The Chick Whisperer Podcast

We're taking a break from the serious stuff to go on a protracted (and hilarious) rant about how and why both men and women seem to completely lose their minds whenever they meet and interact with each other. My guest for this is the always witty and personable James Preece, who is the UK's number one dating coach. Only two guys with respectively long histories of going brain-dead when relating to women could bring you a tirade this poignant and complete, so get ready to laugh along with us. We cover everything from meeting women to botched first-date conversation, twisted mindsets and more...including, of course, the mandatory coverage of online dating and breakups. Granted, this show definitely gets a bit harsh and painful in places, but if you ever feel like we've been spying on you in particular PLEASE know that each example we throw on the table is backed by at least several different true stories...if not several dozen. It's all in fun, but hey...if you get a bolt of lightning here and there that snaps

Have you ever felt like whatever you do for a woman it's never good enough? Worse...have you been left thinking that no matter what ANY man does in a world with so much 'man bashing', it's always going to be flat-out wrong? Obviously, any well-meaning man with solid intentions can be left thoroughly frustrated with a quickness. That's why I brought in my long time friend Iris Benrubi, who is a genuinely man-friendly licensed psychotherapist. Find out how seeds of discontent in your relationship with a woman--and her relationship with you--were actually sown in early childhood. And wait until you hear the fascinating truth about how the mental trigger of 'getting beat by a girl' when asking a woman out ends up screwing up your relationship with her later. Also, why some women are so good at triggering your 'hot buttons' and what to do when it happens. Finally, you'll also get true clarity on who should apologize to whom, and when...all the while gaining personal power and respect instead of squandering it. Rea

Co-Host Suzanna Matthews (http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com/maven) You go out with her and everything seems fine...but obviously it wasn't because she NEVER returns your calls after that. What happened there? My guest co-host for this episode is super easy-going and guy-friendly dating coach Suzanna Matthews, aka The Date Maven. In this episode we expose the major ways both men AND women screw up on dates--usually without even realizing it. In addition to revealing exactly how 'Mr. Nice Guy' tends to be his own worst enemy on dates, we boldly delve into touchy subjects like manners, weird dating conversation, bringing the right energy, and attempted humor gone horribly wrong. Is there such thing as sexual innuendo etiquette? What critical dating mistake do we tend to make more and more as we get older? And what is it that virtually everyone does on dates that's invariably a HUGE blunder? Is social media actually conditioning you for dating disasters? Plus, you'll discover the number one way to get a woman to

Co-Host Frank Miniter (http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com/frank) Frank Miniter is an author, journalist and former editor of two different hunting magazines. Since his specialties are masculinity and politics, he's the quintessentially perfect man to have such a poignant conversation with...and with manhood being marginalized more than ever in Western culture, the timing has never been better. The first thing you'll find out about Frank is that he not only lives life to the fullest, he's curious enough to gain as much knowledge as he can along the way. I LOVE guys like that. You can look forward to insider tales about running with the bulls and how Ernest Hemmingway was a badass. Even though modern society can't handle the idea of a true Renaissance Man, men who are both genteel and adventurous are still somehow revered. You'll discover how to get out of the box and maximize your potential. Then you'll be treated to the most compelling and amazing boxing story since Rocky...only this one is one-hundred percent

Co-Host Mike Domitrz (http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com/kiss) Mike Domitrz (rhymes with 'Amish') tours the country talking to crowds of men and women about consent. Knowing how confusing, potentially scary and flat-out frustrating this topic is to so many of us as men, this is one of the most anticipated episodes ever. And you're in for a no-holds-barred session where everything gets thrown on the table. We dive right in, starting with WTF is happening at our universities and workplaces...are men under attack simply for being heterosexual? Then, you'll discover how to check off the 'consent' box without being awkward, dorky and ruining the moment. The number one sign of sexual immaturity and why you should run from it. What to do if you don't exactly feel smooth and cool when it's time to get physical with a woman. How to handle 'Netflix and chill'. What to do when she asks, 'Should we be doing this?' Does 'yes' ever really mean 'no', and if so what's a man to do? Mike also has an answer for for any guy who b

Will you leave this world better than you found it? Will you be remembered or even revered for the positive influence you had? Remarkably, the vast majority of men walking this Earth not only have no answer for those questions, they don't even care. Why is that? Do we lack passion, leaving us unmotivated and apathetic? Well, my co-host for this episode is the world famous author of the mega-bestselling E-Myth book series and self-proclaimed 'Chief Agitator', Michael E. Gerber. Now 80 years old, Michael has been rattling the cages of countless would-be entrepreneurs for over 40 years, and is widely considered the father of modern-day business coaching. But despite his infamous reputation for disruption, he's one of the warmest--and wisest--men you'd ever hope to meet. Listen in as he shares brilliant and at times wholly unexpected angles on how to leave your legacy...and why you should want to. Oh, and there's one other bit that I had to make sure Michael talked about. He married his lovely wife at age 70, and

For this milestone episode of the big show, having the best co-host ever was a must, if not a moral imperative. The choice was obvious, given that he's my biggest influence and greatest role model. It's none other than my Dad, of course...Russ McKay. This is the first time in the eleven year history of X & Y Communications that I've done an audio with him, and to say it was well worth the wait is an understatement. As he describes what has made his relationship with my Mom so exemplary for over 55 years, he mixes in a golden take on love at first sight along with gems like 'you can't fake love' and 'love is the one touch with infinity that we can have as human beings'. Then you'll hear what it was like to be a rockstar in 1961 sub-Saharan Africa. After that, you'll get shocking revelations about working with supermodels in New York City. But what's truly going to fry your circuits is how a working-class Baltimore guy was able to make friends with billionaires, Hall of Fame athletes and even the Royal Fami

Some men firmly believe that every one of us has a certain old flame our life who we think of as 'The One Who Got Away'. We either had her or thought we did, but the relationship slipped through our fingers and she was gone. The loss can be devastating, throwing us into a vortex of grief for months, years or even decades. Why is it that we pine for that one woman in our past, even when we know it's no darned good for us and we need to move on? And geez...what if we let it happen more than once? Well, according to my co-host, relationship expert Susan Winter, there are actually powerful mind triggers that cause us to pine away for someone so deeply. But thankfully, you can actually use those same psychological principles to reverse course and move on for good. Susan also explains why there's never such thing as 'the last bus', and I share my own strange but true story of how I loved, lost, lost my mind and finally recovered from the devastating breakup. All that and some hilarious surprises are in store for yo

Co-Host Henrik Jeppesen (http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com/travel) At age 28, Henrik Jeppesen makes Johnny Cash jealous. He's been everywhere, man. Seriously...he is the youngest man ever to travel to every country in the world. Trust fund baby? Guess again... Right out of the gate Henrik gives you his secrets to traveling for very little, or even NO money. He then reveals the weird but wonderful ways his travels have helped him overcome shyness and fear of rejection...in all areas of life. Discover the surprising, unexpected reasons why Henrik wanted to go to every country rather than to the same places favored by tourists again and again. Plus, you'll hear the ironic reason why world adventurers also tend to be couch potatoes in their "downtime" moments. What are the countries that are really safe contrary to popular belief...and vice-versa? Best of all, you'll hear Henrik's account of being the only tourist in Syria when he went just last year, along with what it's like to shake hands with the Prime Minist

My co-host Dawoon Kang and her sisters famously refused Mark Cuban's 30M offer for their dating app, Coffee Meets Bagel. Now she's on the show for a frank discussion about the differences between how men and women date...much of it based on her company's own market research. Personally, I think their app should have been called "Beer Meets Pretzels", but as it turns out there's a strategic reason why that wouldn't have been the best plan. In this show you'll discover what "high quality" means to both men and women...based on survey results. Plus, you'll hear their genius solution to ghosting, along with the 100% ninja way they actually make their woman-friendly app more GUY friendly by removing the single biggest bane of every man's online dating existence. In fact, they actually HELP us as guys solve another major area of online dating that usually leaves us twisting in the wind. Oh, and just for good measure, Dawoon's shocking take on hook-up culture will NOT be what you expect to hear. Fair warning: You'll

Have you ever noticed that half of your Facebook friends are from high school? Meanwhile, most of the other half are from college. The crazy part is you're not alone. After all, half of your friends' friends are on your friend list too. What is up with us nowadays? How come it's so incredibly challenging to make friends with other dudes after you graduate from school? According to at least one survey out there, the average number of close friends the typical adult American male has is...wait for it...zero. That means the number is closer to zero than one. The truth is, even though we can make friends so easily when we're a kid, it tends to feels weird when we're adults. Could it be we practice talking to women, but never practice talking to other men? Or maybe it's much more than just that. Well, my co-host Kyle Ingham from The Distilled Man and I both have our theories, and in this show we're not only going to throw them on the table, we're going to give you step-by-step secrets to building your social circl

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Has seduction in the true sense of the word gone the way of chivalry...seemingly irrelevant in today's post-modern feminist world? Following on the success of the last episode, join another New Yorker friend of mine, Jennifer Rhodes of Rapport Relationships, for the clearest conversation ever defining true seduction from a woman's perspective. Could confusion about this very topic be why men and women are having a harder time connecting these days on first dates? You'll discover the counter-intuitive truth about the very foundation of seduction itself...and I guarantee it's the OPPOSITE of everything you've ever been taught. Jennifer will also reveal what women have done to shoot themselves in the foot, depriving themselves of a quality romantic experience with a man. But then again, she'll also reveal the biggest mistake we as men make that robs us of the chance to be a master seducer. But the best part is saved for last...get practical tips on how to get the dance of seduction right from now on. Be sure to

There's no doubt about it...where you live can have a massive effect on your experience dating and relating to women. My co-host Rachel Russo is a matchmaker in her native New York City, so there's nobody better to talk urban dating with. So how about it...do 'alpha' career women in a city like The Big Apple have all the power? Rachel's first-hand take might surprise you. But what about living in a rural area? If you do, listen in for a counterintuitive but brilliant secret to meeting more women. We'll even hash out how to avoid the same old boring dates if you live in the suburbs. How is it that people can live in city a population of 20 million and still feel lonely? Are beautiful women everywhere really being jetted to Papeete by billionaires, leaving us 'normal' guys with no chance whatsoever? And most importantly, was that Rachel's pet pig that oinked at 29:30, or what? By the way, I realize now it was Eva not Zsa-Zsa, so cut me a break, will you? Link to the newsletter, Twitter, Facebook and the newly-r

This time we journey off the beaten track to discover how to get more adventure into your life. After all, no self-actualized man ever became great by sitting on the sofa and watching life happen on TV. So as you can guess, my co-host Derek Loudermilk is certainly no couch potato. In addition to hosting the Art Of Adventure podcast, he's studied the Great Barrier Reef, trained with world-class cyclists in Spain, discovered a new species at Yellowstone, explored Bali and done about a million other badass things...yet he's one of the most easy-going and down-to-earth guys you can imagine. Listen in as we consider some of the greatest men of adventure in history, what they did that was so cool, and what we can learn from their experiences in the quest to create our own epic adventures. And by the way, what IS 'adventure', anyway? All this and more in one action-packed episode. Get in on the most popular dating, relationship and men's lifestyle newsletter around. It's free for the taking at: http://www.thechickwh

Co-Host Claudia Cox (http://www.thechickwhisperer.com/cox) Have you ever noticed that all advice about texting women has started sounding the same? Tell her she's a 'troublemaker'. Give her a nickname. Don't send lame, generic messages like, 'Hey, how are you doing?'. There's been nothing new for years, it seemed. Then, along came my co-host Claudia Cox, and ever since we've enjoyed an all-new wellspring of creative texting genius. What...you aren't in on the secret yet? Well, you will be as soon as you finish listening to this epic episode. Claudia gives you simple but crazy smart ideas on how to separate yourself from the herd of other guys with just one simple message. Then, she drops brilliant new secrets that'll make women absolutely adore you...all with the power of your smartphone. For good measure, I'll share with you the undisputed greatest moment in my own personal texting history...which led directly to my kissing Emily for the very first time. Best of all, you're about to be treated to the most la

First off, let's get the most important part out of the way. Yes...you'll be able to relate to this episode and enjoy it regardless of your spiritual leanings. Weirdly enough, it doesn't matter if you're a man of faith, agnostic, atheist or anywhere in between...chances are extremely likely that you can't stand going to church. In fact, you probably avoid it at all costs. For most of us, that's a foregone conclusion we don't spend much time thinking about. It is what it is. But what happens when you finally sit down and wrestle with the question of 'why'? My co-host David Murrow did exactly that, almost to the point of obsession. The end result is a stream of consciousness that is as brilliant as it is iconoclastic. David is not a preacher or clergyman of any kind. Therefore, there are no 'sacred cows' he has to protect. That means you can expect a no-holds-barred conversation that's likely to fry your circuits. He says all the things everyone else is afraid to, and it all makes perfect sense in the end. Add

It only takes a mere thirty seconds for someone to form a first impression of you. So what's it gonna be? According to my friend and co-host Kimberly Seltzer (but you can call her 'Kim'), all the magic is in the clothes you wear, other elements of personal style, your attitude and your social skills. In fact, you might be amazed how much your first impression is made or broken even before you say anything. Kim is super smart, full of energy and a ton of fun, so tune in for a fast-paced discussion on 'double yay-hoos', 'sergeant waitresses', 'Rockers For Dockers' and everything else in between. You'll also discover what's in a name, and who 'Susy' is. All of this and more in one of the most hilarious episodes we've recorded lately. When you're done listening, you'll be able to fill in the blanks... 'When it comes to first impressions, men look at _____, but women look at _____. So, have you gotten in on the free newsletter yet? In it you'll discover golden tips for dating, peak performance, maculine power and

Did you know that almost everyone experiences shyness? So why is it we always think we're the only ones feeling it? Well, my guest the time around is none other than Myke Macapinlac from Social Confidence Mastery. Now, you may not have ever felt compelled to eat your lunch in a bathroom stall back in high school like he did, but wherever you are on the shyness scale you're sure to be inspired by how far he has come since emigrating to Canada from the Philippines at age 17. I have to admit, I was plenty shy and socially awkward myself back in school, so this conversation with Myke was an easy one to have. It's all for your benefit, of course. Find out what Myke did to beat shyness over the head until it stops twitching, along with six steps you can take to do the same. Myke's an easy going, likable guy, so you can look forward to one of the most inspiring episodes in quite some time. If you've not taken advantage of my newsletter yet, it's completely free to sign up. Just head to the show notes page and getcha

You never wanted it this way, and you certainly never thought it would come to this...but the breakup with your children's mom happens and you find yourself a single dad. How do you get your spirits up, keep your health in check and maintain your job performance? And what mindset should you have to start dating again? Most of all, how do you do right by your kids, making decisions that are truly best for them? Well, my co-host Stephen Roy from Single Dad Fit Dad and I have both walked in those shoes, and we collaborate on this episode to give you the ultimate roadmap for navigating single parenthood as a 'big four' man. And don't worry, we most definitely give you 'been there, done that' ideas on how to handle the family law system. Fair warning...you're in for a good, long rant from me on that subject that I've had pent up for over a decade. It's not to be missed for sure, especially the ridiculously valuable gold nugget that gets dropped at exactly 36:17. Want all the dating, sex and masculinity advice you