Secular Sexuality

The internet is huge, and weird, and ever changing. While that last bit is key two things seem to stay evergreen, religiously fueled homophobia and web forums for talking about it. Recovering From Religion, one of our favorite places on the internet, is helping to host and move these conversations forward through their broad collection of resources, chat rooms and forums and Nate Smith, RfR volunteer and forum moderator, joins SecX to tell us all about it. Catch him and Christy with fan favorite Serafina Smith as we log on and dial in to take your calls!►Join Recovering from Religion and find their online forums at https://www.RecoveringFromReligion.org ► Dive deeper into the episode and find more links at https://www.vcatx.com/media/rfrforumLeaving the Fold: A Guide for Former Fundamentalists and Others Leaving Their Religion by Marlene Winell

You’ve probably used the word ‘pandemic’ more in the last year then you ever expected- as a show built on Dr. Darrel Ray’s The God Virus we’ve definitely learned enough about viral transmission to last a lifetime. And while the current crisis may be showing only the earliest signs of abating, the last few years have brought some incredible strides in the ongoing battle with HIV/AIDS. 40 years into a global pandemic ‘the virus’ may be finally ready to give up it’s ominous title and Cynthia McDonald, an HIV case manager and advocate, is here to tell us all about it, plus take your calls!►Find out more about Cynthia Here: https://linktr.ee/camglamming► Dive deeper into the episode and find more research at https://www.vcatx.com/media/hiv2021Cynthia’s Recommended Reading- https://fivebooks.com/best-books/arthur-ammann-aids-plague/Victory: The Triumphant Gay Revolution by Linda HirshmanCiting “Moral Failure,” Christian Apologist Sye Ten Bruggencate Leaves MinistryBY HEMANT MEHTA https://friendlyatheist.patheos.com

If SecX was looking for a soulmate, Rudy and Marie would be pretty close to the top of our list. Alas there are neither perfect partners nor podcasters, at least until Elliot Page starts a YouTube channel. Still this black and white expectation that god and destiny will bring us the perfect person is a persistent one. Host of Everyone’s Autonomous and relationship ► Find the many hats of Marie D’Elephant at https://mariedelephant.com/ ► Dive deeper into the episode and find more research at https://www.vcatx.com/media/soulmates Struggling With Partner's Very Religious Family | Lilith-(FI) | Secular Sexuality 07.34 https://youtu.be/rULVMu3zTao VC Resources: Radical Acceptance https://www.vcatx.com/media/radicalacceptance WTF Is A Poly Viking Power Bottom? https://www.vcatx.com/media/poly-viking-power-bottom

Purity culture, frankly like most social ills, seems to work double time against women of color. Limitations on healthcare access, stiff social restrictions on dating choice and strongly enforced dependence on male providers are bad enough without having to contend with the jezebel stereotype at every turn. Non-prophet Jena Miyu is powerfully black, female and atheist and joins Rudy and P*ck in discussing the added challenges of purity culture on Black Americans. Our conversation and tons of your calls on this week's SecX!► Find Jena and lift up the voice of a black female atheist at https://www.facebook.com/BlackFemaleAtheist/► Dive deeper into the episode and find more research at https://www.vcatx.com/media/blackpurity

Are you there god? It’s us, the Atheist Community of Austin. We know you’re not real but we still have some questions about menstruation. Until you get back to us, Dr. Anna, scientist, communicator and imaginarium curator joins the show to bring her biotechnical background and skepticism to bear on these socially stigmatized cycles of life, plus your calls.

TERF-y gender critical talking points and plain old transphobia have long since played an outsized role in public policy no matter what the science says. This week Cindy Plaza, host of The Path of Reason (La Voie de la Raison), joins Secular Sexuality to apply a little critical thinking to some of the most tired arguments against trans inclusion. With her help Vi and Christy take your calls and work to answer the question- where are we supposed to pee?► Dive deeper into the episode and find more research and policy data at https://vcatx.com/media/gcthinking► Find Cindy and The Path of Reason at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkS1apAgsxDhiSp5a2D3rtQ/The work of Dr. Kristin Neff at https://self-compassion.org/

You know you’re not a crumpled flower or a chewed up piece of bubblegum, old ideas of your sexual identity no longer suit you. Congratulations from us, sincerely. And yet so many of those old ideas; rigid gender norms, toxic monogamy, patriarchy and heteronormativity all still live within us. Turns out, that’s by design. Author of The God Virus and SecX’s creator and producer emeritus Dr. Darrel Ray returns to the show to share with us some of the history of modern purity culture and how we can heal and grow beyond it. All that plus your calls on this week’s Secular Sexuality. ► Dive deeper into the episode and learn more about purity culture at https://www.vcatx.com/media/purityhx ► Take the Purity Culture Outcomes Survey at https://www.puritycultureoutcomes.com/ Learn more about Recovering from Religion and donate to their upcoming fundraiser at https://youtu.be/qvGoDjGr3w4 Betty Dodson, Women’s Guru of Self-Pleasure, Dies at 91 by Penelope Green for The New York Times (https://www.nytimes.com/2020/11/03/st

It’s bad enough that religious trauma can do such a number on our sexuality without the stigma of atheism impacting our dating life. It’s hard enough to find the perfect poly Viking power bottom or androgynous cat cyborg of our dreams without getting the automatic left swipe for our beliefs or miss out on a second date because our star signs don’t match expectations. Join Matt, Rudy and Christy as we discuss what it’s like being atheists, activists and actively seeking to share life and love, all that plus your calls this week on Secular Sexuality!

Ever hear a door close and catch a sudden feeling of dread? Or buy a new car and realize seemingly for the first time just how much stress that old transmission was causing? Don’t worry, you don’t have ESP, psychic premonitions or copy-righted spider based superpowers- instead you’re experiencing one of the most primitive and powerful pieces of human evolution! Justin Sunseri, polyvagal podcaster and host of Stuck Not Broken, joins the show to walk us through the spooky science of neuroception and how this self-defense radar system can derail life and love. All that and your calls and questions on episode 8.02 of Secular Sexuality!► Find Justin and a wealth of polyvagal resources and podcasts at https://www.justinlmft.com/► Dive deeper into the episode and explore neuroception at https://www.vcatx.com/media/justinlmftNeuroception is Not the Spidey-Sense... but it's a good analogy by Justin Sunseri (https://www.justinlmft.com/post/spidey-sense)The Error Of 'Biological Sex' (https://www.vcatx.com/media/2019/5

Hello and Welcome to 2021, the year where we’re definitely going to start exercising, heal our religious trauma and fix our political system, amiright!? Maybe not, but Alice Little rejoins the show to walk us through her efforts to fight the status quo and see sex workers enjoy the rights extended to everyone else. Join us as we discuss the ongoing pandemic and check-in on our favorite adult content creators, plus your calls and questions! ► Find Alice on YouTube by searching AliceLittleTv https://www.youtube.com/c/AliceLittletv/ ► Dive deeper into the episode and find Alice’s other links https://www.vcatx.com/media/alicevsnv Sex and the Constitution: Sex, Religion, and Law from America's Origins to the Twenty-First Century Book by Geoffrey R. StoneA NYC Paramedic Was Doxxed For Being On OnlyFans. The Real Scandal Is Not Her Sex Work By Elly Belle for Refinery29 (https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2020/12/10227681/new-york-post-doxxed-paramedic-onlyfans) A new law intended to curb sex trafficking threatens the

Like a tree that just needs a little love, 2020 is the Christmas season nobody asked for but yippee ki yay you filthy animals, Secular Sexuality is here to ring bells and shoot eyes out no matter how nipply it gets. Join Christy, Vi and Hanna as we block out the world and sink into the Holiday Boob-Tube, discussing the secular and the sexuality of your favorite and not so classic holiday Holiday movies. Catch the conversation and your calls on the Holiday Movie episode of Secular Sexuality! Find great resources for talking to your kids about sex at https://sexpositivefamilies.com/

Master Wrath Daddy James White joins Secular Sexuality to introduce us to the world of leather- exploring the history, culture and misconceptions of this incredible community. As a horror and erotica author, former heavyweight kickboxing champion, former MMA trainer, dungeon owner, and BDSM educator who teaches about leather and kink Wrath invites us to better understand this charitable and charming society through personal stories and a life in the community, plus your calls! 00:00 Intro1:33 Wrath James White - Kinky Renaissance Man2:54 Leather History And Traditions30:11 Sam-(UK) | Reliable Leather Resources Please!35:33 Stitics-CO | Vegan Leather?39:07 "Is Leather Just A Kink?" And Other Misconceptions50:26 Fran-CO | Racism In Leather?52:55 JB-(CA) | You Don't Need To Justify Your Gender1:06:48 How Do I Get Involved In Leather Culture?1:19:51 OutroCheck out-400 Days of Oppression by Wrath James White(https://www.amazon.com/Days-Oppression-Wrath-James-White/dp/1940250021) Fight For Me by Wrath James White(h

Happy Thanksgiving! We decided to give the hosts and crew the day off to rest and celebrate with their families this week, but that doesn't mean you can't have some hot, fresh video to watch today! Vi La Bianca is joined by Rudy Bee and Hanna Vaughn in her debut on the show, and they'll be digging into the ol' mailbag to answer your questions.

Living in a religious world it can be easy to forget that we’re all just talking primates with fancy computers. Our feelings, our beliefs and our relationships can all be confounded by the idea that there’s a way we were meant to be, should be or are supposed to behave. Annette James returns to the show this week to share with us fascinating evolutionary psychology and interpersonal neurobiology to help us reinterpret our mood and better understand our role on earth, not as fallen angels but as risen apes. We’ll use polyvagal theory and the latest research on our hearts and minds to learn how to communicate with our partners and with ourselves, plus your calls on the Atheist Community of Austin’s Secular Sexuality! ►Find Annette and her work at https://www.eclipselifecoach.com/ ►Dive deeper into the episode and learn more at https://www.vcatx.com/media/eclipsepvt The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-regulation by Stephen Porges Dr. Deb Dana’s wo

Secular Sexuality 07.46 2020-11-19 with Christy Powell, Vi La Bianca and Billie BeardOne of the most interesting challenges of doing a YouTube show as a podcast with live callers is the challenge of keeping everyone’s voices clear for the audience. As fans of the show no doubt know, names like Sera, Rudy or Christy don’t necessarily ‘sound’ the way we’ve been raised to expect they should. Where do those expectations come from? What should we be doing to dismantle them? Is it okay to explore who we are, with our voices? Billie Beard comes back to the show to lend her voice to a discussion on voice therapy and trans culture, plus to hear your voice and take your calls! ►Find Billie and her work at https://www.texasqueercounseling.com/ ►Dive deeper into the episode and learn more at https://www.vcatx.com/media/voicetherapy One Weird Trick: A User's Guide to Transgender Voice by Liz Jackson Hearns https://www.thevoicelabinc.com/resources-transgender-voice-chicago.html Understanding Aces with Miss O Kissed- http

Relationships are hard, or at least important enough to spend an hour and a half each week talking about, right? We talk a lot about how relationships can get much harder when they don’t follow the typical patterns of our culture- polyamorous lesbians in a d/s dynamic don’t experience quite the same social support or mindful accommodations afforded a more typical relationship. But what to do if your relationship or your mind itself is atypical, on a neurological level? Miss O Kissed returns to the show to share more with us about her journey, walking us through her ASD diagnosis and life and love on the spectrum, plus your questions!►Find autism resources and support-https://autisticadvocacy.org/https://neuroclastic.com/https://awnnetwork.org/https://aspietests.org/►Dive deeper into the episode and learn more about dating and ASD at https://www.vcatx.com/media/asddatingVirginia governor pardons Black man with autism serving 10-years for nonfatal car crash By Wilson Wong for NBC News (https://www.nbcnews.com/n

You’ll hear it in any hypnotherapist’s office- all hypnosis is self-hypnosis. And since SecX is the type of show that wraps each week with an entreatment for the self-treatment, we decided to do a little more digging into the dreamy world of erotic hypnosis. Eve of Eve’s Garden joins Christy and Vi in one of our favorite pre-taped interviews to discuss the mysterious and affirming power of fantasy and the human mind, mixed with your live calls and questions on this Guy Fawkes Day episode of Secular Sexuality!►Find Eve’s Garden, hypnosis research and resources and plenty of other links YouTube wouldn’t like at https://www.vcatx.com/media/evesgarden►Dip a toe into comforting and encouraging audio roleplay at https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLllQXpwLQsCIovnURhEXoTNcIvoIp6vH6►Take a 7 minute crash course in hypnosis with Christy at https://youtu.be/PrxsprkNFsUFind Eve on Twitter or around the web by searching @eves__garden

Join Dr. Frank-N-Furter, an Androgynous Cat Cyborg and Death herself as the SecX hosts answer your emails and calls on this holiday mailbag episode of Secular Sexuality! How to Understand Your Gender: A Practical Guide for Exploring Who You Areby Alex Lantaffi and Meg-John BarkerSex Positive Talks to Have With Kids is your guide to creating an open, shame-free connection with the young people in your world- https://sexpositivefamilies.com/ Everything You Need To Know About Aegosexuality from Live Love LGBTQ+ - https://livelovelgbtq.wordpress.com/2017/10/27/aegosexual/

What do you call an exotic dancer, pastry chef, and atheist author all rolled into one? Here on Secular Sexuality, we call that the Trifecta. Erin Louis chats with Christy Powell and Vi La Bianca about deconstructing harmful ideas and discarding dilapidated belief systems on this week’s episode. Join us as we dive into a groundbreaking conversation with the author of Expose Yourself, the Fifty Shades of Gray meets The God Delusion self-help book. ►Find more about Erin Louis and buy her books at https://erinlouis.com/ Explore how geek culture makes us more human with friend of the show Jessie Gender- https://www.youtube.com/lostrekkie Freedom From Religion Foundation- https://ffrf.org/God, No! -Signs You May Already Be An Atheist and Other Magical Tales by Penn Jillette Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder by Paul T. T. Mason & Randi Kreger

The Atheist Community prides itself on a reliance on science so in true SecX tradition we made sure our scientist guest was also a pod *scratch that* porncaster. We’re joined by Scibabe and science journalist Yvette d'Entremont from Two Girls One Mic and anywhere junk science jumps onto the scene to sell you a supplement. Yvette writes and speaks on everything from genes and GMOs to sex and splenda and now joines the show to take your calls on the October 15th episode of Secular Sexuality. ►Find a Yvette’s science journalism and writing around the web at https://scibabe.com/ ►Get your sci-on and dive deeper into the episode at https://www.vcatx.com/media/scibabeThe Error Of 'Biological Sex' -https://www.vcatx.com/media/2019/5/12/the-error-of-biological-sex Talking To Parents About Transitioning | Dani-NM | Secular Sexuality 07.37 https://youtu.be/G4qIW5lilkw The Myth of Sex Addiction by David J. Ley