The Terri Cole Show

Do you ever wonder how you’re doing when it comes to boundaries?  Healthy boundary setting is a lifetime skill and that means it takes practice. Our boundaries continually evolve throughout our lives and our relationships, so even if you feel like you’re already a boundary boss, it’s great to take an inventory every so often.  In today's episode, I'm breaking down the five different types of boundaries and walking you through how to do a boundary inventory so you can see where to focus your attention to strengthen your skills. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/436 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Perpetua Neo (Or Dr. P, as I like to call her) is the author of the fantastic workbook This Is What Matters: A Step-by-Step Workbook for Identifying Your Values, Priorities, and Path Forward after a Crisis. In this interview, she shares how she left an abusive relationship with a narcissist. We also chat about vulnerability, over-functioning, and resetting your brain through meditation to make sure your higher self is in charge. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/435 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you get into a new relationship, do you ever make assumptions that the other person has the same morals, values, and integrity as you… …without having a conversation about those things? Do you think healthy relationships just develop naturally on their own? If this is you, you’re not alone. These are some of the most common pitfalls we can hit early in relationships, that is, unspoken assumptions + lack of communication around boundaries.  In this episode, you’ll learn the top 5 most important foundational boundaries for you to create at the beginning of a relationship (or to establish in a long-term relationship) for an EPIC partnership.  Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/434 Sponsor: betterhelp.com/terri for 10% off your first month of therapy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m sharing a fascinating conversation with therapist Cathy Adams, who recently published the book Zen Parenting: Understanding Ourselves So We Can Take Better Care of Our Children. Whether you have children, plan on having children, or even just know any children, this episode is for you. She teaches us how to prepare kids for the real world in a holistic, loving way, while managing your own fear and uncertainty about the future. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/433 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you and your partner come together at the end of the work day what’s the first thing you do? Flip on the TV, check email, or hop on social media? Do you ever feel like your connection has become an afterthought? What I’ve seen in more than 25 years as a psychotherapist is how very easy it can be to take our people for granted. Cultivating lasting love is a daily practice. If you seek a deeper connection and more intimacy with your lover, this episode is for you. You’ll learn some tips and strategies to ritualize acknowledging your person. When there is a mutual commitment to daily appreciation rituals, it keeps us close with those we love the most! This episode is sponsored by Better Help. Our listeners get 10% off their first month at BetterHelp.com/TERRI Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/432 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode I’m going to be talking to Doug Bopst, who was arrested when he was 20 years old and sent to jail for possession of a large amount of weed with intention to sell. Since then, he has become a successful personal trainer, author, and podcast host. His mission is to inspire others to overcome their own adversity, whatever it may be. He shares his inspiring life story and reminds us to reflect on how we can take responsibility for our actions and their consequences, even in difficult circumstances. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/431 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you’ve repeatedly been hurt by someone and you share it with others in your life do you ever hear things like, “Well, you probably provoked them” or… “You can be really sensitive” or… “Maybe you just took it the wrong way” or… “I’ve never had a problem with them” or… “Aren’t you being a bit of a drama queen”?  These reactions are the opposite of supportive. If it happens often, you need to learn how to protect yourself with boundaries from others who (whether they realize it or not) are contributing to keeping an abusive or dysfunctional system in place. As a continuation of last week’s episode, I’m laying out some strategies you can use to protect yourself emotionally plus boundary language and scripts to help you better manage the abuse enablers in your life. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/430 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When I called Niyc Pidgeon for this interview, I thought we would be talking about productivity and positive psychology. Instead, when I asked her about the work that was really energizing her lately, her answer surprised me: She’s writing a book about suicide prevention. What’s more, she finds hope and joy in writing about it —  even though suicidal behavior has heavily impacted her own personal life.  We discuss the ripple effects suicidal thoughts and behaviors can have on communities, tips for talking to somebody you worry may be experiencing suicidal thoughts, and Niyc’s own experience coping with suicidal thoughts after a sexual assault. Plus: Niyc introduces her next book, One More Day. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/429 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you seek support from a friend or family member about something hurtful someone else did or said to you, do you ever hear things like: “Well, it takes two to tango…” or “You’re too sensitive…” or “You need to let it go…” or “Why can’t you just forgive and forget…” or… any variation of thereof? If there are people in your life who can’t wait to blame you for the crappy behavior of someone else, I created this 2-part series for you.  In part 1 of Identify + Manage Abuse Enablers, I’m breaking down the different ways people in your life might be contributing to an environment that fosters toxic behaviors and relationships. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/428

When you seek support from a friend or family member about something hurtful someone else did or said to you, do you ever hear things like: “Well, it takes two to tango…” or “You’re too sensitive…” or “You need to let it go…” or “Why can’t you just forgive and forget…” or… any variation of thereof? If there are people in your life who can’t wait to blame you for the crappy behavior of someone else, I created this 2-part series for you.  In part 1 of Identify + Manage Abuse Enablers, I’m breaking down the different ways people in your life might be contributing to an environment that fosters toxic behaviors and relationships. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/428 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Be honest: Could you use a little more chill in your internal life? How about being less stressed and experience more joy, more relaxation, and more flow?  Well, in today’s episode I’m talking to the perfect guest for you: Kelly Smith, the globally celebrated yoga and meditation teacher who founded Yoga For You and hosts the podcast Mindful in Minutes.  Today we’re chatting about the reasons you should consider incorporating a daily meditation practice into your life and how meditation can be accessible for you no matter how busy you are. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/427 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I don’t think I’ve ever shared this story publicly, but skin cancer awareness is a topic that is near and dear to my heart (and my nose!). If my journey can inspire even a handful of you to start a new routine of daily sun protection, sharing it will have been worthwhile.  If you're someone who knows you should be using SPF when you go out in the sun, but you still don't do it consistently, this episode is for you, my friend, because I don’t want you to experience what I experienced.  I’m sharing my very personal story (and some raw pics!), as well as resources and ways you can become more educated to take the very best preventative care of the skin you’re in! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/426 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m excited to share my chat with weight loss expert, author, and creator of the Target 100 program, Liz Josefsberg. When I first heard about her holistic approach to weight loss and health, it made so much sense to me that I took her 10 week course myself! In this episode, we talk about ways to disrupt unhealthy patterns, set new boundaries around food, and target lifestyle goals that you can really live with. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/425 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you someone who goes on vacation…but doesn’t actually go on vacation?  Are you checking your work messages when you should be present to the folks you are with or the beauty that’s surrounding you?  If you're nodding your head yes then this video is for you. You’ll learn why it can be so hard to actually BE away when we’re on holiday - whether it’s a staycation or a vacation- plus some steps you can take to create proactive boundaries so you can actually enjoy your time off! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/424 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m sharing a chat with my longtime friend Rob Mack. We’re talking all about love: How to find it ourselves, create more of it in the world, and embody it by searching for a story that is both positive and true. Plus, Rob shares his own meditation practices and helps us understand how we are naturally wired to see problems, and how we can work on reducing that bias. Read today's show notes at terricole.com/423 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever told someone something important to you in confidence, only to find out they told someone else? Are there people in your life you are hesitant or afraid to share your truth with because you know you’ll be judged? In this episode, we are talking about emotional trustworthiness, how to spot it in others, how to maintain it in your relationships, and how to become more emotionally trustworthy yourself! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/422 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m chatting with Allyson Byrd, an expert in entrepreneurship, success, and manifestation. We chat about how creating the life that is true to your inner self today will set you up for financial success in the future. Plus, she shares some tips to help you let go of your learned fear of financial abundance. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/421 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you identify as someone who is a kind and generous person? Does that sometimes mean you prioritize other people's wants, needs, and desires above your own? It is possible to be kind and generous without self-abandoning! In this episode, you’ll learn why we do this plus the most common signs you might be self-abandoning, so you can up your self-love and begin to take better care of yourself (because you deserve it). Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/420 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m happy to share an interview with one of my friends, Trudi Lebrón. I’ve been following her work for many years and have learned so much from her. She’s an expert in diversity, equity, and inclusion in business, and just published her new book, The Antiracist Business Book: An Equity Centered Approach to Work, Wealth, and Leadership. We chat about exploring identity, defining what success should mean in your own life, and how to be ethical without rejecting capitalism. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/419 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is there someone in your life who uses guilt to try to get you to do what they want you to do? Or have you ever been on the receiving end of flattery where someone says all these amazing things about you, but then expects something from you? These are both examples of emotional manipulation tactics.  In this episode, I'm talking about the most commonly used manipulation tactics to help you recognize them + understand why you might be falling victim to this kind of dysfunctional behavior. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/418 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices