly, how to keep nurturing your sexuality while you heal. Plus, I take your questions! How to move on from a hookup partner who’s not ready for a relationship, what it means when you’re sexting with an ex, how to do the friendship custody battle after a breakup, and how to break up when you know it’s the right thing to do…but you’re terrified to do it.  Show Notes: 7 Steps to Breakup Recovery Podcast More About EMDR Therapy The Yes No Maybe List  Hosted

If you are someone who had substandard sex ed as a young person (all of us?), you are going to love this throwback episode with Gil Ozeri, comedian, actor, and writer for the very popular show “Big Mouth”. Growing up with adults who avoided the sex talk like the plague, Gil discusses the shame that can result...shame a lot of us still carry. That’s why “Big Mouth” (now in Season 5 on Netflix) takes the awkward experience of adolescence, demystifies it, and helps all of us get the answers we wish we’d gotten back then — while being super funny. If you’ve got a young person in your life, this episode is a must-listen.  Gil and I take a dive into our own hormonal teen years, how to make sex ed more relatable, and tips for post-baby sex…because why not? I also take your questions: how to give a better blowjob, how to make FaceTime sex hot, and how to get your sexual connection back after the spark has died. For More Gil Ozeri: Website | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privac

I am joined by Violet Benson, host of the new podcast Almost Adulting and creator of the wildly popular Instagram account  @DaddyIssues_. Over the last couple of years, Violet has become well known for her irreverent relationship and dating advice.  In this interview, Violet reveals why she has stopped dating (for now), what exactly a “pick me girl” is and how attraction is not always dependent on good looks. And because this is a sex show after all, Violet shared some tips for avoiding potentially embarrassing moments in the bedroom. This is a good one! For More Violet: Almost Adulting Podcast Meme Instagram | Personal Instagram | Podcast Instagram Twitter | Facebook | Youtube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We’re talking about blow jobs. It’s an oral sex masterclass, and you’re invited.On today’s episode, I’m sharing everything you need to know about oral sex on a penis. Also, I take your blow job questions: where to start as a beginner, how to enjoy receiving, what to know when pleasuring an uncircumcised penis and what to do if you’re struggling to swallow. Don’t blow off this episode. Together, we can bring your oral sex game to the next level.  Show Notes: Everybody Loves Oral 6 Oral Sex Tips for Going Down On a Vulva  Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method How to Give A Better BJ  Skyn Condoms  Emily’s Shop Page Breathe App Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A great sext is all about anticipation…kind of like foreplay: And as the 21st century way to talk dirty, sexting — when executed well — can be super hot. Sexting is an art form, and in this show, I give you pro tips for perfecting yours. Because let’s face it: randomly sending a bunch of squirting emojis might not be as sexy as it is confusing, for the person on the other side.  As with everything in life, good sexting comes down to emotional intelligence, so let’s talk shop. This episode is designed to help you send your best sext, and excite the person receiving your message. Plus, I take your questions! How to start flirting online, how to manage your devices so your messages don’t accidentally end up in the wrong place and how to have good phone sex in a long distance relationship. Finally, the Sex With Emily community has delivered, and I’m sharing YOUR hottest sexts. Show Notes: Talk Dirty To Me w/ Joanna Angel Signal Messenger What’s app  Amorus App We-Vibe Toys Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/pr

Let the pulsations begin, because today’s episode is a love letter to your orgasm – and all the ways we can dose your body with pleasure. First, we’re helping you understand, anatomically, just what the hell is going on with the big O. And for my never-had-an-orgasm friends we’re going to give you techniques to help you get there. Finally, we’re offering tricks to elevate your orgasm, with everything from easy hacks to long-term rituals, to achieve the deep pleasure you crave.  Plus we take all your orgasm questions! What to do when you can’t orgasm with your partner, how to break the habit of faking orgasms, how to bring back an orgasm that’s suddenly disappeared, and how to achieve the holy grail of multiple O’s.  Show Notes: Shop w/ Emily  The Womanizer We-Vibe Toys Dame Products The Edging Guide  Je Joue Kegel Ball Set Biohack Your Orgasm w/ Alisa Vitti Bellesa  Try Quinn Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you cut out for friends with benefits? If you crave regular sex, but don’t have capacity for a full-on relationship, an FWB arrangement could be just what the doctor ordered. But there’s a lot you should know before diving in! For some, FWB’s can be a super satisfying way to get your needs met, without the commitment of a traditional partnership. However, just because it’s not “traditional” doesn’t mean there aren’t rules of engagement, boundaries, and lots of communication. In this episode, I help you self-assess to figure out if you’re a good candidate for FWB, explain how FWB’s are qualitatively different from casual sex and hook-ups, and hacks to live your best FWB life.  Show Notes: The Communication Guide  The Yes No Maybe List   He’s Just Not That Into You: The No Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sexual wisdom (like all wisdom) is self-awareness plus lived experience. But I hear from people in their 20s all the time who are shockingly self-aware – they just haven’t stacked enough life experience to know how to navigate sex as it applies to them. So maybe that’s you, or maybe you're not in your 20s…but feel like you missed out on some sexual basics. If that’s you, gather ‘round, because this best-of episode is devoted to all the killer advice I wish I’d been given in my 20s.  Whether it’s figuring out what your turn-ons are, what to do when a partner constantly cheats, or how to try anal (one word: lube), I’m answering all of your ground zero sex questions today. We get into all of that, plus how to approach your first threesome, how to seek out couple’s therapy (yes: you can do it in your 20s!), and how to communicate your deepest desires in the bedroom. Show Notes: The Communication Guide  The Yes No Maybe List Coming Together by Celeste and Danielle Pjur Anal Lube Hosted on Acast. See acast.c

You’ve probably heard that the brain is the largest sex organ in your body. But can you really hack your brain for happiness? Or better sex? Psychiatrist and bestselling author Dr. Daniel Amen has amassed the world’s largest database of brain scans, and studies that information to reveal something fascinating: using neuroscience-based habits, we have the power to radically improve our mental health, our mood, and yes – our sex lives.  Dr. Amen’s latest book is You, Happier, and on this episode, he reveals the lies of happiness, the stress hormones impeding your sex hormones, how to focus on micro-moments of happiness, and strategies for protecting yourself from the “noise” in your head. He also explains why happy people tend to live longer, have better relationships, be more successful in their careers…and, let’s face it, have way hotter sex. Listen now, to learn how to master your mind, and reap the rewards.  More Dr. Daniel Amen To Order You, Happier  Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Tiktok A

Let’s talk sexual tension and seduction, people. Maybe you’re single, and trying to brush up on your flirting skills. Or perhaps you’re in a long-term relationship, and frustrated that you don’t entice each other like you used to. Either way, I’m going to teach you how to build (or rebuild) sexual tension. At its core, seduction itself is about creating sexual tension, and to pull that off, we need a few things at our disposal, like confidence and radical presence. It’s a sexy sort of restraint, where your behavior is suggestive (not explicit), and your vibe is patient (not desperate). So today’s episode is all about sharpening our skills in the sexy and suggestive department. Plus, I take your questions, like how to make the first move, how to turn sexual banter into actual sex, and much, much more.  Show Notes: Chemistry, Attraction & Connection w/ Matthew Hussey How to Be a Master Dater w/ Matthew Hussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sexual fantasies give us a window into what we need: a type of touch, a type of power, or even a type of person. But what if you’re one of those people who’s like: “I don’t know how to fantasize, Emily?” Then look no further than sex educator and author of Curvy Girl Sex Elle Chase. Elle joins me to talk about cultivating your erotic daydreams, what your fantasies say about your desire style, and how to turn a common fantasy into a reality: finding a friend with benefits.   Plus, we take your questions! How to respond to a partner who desperately wants to watch you have sex with another (but you’re not so into it), what to say to a partner who thinks butts are gross, how to talk about your kink to a new partner and much more.  For More Elle Chase:  Website | Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Elle’s Naughty Coloring Book | Curvy Girl Sex by Elle Chase | Elle’s Fantasy Course  Show Notes: Tell Me What You Want by Justin Lehmiller Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski The Yes No Maybe List  We Vibe Toys Hosted

When you keep running into the same relationship (or sex) problems over and over again, what’s the one common denominator? Brace yourself…because it’s you. You’re the thing that carries over from partnership to partnership, which is why Gary Bishop, author of the crazy bestseller “Unfu*k Yourself” decided to write a new book – a tough love spin on self-help. It’s called “Love Unfu*ked: Getting Your Relationship Sh!t Together,” and I invited him to chat with me about it. In this interview, Gary and I talk about how to become aware of our destructive relationship habits, and concrete ways to manage them. He tells me the one simple change he made with his current partner that transformed their relationship, and we go deep on feeling threatened: the fight or flight response that inhibits emotional intimacy, not to mention our best sex. But we also talk about the hopeful side of radical self-awareness, and the opportunity in front of us, when we step outside of ourselves, look at our patterns, and change them – to

Today’s show is all about exploring sexual attraction; what it means and how does it fit into romantic love. By the end of today’s episode, you’ll better understand how and why YOU may feel sexually attracted to another person and how that can sometimes be distinct from feelings associated with long-term love. Plus, I take your questions! What to do when you’re straight, but kinda wanna hook up in a non-straight way, what to do when you and your partner are both submissive (and both crave dominance), how to bring back the spark, and when you should hang onto a friend with quality benefits – and, when to let them go.  Show Notes: Sex, Drugs and The Side Effects of Birth Control w/ Ricki Lake & Abby Epstein For More Studies From Justin Lehmiller Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let’s talk anal play! If you’re a booty newbie, where do you begin? What feel-good nerve endings are you looking for? Should you start alone, or with a partner? And how the hell do you go shopping for butt plugs? Listen: if you’ve got backdoor questions, my guests Dr. Charlie Glickman and Dr. Hernando Chaves have answers. Today’s best-of episode is THE anal 101 primer, and if you’re not butt-curious now…you will be, in less than an hour.  Listen up for tips to stimulate the prostate (AKA the male G-spot), how to prepare hygienically,  finger techniques for prostate massage, and how anal play can add so much crazy pleasure to your sex life, no matter your gender.  Show Notes: Dr Charlie Glickman | Website Hernando Chaves | Instagram | Twitter Aneros Skyn Condoms Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How do you kickstart sexual arousal? Would you believe me if I told you that sometimes, the best ways to get turned on have nothing to do with sex itself? When you take the focus off the bedroom, and turn your focus toward adventure – the kind that gets your heart-pumping, your adrenaline going, and your anticipation building – a cool thing happens in your brain. You’re excited, and that excitement spills over from the activity into…sex. Pretty nifty, right? So on today’s show, we’re going to trust, touch, and titillate our way towards arousal, with bonding hacks you can use on your next date whether it is with a long term partner or someone new. Plus, I take your questions! Ways to feel confident and sexual again after a breakup, how to have kinky sex with a partner who says they aren’t interested, how to decide if you should wait to develop a relationship with a super busy person or cut em’ loose, how to take sexy pictures with each other, and how to communicate your needs efficiently outside the bedroom so