The Terri Cole Show

I am so excited to welcome my wise pal, Vanessa Cornell, to the show to share her story of breaking down to break through. Vanessa had everything she could have ever dreamed of - a loving husband, five children, abundance and success - and yet, she felt trapped in a crushing and debilitating loneliness. (I'm sure many of you can relate!) We also talked about how to navigate mom guilt (and why it's really fear in disguise), how high-functioning codependency shows up in motherhood, how we're taught to be in the world and why it causes rage and resentment later on, and so much more.  I hope you enjoy this heartfelt girlfriend jam as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/637 P.S. - Grab Vanessa's free gift at nushu.com/terri  

Do you endlessly think about the mistakes you’ve made? Do you replay the scene and ruminate over what you could have or should have done differently? Are you filled with regret, worried you’ll make the same mistake again? If so, you’re not alone.  But living in regret is living in the past, which isn’t empowering. What is healing and empowering is to work through our regrets and learn from them to make better decisions in the future. In this episode, I’m sharing a different perspective on regret which may lessen feelings of shame, the four types of regret (from behavioral scientist Daniel Pink), and how to move on from endless rumination. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/636

I am super excited to welcome my new pal, Jessica Zweig, to the show to talk about her newest book, THE LIGHT WORK: Reclaim Your Feminine Power, Live Your Cosmic Truth, Illuminate the World. While Jessica is most known for her work as a brand expert and entrepreneur, she is here to talk about her journey into the dark to find the light.  We had such a beautiful, soulful, and nourishing conversation around Jessica's burn out, coming back to ourselves, navigating the shame we often feel around "failure," redefining success, AND how embracing the feminine helps us succeed.  I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/635

Are you tired of trying to make things work with your partner, or feel they are not as invested as you are? Do you feel like you’ve grown apart in your relationship or feel more like roommates? Or do you wish you had black-and-white signs telling you to stay or go? If you feel torn over whether it’s time to end your relationship, this episode is for you.  I’m giving you questions to determine if it’s time to leave as well as ways to break through confusion to get to the truth of how you feel and what comes next. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/634

I am so excited to have my new pal, Michelle Demaree, on the show to talk about how she changed her life after getting divorced.  Her story is one of self-actualization, self-love, and perseverance. It illustrates the power of investing in yourself and surrounding yourself with women who will cheer you on and lift you up when times are tough.  Michelle is also the founder and CEO of Miss Diamond Ring, where she offers bespoke concierge service for those looking for the perfect, meaningful ring to honor their love story. I hope you enjoy our conversation as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/633

Have you ever immediately disliked someone and wondered why? Do you have heightened reactions to offhanded comments from strangers? Do you have a pattern of getting into conflict with specific types of people? All of these interactions are potential indicators of transference, which is when we have an amplified response to someone in the present because they remind you of something or someone from your past.  Transference is often painful and confusing, which is why I am breaking down what it is (with a personal example) and sharing how you can stop repeating these patterns in your relationships. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/632

I am so thrilled to have family estrangement expert Dr. Joshua Coleman on the show. I had the pleasure of meeting him on the set of a TV show we were invited to do and on my way there, I listened to his book, Rules of Estrangement, and I think you'll love it. I invited Dr. Coleman on to talk further about it because cutting contact with parents is something many of you have painfully decided to do, and Dr. Coleman shares his wisdom *and* personal experience with us here. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/631

Have you experienced a major relational trauma that made you less trusting?  Are you reluctant to trust people because you are unsure you can trust yourself to avoid making similar mistakes again? Or do you find it easier to be alone? Many of you have told me you can’t trust anyone anymore, which is why this episode covers a six-step strategic process for learning to trust others and yourself again. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/630

I am so happy to welcome my pal, life coach and media expert Susie Moore, to the show to tell us about the power of sharing our stories.  This isn't just for entrepreneurs or business owners. This is for anyone looking to make a difference in the lives of others.  Susie shares specific tips to help you pitch your stories to media outlets successfully, so you can reach more folks.  And if you want to learn more, sign up for our free workshop on July 24 at 12 pm Eastern: getrockstarpr.com/terri Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/629

Are you someone who proudly proclaims they never get angry? Does anger feel unsafe and uncomfortable for you? Or do you tend to bottle up your anger until you explode, leaving you feeling guilty and wanting to take everything back? If you’re raising your hand, you’re not alone. I struggled with my own anger for many years.  But denying our anger intentionally or not doesn’t make it magically disappear, which is why I am covering 10 signs you might be suppressing or repressing your anger, six common ways anger presents, and tips on how to acknowledge, honor, process, and integrate your anger. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/628

I am so excited to finally welcome Jeff Guenther (better known as TherapyJeff on social) to the show to talk about his new book, Big Dating Energy: How to Create Lasting Love by Tapping Into Your Authentic Self. We talk about dating in the modern world, how it's shifting, what trends Jeff is seeing in his practice, our best tips for lasting relationships, and also what it's like to try and date when you’re a bit of an internet celebrity! There was a lot of laughter in this conversation and I hope you enjoy Jeff's humor (and wisdom) as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/627

Does finding the right therapist feel overwhelming? Are you worried you might end up with the wrong therapist or a therapist you don’t click with? Or have you had bad experiences with therapists in the past? If you want to try therapy but don’t know how to find a good fit, this episode is for you. I am sharing a four-step process to find the right therapist because you deserve to get the help you need. ❤️  (If you are in urgent need of help, please refer to this page for free mental health resources, hotlines, and online chats.) Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/626

I am so excited to welcome world-renowned health expert on female-centric healthcare, Dr. Stephanie Estima, to the show! We're talking all about optimal health and hormones, discussing the changes we typically see as we move into perimenopause and menopause, and finding out how we can navigate them.  Dr. Stephanie also shares her philosophy on health and wellness as a healthcare provider, how we might want to think about second opinions, and why perimenopause is something to be celebrated.  I hope you enjoy our conversation as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/625

What does living your best life look like for you? How would you spend your time? What habits would you have or not have? What's stopping you from living this version of yourself? There are many reasons, conscious and unconscious, that we stay stuck in unhealthy, limiting, or unsatisfying behaviors.  In this episode, I break down some of those reasons and share questions you can use to identify where you might be self-sabotaging and why. With this awareness, you can make different choices and begin living your ideal life. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/624

I am so happy to welcome author and wellness expert, Yasmine Cheyenne, back on the show to talk about her new book, Wisdom of the Path: The Beautiful and Bumpy Ride to Healing and Trusting Our Inner Guide. Yasmine shares her inspiration for writing this book (something I think many of you will relate to!), and we also talk about our creative practices, self-care (as recovering perfectionists), and so much more.  What I love about Yasmine's teachings is that she's focused on making healing easily accessible. I hope you enjoy this conversation with her as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/623

How do you feel about aging? Are you afraid of getting older, or are you embracing it? Do you struggle with how your body is changing? I’ve spent the last ten years exploring my feelings and thoughts on aging both in and out of therapy, and in this episode, I’m sharing those thoughts and reflections with you. I’ll talk about how I practice self-acceptance and compassion and share my best tips on how you can take care of your future self. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/622

Do you ever feel like at some point, you lost your sense of self? That’s what my pal, acclaimed grief educator and bestselling author, Christina Rasmussen, is back on the show to talk about. She just published her newest book, Invisible Loss: Recognizing and Healing the Unacknowledged Heartbreak of Everyday Grief. Christina describes invisible loss as unacknowledged and unvalidated. She says it comes from "a moment of impact, an emotional punch, when we feel rejected, disregarded, thrown away, isolated." It is a phantom loss, one we cannot even see within ourselves.  In this conversation, Christina takes us through the process of identifying these losses and how to work through them, because almost everyone struggles with invisible loss at least once in their lives.  I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! Read the show notes at terricole.com/621

Are you the go-to person for your friends, colleagues, and family? Do you over-give, over-function, over-feel, or put other people’s needs above your own? Do you sometimes say “yes” when you want to say “no” to avoid conflict? Or are you in the healing arts? I know many of you are natural-born healers who struggle to balance it all without burning out. I’ve been there, too. In this episode, I share how being a healer impacts our ability to have healthy boundaries and how to identify if you’re a high-functioning codependent (many healers are!). Raising your awareness around these behaviors will help you avoid burning out. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/620

I am so happy to welcome back a frequent guest of the show, Ross Rosenberg. Ross is an expert on narcissism and codependency, and he's here to tell us about his amazing new book, Codependency Revolution: Fixing What Was Already Broken, which also helps raise awareness around what codependency actually is, why codependents tend to end up with narcissists, and what you can do about it.  One brilliant takeaway: codependency is an addiction.  I always enjoy talking with Ross because he speaks from personal and professional experience, and he brings new observations and thoughts from the field into the fold.  What he offers is hope, something many of those in these toxic relationships need, so I hope you enjoy what Ross shares with us as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/619

Do you ever stand in the card aisle around Father’s Day, endlessly searching for a card that doesn’t exist because none of the cards on the shelf accurately describe your relationship with your father? This used to be me.  Growing up, all the cards I saw said, You’re the most amazing father ever! You were always there for me! You did everything right! None of these messages felt right. They didn’t capture my feelings toward or my reality with my father. If Father’s Day is painful for you, you’re not alone. There are ways you can grieve, mourn, and honor the complex emotions this day evokes, which I share in this episode. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/618