Sex Nerd Sandra

BECOMING YOURSELF! Sandra clarifies her New Year's announcement with ex-cohost Dave Ross (Terrified podcast), exploring their shifting identities, burnout and what it means for their careers. TOPICS: A Private Private Life, Feelings in Standup Comedy, Revealing Secrets, Losing Touch with Yourself, Sex Nerd vs Sex Educator, Public Scrutiny, Rape Jokes, Finding Your Voice, "Feelings Guy," Being All of Yourself, Self-Obsession, Dogs, Licking Your Own Genitals, Defining Burnout, Sketch, Memoir, Codependence, Brand, Co-Hosting Philosophy, Jackie Kashian and the Nerdist Holiday Party.    

POLY-SATURATED! A Zen master of his own emotions, Sandra's relationship mentor talks about the skills he uses to navigate his poly lifestyle. TOPICS: Catholic Wine, Maximum Bandwidth, Knowing Yourself, Dating Your Species, Choosing the Single Life, Ultimatums, Protecting Your Partner by Lying, American Idol, Long Distance Relationship, Getting Cheated On, First Poly Relationship, Veto Power, New Relationship Energy, Triggers, Refusing Comparisons, Patience, Commitment Phobia, High School, Postponing Passion, Hook-ups, Dirty & Wrong, Choosing Love, No as a Complete Sentence, Aging and Disability and Abundance vs Excess.

STEALTH-ER-BATE. Sandra gets real about her deal lately and sex educator Ashley Manta throws down naughty tips for hot phone sex. TOPICS: Sex Nerd vs Sex Ed, Feeling Feelings, Planning for Phone Sex, Why vs How & What, Connective Experience, Verbalizing Sexy, Reading Erotica, Practice Your Words, Narrating, Honesty, Bluetooth, Common Barriers, Breath, Auditory Feedback, Toys, Smiling Sounds,  Moaning Tips, No Limitations and Negotiating Phone Sex. 

HOW TO FLIRT IN COLOMBIA. Author and science communicator Pere Estupinya sheds brilliant light on sex science and sensuality in the Spanish speaking world. TOPICS: Catalan vs Spanish, Male Multiple Orgasm, Scientist at a Sex Party, Orgasm Physiology, Female Ejaculation, Men vs Women, The Clit-G Spot Connection, Sponge Innervation, Vagus Nerve Magic, Spinal Cord Injury Sex, Latin and South American Sensuality vs Gringo Sexuality, Hooking Up in NYC, Flirting in Colombia, Sex Ed vs Science, HPV, The Importance of Sexual Diversity and the Value of Sex Science.

  JAWLINES! Sandra asks actor Liam McIntyre (Spartacus) forward questions about what it's like to be attractive, learning about fame, true love and how she judged him too soon. TOPICS: Good Genetic Stock, Getting Objectified, Chubby Bullied Kid, San Diego Comic Con, Intense Weight Loss, Objectification, Samuel L. Jackson, Fame, Status, Attractive Assumptions, Narcissism, terrible with Women, True Love, The Game, Men's Health Cover, Skinny to Beefy, on Set Story, Passion, Pretty Bonuses, Revisionist History, Non-Conformist Flabbiness and Mystery. 

  GETTING LAID THROUGH LAUGHTER! Hilarious comedian, podcaster (Ding-Donger via Nerdist) and actor Matt Braunger shares his sharp insight into the world of sex in standup comedy on both sides of the mic. TOPICS: Last Names, Sex Cave, Rancor, Writing Sex Jokes, April Richardson, Filthy On-Stage, Pushing Buttons, Flirting, Hitting on the Help,  Getting Hit On, Bombing, Unsexy Nudity, Richard Pryer, PSAs, Trying Standup Comedy, Sex Specifics, Making People Laugh, Free Speech, Sex Negative Jokes, Alternative Comedy, Patton Oswalt, Riffing, Hitting on a Comic, Making Mistakes vs Taking Chances and Boners.

WORK YOUR ANGLES! Enjoy this special holiday romp with nurse and adult super star Nina Hartley!  Celebrating 30 years in porn, Nina shares the steps to giving pleasure in the driver's seat. TOPICS: Technique vs Attitude, Privilege, Sex Tricks, Intercourse, Coital Alignment Technique, Rhythm, Steps to Wielding a Penis, Empathy to Pleasure, Anterior vs Posterior Walls, Lateral Fornix vs Cervical Os, Fourchette, Lever and Fulcrum, Introitus vs Vestibule, Tolerating vs Craving Penetration, Real Life Arousal, Pre-cum, "Master of O," The Sopranos, Lady Astride, Narrow Chairs, Tapping Out, Threesomes and Sapiosexuality.  

COVERING UP THE NERD! Sandra asks porn star and edible maker, Justine Joli, inappropriate questions about the pros & cons of being beautiful. Find out what happens when "the world reflects something that [we] don’t see." TOPICS: OkCupid, Finally Seeing Yourself, Bullying, Mullet, Catcalling, Aria Giovanni, Body Dysmorphia, Lesbian Sex, Body Issues, Ideal Porn Star, Tattoos, Bonnie Rotten, Belladonna, "Transexual Fairy Godmother Poop Show," Plastic Surgery Addiction, Dr. Victoria Zdrok, Boob Jobs, Emily Marilyn, Adult Circumcision, Weight Loss, Makeup as War Paint, Armoring Up, Staying Perfect, Halo Effect, Having Superpowers, Feeling Inauthentic and Detached, Covering Up the Nerd Underneath, Korean Skin Brushing, Dangerous Attention, Aging, Beauty Secrets, Jealousy,  Getting Free Drinks, Sad Puppy Dog Face, How to Reject Someone, Hot Men, Fabio and Weed Jerky!

GETTING THE HOT SEX YOU WANT! Australian sex therapist and coach Cyndi Darnell shares how to lay the groundwork for expanding your sex life. TOPICS: Coach vs Therapist, Depths of Sexuality, Sloppy Communication, Erotic Fear, Showing Desire, Feminist Men, Learning to do it, Reproduction, Cooking, Hottest Experiences, Jack Morin, Expanding Your Sex Life, Compliment Sandwich, Conscious Sex, Fantasy, Ruining the Mood, Speaking Up for Yourself, Needing to be Liked vs Honorable and How Your Parents Effect Your Sex Life!

FOR THRILL SEEKERS AND COMFORT CREATURES! Sandra fangirls out over Ian Kerner Ph.D, MFT, sex therapist and author of the bestselling oral sex book, "She Comes First." They explore the myriad reasons why the book hits home, how to create a sex space that helps our minds deactivate and surrender, the link between female arousal and stress, and a refreshing perspective on porn. TOPICS: Unbearable Lightness of Being, Fruity Book Covers, Written for Men, Women Fans, Strunk & White, Philosophical Approach, Sexual Cripple, Satisfying Women, Intercourse Discourse, An Alternative Path to Pleasure, From Tormented to Joyful, Deconstruction, "Cunnilingus Class," Nina Hartley, A Modest Approach, Mental Deactivation, Fantasizing During Sex, Seduction, Theory of Courtship, Physiological vs Mental Aspects of Sex, Safe Space for Fantasy, Core Erotic Themes, Jack Morin, Esther Perel, The Paradox of Cozy & Thrilling, Analysis as Inhibiting Arousal, and finally the Pros and Cons of Porn Usage.  

NECROPHILIA EXPLAINED! Mortician, author and founder of The Order of the Good Death, Caitlin Doughty joins Sandra to explore the surprising ways death and sex intersect. TOPICS: Sex Party Etiquette, Ask a Mortician, Smoke Gets in Your Eyes, Death-Positivity, Goths, Morbid Titillation, Increasing Sex Drive, Life Begets Death, Relationship Options, Funeral Industry Inside Scoop, Instincts, Vagina-colored Glasses, Halloween, Zombies, the Taboo of Sadness & Jealousy, Death's Ankle, Carpe diem and Seize the butt stuff! Also, the best "Clueless" reference in the known universe.  

RULES, AGREEMENTS AND BOUNDARIES, OH MY!  “More Than Two” authors Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert offer a problem solving toolkit for your relationship, no matter what the style, while examining polyamory as a cultural and ethical system for channeling non-monogamy. TOPICS: Poly Theory, Swinging, Casual Sex, Small Town Swingers, “Pearl Harbor,” “Frozen,” “Drinking Buddies,” “Her,” Intrinsic Relationship Styles, Military Couples, Moral Practicalities, Con Sex, 100 Mile Rule, “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,” Polyfidelity, Polyfamily vs Tribe, Religious Polygamy, Pitfalls of Passive and Triangular Communication, British “Last Biscuit” Problem, Metamour, Listening Skills of Direct Communication, Rules vs Agreements vs Boundaries, Kitty Ears, 2 Ethical Commandments, Reversal Thingy-ness, Training Wheels, Self Work and Regional Online Dating!

NO PUNCHING ALLOWED! Girl Sex 101 author and sex educator Allison Moon clarifies misunderstandings about her favorite activity: vaginal fisting. THEN Jess & Roe give us a hand with 201 and 301 techniques. TOPICS: Accidental Fisting, Sex Menu, Lesbian Stuff, Being Inside, Connecting Deeply, Extreme Stereotypes, Tightness Myth, Snapping Back, Squirting, Vaginal Muscle Activity, Koko the Gorilla, Pregnancy Prep, Aroused Labor, Lube, Fingering+, Internal Massage and Talking to Girls. THEN: Fisting Friends, Performance Anxiety, The Purpose of the Pinky, Pussy Demolition, Kung Fu Grip, Gloves, Social Judgement, Handballing, Fancy Double Hand Move, Withdrawl and NO PUNCHING!  

GHOST PENIS, BREAKING UP AND CELEBRITY FACES! Sandra makes friends with the insightful podcast pioneer duo Keith Malley and Chemda of Keith and The Girl. TOPICS: “Staying Together for the Baby,” Mutual Breakup, Louis C.K.’s Divorce Wisdom, Popping the Emotional Question, Feeling Like a Princess, Trans Identity, Lauren Hennessey, Accidental Activism, Trans Expectations, Plastic Surgery, Angelina Jolie, Meg Ryan & James Spader, Facelifts, Body Judgements, Lorde & Kelly Clarkson, Glam Rock, Makeup Phobia, Strap-ons, Masculine Identity, Being Seen, and Aging Gracefully.

OWN YOUR DESIRE! Dating advice expert, Harris O'Malley, a.k.a. Dr. Nerdlove chimes in on solutions, struggles and pitfalls of the nice guy. TOPICS: Pickup Artists, Erotic Masquerade Drama, Kino Escalating, Rejection, Cognitive Dissonance, Transactional Friendships, "Pretty in Pink," Duckie, One-Sided Affection, Is nice good enough?, Confirmation Bias, The Dark Triad of Psychopathy, Machiavellianism & Narcissism, Douchbags, Captain Jack Harkness of Dr. Who & Torchwood, Halo Effect, Social Engineering, Letting it Go and When to make your move!

  Witness Sandra make new friends with author, sex ed heavy hitter and straight shooter Cory Silverberg. TOPICS: Rubbing One Off, White Men, Journalism, Nerds, Anxiety, Self-Awareness, Squelching, Erotic Hypnosis, Aroused Ovulation, Sex Science Snags, Individuals vs Populations, Sex Writing, Flirting, Dating & Disability, Low Bar Sex Ed, Sex vs Reproduction, Gender, Kickstarter, Intro Drama, Person of Color, Aggressive Sperm vs Passive Egg (myths) and P-i-V Sex. Checkout Cory's phenomenal children's book, "What Makes a Baby."

Author and Super Expert Emily Nagoski Ph.D. reveals a new world of knowledge in understanding sex drive. PLUS! Allison Moon chimes in on cunnilingus. TOPICS: Pleasure Plateau of Alcohol, Valley of Regret, Buck Rogers, Desire: Spontaneous vs Responsive vs Context-sensitive, Sex Break & Gas Pedals, Fight or Flight or Freeze, Shaking it Off, Other Drives, The Little Monitor, The Pit of Despair and How to shift goals for maximum success!

Live from SDCC 2014, it's the Nerdist Podcast Super Panel with Matt Mira (Nerdist, James Bonding), Jonah Ray (Nerdist, Jonah Raydio), Janet Varney (The JV Club), Cole Stratton (Pop My Culture), Gil Letelier (The Mutant Season), Ben Blacker (Nerdist Writers Panel, Nerdist Comics Panel, Thrilling Adventure Hour), Ben Acker (Thrilling Adventure Hour), Sandra Daugherty (Sex Nerd Sandra) and Dave Ross (Terrified)!

HYPNOTIC TELEPORTATION! Sandra's mind gets blown with stories from newbie practitioners Gavin & Tish, plus expert Mark Wiseman sticks around to chime in! TOPICS: Hypnotyping, Sub Safety, Chair Malfunctions,Word Choice,  Hypno-Friend-With-Benefits, Fractionation, Mutual Induction, Shrooms, Driving Metaphor, Beginner’s Luck, Post-Hypnotic Suggestions, Breast Play, Pleasure Training, Cylon, The Fermata, Time Control Fantasy, Mind Frack, Placebo Effect, NLP, and Brain Scanning Science!

Sandra investigates an alluring topic she knows nothing about with 15 year hypnosis veteran and author, Mark Wiseman! TRIGGER WARNING: Near the end, a hypnotic demonstration with submissive Dani brings about... intense results. TOPICS: Trance States, Dropping, Hypnogogic & Hypnopompic States, Falling Asleep, Theta Brain Waves, Finding Your Hypnotism Voice, Drawing People In, Chest Pounding Exercise, Kink, Orgasming on Command, Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Social Skills, Building Rapport, Mirroring & Matching Body Language, Bill Clinton, Temple Stroking, Kinesthetic Modality, Sex Noises, Hot Buttons, Service Dom, Hypno-Bondage, Belief & Expectation, Context as Key, Classical Conditioning. Stay tuned for Stories in Part 2!