Polyamory Weekly

Kevin Patterson discusses his soon-to-be-released new book, Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamory 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:30 Announcements Solo Poly Con is in Seattle in April with early bird pricing until January 31 #sopoco18 Take the Relations Decisions Lab survey and click Participants>Open Relationship survey if you are currently monogamous and looking to open up your relationship Lush’s Polyamory bath bomb 5:15 Interview: Kevin Patterson Poly Role Models blog Love’s not color blind: race and representation in poly and other alternative communities New York Times Magazine article Poly Role Models Facebook page with all the book tour events He’ll be at Poly Living Philadelphia, Playground Conference in Toronto, CatalystCon, Poly Dallas Millennium and have stops in Portland, Olympia, Seattle, Vancouver IndieGoGo to get the book early and support the book tour! Enter to win your advance copy of Love’s Not

Educator, business owner, and burlesque performer Iris Muscarella discusses the importance of nurturing sisterhood in polyamory 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:30 Interview: Iris Muscarella on sisterhood in polyamory New insights on relationship anarchy Andie Nordren on relationship anarchy what is sisterhood exactly, and what does that look like in polyamory? What advice would you give to women who feel they aren’t good at making female friends? Iris reaches out to her metamours to introduce herself and to show respect for the existing relationship How to set up metamour group time if you’re an introvert How to let people play to their strengths 26:15 Feedback Maria calls in to ask why we don’t use our real names—wouldn’t it be more powerful? Alan recommended a few Christian poly-friendly churches: the Metro Community Church, Unitarian Universalist church, and the Christian New Thought church 32:30 Happy poly moment Ann writes in to say

Highlights from the best episodes of 2017 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:15 Erich Viege presents a Poly Weekly year in review The author of original comic series Wonder Woman William Marston was in a polyamorous triad, and a movie based on his life was released in 2017. Episode 536 Response to Mayim Bialik’s rant on polyamory Ethical Slut 20th anniversary update 43 episodes, 17 listener questions (approximately 1/3); cohosts Lusty Guy, Kevin Patterson, Koe Creation, Erich Viedge Minx and LG published No Dick Pics: How to Opimize Your Online Dating Profile Dan Savage was our biggest celebrity Also Pepper Mint, Kitty Chambliss, Cooper Beckett, Isabelle Broué, Dedeker Winston, Page Turner, and AggieSez And as we strove for inclusion, Poly Dallas Millennium organizer Ruby Bouie Johnson and Chris Smith, a doctoral student, about his paper called Open to Love; Poly and the Black American. Also Ignacio Rivera spoke on consensual sex educatio

Is it OK to use your veto power if your metamour is a drama queen to the point that your needs aren't being met? 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:30 Intro and host chat Lusty Guy cohosts, and we talk over how our polycule handled the holidays this year. Also, Threadfinder writes in to let us know the Baton Rouge Open and Poly (BROP) group is doing well, and they are also hosting Drums in the Swamp. 9:00 My partner is dating a drama queen Kathy has been dating for a year a guy who started dating X four months ago. Kathy didn’t get along with the metamour X and feels her own needs were not being met by her partner when he was with the metamour. Kathy feels that Guy would shower X with support, and Kathy would do the emotional labor of supporting Guy through events/breakups with X. But when Kathy needed Guy’s emotional support when she lost her grandmother, she says that Guy couldn’t, and she felt it was because he was always supporting X. Guy and

Erich Viedge interviews French poly filmmaker Isa Lutine, a.k.a. Isabelle Broué, about her latest poly film. 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:30 Intro and host chat  Nurse, counselor and poly educator Kathy Labriola shares her poly holiday survival guide tips in a guest blog post. 2:45 Poly in the news Sudden abundance of black and poly web series and films Polyamory is one of the most popular relationship search terms of 2017 You, me and polyamory: Inside Philadelphia’s growing nonmonogamous community featuring our own Kevin Patterson and Antoinette Crumby’s poly relationship! And their pastor’s response blog post was awesomely compassionate and loving. 11:00 Interview: Erich Viege interviews filmmaker Isa Lutine, a.k.a Isabelle Broué Broué is the director of the 2004 film Tout le plaisir est pour moi — all the pleasure is for me — about a radio journalist who realises one day she’s lost her clitoris. In 2016, She made a feature film abo

Kitty Chambliss shares her insights on jealousy and the Jealousy Survival Guide 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:30 Intro and host chat We’re on Spotify! 1:50 Poly in the news Polyamory in Sicilon Valley 4:10 Interview: Kitty Chambliss, author of the Jealousy Survival Guide Kitty Chambliss is a #1 Amazon best selling author, relationship coach, polyamorous and sex-positive speaker, activist, and founder of Loving Without Boundaries (LWB). Since 2012 LWB has over 200 blog posts and 70 podcasts to date. Kitty’s work has been featured in Stories From the Polycule, Multiamory, Swingtowns, PostModern Woman, the upcoming book It’s Called Polyamory: Coming Out About Your Nonmonogamous Relationships, and other publications around the globe. Kitty is a professional dual-certified (CPC and ELI-MP) relationship coach. Lastly Kitty is thrilled to be bringing her first book: Jealousy Survival Guide: How to feel safe, happy, and secure in an open relatio

Pepper Mint discusses his new book, Playing Fair: Guide to Nonmonogamy for Men Into Women 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:30 Intro and host chat Minx apologizes for not publishing the last two weeks due to work and family obligations, but yay, we have an interview with Pepper this week! 2:00 Interview: Pepper Mint Pepper Mint is an activist, educator, and community organizer in the polyamory and BDSM communities in San Francisco.  Over the years, he has been responsible for many fun adventures, including Poly Speed Dating and the OpenSF conference.  You can find his writings at freaksexual.com and pepperminty.com, and you can buy his new book Playing Fair: a Guide to Nonmonogamy for Men Into Women on Amazon here or at Thorntree Press here. 24:30 Feedback Nick writes in about how the episode 535 on asexuality was a revelation for him. 28:40 Happy Poly Moment Catharina shares a happy poly moment about being an awesome partner and metamour! 31:30

South African correspondent Erich Viedge interviews sex educator Casey Blake for tips on how to talk about your poly relationships and your general polyamory with your kids: 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:30 Intro and host chat So excited to bring you another piece out of South Africa. The audio line wasn’t the best, but we hope the great interview shines through! 2:30 Interview: Casey Blake Casey Blake is a South African sex educator who helps parents to break the silent taboo of speaking about our lives in ways that can make a difference for our children. She founded What Now Counselling in 2013 to provide a variety of services to help people cope with the life, when the first words that come to mind are "What Now?" and runs workshops on how to have “the talks” about sex and relationship with kids. South African correspondent Erich Viedge interviews Casey Blake to ask about how to come out to his own kids, and she recommends a few things:

Ignacio Rivera shares their latest work on a variety of topics, including consensual sex education 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:30 Sponsorship: Relationship Decisions Lab is looking for survey respondents! The University of Utah Relationship Decisions Lab is looking for survey respondents who are looking to open up their relationships for the first time or who have opened it up before but are looking to open up again. To participate, go to www.relationshipdecisions.org, click on the Participants tab and select Open Relationship Project link. And remember, it’s for science! 2:30 Poly in the news Spike Lee’s new poly, pansexual Netflix series, She’s Gotta Have It Professor Bob reviews Professor Marston and the wonder Women 6:30 Interview: Ignacio Rivera Ignacio Rivera aka Papí Coxxx who prefers the gender-neutral pronoun “they” is a Two-Spirit, Black Boricua Taíno New Yorker currently living in Baltimore. Ignacio has spoken at home and ab

We review this stellar poly romantic comedy with sociologist Mimi Schippers. 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:15 Poly in the news Marston movie wins more poly plaudits, sinks at box office; director and angry granddaughter face off in print Professor Marston’s opening weekend All coverage 6:45 Sponsorship: Relationship Decisions Lab is looking for survey respondents! The University of Utah Relationship Decisions Lab is looking for survey respondents who are looking to open up their relationships for the first time or who have opened it up before but are looking to open up again. To participate, go to www.relationshipdecisions.org, click on the Participants tab and select Open Relationship Project link. And remember, it’s for science! 8:00 Interview: Sociologist Mimi Schippers on the Wonder Women movie Mimi Schippers is Professor of Sociology and Gender and Sexuality Studies at Tulane University and teaches courses on gender, sexuality, and

Justine of asexuality.org busts asexual myths and shares her experiences 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:00 Host chat and announcements The University of Utah Relationship Decisions Lab is looking for survey respondents who are looking to open up their relationships for the first time or who have opened it up before but are looking to open up again. To participate, go to www.relationshipdecisions.org, click on the Participants tab and select Open Relationship Project link. And remember, it’s for science! 3:00 Interview: Asexuality Justine/Heart is a physicist by day who volunteers at www.asexuality.org and spoke to us about what asexuality is and how to find resources to learn more. https://asexualoutreach.org/ for live meetups in North America To reach Justine, go to the asexuality.org forums and message her. 24:15 Feedback Andy from Ann Arbor called in to let us know about polyamory in a science fiction book by Nora Jemisin, The Fifth Season

Janet Hardy on the last 20 years of polyamory and the latest edition of the Ethical Slut. 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:00 Host chat and announcements The University of Utah Relationship Decisions Lab is looking for survey respondents who are looking to open up their relationships for the first time or who have opened it up before but are looking to open up again. To participate, go to www.relationshipdecisions.org, click on the Participants tab and select Open Relationship Project link. And remember, it’s for science! 2:45 Interview: Janet Hardy on her life and The Ethical Slut’s third edition Janet Hardy, author of over a dozen books on sexuality, BDSM and polyamory, joins us for a life and editorial update. She’s sharpening her illustration skills for a brand-new, fully-illustrated edition of The Sexually Dominant Woman and working with her grown sons on their early poly lives, working title “Slut and Sons.” We talk about that great write

A listener asks how to reduce friction and awkwardness in first-time metamour meetings; LustyGuy and Minx respond, and correspondent Erich Viedge offers a relevant interview with and letter from Wilrieke Sophia. 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:00 Host chat and announcements Remember my response to Mayim Bialik’s clueless video about open relationships? She did a correction video here in which she corrected her assumptions about open relationships and polyamory. Huzzah for Mayim! In personal news, Minx and her kitty moved in with LustyGuy and L to form a blended household. If you want to have us speak at your event outside the US and are willing to host a fundraiser to finance our travel, we are happy to donate classes, signed books and even relationship coaching to help you out! Interested? Email lustyguy@polyweekly.com 9:30 Topic: reducing friction in first-time metamour meetups Claire in Portland has three partners with some being long-di

Sex therapist Ruby Bouie Johnson addresses a listener question about premature ejaculation. 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:30 Poly in the news The Ethical Slut is in Rolling Stone! Poly in the news coverage of the Rolling Stone piece The coverage of the Marston/Wonder Woman poly movie in the Poly in the News blog 7:45 Topic: Can I be poly if I come too quickly? Sexpert and sex therapist Ruby Bouie Johnson joins us to give advice to a listener who reports suffering from premature ejaculation and wonders if he can be poly with this issue? Does he need to find a partner who also comes quickly? Ruby ponders a few questions: how quickly is too quickly? Does this happen all the time, even when masturbating? Video hub of instruction The Guide to Getting It On List ? Urban Tantra www.sextherapistruby.com www.blacksexgeek.net www.polydallasmillennium.com How to make this podcast better   Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com

Iris Muscarella, burlesque performer, jazz singer and new poly educator, shares insights on solo and egalitarian polyamory. 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:30 Poly in the news Professor Marsten and the Wonder Women, the bio pic about William Moulton Marsten, the polyamorous creator of Wonder Woman, comes out October 13 It’s time for the church to talk about polyamory 7:05 Interview: Iris Muscarella on solo and egalitarian polyamory Iris Muscarella, business owner, burlesque performer and jazz singer, host of Dallas-area poly women’s sleepovers and new poly educator, shares thoughts on solo and egalitarian polyamory. Solo egalitarian poly is the love language of the individual. “I don’t wanna be your whole world; I just wanna be a part of your world.” How Iris defines solo and egalitarian; relationship anarchy; how solo poly differs from “just dating”; how do you show the importance of your relationship(s) in the absence of typical relation

Listener AJ asks what are the political struggles of the poly movement today. 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:00 Announcements LustyGuy and Kevin Patterson cohost We were listed as one of the Eight Most Inventive, Informative and Titillating Sex Podcasts by Indie Wire! 3:30 Topic: What are the real political struggles of the poly movement today, and what should they be? Listener AJ writes in to ask if being considered a target by marketers and being included in the legal system should really be the goals of the poly movement. “Do we really desire inclusion in the system we already have?” they question, along with questioning what are the real struggles of the poly movement today and what we can learn from the LGBTQ resistance movements. Find Kevin as Poly Role Models on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram. Tumblr blog Support Kevin at http://patreon.com/polyrolemodels He’ll be at CatalystCon speaking on race and sex-positive parenting How to ma

There is a growing demand for poly plot lines in science fiction novels. Guest host Erich Viege interviews Alisia Gus of Curiosity Quills publishing. 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:00 Announcements Erich Viege is hosting this week 2:15 Poly in the News Amanda Palmer on her open marriage with Neil Gaiman, now. 3:30 Interview: Curiosity Quills publisher Alisia Gus on polyamory There is a growing demand for sci fi books with poly in background. And they are accepting submissions, if you’re a writer! Gus wants to partner with other publishers telling more stories of non-mono relationships. And she is offering a subscription box, like book box of the month. To submit, email curiosity@curiosityquills.com Current poly sci fi novels from Curiosity Quills: Kiya: Hope of the Pharaoh Survival Kit’s Apocalypse Ruth Fox Sinclair The White Pavilion Links: https://curiosityquills.com/ Alisa Gus Alisa’s Twitter, Curiosity Quills Twitter 18:00 How to make t

Chris Smith on polyamory and the Black American 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:30 Poly in the News A Yoplait ad campaign builds on the idea of polyamory 4:20 Interview: Chris Smith Chris Smith is a PhD student at Howard University studying higher education and a relationship researcher focused on non-monogamy within the Black demographic. Open to Love; Poly and the Black American People raise sex and put it on a pedestal. And that’s OK, but raise communication and flexibility to that same level. Polyamory as a possible method of strengthening Black economic power Medical Apartheid: The Dark History of Medical Experimentation on Black Americans from Colonial Times to the Present Blacks are already ostracized; it can be difficult to add polyamory to the mix. As a Black male, it’s already hard to fight the aggressive and overly sexualized stereotypes; polyamory can appear to reinforce those Link for the Black and poly survey Let’s get to 3,00

What behavioral patterns do you establish at the beginning of your relationships, and why does that matter? 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:00 Announcements If you want to have us speak at your event outside the US and are willing to host a fundraiser to finance our travel, we are happy to donate classes, signed books and even relationship coaching to help you out! Interested? Email lustyguy@polyweekly.com 5:10 Poly in the News The third edition of their seminal book, The Ethical Slut! 6:20 Topic: behavioral patterns in your relationships (and how to establish them) Sarah from Australia asked for Lusty Guy to elaborate on his comment about patterns at the start of relationship establishing what will happen later on in the relationship. What patterns do you establish when you start dating? Any red flag behaviors? What the hell is Lusty Guy talking about? A pattern is the behavior you adopt in the face of differing styles or approaches to stuf

What is a "comet," and why are they valuable? 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com Koe Creation cohosts 1:00 Announcements Poly Dallas Millennium got a great write up in the Dallas Observer! 2:45 Poly in the News Polish ethicist addresses polyamory—because his grandfather was poly Poly comedian in the U.K. describes her polyamory as feminist and liberating Koe mentions Sex at Dawn 7:30 Topic: let’s talk about poly comets! A listener calls in to ask more about poly comets. Rough definition of a comet: An occasional lover who passes through one’s life semi-regularly, but without an expectation of continuity or a romantic relationship. For more poly terms, check out More Than Two’s excellent poly glossary. Koe shares their ideas on long-term comets and short-term comets 18:45 Feedback The chairperson of Poly Denmark writes in to let us know that poly is alive and well in Scandinavia and has been for over 10 years! Polydan; includes e-mail list. Pol