The Terri Cole Show

Today I’m sharing a chat with Sheleana Aiyana. She is the founder of Rising Woman, an online community with more than 3 million readers. She talks about her childhood experiences parenting her own mother and coping through addiction. Then, she shares some strategies to help you heal, come home to yourself, and heal childhood wounds. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/417 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode contains information about (gun) violence which may be triggering to survivors. We have all experienced some level of primary or secondary trauma over the past few years. The pandemic, the war in Ukraine, and school shootings among other events have brought the topic of trauma front and center in our public discourse. In this episode, I’m breaking down the definition of trauma so you can have a better understanding of what it is and can make the distinction between normal trauma responses and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/416 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m sharing an interview with Dr. John Delony. He’s a mental health expert, podcast host, and author who specializes in making the path to mental wellness accessible for everyone, especially people who don’t come from an academic background.  John explained five steps you can take to heal past traumas that are getting in the way of your current life, no matter who you are. Plus, we chatted about codependency in parent-child relationships— how damaging it can be to both parties when parents are dependent on children for their emotional stability. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/415 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you someone who proudly proclaims that you “never get angry”? Or do you wait so long to deal with your anger that when it finally comes out you explode- only to feel guilty and wish you could take it back? Either way, if you’re nodding your head, this episode is for you. I'm breaking down six different types of anger people experience so you can get a better understanding of how your anger might be affecting you, your health, your relationships, and your behaviors. You’ll learn some things you can do to have a healthier relationship with your anger because trying to ignore or suppress it is not the answer. Honoring your anger is honoring yourself. So click below to watch the video or keep on reading.   Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/414 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel like you could use a little more inner peace right now? You’re not alone. The world today feels more hectic than ever. Today’s guest, Shannon Kaiser, has some tips to help us re-tune inward and protect our inner peace. She also shares her boundary struggles as a world renowned spiritual and self-love teacher as well as guidance from her new book, Return to You: 11 Spiritual Lessons for Unshakable Inner Peace. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/413 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you dread Father’s Day? Do you find yourself frustrated in the greeting card aisle every year because you feel like you have to get a card but none of the Hallmark messages ring true?  Are you estranged or is your father absent? If so, you are not alone. While Father’s Day is a celebration for some, for others, it can bring up feelings of sadness, anger, and disappointment. I get it.  I had a very complicated relationship with my father and Father’s Day was always kind of painful for me. I was that person who would go into a store and see all these cards that would say things like: “Dad, you were always there for me,” or, “You’re so amazing, thanks for always cheering me on,” etc. None of the Father’s Day sentiments were accurate for me or represented my experience with my father.  If you can relate, this episode is for you. I’m sharing 5 non-traditional ways to celebrate Father’s Day to give you options to honor the beautiful, supportive relationships in your life. Read the show notes for today's episode

Today I’m sharing a girlfriend jam with the wonderful Kerri Kelly. As a community organizer and author of the brand new book American Detox, her goal is to make well being accessible and inclusive for all.  We chat about the dark side of the western wellness industry: the ways it excludes minorities, appropriates practices, and exploits vulnerabilities. Then, Kerri guides us on how each of us can make positive change. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/411 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you’re honest with yourself, does the idea of forgiving someone feel like you might be condoning their bad behavior or like they are getting one over on you?  If forgiveness feels complicated (and it is!), this episode is for you. You’ll learn about what I’m calling the new forgiveness, which is about releasing resentment that might be holding you back- not about letting someone off the hook.  Plus, inside this week’s guide, you’ll get a powerful 4-step process to release yourself from the prison that prolonged resentment can become so you can begin your healing process. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/410 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel like it’s impossible to get what you want? Do you love to lift other people up but never really see yourself shine? If those questions resonate with you, today’s interview with Julie Solomon is for you. Julie is the recent author of Get What You Want: How to Go from Unseen to Unstoppable. She shares some tips from the book as well as her own experience growing out of a mindset of scarcity, hiding, and codependency to see herself shine. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/409 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you think something terrible has to happen in your life before you pick up the phone to call a therapist? Do you think you need to be on the verge of a nervous breakdown or ever think to yourself…well, it’s not that bad…I’m not crazy. I should be able to manage this on my own. If you’re sheepishly nodding your head yes, then this week’s episode is for you. It’s Mental Health Awareness Month, and I’m breaking down all of the good reasons for you to get into therapy as a proactive way to protect your overall health. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/408 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m chatting about blended families and stepfamilies with Jamie Scrimgeour. She’s an expert on stepfamily dynamics and the host of The KICK-ASS Stepmom Podcast. We have a great conversation about pitfalls to avoid when you join a family and how to appreciate the unique beauty of being a step-parent. Along the way, we share some of our own experiences as stepmoms! Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/407 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, I’m breaking down simple mental wellness strategies you can incorporate into your daily life to support robust mental health.  While some of the things on this list might be things you already know you “should” do, with 25 years of experience as a psychotherapist, I can tell you a lack of these wellness essentials can negatively impact the quality of your life and how you feel (and you don’t get the amazing benefits from knowing without actually doing, lovebug!)  I’ve included a ton of resources to help make it even easier for you to focus on simple things you can do on a daily basis to proactively support yourself and your mental health.  Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/406 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m interviewing Kute Blackson. He’s an inspirational speaker and transformational teacher who is an expert on surrender. When you think of surrender, you might associate it with weakness. However, surrender can actually take great strength. In this episode, Kute is going to explain how finding the courage to let go can help you live authentically and fulfill your life’s true purpose. I hope you enjoy listening to this interview with Kute as much as I enjoyed talking with him! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/405 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Grief comes in many shapes and sizes, but one thing usually holds true across the board- we can feel very conflicted about how to respond to curious (even if they’re well-meaning) people.   Have you ever found yourself on the receiving end of personal questions you don’t want to answer?  How did your father die?Why did you get divorced? What happened with your job? If you’ve ever grieved the loss of something or someone and felt like people were asking for information you didn’t want to give, but were unsure how to respond, I get it.  In this week’s episode, you’ll learn how to establish appropriate boundaries when dealing with any kind of loss, how to inform people how to treat you, and how to treat others in life’s most difficult moments.  Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/404 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m sharing a girlfriend jam with my friend Lisa Bilyeu, author of the new book Radical Confidence: 10 No-BS Lessons on Becoming the Hero of Your Own Life and co-founder of the wildly successful business Quest Nutrition. She tells us how she challenged her family’s expectations to transform a life that was not working for her into one that is really, really working for her. I really hope you enjoy this chat with Lisa as much as I enjoyed hanging out with her.  Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/403 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you feel when you go to your favorite exercise class and someone is sitting in your spot? Are you low-key burning up on the inside? Let’s say you go to Sephora to get your favorite face cream and they've discontinued it…are you really bummed out?  Does change make you uncomfortable, especially when you have no control over it? If so, then this episode is for you.  You’ll learn about the power of becoming more adaptable and how adaptability is one of the keys to cultivating more happiness in your life. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/402 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tricia (also known online as Your Joyologist) is an ex rock-and-roll roadie and current life coach, podcast host, author, and speaker who I’ve known for at least a decade now. We chat about all the ways it’s unhealthy to hold ourselves to “shoulds” instead of acting on our true wants. If you sometimes struggle with shame, guilt, and rumination over what you could have done differently in the past, Tricia has some advice for you. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/401 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you ever wonder if your relationship with your mother (or maternal impactor) is “normal”? Are you curious about how it has affected you as an adult?  Mother-daughter relationships can be complicated and in this episode, I’m breaking down the 7 types of dynamics I’ve seen the most in my 25 years as a psychotherapist, plus the lasting impact each type has on emotions and behaviors in adulthood. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/400 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you relate to time?  Are you someone who’s always late or meticulously early? Do you schedule yourself within an inch of your life? Do discrepancies in your relationship with time ever create conflict with others? If you’re nodding your head, then this episode is for you, my friend. I’m breaking down time boundaries and how they can become disordered. You’ll also learn how to better negotiate time boundaries with yourself and others for a more harmonious relationship with time (seeing as how it IS just a construct in our minds!) Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/398 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m sharing a special double interview with John David Mann and Ana Gabriel Mann. Though John and Ana are both amazing authors and have been happily married for decades, their most recent book The Go-Giver Marriage is the first one they have written together. We’re chatting about the five secrets to lasting love, as well as their relationship-damaging opposites. Plus, how to keep appreciating what your partner brings to your life, even when people around you see their relationships as limiting. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/399 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices