The Chick Whisperer Podcast

Co-Host Dr. Mark Goulston (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/crazy) My Guest Dr. Mark Goulston is a psychiatrist and the world's foremost expert in relational conflict management. He's the author of many NYT bestselling books, including Talking To Crazy: How to Deal with the Irrational and Impossible People in Your Life. Conventional wisdom on how to deal with irrational people is typically that you simply can't. But Mark will systematically dismantle that notion in this episode, offering truly genius ways to communicate with angry, unreasonable and even antagonistic people...even getting them to work WITH you instead of against you. Nowhere is this skill set more important than in our relationships with women, and Dr. Goulston does not disappoint. He brings solid strategies and practical steps to 'taming the shrew', and you'll likely be amazed by how so many of us as men tend to do the exact opposite of what works when arguing with women. Why does telling someone to 'calm down' always seem to make them even mor

My returning guest is the ever-charming Preity Uupala, who brought up the idea of sexual conversation as a topic. Who was I to miss the opportunity to hear from a woman about something so confusing to so many men? I mean, it's easy to wonder how we got nearly eight billion people on this planet when it's so hard for men and women to even talk about sex together, let alone have it. For sure, lots of guys are like the proverbial bull in a china shop when it comes to this. But in times like these, it's FAR more common for many of us to retreat from daring any sexual conversation with woman at all for fear of dire consequences. Meanwhile, women everywhere are craving flirty, sexy and even downright horny conversation with a man who understands the balance and can dance the dance of attraction. In this episode, Preity does her best to present her five rules of sexual conversation, and all the while I do my best to catch her off guard and mess up her composure. In the end, it's a compelling mix of solid information

If you're like any other red-blooded guy out there, the chances are very good that your father never told you about girls, dating and sex. Unfortunately, that left most of us to get what little information we got from deeply flawed sources. Even worse, most of us remained absolutely mystified by girls well into adolescence, early adulthood or possibly even beyond. Well, my guest Michael McPherson is on a one-man mission to make up for lost time. In this all-important episode we hit the ground running, talking first about WHY fathers can't seem to have the 'birds and bees' conversation with their sons--and how single moms (at best) don't tend to do much better. How has porn become the de facto teacher of sex for today's generation of boys...and what are the real-world ramifications of that? What does 'liquid courage' really teach us about sex? What happens when relationships become purely sex focused? How has not learning about women and sex at an early age affected our long-term vision of our own masculinity?

Co-Host Timothy Ward (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/goddess) Men and women were clearly designed to get along and be in partnership together, yet in real-world practice that is often replete with challenges. What's up with that? Well, despite the somewhat lofty title of his book Savage Breast: One Man's Search For the Goddess, my guest Tim Ward has happened upon some truly original and at times mindblowing concepts that are flat-out guaranteed to transform how you view relationships between men and women. According to him, all of the answers we seek with regard to understanding women and relating to them just might be found by extending our understanding beyond Western culture...and perhaps even looking into our distant past as homo sapiens. Indeed, there is a wealth of archetypal information and mapping available to us that's actually pretty straightforward, yet often overlooked. Now see though, here's the thing...this is largely a Western world problem. Discover why people of other cultures and (to us) exo

Co-Host Rick Kirschner (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/cantstand) My guest is the legendary author of the wildly popular book How To Deal With People You Can't Stand, which has now been published in at least 27 languages. Rick is happily retired nowadays, so he rarely has to deal with such people anymore. For my part, I'm simply thrilled he came out of retirement to join us on this episode. But hey...we all indeed know people who bore us to death with their stuff, always talk about themselves, only contact us when they need something, and/or always attempt to play oneupmanship with us. Then there are the legions of people nowadays who never follow through on what they say they're going to do, the ones who talk behind our back, fake people, people who try to undermine us, people who run 'game' on us, and who try to proselytize us to their MLM downlines. And then, of course, there are always the women who drive us nuts, but we're hot for them anyway. Well, not only has Dr. Kirschner thought through the answers

My guest co-host this week is a disciple of Robert Cialdini himself, only not quite retired just yet and IMHO a bit more practical in how he speaks about his area of expertise. The topic, of course, is influence...more specifically, how to be more influential and gain personal power, all without being obnoxious, unethical or creepy about it. Why is it that so few men are truly influential? Could it be because most of us simply don't know how power and influence work? What is the relationship between wisdom, benevolence and leadership relative to influence? How about the art of persuasion...can it EVER be ethical, or is it simply a dirty word? What are the key differences between influence and straight-up manipulation? How is dating and attraction like sales? Let's just say solid sales strategies are VERY similar to effective attraction principles, whether you like it that way or not. Could that be why the pickup artist era was infamous for such manipulative or even flat-out sleazy tactics? Wait until you hear

Co-Host Gleb Tsipursky (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/gleb) My guest, Dr. Gleb Tsipursky is a world-class expert and bestselling author in the areas of mental blind spots and cognitive biases. According to Gleb himself, it was the series of rotten decisions his parents tended to make during his early childhood that drove his passion for helping others to make better decisions...thereby 'future-proofing' themselves, to use his term. Indeed, there's no doubt that better decision making leads to better relationships and indeed a better life in general. So how come this isn't taught in school? Well, in part it's all because such skill often accompanies maturity and the accumulation of wisdom. Nevertheless, Gleb has a number of shortcuts you can use to identify and squash the mindsets and habits that lead to bad decisions and the dire consequences thereof. The fascinating part is how simply recognizing the weird but common ways we as humans hamstring ourselves is the first and best step to prevention. Tune in as

A couple of episodes ago we talked about how we can be our own worst enemy. But upon reflection, we left out one of the most devastating--and common--ways we do that. I'm talking, of course, about trying too hard. Do men, especially so-called 'nice guys', do this more than women? If so, why is that? Can it really be as simple as because men do EVERYTHING to impress chicks? But what are the ways that women tend to try too hard? Why do people think this works to attract people, when the weird psychological effect is the exact opposite? Instead of pushing people away, how can we PULL them in magnetically instead? And what's the difference between needy approval seeking as opposed to simply being too damn perky, upbeat, enthusiastic or optimistic? Why do people persist in trying too hard, even when they already realize they're 'pushing it uphill' and their efforts are doomed to failure? And what's up with men's tendency to try logicking women into liking us? Women often say they 'want a man to pursue them', but h

When my guest Michael Lassen was on the show for the first time, you guys absolutely raved over the content he brought to the table. Now, he's back to talk about what he calls the 'The Golden Checklist', aka 'The Success Checklist'. By now you've probably heard of Jordan Peterson's 12 Rules For Life, Stephen Covey's concept of listing Unifying Principles, or even my own Depth Chart system for evaluating long-term relationship potential. You may have even formulated a 'bucket list' for yourself. But what Michael has done here is above and beyond all that. Drawing directly from the practices of Warren Buffett, this lightning in a bottle will empower you to sort out who you are, where you're going, and best of all...who the right woman is to invite into your reality. For years, Michael suffered through bad decisions like many of us do, and found himself wondering why he was where he was, and doing what he was doing. In this episode we break down Michael's methodology so you can replicate it yourself, ultimately

Every time Big Will Hicks co-hosts this show you can count on a lot of fun and laughs. This show is no different, although it hammers home some more serious facts as well this time around. The hard truth for many of us as men is we're our own worst enemy. Will and I acknowledge we can both relate, looking on our own respective pasts. We've both also buried far more male friends than female ones. So what's the deal? Why do men die younger, get into more accidents, get involved in violent crime, go to jail more often and--of course--seem to struggle more relating to MOTOS than women do? How come we talk ourselves out of the bedroom with women with surprising consistency? Why do we blow it so often with them, despite success being right there for the taking? And how come we lose our temper--and our jobs--practically in the blink of an eye? Well, it often comes down to bad decision making. We as men lead, and women are hard-wired to follow a strong masculine man who acts in her best interest. Fail to exhibit that

We're told we ought to get off the couch and 'live our best life'. Yet, especially after a year of what we've all been through, the rampant cries of 'YOLO' only seem to lead to ever-increasing FOMO. My co-host Tommy Breedlove is the author of the book Legendary, and he returns for an off-the-cuff discussion of what it really means to live life to the fullest. I mean, do we really need to be rich, famous and/or hyper-macho and fill our lives non-stop with crazy--or even dangerous--adventures? That seems utterly exhausting at best, if not terrifying at worst. What's more, it seems like a whole lot of pressure...especially considering all the 'highlight reels' we see on Facebook and Instagram. So then, what are the secrets to living OUR best life...rather than someone else's? I mean, is it ambitious enough to simply contribute our one eight-billionth part as a member of the human race? How much of our life can reasonably spent celebrating the mundane? Is the 'American Dream' really what we want? Is happiness its

When I was a young man, one of my elder mentors gave me the best relationship advice ever: Marry a strong woman. The problem is, he didn't explain exactly what that meant. Years later, after lots of mistakes along the way, I'm indeed married to a strong woman, and I know exactly what he means. But the whole purpose of this episode is to make sure YOU do too. Enter GS Youngblood, who has literally written the book on this subject. To kick things off, GS surprises us all by admitting you may NOT want to marry a strong woman if you're a particular kind of guy. But assuming all systems are 'go', the ensuing discussion details the traits of a truly strong woman in the best sense of the word, along with all the gifts and joys she not only CAN bring to your life, but also WANTS to. And yet, there are several paradoxes at play when it comes to dating and relating to strong women. Sometimes the man they THINK they're looking for isn't the man they really will connect with long-term. So how do we as men navigate that?

It's one of the darkest secrets out there. I'm talking about physical and sexual abuse upon us as men. Not only do many men experience this in silence, even the topic at large is uncomfortable to discuss, isn't it? Well, whether you have a dark secret of your own or simply wish to be a source of strength and encouragement for a fellow brother who does, this episode is for you--and it's one of the most important ones I've ever produced. This IS a thing, and it's actually happening far more than you've ever thought. Yet, men feel so much shame when victimized that incidents, or even continuous abuse, goes vastly underreported. My guest is Sandy Phillips Kirkham, who is a long-time victim advocate and the author of the ambiguously titled Let Me Pray/Prey Upon You. Now, despite the title of her book, Sandy isn't about anti-faith clergy bashing. Both she and I actually have stories, and have seen similar patterns among assailants. What are those patterns, and what are the insidious ways predators 'groom' their pot

You've likely heard the phrase 'feminine gifts' before, especially if you're familiar with the works of David Deida. But have you ever stopped to consider exactly what it is that the feminine wants to bestow upon the masculine? I mean, obviously there's sex. But as my long-time friend Zan Perrion and I have both recognized all along, women want to bring so much more joy, value and fulfillment to us above and beyond that. Yes, women are designed for pleasure, but there's SO much the MGTOW and red-pilled guys are missing out on when they hold a low view of the female gender. How have so many men grown jaded and pessimistic toward women? What, if any, is the way out of that mindset? Well, Zan and I have each had disastrous experiences with women in the past, yet both of us still love women. Are we crazy, or is there a transcendent factor at play here? Indeed there is, and this episode gets to the very heart of the matter--which is how we think about women, and indeed also what we think OF women. So then, what am

Returning guest Jonathan Catherman not only wrote the book on masculine preparedness, he's all about teaching our sons and daughters to be self-reliant and gritty as well. In the wake of a year's worth of unforseen crises of varying magnitude, lots of us as men are rethinking whether or not those 'disaster prepper' guys really are the overreacting conspiracy theorists many of us thought they were. Indeed, although the toilet paper hoarding and such at the grocery stores when COVID hit affected most of us, both Jonathan and I have respectively seen other layers of panic-inducing shortage situations since. Back in March, here in Texas we experienced the unprecedented cold snap accompanied by freakish snowfalls that we dubbed 'SNOVID'. Meanwhile, even now Jonathan is dealing with a gas shortage in his hometown of Charlotte, NC. So basically, isn't it time for all of us to admit we should apply some 20/20 foresight to potential crises that may arise in the future? After all, our minds and bodies respond far bette

Obviously, your voice matters on many levels. Your opinion, your beliefs, being assertive, and the like. But what about your real, literal, actual speaking voice? Well my guest is not only a bona fide voice coach, she has the real-world street cred to back it up. As fortune would have it, she was basically the real-life Anna from 'The King And I', having been hired by the King of Thailand to teach his son, the prince. Despite her many adventures, rest assured that Kelly is not only down-to-earth, she indeed 'talks the talk' with a mellifluous voice in her own right. In this episode, you'll not only discover why even the subtle nuances of your voice are so important, but also how and why it'll make or break how attractive you are to women. For starters, what are the building blocks of your speaking voice? Why is it that most of do not like the sound of our own voice? What does our voice subcommunicate about who we are? How does our voice fluctuate based on a variety of societal and environmental conditions? Wh

My guest Scott Yenor is a professor of political science at Boise State University and a Washington Fellow of the Claremont Institute. The main focus of his work is on the family in political thought. I first found out about him when he was on the Tucker Carlson show, of all places, where he discussed the fascinating social dynamic of how we as men tend to avoid marriage and fatherhood in our younger years, only to wish we had a wife and kids in our later years. Above and beyond that, this episode is a deep dive into societal agendas imposed upon men, women, sex and relationships. In his book, 'The Recovery of Family Life: Exposing the Limits of Modern Ideologies', Yenor exposes the three main pressures on men, women and family life in the post-modern world. Regardless of which party you tend to vote for, I invite you to tune in for this all-important discussion of how powerful social movements absolutely influence our dating, relating and sexual patterns in western culture. Not only do we get to the bottom o

Dr. Marcia Reynolds is someone I should have met years ago. After all, she's one of the OGs in the coaching profession at large, the former president of the very International Coaching Federation itself, and current CEO of the major coaching firm Covisioning. As it turns out, based on her writings, she is the quintessentially perfect guest to address the long-overdue topic of how to be assertive. First of all, what does it even mean to be 'assertive'? Why is it so important in life to be so? Yet at the same time, how come most everybody deeply fears ever having to assert their opinion, let alone their will? Truly, some guys have a hard time being assertive even with the woman in their lives...often wondering silently what she's thinking, yet never actually asking her. Could it be that most of us as men are so afraid of looking like a jerk that we fail to show some chutzpah even when it's absolutely necessary? This is but one of many examples of how lack of assertiveness costs us dearly. We lose out on opportu

In 1968, Tammy Wynette released probably her most famous single, which caused immediate outrage from the Women's Movement. But Wynette countered by saying 'stand by your man' simply meant accepting one's husband despite his faults. But still, by today's standards the song might evoke even more vitriolic outrage. Yet, a recent Facebook post brought up how men are always taught how to treat a woman, but teaching women how to treat a man would be anachronistic at best, sexist or even patriarchal oppression at worst. So what's up with that? Are women just teaching their daughters how to stay away from men? Do the so-called 'red pill' guys and #MGTOW have a point when they decry the double standard? Well, Emily and I throw all of this on the table, along with the sandwich she just made me (kidding). But there's a lot to talk about here. I mean, obviously both women AND men should stand by each other in a relationship, right? But not everyone deserves what they want here. When does loyalty turn into being a doormat

With me today are the two real-life DEA agents whose work is chronicled in the hit Netflix series Narcos. Steve Murphy and Javier Pena were both assigned by the DEA to work in Medellin, Colombia with the task of taking down Pablo Escobar. They were directly responsible in large part for the ultimate success of that operation. While there, both of these guys did their jobs with the spectre of six-figure bounties on their respective heads. Needless to say, this is one of the most badass accomplishments by any men within the last forty years, for sure. But these days, both Steve and Javier are retired after 38 years of service each, and you won't believe how down-to-earth and easy-going they are. It's like I've always observed, when real men accomplish great things they typically don't act as if they have anything to prove...because they don't. Experiencing how these guys carry themselves and hearing their insane stories is reason enough to tune in to this amazing episode, but the pure gold is mined when the top