Brick House

Ben Fraser speaks on a wide variety of topics, including why he is doing the podcast, how a headache is affecting him, some of his most popular triggers, and the 10% solution to solving all the world’s problems. Appreciation: Music videos by OK Go. Rube Goldberg Machine: https://youtu.be/qybUFnY7Y8w The one in the park: https://youtu.be/V2fpgpanZAw The one with the dogs: https://youtu.be/nHlJODYBLKs The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com I’d love to hear from you! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser refutes Dr. David J. Ley’s claim that "the label of 'porn addict' causes depression, but porn watching doesn’t." While shame is indeed an issue, the label isn’t the problem, but in fact can be a solution. We’re fundraising to make new episodes of the web series! $5 can help a lot! http://www.igg.me/at/brickhousetv Thanks for checking it out! The article by David Ley. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/women-who-stray/201509/your-belief-in-porn-addiction-makes-things-worse Appreciation: Chocolat movie (2000) http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0241303/ The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com I’d love to hear from you! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser has been doing yoga for 34 years. Along the way, he learned a few things that are useful if you want to quit an addiction like porn. For instance, try to “breathe into the pain” instead of numbing it. We’re fundraising to make new episodes of the web series! $5 can help a lot! http://www.igg.me/at/brickhousetv Thanks for checking it out! The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com I’d love to hear from you! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser talks about “hitting bottom” and why he finally decided it was time to quit looking at porn. We’re fundraising to make new episodes of the web series! $5 can help a lot! http://www.igg.me/at/brickhousetv Thanks for checking it out! My story - part 1: https://soundcloud.com/ben-fraser-19/004-my-story-part-1 My story - part 2 https://soundcloud.com/ben-fraser-19/006-my-story-part-2-seeds-of-addiction The recovery board http://www.npsupport.net/community/ Appreciation: photography - “Ten Tips for taking photos with your iphone” http://www.imore.com/ten-tips-taking-great-iphone-photos The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com I’d love to hear from you! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

There’s a common idea that to quit an addiction, you need to have a lot of willpower. But Ben Fraser thinks willpower is only one component to quitting porn addiction, and there are other things more important. We’re fundraising to make new episodes of the web series! $5 can help a lot! http://www.igg.me/at/brickhousetv Thanks for checking it out! Matt Dobschuetz podcast on Making a Plan http://pornfreeradio.com/042-getting-started-pt-3-your-plan/ My own recovery plan from 2006. http://brickhousewebseries.com/files/Recovery_Plan.pdf Appreciation: The Demo Diva http://www.wnyc.org/story/in-new-orleans-becoming-demo-diva/ The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com I’d love to hear from you! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

If you’re an addict, your idea of taking a break is probably doing the addictive behavior, If you quit the addictive behavior, it’s sometimes hard to figure out what to do to relax. We’re fundraising to make new episodes of the web series! $5 can help a lot! http://www.igg.me/at/brickhousetv Thanks for checking it out! How to check out a movie to see if the content might be triggering: Check out http://www.kids-in-mind.com/ Or go to IMDB.com, and type in the title of a film or TV show that you want to see. When the page for the film in question comes up, scroll down, past the rating, past the cast listing, until you get to the “Storyline” section. Right after the MPAA rating, it says “Parent’s Guide” Click on “View content advisory.” The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com I’d love to hear from you! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter

Ben Fraser wonders what good sex really looks like. Is it something we are used to seeing, or is it completely different? Dr. Ruth: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ruth_Westheimer Appreciation: Easy-going people The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com I'd love to hear from you! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser walks through a hypothetical porn experience and examines the feelings along the way. Obviously, there’s some pleasure. But what other feelings come along for the ride? Appreciation: Tune In: The Beatles: All These Years by Mark Lewisohn http://www.amazon.com/Tune-In-Beatles-These-Years/dp/1400083052/ The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Being an addict is no fun. But if you look around, you may notice that everyone else around you is addicted to something, whether it’s porn, or caffeine or sugar, or just bad TV. This means that addiction can give us compassion. And that is a kind of gift. Appreciation: Stickers! The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser examines how, as addicts, we might feel entitled to look at porn, because we feel deprived. We feel like we deserve it. But maybe there are better ways to think about it. Check out other episodes (including the missing #31) here: https://soundcloud.com/ben-fraser-19 An Honest Liar movie about The Amazing Randi http://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/an_honest_liar/ The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser reflects on what it’s like to be in the middle of a binge, and then re-commit to sobriety. He also talks about the feelings that come up when deleting a stash. Appreciation: the Pixar Movie “Inside Out” http://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/inside_out_2015/ The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser talks about his strategy for starting over after a slip. This method works for him. What works for you? Appreciation: Community Fireworks The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you want to send wods of encouragement, or tell me about where you are in your recovery, go to: http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser wonders why asking for help is so difficult, when it’s so obvious that we need it. What kind of help can you get if you are trying to quit porn? And how much should you lean on your significant other? A great list of ways to get support: http://yourbrainonporn.com/discussion-board Appreciation: Live music in the park. The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser talks how his father’s magazines were his first exposure to pornography, and an alternative to blaming. How do you stop addiction when it’s passed down from father to son? Appreciation: The library https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Library The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser talks about the Rat Park experiments of Bruce Alexander. What happens to rats who get addicted to morphine? And how do they become drug free? A great cartoon explanation of the Rat Park idea. http://www.stuartmcmillen.com/comics_en/rat-park/ Bruce Alexander’s account of the Rat Park, with photos. http://www.brucekalexander.com/articles-speeches/rat-park/148-addiction-the-view-from-rat-park I first heard about the Rat Park from Johan Hari’s Book “Chasing the Scream.” http://www.powells.com/biblio/1-9781620408902-0 Huffington post article about Chasing the Scream http://www.huffingtonpost.com/johann-hari/the-real-cause-of-addicti_b_6506936.htmlea The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Appreciation: Cooking! Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people fin

Ben Fraser talks about how opening your heart might be key to recovery from porn addiciton. The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Appreciation: bike paths! Find trails in your area: http://www.traillink.com/ Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser shares updates about his recovery, trigger challenges, and his recent guest appearance on an internet radio talk show. He also explores the question of what tolerance might mean in porn addiction. The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 News podcast: http://www.npr.org/podcasts/500005/hourly-news-summary Appreciation: The Cartoon Introduction to Climate Change by Yoram Bauman and Grady Klein http://islandpress.org/cartoon-introduction-climate-change Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com Contact Ben at: http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Spring brings some challenges for the recovering porn addict. The winter coats are gone and it’s easier to see the shapes of people’s bodies, so how do we keep focused on recovery when temptations are more apparent? Appreciation: Social Dancing! Here’s some videos on how to swing dance. http://www.howcast.com/guides/968-how-to-swing-dance/ Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben reads three short stories related to the struggles of porn addiction. Do you have any stories that you’d like to share? Pass them along! Poem by Portia Nelson about the hole in the sidewalk http://www.simplybeing.org.uk/index.php/poetry/89-autobiography-in-five-short-chapters-by-portia-nelson Dog on a Nail story: https://philipchircop.wordpress.com/2013/02/15/get-off-the-nail/ The version I heard was by Amanda Palmer, from The Art of Asking. Feed the right wolf story: http://www.firstpeople.us/FP-Html-Legends/TwoWolves-Cherokee.html Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben takes a road trip and talks about acceptance and being present. Porn is a great escape. But if we can be more satisfied with the present, porn and other drugs will be less appealing. James Taylor’s song “The Secret O’ Life” https://youtu.be/sW7Z1VttPKk Appreciation: The Magicians by Lev Grossman http://www.powells.com/biblio/17-9780452296299-4 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj