Secular Sexuality

Whoa momma has it become trendy to call your boyfriend Daddy, and no judgement we’re happy to see you being you. Caregiving and caretaking are important emotional needs and a little bit of roleplay may be just what the doctor ordered. Curious? Confused? Concerned? Brett Turner joins Christy and fan favorite Serafina Smith to help clear up the questions and introduce us to the big big world of little relationships. All your ageplay questions answered plus your calls on the October 4th episode of Secular Sexuality.►Find a collection of resources and connect with Austin Age Play at http://linktr.ee/atxageplay ►Go on a big little adventure and dive deeper into the episode at https://www.vcatx.com/media/ageplay

We throw a lot of new words around (it’s all poly-viking-power-bottom this and demisexual compersion that) but when these words really define a piece of who you are it becomes all the more important that your therapist speaks your language. Talk therapy loses a lot of momentum when you have to pause your explanation of your self to constantly explain yourself and yet most therapists make it through their many years of training without any special understanding of queer culture or human sexuality. This summer Grace Stephenson launched Glimmer, a safe & empowering online space for womxn, QTBIPOC, and LGBTQIA+ communities to find sexual and mental health professionals. Grace joins the show to explain the need for culturally competent and sex positive therapy and to take your calls on the October 1st episode of Secular Sexuality.

Vi and Christy are continuing their conversation about the world of sex work with a luxury escort, internationally recognized sex educator, and 4’8” redhead, Alice Little. Tonight, they’ll be discussing how Alice got started, her many specialties (from flirting and foreplay to lectures on the science of sex), and the state of sex work during COVID. A bonus: they will also have some practical advice for anyone thinking about hiring a luxury escort, in case you wanted to try it yourself! ►Find Alice’s YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCMl6gE-PPKdjIWgJaNlvK3w ►Enjoying Secular Sexuality’s Sex Work September series? Check out our past episodes: Amberly Rothfield: https://youtu.be/YUXPnhxfUo8 Rudy Bee: https://youtu.be/DPff8cgL-SQ ►Find Alice’s social media and more by diving deeper into the episode at https://www.vcatx.com/media/littlealiceChristy’s Intro Guide to Non-monogamy- https://www.vcatx.com/media/openingupislike Non-binary Basics and Myth-busting- https://www.vcatx.com/media/excultbabyenby EARN

Despite what you may read in our YouTube comments sex work is real work and real business. With the growth of OnlyFans and others creators can have more and more industry access with differing results. Enter Amberly Rothfield, business consultant and erotic content creator with 15 years in an always changing industry. Join Christy and Vi as we talk shop and take your calls on the business of sex. ►Find Amberly on Twitter @AmberlyPSO and online at https://amberlyrothfield.com/ ►Learn more about modern sex work and dive deeper into the episode at https://www.vcatx.com/media/amberlyrothfield Some of tonight’s links and recommendations- 3 Months to No.1 by Will Coombehttps://pineapplesupport.org/ https://apagunion.com/ https://www.domain.com/domains/whoisprivacy

Ahh, homemade artisanal soft genderfluid cutiepie nudes, just like Grandma used to make. We’ve dabbled before in the discussion of amature porn but ExCultBaby Rudy Bee returns to the show to get a little extra up close and personal about their OnlyFans. We’re talking online sex work in a pre-gender equality, post-Bella Thorne COVID present, plus taking your calls on the September 10th episode of Secular Sexuality. ►Find Rudy on Twitter @ExCultBaby and YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0MAi67khv-LcaAepPQCsDg

Whether you blame it on a glitch in the Matrix or just a bad headache, our senses often throw us curve balls. Ghosts? ESP? An undigested bit of beef, a blot of mustard, a crumb of cheese… hard to say exactly what it is that trips up our senses but for many of us it’s not an occasional deja vu but a life that seems to be turned up to 11. By exploring new neuroscience and classical psychology Courtney Keiser joins Vi and Christy in a skeptical and intriguing look at the phenomena of highly sensitive people plus your calls on the September 3rd episode of Secular Sexuality. ►Find Courtney and learn more about her work at https://www.discoveringyour.life/►Connect a little deeper with the episode and learn more at https://www.vcatx.com/media/hspFind the HSP test, more resources and Elaine Aron’s original research at https://hsperson.com/

This month The Wachowskis confirmed that their sci-fi blockbuster The Matrix was in part an allegory for the trans experience- a splinter in the mind telling you that your reality, enforced through violent agents, is really just a performance. That hasn’t stopped The Red Pill and other online groups on Reddit and elsewhere from using the film as a jumping off point for warmed over social Darwinism and misogyny. Bigfoot De-Bunker and Truth Wanted Objectively Dan joins Vi and Christy to take your calls and see how far down the rabbit hole goes. ► Check out the ACA’s Truth Wanted https://www.youtube.com/TruthWanted and join the TW Fan Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/TruthFG/► Go further down the rabbit hole find even more resources at https://www.vcatx.com/media/redpillFind Dan on Twitter: @ObjectivelyDanFormer Red Pillers: Discussion Forum- https://www.reddit.com/r/exredpill/Be the men's issues conversation you want to see in the world-https://www.reddit.com/r/MensLib/

Nothing says first kiss on a hot date quite like August 20th, 2020 does it? Between the social unrest, political division and stumbling economy, it’s almost possible to forget about the virus you specifically get...from spit. At a time where we all have way too much time to swipe, many of us are struggling to look for new love in the time of corona. Returning to the show is relationship therapist Grace Wood to answer your calls and walk us through dating in 2020. ►Find Grace and her Dating In 2020 at https://www.gracewoodtherapy.com/blog/2020/7/27/dating-in-2020►Dive deeper into the episode and find even more resources at https://www.vcatx.com/media/coviddatingGrace is on Facebook and IG: https://www.facebook.com/gracewoodlpcintern @https://www.instagram.com/gracewood_therapy/How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving Paperback by David RichoAttached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind - and Keep - Love by Amir Levine

Last week we discussed the power of finding your own sexual identity, throwing out every sort of adjective, orientation, kink and descriptor we could find! If it felt like we left on a bit of a cliffhanger, the SecX Patron Saint Eve is here to dust off the darker corners of the research library and walk us through the dos, don'ts and don’t evens of exploring a new kink. We’re safe, sane, consensual and learning how to kink, plus your calls on tonight’s Secular Sexuality!Topics and calls on today's episode:-How Do I Research Sex Stuff?!-Partners Trying Kink, Consent Boundaries, & Safe Words!-Julie-ID | Trauma from Sexual Abuse Effects On Perceptions of Sex-Mira-(GE) | Having a Hard Enjoying Kinks a Second Time & Finding Partners-Roan-NC | I Might Be Agender or Nonbinary...but I Don't "Feel" the Identity-How Do You Enter Into New & Different Sexual Communities?-Warning Signs You're Not Reeeally Into or Ready for a Particular Kink-Marcus-CA | Religion Shamed Me "Out of" Homosexuality...Help?-Resource

What on earth is a poly Viking power bottom? How about a soft dom femboy switch kitten? Are they spy code names? Super obscure indie bands? Character descriptions for the world’s best sci-fi film? No, these are descriptions of our kinks, and we want to walk you through creating your own epic kink title! Join Vi La Bianca, Christy Powell, and photographer and kinkster Julian Oakes Norman as we discuss the benefits of kink identities and practices on Secular Sexuality. ► Read ENM Magazine’s article on discovering polyamory and kink featuring Julian: https://enmmagazine.com/magazine/2020July/index.html ►Find even more Secular Sexuality links, deets and resources: https://www.vcatx.com/media/poly-viking-power-bottomFollow Julian on social media: Instagram: @cameracoffeeguyWebsite: www.cameracoffeeguy.com Recommended Reading-Explore your own adjectives and find community at https://fetlife.com/glossaryTake the BDSM test at https://bdsmtest.org/select-modeLearn to build your own DIY sex-toys with Megan, & Andy

Secular Sexuality | 07.30 | July 30th | Madison Hollis What could be more important than family? Turns out things like party loyalty, which lives matter, facial skin sensitivity, and ancient homophobic poetry have been dividing familes at alarming rates. Ours is not the first generation to face excommunication or family shunning, but in a divided world with uncertain economics and portentous protests, cast-outs are facing ever-increasing challenges. Family Systems Therapist Madison Hollis joins Vi and Christy in wrapping our heads around this growing epidemic and to take your calls on this July 30th episode of Secular Sexuality! * Family Separation, Sex, Religion, and Social Norm Violation* Matthew-NY | My Friend Has an Abusive Father, How Can I Help?* Geo-FL | Living with Challenges of an Immigrant Family* Shame, Disappointment, and Loss from Family Separation* Steve-AZ | I Want to Learn About Non-Binary and Other Sexualities!* Johnathan-AL | My Family Doesn't Like That I Cut My Father Off* Linda-(UK) | Upda

Joining us on Secular Sexuality tonight is Katy Montgomerie, an LGBTQ rights activist who has been holding court on Medium on behalf of trans folks. Her topic? By far the worst installment of the Harry Potter series: JK Rowling and the UK TERFS. ► Find Katy’s piece about JKRTERF and other work at https://medium.com/@completelykaty ► Find more links or dive deeper into the show at https://www.vcatx.com/media/jkrterf►Read more about JK Rowling’s recent transphobic content here: https://www.forbes.com/sites/dawnstaceyennis/2019/12/19/jk-rowling-comes-out-as-a-terf/#19b7a6a45d70 ►What is a TERF? https://www.insider.com/jk-rowling-what-is-a-terf-trans-exclusionary-radical-feminist-2020-6 ►Read the Letter on Justice and Open Debate here: https://harpers.org/a-letter-on-justice-and-open-debate/ ► Learn more about the so called TRANS AGENDA- watch Secular Sexuality 07.27 with Christy Powell, Serafina Smith, and Rachel Watson •Streamed live on July 9, 2020 https://youtu.be/PCwd4uwr_Ek ►Consider donating to the Trevo

Femme fatale and fashioner designer Miss O Kissed first came to our attention when she shared with us all about the wonderful world of burlesque. Now she joins Vi and Christy to share another part of her identity- her asexuality. What’s it like navigating the world of fetish wear and burlesque as an ace? That question, your calls and a whole lot more on this week’s Secular Sexuality. ► Find more links or dive deeper into the show at https://www.vcatx.com/media/missokissed► Learn more about this self-professed pint sized pervert at https://www.missokissed.com/ ►Find your community at AVEN https://www.asexuality.org/ ►Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You by Susan Forward (https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Blackmail-People-Obligation-Manipulate/dp/0060928972)► Secular Sexuality 06.02 with Megan Bonner, Christy Powell, & Black Widow Burlesque•Streamed live on Jan 10, 2019 https://youtu.be/DEk8w0q1lRw

The TRANS AGENDA. Maybe you’ve heard about it on Twitter, where the massive following of Dolores Umbridge, er um, Rita Skeeter , er- a well-known Young Adult author have been recently addressing the subject. Here on Secular Sexuality, we will be talking with two actual trans women. What DO they want? What is their experience? All this and more, including your own calls and questions, on the July 9 episode of Secular Sexuality, on the Atheist Experience Network!► Find more links or dive deeper into the show at https://www.vcatx.com/media/transagenda ► We the Mudbloods: J. K. Rowling and the Trans-Exterminationists by Zinnia Jones for Gender Analysis (https://genderanalysis.net/2020/06/we-the-mudbloods-j-k-rowling-and-the-trans-exterminationists-book-1/?fbclid=IwAR0iJoctGU-_iypvzxVgh8hBDv6wTjulxkqWBOz_6EFJX1fKpK8A8KcxbHg)► Mastercard to allow transgender people to use chosen names on credit and debit cards by the Associated Press (https://www.usatoday.com/story/money/2019/06/17/transgender-people-can-use-c

You may only know of cam girls because of internet pop-ups (we won’t tell) or bad jokes. Maybe you’ve always been curious but have held back because of money, exploitation or religious moralizing. Well it’s 2020, working from home has become the usual and our sex worker friends are way ahead of us. Enter Saint Eve, our friendly neighborhood atheist cam girl. While she walks Christy and Vi through cam customer etiquette we’ll be getting ready to take your calls. This is the Atheist Experience Network’s Secular Sexuality on July 2nd. ► Find our beloved Saint at https://saint_eve.cammodels.com/► Learn more by diving deeper into the episode at https://www.vcatx.com/media/sainteveRecommended reading from tonight’s episode-Transgender History (Seal Studies) by Susan Stryke (https://www.amazon.com/Transgender-History-Studies-Susan-Stryker/dp/158005224X) Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More by Janet Mock(https://www.amazon.com/Redefining-Realness-Path-Womanhood-Identity/dp/14

It is so ordered. 5 years ago the Supreme Court ended its decision to guarantee equal marital rights to all U.S. citizens with those words. But how much really changed? In a summer where we realize the gains of 50 years ago have fallen short of true equal rights, what should our next steps be? Is it even possible to outlaw bigotry and is there anything the trans rights movement can take away from these decades long legal battles? The Atheist Experience Network’s Johnny makes a return visit, joining Vi and Christy in taking your calls and peering again at the age old question, can you legislate morality? ► Learn more and dive deeper into the episode at https://www.vcatx.com/media/obergefell► After Bostock, We’re All Textualists Now by Ilya Shapirohttps://www.cato.org/publications/commentary/after-bostock-were-all-textualists-now)► How to Understand Your Gender by Alex Iantaffi (https://smile.amazon.com/How-Understand-Your-Gender-Practical/dp/1785927469) ► Supreme Court Delivers Major Victory To LGBTQ Employees

Trystan Reese damn near broke the internet when he chose to speak publicly with CNN, VICE and The Washington Post (among dozens of others) about his pregnancy. As a gay trans man and a public figure Trystan’s Collaborative Consulting provides training and support on trans inclusion, racial justice and other issues plaguing our workplaces, marketplaces and forums. Join Vi, Sera and Christy as we watch last week’s interview with Trystan and try to make sense of trans safety and acceptance during this summer of change. 00:05:30 - Interview With Trystan Reese00:39:07 - Johnathan - AL - Confused About Sexuality00:53:32 - Godless - NY - Supreme Court Decision On Equal Rights Amendment 01:00:37 - Leigh NJ - Discussing Gay Couples Vs Straight Couples01:12:11 - Brutus - MN - Toxic Masculinity And Role Confusion►Find even more resources and dive deeper into the episode at https://www.vcatx.com/media/trystanreese►Learn more about Trystan and Collaborative Consulting (https://trystanreese.com/)►Hear more of Trystan’s sto

I can’t tell if we’re behind on answering our emails or if time is a flat circle that no longer corresponds to common sense or basic human decency. In any case Vi and Christy answer your questions as we all look to get our bearings during these turbulent times. If you’ve written in, wanna give us a call or just need help remembering what day of the week it is the Secular Sexuality team has got you covered. “No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were. As some of the petitioners in these cases demonstrate, marriage embodies a love that may endure even past death. It would misunderstand these men and women to say they disrespect the idea of marriage. Their plea is that they do respect it, respect it so deeply that they seek to find its fulfillment for themselves. Their hope is not to be condemned to live in loneliness, excluded from one of civili

Vi La Bianca is joined by ACA host and co-host Johnny P. Johnny has worked behind the scenes and in front of the camera to make our shows even that much more amazing! Vi started the show off summarizing that Black Lives Matter. Tonight's topic is about Allyship and how best to educate ourselves on that topic. Johnny asks himself what can he do, what has he done lately? The first caller we have is Laurie in Texas. She is calling to give her take on Secular Sexuality. She was working in the church up until about a month ago. WOW. She is now an atheist.They had a great conversation about past relationships and VI and Johnny had some amazing responses. Next Vi took a chat question about consent in sex and what constitutes rape. They felt their wife used them for sex until a plan hatched. Vi gave some great advice and empathized with the person that chatted. Johnny recommended consulting an attorney in this case.Our last caller tonight is Lisa in Alberta Canada, she is wanting to discuss the concept of white knigh

ExCultBaby joins Vi and Christy to offer a public service so your non-binary and agender friends, children and co-workers don’t have to. We’re busting all the myths, breaking down the mysteries and answering all of your questions- serious, silly and sexy, all in equal measure. It’s an enby exploration of gender, culture and community on AEN’s Secular Sexuality. Find ExCultBaby’s YouTube channel (https://www.youtube.com/excultbaby), twitter, instagram, tumblr and more as @ExCultBabyLearn more about non-binary allyship and culture or dive deeper into the episode at https://www.vcatx.com/media/excultbabyenbyItems from tonight’s show-Sissy A COMING-OF-GENDER STORY By JACOB TOBIAhttps://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/566884/sissy-by-jacob-tobia/