The New Man

Have you ever felt that you’re waiting to do what you really want to do in life? How could the fact that we’re going to die, help us live more fully? And what are the two key elements needed for us to step fully into our power? Today, I want to share another excerpt from This Book Will Make You Dangerous. First, you’ll go through a short exercise designed to help us create more alignment with what we truly want. And second we’ll discuss how giving away our power keeps us playing small. If you’re interested in the book you can learn more by visiting DangerousBookstore.com. In this episode: Are you aligned? How to use your mortality to stop playing small Why be dead now? Tolerating the small stuff, scarcity, productivity issues 45 year old boys The (2) key elements required to step into our power You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for

Do you ever play it safe when it comes to money or sex? Do you take risks or only go for what appears to be a “sure thing?” And how can we make sure we don’t get stuck in a prey mentality? Today we’re going to listen in on a recent call I had with a coaching client. His work and sex life were feeling flat, so we explored some ways he could get out of his own way, stop playing it safe, and find that mojo again. In this interview: Feeling uninspired in our work and sex life Why playing it safe can kill our careers and relationships Trying to avoid being the “weird” guy The pressure of trying to “get it right” Are you aligned with what you want in life? Plus: Being a knuckle dragging romantic What keeps us in a prey mentality Nice guy syndrome What if it was okay to face-plant from time to time? How can post-it notes change your relationship? You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and ent

What does it mean to be dangerous? How can we ensure we don’t become grumpy, soft, and fragile old men? And could what you’re about to hear be the worst, most disgusting way to open a book? Today, I want to share an excerpt from This Book Will Make You Dangerous. This is the introduction where we take a very unconventional look at expectations and clarify why I throw most success how-to books in the trash. Learn more by visiting DangerousBookstore.com. In this interview: What happened when I went to the butt doctor Why I throw most success how-to books in the trash Is the pursuit of success making us weak? How expectations kill our peace of mind Are we playing a game we can’t win? The trap of seeking comfort and safety once and for all You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/ Th

With so much uncertainty right now, how do you deal with the uncomfortable feelings that arise? What if it actually all came crashing down? What could possibly exist on the other side of your worst nightmare? Our brains are constantly scanning for threats — most of which never come true, but this constant worrying can kill the enjoyment of our short time to be alive. Today I’m sharing a recent group coaching call where, instead of running away from these scary feelings we chose to do something else instead. In this interview: Clarifying what’s at stake Getting hijacked by our fear Phil Stutz “Only the dead survive.” Tapping into a power we rarely recognize Learning to watch the theater in our minds Plus: How to pivot out of our fear Why trying to run away from fear creates more suffering What happens when we relax our need to control everything? The power of brotherhood How to Change Your Mind by Michael Pollan You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier

Do we have to depend on fear for motivation? Can we learn how to put scarcity and pressure into perspective? And how can we learn to forge our own path instead of following the herd? Today, my wife Alyson and I discuss how fear can serve us — or work against us. On many levels we’re being challenged. For many this challenge is simply a matter of being uncomfortable or bored. Others are experiencing great uncertainty with regards to their professions and financial well-being. And then there are those who are being confronted by mortality itself. We can get caught up in the collective freak out or we can use this period as a wake up call. It’s a time to zoom out and reflect. The men I’m coaching all around the world are seeing this challenging time as an opportunity. It’s an opportunity for us to assess our lives and how we’re choosing to live them. Are our professions and relationships and lifestyle choices aligned with our deepest values? Or does today’s challenge help us see that it’s time to cou

Do you think more success and status are the keys to lasting fulfillment? What happens when our achievements leave us feeling empty? And what does it mean to be dangerous? Today, my wife, Alyson and I explore a life beyond constant comfort and how most men are stuck in a trap — striving to play a game they can’t win. In this interview: Alyson recovers from her bathroom noises Getting over ourselves can be painful A threat to our self image feels like a threat to our lives What it means to be responsible for your life Tolerating bullshit vs saying “no” Plus: Settling because “this is just the way it is” Blaming others and playing the victim Do victims enjoy feeling powerless? Why someone with a victim mentality isn’t coachable The addiction to sadness and suffering And: When success leaves us feeling empty “What’s wrong with me? I thought I’d feel fulfilled.” What would feel expansive? What do I want more than being comfortable all the time? Developing a guidance system based on what you value most

If you want more out of life then what’s really getting in the way? Why do we have such a hard time making a commitment? And what’s so wrong with trying to live happily ever after? Today, my wife Alyson and I explore the deep-seated fears that keep us stuck, the ways we operate from a prey mentality, and Alyson’s embarrassing bathroom experience. In this interview: “Why won’t a man commit?” There’s no such thing a commitment-phobe Competing commitments (Robert Kegan and Lisa Lahey) What keeps us from having alignment with our values? When we believe that there are monsters under our bed Plus: The danger of “set it and forget it” Identifying our prey mentality The shadow to personal growth and self-help We’re forgetting how powerful we are And: Why seeking “easy street” is a trap Exoneration with Phil Stutz and Barry Michels Fragile egos and the “need” to prove our self worth Alyson’s body sounds You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with hi

Do you want to make a change but believe you need the perfect plan before you take action? Does your work or salary or title determine your value as a man? And how do we know when it’s time to make a big change? Today, my wife, Alyson and I pick up where we left off in the episode entitled A Bold Way to Start a Relationship. We explore how I went from feeling very confident to very lost; how I spent years dicking around while waiting for the perfect plan; and how I finally pulled my head out of my ass and got back on track. In this interview: Stepping out of our comfort zone Being a small fish in a big pond When our work determines our self worth Dealing with uncertainty and self-doubt Waiting for the perfect time and the perfect plan Plus: Stuck in excuses Trying to predict the future Refusing the call to adventure Moving from “pre-f**k it” to “post-f**k it” Getting out of the bleachers and into the game You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses w

Do you face your challenges alone or do other men have your back? How does our desire for a plan or vision become a trap? And what’s the key to making a commitment in relationships? Alyson and I continue where we left off in the episode entitled, Should You Settle or Blow Up Your Life? Today we talk about making bold moves, the value of a men’s group, and how I almost killed our relationship by acting like a nice guy. In this interview: Outgrowing a split lifestyle Starting Tripp’s first men’s group The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida A bold way to start a relationship Plus: Moving from discomfort into aliveness When trying not to screw it up starts to screw it up Wanting the truth vs comfort Making a smart commitment Waiting for the perfect plan is a trap You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://w

Have you ever suffered from “imposter syndrome”? Are you okay with simply chasing money or do you want your work to be meaningful, too? And how often do you tell yourself, “I will figure this out”? Today, The Middle Finger Project author Ash Ambirge is here to discuss how she went from growing up in a trailer park to middle class success to sleeping in a K-Mart parking lot with only $26 to her name to eventually making seven figures. In this interview: Growing up in a trailer park Being mentally tough Being willing to rock the boat Striving for middle class Why becoming “normal” was so disappointing Plus: Dealing with imposter syndrome The feeling of “I don’t know what I’m supposed to do next.” Doing work you’re proud of Wanting our work to align with our values Feeling guilty for wanting more out of life And: Ash’s “sleeping in a K-Mart parking lot” story “I will figure it out.” The key to being “Unf*ckwithable” The trouble of not having your own money Learning how to provide value You don't have to

Do you feel guilty for wanting more out of life? Is it possible to outgrow your current profession or relationship? And would you have to blow up everything you care about in order to make a big change? Today my wife Alyson and I pick up where we left off in the previous episode entitled, The Emotionally Constipated Control Freak. In this conversation we explore taking responsibility for what we want, the seduction of settling, and the one question that kicked me in the gut. In this interview: Living a split life “Stop being a spoiled brat.” Focusing on problems vs solutions Feeling guilty for wanting more out of life Plus: Have you outgrown your life? The Drama Triangle - Victim, Persecutor, Rescuer Shifting from bitching to focusing on what you want Are you defensive or curious? The fear of being broke and alone And: “Do you feel like you’re settling?” The myth: “I have to blow up my life in order to make a change.” Are you being lulled to sleep? Waiting for the perfect, safe plan The phone call that

How important is it for you to be in control? Do you ever feel like your life is out of alignment with your values? And what does it take to forgive someone who has hurt you deeply? Today my wife, Alyson Lanier gets curious about the emotionally constipated guy I used to be back in my early 20’s. We talk about why I went to therapy, why I hated the idea of personal growth, and how my life looked amazing from the outside but was a fragmented mess on the inside. In this interview: Does Alyson have a fart fetish? Being a control freak Trying to outrun my emotional world Being afraid of women Navigating an emotional minefield Plus: Why I went to therapy Dealing with loss Considering suicide The difference between relief and peace of mind “The peace I was deeply wanting was on the other side of that thing I was avoiding.” And: Ken Wilber’s The Marriage of Sense and Soul Being out of alignment with inner values “They’re going to think I’m weird.” Playing it safe professionally “Is this it? What now? Why ca

Lebron James spends $1 million dollars per year on his health. What do you spend to ensure that your body doesn’t hold you back? Functional Medicine Health Consultant Jon Mitchell is here to challenge the dogmatic, cookie cutter approaches so that you can dial in the unique protocol that works best for your body. In this interview: Why so many are settling for aches, pains, and low energy Why regular docs aren’t always the best resource Why chasing your problem with supplements isn’t sustainable Why cookie cutter diets don’t work for everyone Erectile dysfunction as it relates to your health Plus: Are you a liability to yourself, performance, and quality of life? Why health is the vehicle for having the life you want Peace of mind knowing that your body is on track Playing the amateur or choosing to turn pro Cutting through the noise of online experts and gurus and diets You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Na

Tripp Lanier discusses facing our fears of failure and criticism. Here are a few brief lessons learned from legendary Rush drummer, Neil Peart about living life on your own terms. Crush procrastination and mental resistance. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, entrepreneurs, and influencers. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com//resistance

As someone who makes a living coaching others to accomplish goals, Tripp discusses how our goals can become a trap. Plus: Glorifying busy-ness, how our mindless pursuit “more” is lazy, and why our need to prove that we’re not a failure is making us weak. In this interview: The trap of proving we’re not a failure Why protecting, pleasing, and proving kills our peace of mind Glorifying busy-ness Trying to carry 6 gallons in a 5 gallon bucket Plus: The shadow side of goals Having a great life that’s unfulfilling The difference between comfort and peace Using your emotions as information Crush procrastination and mental resistance. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, entrepreneurs, and influencers. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com//resistance

After coaching successful men for over 15 years, Tripp boils down what kills our freedom, aliveness, and peace of mind. Does success really mean we’re stronger? How can we get off the hamster wheel of “more, more, more”? And what would it mean to define success and strength on your own terms? Crush procrastination and mental resistance. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, entrepreneurs, and influencers. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com//resistance

Following Your Passion is Hard as Hell. My friend Eric Goodman is the creator of Foundation Training. He’s built a global movement by empowering people to overcome back pain. But like many passion-driven businesses, behind the scenes it’s been extremely challenging. Today we talk about growth, failure, chaos, and the fantasy that building a business around your passion should somehow be a cakewalk. #foundationtraining #doafounder #mindset #entrepreneur #business #motivation #success #entrepreneurship Crush procrastination and mental resistance. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, entrepreneurs, and influencers. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com//resistance

Are you bored with the whole left vs right, culture war gridlock? What if there was a way that this dumpster fire could make us stronger? And could you possibly find common ground with your bigot uncle this holiday season? Jeff Salzman (The Daily Evolver) discusses Ken Wilber’s integral theory and how it can help us navigate our conflicted world. #integral #kenwilber #culturewar Crush procrastination and mental resistance. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, entrepreneurs, and influencers. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com//resistance

David Perel gave up his dream of being a pro racing driver and became a tech startup founder. But dreams die hard. In this crazy story, David recalls his bold (and sometimes reckless) choices to go against the odds to race at the highest level. #granturismosport #gtsport #ferrari #lamborghini #motorsport #blancpaingtseries #lemans Crush procrastination and mental resistance. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, entrepreneurs, and influencers. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com//resistance

Jon Zazula (Heavy Tales) and his wife Marsha are legends in the metal music industry. With Megaforce Records they discovered Metallica and launched a genre of music that marches on to this day. That said, the road to fame and fortune was a very rocky road. Today, Jonny Z and I discuss his path from Wall Street to jail to metal hall of fame. Crush procrastination and mental resistance. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, entrepreneurs, and influencers. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com//resistance