Secular Sexuality

Tonight, we're going to turn our attention to some of our nearest relatives in the tree of life - primates. Our special guest, primatology student Erika aka Gutsick Gibbon, is here to share some insight on primate sexuality. What behaviors have been called 'unnatural' by conservatives, but we actually see running rampant in nature? What can we learn about human sexuality by studying primate sexuality? Find out the answers to all this and more on an episode that's more fun than a barrel of....nope. not gonna go there.

Admittedly, shadowbanning and deplatforming sound a little like fake 21st century problems. Imagine explaining to your psychiatrist that models, politicians and *ahem* sexually educational talk shows may be secretly held back from their audience or selectively prevented from communicating in the digital world. But since truth is stranger than fiction and SecX just so happens to have an absolute data boss on hand we thought we’d poke behind the curtain and seek to understand why so many sex workers are being shut out of the modern marketplace. It’s digital conspiracies and sexy mysteries with Christy, Nate and Amberly plus your calls!►Question everything and dive deeper into the episode at https://www.vcatx.com/media/shadowbanning

They say that happiness is like peeing on yourself- other people can see what’s going on but only you can feel the warmth. At the same time, here at SecX we’d like to think that we’re just happy you’re happy- gay/straight, mono/poly, ace or aro. If only there was a word for such a thing… join the conversation as Christy, Nate and P*ck examine the poly-centered concept of compersion and consider the art of happiness, jealousy, autonomy and control. All that, dumb jokes and your calls! ►Expand your vocabulary or dive deeper into the episode at https://www.vcatx.com/media/compersion Secular Sexuality show is LIVE every Thursday from 7:00 to 8:30pm Central TimeIf you'd like to be on the show, use your phone ☎ and call 1-512-991-9242 or use a computer

Tribal drums don’t bring rain anymore than claps bring Tinkerbell back to life or diet coke keeps Matt Dillahunty from hanging up on your ass. Fake or not, it’s kind of amazing how many cultures and ultimately religions rely on music, dancing and rhythm to occasion the divine and the power of song to elicit a mystical experience shouldn’t be slept on. Recording artist and former Music Minister Ro joins Christy and Amberly this week to discuss the magic of music and the hustlers of Hamelin, walking us through the tricks of the trade, all that plus your calls!

Finding a good therapist is hard- half the counselors on TV are weirdo crackpots, the other half are frauds and yet somehow I’d rather tell my secrets to most of them than half of the faces and blurbs I find on the internet. Dr. Crane? Dr. Jacoby? Dr. Lectur? Hold up- is my therapist supposed to be a doctor? With all the many ways religion, love and life can leave us nicked and cut it’s no wonder that many of us are looking for a healing professional, but which one? And why? This week SecX’s resident sex therapist Christy Powell is joined by counselors Dr. Darrel Ray and Andy Lane in a conversation about therapy, therapists and the hunt. It’s matchmaking for your brain plus your questions and calls on this week's Secular Sexuality!

Your charming smile, your graceful moves, your enormous pe-rsonality- totally natural to have a little performance anxiety from time to time. But what do you do when sex itself has you nervous or worse yet, your anxiety encroaches in on an already fragile sexuality? Writer and Hill Country Therapist Melissa Hargrave joins P*ck and Christy in exploring our un- sexiest fears and unlocking a world of erotic relaxation, all that plus your calls in this therapist led ‘very special episode’ of SecX!►Relax, don’t do it, when you wanna go to it for more at https://www.vcatx.com/media/anxietyandsex

Whether you are gently whispering those three little words into your lover’s ear or passionately yelling “TAKE IT ALL” our voice does more than set the mood, it lets people know who we are and what we have to say to the world. The tiniest muscles, bones and hairs help to make up this remarkably precise and diverse communication system empowering humans to not just communicate but co-regulate in ways we are just beginning to understand despite millions of years of practice. This week returning hero Serafina Smith introduces us to speech language pathologist Tallulah Breslin to better understand our voices and ourselves plus your calls!

‘LESBIAN’ is perhaps the number one porn search term of all time (which, honestly, has to put it in the top 5 key words on the internet right?) and yet there is very little PRIDE to be found in our search results. Girl-on-girl content generally seems to be like most everything else online and off- straight, white and male centered. What’s a horny lesbian to do? Christy is joined by adult industry expert Amberly Rothfield in a conversation with the ACA’s newest favorite sinner- studio owner and 2 time AVN award winner Sinn Sage. Catch our conversation about strap-ons, the male gaze and the economics of porn plus your calls!

Whether we attend therapy on a sofa, a zoom call, or if we are exploring sexual dimensions, sex and relationship counseling is for useful for everyone. While we disagree on more of the out there claims, we welcome an interesting conversation with our guest tonight. Lianna Walden is a sex and relationship coach and is joined by Nate and Rudy. Tonight we explore the depths of sex and relationships along with the more “spiritual” practices in some counseling sessions.Find more from Lianna Walden at https://www.liannawaldencoaching.com/► Jump-start your recovery at https://www.RecoveringFromReligion.org/Nate’s Link Corner:Is past-life regression ethical?https://www.researchgate.net/publication/323025125_Is_past_life_regression_therapy_ethicalPast Life Regression: Secondary Identity enactments during hypnotic past-life regressionhttps://doi.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2F0022-3514.61.2.308.Evidence-based Guideline: Treatment of painful diabetic neuropathyhttps://n.neurology.org/content/neurology/76/20/1758.full

If this year has taught us anything, it’s that for better or for worse, the world we’ve created doesn’t look like the one we were born into. There is little in our evolutionary history that has prepared us for Zoom meetings and 4chan conspiracies and while the next big idea may be just around the corner it’s worth remembering that our culture isn’t necessarily in step with our biology. What this means for the way we understand gender is anybody’s guess but this week Kara Griffin from Recovering From Religion joins Arden and Christy in exploring enby identities through different cultural lenses, unpacking our assumptions and taking your calls!

What do you call a baker without an oven, a butcher who turns vegan or a plumber that doesn’t… plumb? How about someone who is alosexual and between relationships or a swinger who doesn’t swing? This week Helen Greene from Recovering From Religion joins Nate and Christy in understanding monogamous bisexuals, single poly people and dusty and rusty personal adjectives. Identity politics, unused labels and your calls on this week’s SecX!► Jump-start your recovery at https://www.RecoveringFromReligion.org/► Dive deeper into the episode and find more information at https://www.vcatx.com/media/passingSexual Intelligence: What We Really Want from Sex--and How to Get It by Marty KleinCome as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski

Love is love, whether you make it while looking into someone’s eyes or clean it up with a mop and bucket. That holds true no matter how many whips, chains or octopus dildos we involve but as we work to untangle the web of love and sex and god it’s natural to lose the thread. This week The Non-Prophets’ own P*ck joins Christy in sorting through the often tricky and always sticky strings that bind us together in caregiver-little relationships. Everything from mommydommes to playful puppys, loving relationships and silly sex plus your calls on this week’s episode of Secular Sexuality!

Purity Culture. Homophobia. Organ music. There’s a lot to despise about religion and the trauma that it creates but in between dunking on theists and working to unplug minds from the religious Matrix there’s healing to be had. Janice Selby, a religious trauma therapist and Conference on Religious Trauma organizer joins the show to walk Christy and Nate through the therapeutic process, to talk about the future of religious trauma healing and to offer some advice on how we can all help, plus your calls!►Find Janice on Twitter @Wise_Counsellor and CORT at https://pheedloop.com/CORT/site/home► Dive deeper into the episode and find healing at https://www.vcatx.com/media/cort2021 Leaving the Fold: A Guide for Former Fundamentalists and Others Leaving Their Religion by Marlene Winellhttps://journeyfree.org/https://www.godlessmom.com/podcast

After to much time beating around the bush and conversations with some of the most successful legal sex-workers of our era, it’s past time we discuss the decriminalization of sex work. Why is sex legal until it costs money? Why are sex workers adamant that legalization will lead to even greater injustice? What wind is the political wind blowing and please won’t anyone think of the children? Jack Parker joins the show to answer these questions, your questions and more!

On a scale of Marsha P. Johnson to Tyler Perry, just how is queer acceptance progressing in black communities? And does that change if you believe in heaven or ride Lil Nas X’s pole down to Montero? Black Nonbeliever, atheist and activist Kevon Cameron joins Rudy Bee and Christy in breaking down the double duty of racism and homophobia inside and outside of black churches, and to recommend a way away from hate across queer culture, plus your calls!►Find Kevon and Black Nonbelievers, Inc. @BlackNonbelievers or at https://blacknonbelievers.org/► Dive deeper into the episode and learn more about homophobia and black communities at https://www.vcatx.com/media/blackhomophobia

We’ve all got dirty laundry and while SecX viewers’ may be a bit uh, stickier, then most that’s nothing to be ashamed of. Sex is perfectly natural and while adult diapers and blackmail fantasies may be anything but, the impulses are and that’s kind of the point anyway, right? But how do you unpack all that baggage and lay out your kinks and quirks, whether in front of a partner or a professional? Amberly Rothfield, phone sex operator and adult industry consultant, has heard it all returns to the show to talk about boundaries, communication and dirty little secrets, not to mention your calls!►Find Amberly on Twitter @AmberlyPSO and online at https://amberlyrothfield.com/► Dive deeper into the episode and find more dirty laundry at https://www.vcatx.com/media/unpackingkink ‘The Business Of Sex’ https://www.vcatx.com/media/amberlyrothfield

In our ongoing quest to explore the spectrums of life and trick people into googling the phrase ‘bimodal distribution’ we return again this week to the spaces between. Author Dianna Anderson, enby writer of Damaged Goods: New Perspectives on Christian Purity and Problematic: How Toxic Callout Culture Is Destroying Feminism joins Rudy Bee and Christy in discussing their new work on the history of non-binary culture. Join us between the poles and connect with the past, plus your calls! ►Find Dianna’s books at http://diannaeanderson.net/ and their sick twitter burns @diannaeanderson► Dive deeper into the episode and learn more at https://www.vcatx.com/media/enbynity Stone Butch BluesNovel by Leslie FeinbergTransforming: The Bible and the Lives of Transgender ChristiansBook by Austen HartkeThe Way We Never WereBook by Stephanie Coontz

Come one come all to see these April Fools! This week’s High-Flying High-Falutin Secular Sexuality Cross Over Sextacular combines the mild-mannered reporting of the ACA’s The Non-Prophets with the wild and bawdy bacchanal SecX delivers each and every week. See the gender queers and sexy freaks as they take on the challenges of the modern news cycle and calls from our salacious spectators with special guest Johnny P Angel! It’ll be a hoot and a half you won’t soon forget!►Catch The Non-Prophets and Christy’s special guest appearance Sundays at 3p CT https://www.youtube.com/c/TheNonProphetsACA► Dive deeper into the episode and these articles at https://www.vcatx.com/media/tnpsextacular Porn IS LIKE GOLF https://youtu.be/DLZZXbphQhI

Today we’re joined by two long-time viewers of Secular Sexuality, Dishonest Ape and Ragabash Dabbler. These two lovebirds found each other in the live chat and were able to find love in the time of COVID thanks to Christy and Vi. Let’s get to know them and share in their journey!

Do you ever wish things could be just a little bit… gayer? I mean whether you’re gay, straight or anywhere else on the spectrum it feels like there should be a little bit more breathing room then what super-straight stoicism allows for, or atleast a La Bianca Loophole. With so many new adjectives and labels available (hello poly viking power bottoms) why are so many of us rushing to the extreme ends of the spectrum? Join Christy, Vi and Arden of Eden as we work to untangle some toxically black and white thinking around who we are and who and how we love, plus your calls! ►Find Arden of Eden on Twitter @Arden_of_Eden and catch Trans Atlantic at 5p CT on The Line at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIv3LvN_0CNzMpSrTF9naNA ► Dive deeper into the episode and find more research at https://www.vcatx.com/media/heteronormativity