Secular Sexuality

Porn, huh? What is it good for? This supposedly “new drug” arguably dates back to prehistory and yet our access to and relationship with it have dramatically shifted in the last decade, and not always for the better. Join us as Christy, Laura and Sinn explore the messy and often sticky world of erotic audio, dime store paperbacks and good ole fashioned internet porn. Catch the episode live and add your thoughts and questions or tune in just to find out what’s turning us on this week as we explore the height, breadth and um, girth of all things naked or nasty on this week’s SecX!

Perhaps as many as a third of us are neurodiverse- equipped out of the box with a brain that doesn’t neatly fit into our world because of ADHD, ASC, dyslexia, sensory processing and a handful of other considerations. Marie LePage, everyone’s favorite deconstructive and spiritual atheist, friend of the show, tells us their story of masking, loving and living with a neurodivergent diagnosis. Marie, Myself and I host Marie LePage, Christy, what’s turning us on and your calls and questions on this week’s SecX! Dive deeper into the episode and find what’s turning us on this week at https://www.vcatx.com/media/masking.Secular Sexuality show is LIVE every Thursday from 7:00 to 8:30pm Central Time.

We know you’ve been wondering. We know you’ve been working up the courage. So just go ahead and ask already, we don’t bite. For free. Whether you’re brave enough to call or just calling for a friend, join Christy and our audience of voyeurs as our favorite sinner and adult performer Sinn Sage rejoins the show to answer all your silliest, sexiest and most salacious questions in this ask me anything event. Nothing but your calls and questions and plenty of things to turn us on this week on SecX!

If modern media is to be believed our forefathers were serious people with simple demands- the freedom to bear arms, buy cheap gas and believe in whatever alternative facts they choose. In a post Truth/ post Trump world it’s starting to feel like the message has gotten a little messy. The ACA’s own Kenneth Leonard joins Christy in a conversation about J6th, CRT, MTG, HRT and what will probably be the death of me as we explore Christian nationalism and the future of America. Catch the conversation plus your calls and questions plus what’s turning us on this week! Dive deeper into the episode and find what’s turning us on this week at https://www.vcatx.com/media/wcnationalism

The old joke goes something like this- A man and a woman sit down with a therapist complaining about their sex life. “He wants it all the time, we never stop having sex/ she’s never in the mood, we practically never make love” they explain. “How often do you actually have sex?” the therapist asks. “Once or twice a week” they agree in unison. As old jokes go it’s a B minus but the truth is it captures the narrative of our culture while being exhaustingly, mind numbingly out of touch with the real life needs and stories of couples struggling with healthy and normal desire discrepancies. This week Dr. Sexology herself, Dr. Renee Lanctot, DHS joins Christy in a conversation about who wants what, why, and what to do about it. The battle for the sexes, your calls and questions plus what’s turning us on this week on SecX! Dive deeper into the episode and find what’s turning us on this week at https://www.vcatx.com/media/sdd

For the optimist, half full; the pessimist, half empty. To MD Aware it’s just another urine sample but whether you are a doctor, or a lawyer or a business executive how we think about trans bodies matters. Whether we understand gender as a social construct, a biological imperative or an economic opportunity to sell two of everything the way we vote, the way we care and the way we live is tied to the way we interpret this fundamental piece of our humanity. Truth Wanted’s resident medical expert and research scientist MD Aware joins the show this week to walk Christy through a series of models and medicalized points of view for understanding gender and ourselves. Medicine and manhood, philosophy, femininity, what’s turning us on this week and so much more on SecX!

When you don’t believe in god or hell or eternal damnation and think that sex and body positivity are important values, it can be really hard to find exactly the right words to describe what is going on in state legislatures all across the country. If these queer targeted and religiously minded policies really do reflect the prevailing culture of the land then I suppose while in Rome we can swear as the Christian nationalists do and goddamn this f*cking dumbass bigotry straight to hell. Journalist and friend of the show Chrissy Stroop returns this week to help us sift through the grandstanding, redraw the gerrymandering and work to undo the harm brought on by what the Human Rights Campaign is calling the worst year in recent history for state legislation attacking LGBTQ equality. Grab your reading glasses and a couple aspirin as we dig into the legislation, answer your calls and questions and proudly say “Gay!” plus what’s turning us on this week on SecX. Dive deeper into the episode and find what’s turning u

For months now we’ve made a very special point of telling you just exactly what is turning us on but never quite got around to defining what that actually means. Turns out, a lot of people have a lot of assumptions about arousal, desire…tumescence, so it may be time to set the record straight. High Priestess Shannon Q joins Christy in an engorging conversation on turgidity, fluidity and patriarchy, plus of course your calls and questions and what’s turning us on this week, whatever that means. Dive deeper into the episode and find what’s turning us on this week at https://www.vcatx.com/media/arousal

If the message of SecX is anything, it’s find the life and love that fits you irregardless of whomst is declaring the supposed commands of god. Drawing your own map and exploring your own boundaries and those of your partner(s) can raise a lot of scary questions- “Friends with ex’s? Pornography? Sex workers? NON-MONOGAMY!? WhErE Do wE DrAw tHe lInE?!?” Psychotherapist and poly advocate Justine Guzman joins Arden and P*ck to formally declare “Fucking somewhere.” Join the conversation with your calls and questions as we explore the boundaries of uncharted territory and of course let you know what’s turning us on this week! Secular Sexuality show is LIVE every Thursday from 7:00 to 8:30pm Central Time If you'd like to be on the show, use your phone ☎ and call 1-512-991-9242 or use a computer

The snap of a disposable glove and the swoosh and shine of a catsuit both only scratch the surface of a deep seated itch. Since it’s invention nearly 200 years ago latex, rubber wear and a whole host of fabrics have been as tied to fetish as fashion and Miss O Kissed has made a life at the intersection of both. Join Laura and Christy as fan favorite fashionista Miss O Kissed walks us through the etiquette, the erotic and all things related to latex, rubberism and a heavenly host of hellish delights. What’s turning us on this week, your calls and questions and a PVC POV on this week’s SecX! Dive deeper into the episode and find what’s turning us on this week at https://www.vcatx.com/media/latex

Like an R rated movie we were too young to see, sex used to be this incredible promise on the horizon. For those of us who grew up in religion, it was often this vision of holy joy and Jesus sanctioned satisfaction for our wilder side, all just on the other side of a god ordained marriage. But whether we ultimately ‘followed the rules’ or not, many of us found the shame and confusion brought on by purity culture to be a barrier to our greatest sexpectations and were left with a more Dickensian sense of ourselves. On tonight’s show Kara Griffin returns to offer Nate and Christy an examination of the false beliefs and Victorian era virtues that spoil our fun and to unlock our true sextential. The best of times and the worst of puns, your calls and questions and what’s turning us on this week on SecX! Dive deeper into the episode and find what’s turning us on this week at https://www.vcatx.com/media/sexpectations

History is written by the victors and the news is written by…Rupert Murdoch, I guess? Media bias, disinformation and an unmoderated comments section weren’t enough to stop tonight’s guest from creating The Performer’s Pod with Chelsea Poe, a passionate presentation of porn performer presence and prowess. Chelsea joins Arden and Christy in an exploration of the news media and international narratives around sex work, gender rights and more. All that, your calls and questions plus what’s turning us on this week on SecX!Dive deeper into the episode and find what’s turning us on this week at https://www.vcatx.com/media/performerspod

Know thyself and to thine ownself be most excellent, or whatever Bill Shapespear Preston once said. Recent neuroscience and modern philosophy have more or less extinguished not just the soul but also the idea of the one true self in favor of a model made up of many motivations and a multiverse of minds, begging the question who the hell is we? And what should we even call ourself? This week’s SecX includes a four person panel for discussing the philosophy and practicalities of all the little sex, gender and identity check boxes we so often tick, plus of course your calls and questions with Christy, Nate, Laura and Sinn Sage, what’s turning us on this week and more! Dive deeper into the episode and find what’s turning us on this week at https://www.vcatx.com/media/overidentification

There aren’t many things in our daily lives that are perfectly legal until money changes hands and yet selling sex just seems so salacious. Then when you consider we’ve built a world where economic freedom and bodily autonomy are doubly denied to women it’s no wonder we deem the commerce of coitus beneath us. But how should we manage cash for connection- is it vital for the government to enforce our safety or an affront to our freedom? SecX’s Patron Saint of Sex Work joins our resident legal expert for a closer examination. Catch Arden Hart and Johnny P Angel with Christy Powell for a roundtable discussion on prostitution legalization vs decriminalization, your calls calls and questions and of course what’s turning us on this week on SecX!

We’ve mentioned before that no amount of pornography is truly ‘addictive’ and that erotic hypnosis, as sexy as it may be, cannot in fact wash your brain. That said, it may be interesting to note that there’s an internet’s worth of ‘pornosexual’ products meant to ‘relapse your addiction,’ ‘transform your mind’ or ‘bend you to my will.’ What should we make of these ominous warnings- sexy/silly samples of erotic submission or dangers doorways into a dark addiction? On this episode P*ck and Darrel bring Christy and our audience a cautious peek into the fantasy of being out of control, controlled or outright addicted to the supposedly slippery slope of sexual depravity. Watch if you dare, call in with your questions and comments and find out what’s turning us on this week on SecX! Dive deeper into the episode and find what’s turning us on this week at https://www.vcatx.com/media/addictionfantasy

It’s 2022- COVID will go on forever, sex and gender are a spectrum and Matt Dillahunty will hang up on people- we know dis. But what is that spectrum made of and, most important of all skeptical questions, how do we know? Student Doctor Ben is here to walk us through the slippery science and vaguely serviceable skepticism of the transphobic tirades littering the internet nowadays. Catch his conversation with Nate and Christy, call in with your questions and find out what’s turning us on this week on this genetically superior episode of SecXX/XY! ► Dive deeper into the episode and find what’s turning us on this week at https://www.vcatx.com/media/xxxy Secular Sexuality show is LIVE every Thursday from 7:00 to 8:30pm Central TimeIf you'd like to be on the show, use your phone ☎ and call 1-512-991-9242 or use a computer

Besides checking the gas prices and looking for a clean commode, how much energy do you put into picking road trip potty breaks? How often do you worry about putting your credit card down to split a check or stress over teaching your doctor about your body? While a fistful of state legislatures earn their reelection through high-profile bigotry, the day by day reality of trans life includes an unending list of subtle sexism and daily dangers. What’s an ally to do? Phoebe Rose of Trans Stories rejoins the show to share with us the ins and outs and day to day indignities of life in a cis world. Her conversation with Nate and Christy, trans resources and activism opportunities and of course what’s turning us on this week on SecX! Dive deeper into the episode and find what’s turning us on this week at https://www.vcatx.com/media/cisworld

Ink-blots, enneagrams, eye movements, meditations… what even is good therapy? Brains are tricky, as it turns out, and while the field of psychology isn’t exactly new, we have a terribly long way to go. But whether we’re discussing the hypnosis of early psychoanalysis or the shaking and shivering of ancient shamanic healing it’s hard to know what good therapy looks, sounds and feels like. This week associate marriage and family therapist Emily Maynard returns to the show to talk pseudo-science, good therapy and how to tell the difference, plus your calls and questions and of course what’s turning us on this week on SecX!Dive deeper into the episode and find what’s turning us on this week at vcatx.com/media/badtherapy

We wanted to know what it’s like to be a woman in the atheist community so we reached out to three of our favorites- Mandisa Thomas of Black Non-Believers, Non-Prophet Laura Magee and Transatlantican Arden Hart all join Christy in a round-table discussion, bringing their own unique femininity to the SecX stage. We discuss misogyny during and after religion and the ongoing and necessary deconstruction of our patriarchal world. One of the warmest calls in show history and a trifecta of what’s turning us on this week to go with our girl talk and great guests on Secular Sexuality!