The Terri Cole Show

Today I’m talking with repeat guest Ross Rosenberg. Ross is an expert in pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and attachment trauma. He is also the CEO of the Self Love Recovery Institute. We talk about how codependency, which he calls self-love deficit disorder, attracts narcissists, and why a codependent-narcissist relationship is so damaging. Then, he walks us through the steps to healing, from first reaching out for help to finally living a self-love abundant lifestyle. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/397 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let’s say you have a rough interaction with someone, a disappointing outcome, or you get bad news–what do you do to help yourself feel better? Do you have a couple of drinks? Maybe smoke a little weed? Or eat a tub of ice cream? No judgment here, but I want to invite you to think about it because many of us confuse self-numbing with self-soothing.  In this episode, you’ll learn my favorite self-soothing tips, healthy ways to support your nervous system and emotional wellbeing, plus how to create your own self-soothing and stress relief toolkit.  Learning how to effectively self-soothe can be life-changing! Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/396 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m sharing a chat with filmmaker, writer, and musician Vandana Kohli. She joins me from India to discuss how our constant interaction with electronics is causing a global mental health crisis. Plus, she shares mindfulness practices that will help you find a balance between your digital connectedness and your mental health. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/395 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you feel when Sunday rolls around?  Maybe you had an amazing weekend, but slowly but surely, as Sunday afternoon gives way to evening, does anxiety, fear, and dread start to creep in? The “Sunday Scaries” is a real thing, so if this is you, check out this week’s episode because in it, you’ll learn how to decode why you might be feeling this way and take your Sunday back so you can face Monday refreshed and relaxed! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/394 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, I’m sharing an interview with author and ex-stand up comedian Pam Gaslow. After more than a decade of sobriety, Pam relapsed into addiction at age 45.  While many people think of marijuana as a harmless drug, Pam’s experience was different: She became an addict, living without purpose and barely able to function.  We chat about everything, from why people think weed is completely harmless when it almost destroyed Pam’s life, to how her mindset has shifted post-addiction. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/393 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you running low on happiness and joy in your life after everything we have been experiencing for the past two years? Do you have relationships that drain your energy and happiness? If you're nodding yes to either of those questions, this episode is for you. I'm going to share four steps that will help you take charge of your own happiness, joy, and contentment, even when the outside world makes it difficult. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/392 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kristine Carlson and her husband, the late Dr. Richard Carlson, co-authored the bestselling book Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff… And it’s All Small Stuff. Today, I am sharing an interview with Kristine about the big stuff: Profound loss, grief, and how to honor your love by healing and choosing to live. Kristine shares what she personally learned from the loss of her husband and explains how allowing yourself to grieve fully allows you to live more fully as well.   Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/391 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is the way you care for people in your life more like codependency than real, authentic love? It’s scary to think about, I know. But if you are codependent, recognizing that fact is the first step toward expressing the healthy, reciprocated care you really want to share with the people in your life.  In this episode I will guide you through the signs and symptoms that might indicate codependency in all different types of relationships: romantic, work, parent-child, and friendship. I also share what it looks like to be in recovery from codependency, so you know what to look forward to if you do think you might be codependent and you want that to change.  Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/390 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you have a friend who always has to follow up your bad day with “It could be worse”? Are you the one who has a hard time just listening when your loved ones need to vent? Both of these scenarios are examples of toxic positivity: when a positive mindset goes too far and makes you feel like having (and sharing) bad feelings isn’t allowed.  Today’s guest Whitney Goodman is an expert on toxic positivity. She is the radically honest psychotherapist behind the Instagram account @Sitwithwhit as well as an author and the owner of her own therapy practice in Miami, FL, The Collaborative Counseling Center. In this episode, Whitney teaches us how to leave behind toxic positivity to become authentic and supportive — for ourselves and the people we love. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/389 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you endlessly, compulsively doing things for all the people in your life? Do you find that giving to people at work and home leaves you exhausted by the end of the day? If you answered yes, you might be a chronic overfunctioner. On today’s episode, I’m going to help you understand why you always seem to give too much of yourself and how you can start creating more balance in your relationships. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/388 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m interviewing New York Times bestselling author, health and fitness expert, and former neurosurgical ICU trauma nurse Tana Amen. If the name seems familiar, it’s because she’s married to recent guest and friend of mine Dr. Daniel Amen. We talk about her recent memoir The Relentless Courage of a Scared Child, she shares how she broke the cycle of abuse and poverty she was born into, and we dive deep into the ways that we can heal ourselves. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/387 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How much fear and anxiety do you experience every day? Do you think of yourself as a chronic worrier? In today’s episode, I’m going to help you understand the roots of your fear and anxiety and share some steps that you can take to have less stress and more joy in your life. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/386 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m interviewing dietician, entrepreneur, model, and actress Melissa Boloña about what it’s like to own her business, Beauty and the Broth.  We talk about her transition from acting to entrepreneurship, how she manages the daily stress of her responsibilities for her company, and how the health benefits of bone broth can extend to your mood too! Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/385 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you struggle with repetitive negative thoughts? We all experience some degree of negativity when it comes to our thoughts and feelings, but if it is frequent or intense, it can get in the way of your highest potential in your life, in your career, and in your relationships.  From a psychological perspective, an exaggerated or perseverating pattern of thought not based on facts is a cognitive distortion. It is our emotional brains convincing us to believe negative things about ourselves, others, and our situations without concrete evidence.  In today’s episode, you’ll learn more about how cognitive distortions can show up in our lives and wreak havoc on our self-esteem and our interpersonal relationships. So if you are struggling with negative thoughts or feel like there’s a negative filter on your brain- take heart, you can achieve more mastery over your emotional brain (so it stops playing tricks on you)! Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/384 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit

Today I’m bringing you a special episode with repeat guest Dr. Daniel Amen. Dr. Amen is a world-renowned psychiatrist and brain health expert who hopes to end mental illness by revolutionizing how it is treated. Just like any other organ, the brain doesn’t work well when you don’t take care of it. Dr. Amen shares seven ways you can change your behavior now for a healthier, happier brain, as well as the substances and habits you might want to avoid.  Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/383 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you running on empty? Are you so depleted that you’ve found yourself pulling back from your relationships and the things that used to inspire you?  If you feel desperate to replenish yourself in some way and you could use some tips, then this episode is for you.  In today’s episode, you’ll learn the difference between being stressed and burned out (‘cause they’re not the same), how to pinpoint what drains you the most, and 3 strategies to help you bounce back from burnout. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/382 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m chatting with my great friend and New York Times bestselling author Gabby Bernstein about the inspiration behind her newest book, Happy Days: The Guided Path from Trauma to Profound Freedom and Inner Peace. This book is Gabby’s most profoundly personal. It sparks a conversation about how trauma creates harmful patterns of self-protection and how we can escape them, as well as the healing power of being a better parent to ourselves and our children. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/381 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever met someone you would describe as an “old soul” or seemingly older than their years?  You might be describing someone with high emotional maturity.  Investing time and energy into growing your own emotional maturity is well worth it. When you learn how to master your emotions you have a deep understanding of yourself, you are able to flex your empathy muscle in a healthy way, and you are more competent and calm in stressful situations.  Listen to today’s episode to learn more about your current emotional maturity level and what you can do to increase it because doing so will create more opportunities for growth and more harmony in your life! Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/380 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m excited to share an interview with Michelle Chalfant. She is a therapist and coach who created a model called the “adult chair” to help adults recognize immature aspects of their psyche and live more emotionally healthy lives. We’re talking all about what you need to do to live a healthier, happier life, including how to be more self compassionate and how to recognize triggering experiences as opportunities for healing. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/379 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel like you are the only person in your life who knows how to do anything correctly?  Have you ever asked your partner or your teenager to do something, and they come back with “But you do it so much better…” or “I don’t know how…” OR wait so long to start that you just end up doing it?  What if the people in your life are pretending to be less competent than they are to get you to do more than your share? Let that sink in.  If you are overworking, overdoing, and, if you’re honest, resentful and burnt out, you might want to learn about strategic (or weaponized) incompetence. In today’s podcast, I break down this manipulation tactic and share how you can begin to step back from overfunctioning and move towards a more equitable distribution of labor in your life. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/378 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices