Paul Elmore

(Okay. After a minor interruption in podcast service I think we’re up and running again.) How Your Self Perception Was Shaped “No child can ‘see’ himself directly. He only sees himself from the reflections of others.” This episode of the Self Esteem series we look at how your self image has been shaped by your […]

“Often what we call ‘thinking’ is merely recycling the opinions of others.”—Nathaniel Branden This is the first of seven podcasts in the Self Esteem And The Art Of Self Acceptance series being delivered at Imago Dei. Here’s some of the stuff we covered in this episode: “The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with […]

What do you do when the mistake you’ve made—or even worse, the mistake someone else has made—and there is no possible way to make it right? Are you stuck forever? Are you destined to hurt forever. In this episode of Failure 101 we talk about the built-in system that each of us is equipped with […]

I’ve become convinced that forgiveness is one of the most essential skills you need to learn if you’re going to lead a healthy and balanced life. Forgiveness is not easy. Especially when you’re the one who’s made a mistake and you have to ask it of someone else. Even harder is the ability to forgive […]

There is a common belief that “If I screw up, someone is going to get mad at me.” The fear that failure will ALWAYS lead to conflict is another motivator for us to be terrified of making mistakes. Can failure NOT lead to conflict? Yes. Wanna learn how? Good. This episode of Failure 101 focuses […]

Episode 4 of Failure 101 talks about the balance sheet many of you carry in your head. Whenever you make a mistake, it’s a mark against you, and you have to somehow make up for every and all mistakes you make. The reality of the world we live in is that, sometimes, there is nothing […]

When you’ve made mistakes over and over… and when you’ve experienced the pain, disappointment, and frustration that follows those mistakes, it’s common to move into a place that says, “I don’t want to try anymore.” New things become very uncomfortable. And yet, without the willingness to step into new places and experiences, we end up […]

One of the painful consequences of failure is the impact it has on your self-perception. It can make you doubt yourself, your choices, your skills, your worth, and your value. In essence, it’s a common belief that your mistakes make you a bad person. Fortunately, that might not be totally true. Unfortunately, that lie sets […]

Three years ago I taught a series called Failure101. I thought I’d make it available again for those that may be new to my podcast or those that wanted to hear it again. I hope you find it helpful. P.S. If you haven’t yet, this is where you can subscribe to my podcast. No One […]

The ache to be taken care of can show up in a thousand different ways. Sometimes we go out of our way to serve other people. Sometimes we attack in passive aggressive ways. Sometimes we just expect others to know our desire, and become hurt when they don’t go out of their way to meet […]

God, the Creator of the Universe, wants to be in relationship with you. Yes, he is different than you in substance and essence. But He is still able to relate personally and practically each day with you. Some Things To Remember He is Spirit and communicates through your spirit. It’s different than speaking to another […]

What is the purpose of having romantic relationships? Why do we tend to pair up with other individuals? I believe the answer is to “experience a little piece of heaven.” Literally. Heaven is fully knowing each other and your Creator. No sin. No fear. No shame. No hiding. Nothing that gets in the way of […]

In this podcast we are continuing the Affinitas series and talking about healthy friendships. Right about the 17 minute mark there is a video that we watched that was put out by Coca Cola. It’s a great example of what we’re talking about in the episode. That same video is below. Take a few minutes […]

In the entire Affinitas series, if I could spend more time on one subject, it would be this one—How to have a better relationship with yourself. So many people believe you have to be critical of yourself, berate yourself, put yourself down, or be extra critical of yourself in order to be a good person. […]

Affinitas Week 3 This week is the catch up from last week’s Affinitas class. We finish talking about about the 3 Biggest Problems For Family Relationships, focusing mainly on the last two reasons: As an adult, you still relate to your parents through childish rules Your values as an adult clash with the family rules […]

Note—I had a slight technical difficulty and the audio quality is a little sketchy. Sorry. I’ve got it figured out for next week. (I promise.) Affinitas Week Two In this podcast we finish going over the 10 Rules For Healthy Relationships and begin talking about relationships with your family. If you want to personally attend […]

Click the play button above to listen to the latest podcast. Affinitas Week One In Week One of the Affinitas series, we are looking at the 10 Rules of Relationships. These rules are foundational principles that you can apply to every relationship you find yourself in. The rules, when applied, will be able to help […]

If you are a trauma victim you have had to deal with a wide variety of bodily sensations and reactions. Instant feelings of anxiety, panic… tight chests, headaches, stomach aches, sweating, etc… all of these can be strange and upsetting. Unwanted sexual responses can be especially uncomfortable and highly confusing. Why does this happen? This […]

This is the final episode that will be available from the Shameless series podcast. (For those looking for Weeks 5 & 6, they are not going to be available. Week 5 was people sharing their personal stories, which I want to honor and let them share when and where they want to. And Week 6—well…. […]

We all live in one of three time zones (as described by Leo Babauta on ZenHabits): “The Past—Reliving things we messed up about. Being embarrassed about something we did. Wishing we could have something back that is gone. Living in memories of good times past. Being angry about things done to us. You get the […]