The Terri Cole Show

Do you ever feel like you are too busy to create the life you really want? A lot of us always feel like we’re playing catch-up, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Today’s guest, Tanya Dalton, shares strategies that can help all of us live with intention by making truly fulfilling goals and sticking to them. Plus: Tanya shares the story behind her brand new book, On Purpose: The Busy Woman’s Guide to an Extraordinary Life of Meaning and Success. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/377 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How often do you find yourself bummed out on Valentine’s Day?  I can tell you, as a psychotherapist for 25 years, whether you’re single or in a relationship, Valentine’s Day has a way of setting us up for disappointment. Every year post-Cupid, I would prepare myself for the aftermath because my therapy practice would be full of people who were sad, lonely, or angry over what did or did not go down on V-day.  What if you asked for what you really want? What if you decided to fulfill your own desires this year? What if you fell wildly in love with yourself? Listen to today's episode to learn several ways you can get your needs met this Valentine’s Day plus a sacred self-love ritual to help you feel supported, deeply nourished, and adored. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/376 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m interviewing Serena Dyer Pisoni. Her father, Wayne Dyer, passed away a few years ago. If you don’t know him, he was a big influence on my life and work, and I know he also touched the lives of many others. Serena recently co-wrote a book called The Knowing with her sister Saje, all about processing and learning from the many losses that they were going through during that time in their lives. In today’s episode, Serena shares the tools and strategies she developed to make her way forward through that grief, and we also talk about the importance of practicing self-love and self-forgiveness even when you believe guilt is all you deserve. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/375 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you find that you attach unusually quickly to people, whether in friendships or romantic relationships? Do you stay in relationships that you know are bad for you because the thought of being alone scares you more than staying in a bad relationship? Or do you repeatedly find yourself in relationships with unavailable people? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you might have abandonment issues. In this episode, I’m helping you recognize the signs of abandonment issues in adult relationships and reviewing the most common causes of chronic fear of abandonment. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/374 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Before the pandemic, I was always a gym person. I liked the social aspect of meeting up with my gym friends, and I never imagined that I could motivate myself to work out at home. That changed when I found today’s guest, Michelle Briehler. She is a Youtube workout leader and certified health and life coach who has helped thousands of people, including my sister and I, stay fit and feel good about themselves without going to the gym in person. Michelle shares how she started leading remote workouts and we talk about why home workouts are a staple of my routine even now that my gym is open. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/373 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel like you’re continually struggling in relationships with the same self-absorbed, controlling people? It could be in your romantic relationships, friendships, family, or work relationships.  Maybe you keep finding yourself with narcissistic partners even though after your last breakup you swore, “never again”...  Or you get a new job and, sure enough, you end up with the same version of your last bully boss.  If you’re nodding your head yes, trust me, you are not alone. Looking into our past can help us understand why we might be enacting behavior patterns that can leave us vulnerable to narcissists.  Listen to today's episode to learn the most common signs of being raised by a narcissist, plus the 5 red flags you should look for in your relationship/dating life so you get empowered to break the cycle.  Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/372 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I started out wary of astrology, but over the past decade, I have become increasingly open to the perspective it can offer on our individual struggles and the shifts we see in society as a whole. My change in perspective is thanks in part to Ophira Edut, a good friend of mine who is one half of the celebrity astrologer duo the AstroTwins. I invited her today to chat a bit about what astrology tells us to expect from 2022, and the entire decade ahead of us. She also shares a special elemental horoscope just for empaths and we discuss how trauma and unfamiliarity can be opportunities for positive change. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/371 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you are in a conflict do you clam up and go silent? Do you run away and avoid it at all costs? Or maybe you explode and escalate it?  Listen to this episode to learn the top four most common communication in conflict issues that people experience. Plus, you’ll get some tips and scripts that you can use when you find yourself in a heated situation.  Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/370 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Real Love Revolution season is in full swing, my people, and that means I’ll be teaching all month long about how to raise your love vibe and create vibrant, lasting love in your life! One of the foundational pieces of my body of work on healthy love is the love blueprint. Your love blueprint contains information to help you understand the conscious and unconscious ways you currently relate to love.  This learned behavior is not your fault, but understanding it now is your responsibility– especially if you want to make changes in your love life. The exciting news is with the right tools and guidance, you absolutely have the power to rewrite your love blueprint. In today’s episode, I’m going to teach you how to uncover your downloaded love blueprint! Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/369 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m excited to share my interview with Alex Banayan, author of The Third Door: The Wild Quest to Uncover How the World's Most Successful People Launched Their Careers. After a decade of interviewing very successful people, he shares what he has learned about approaching success by thinking outside the box. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/368 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered why you attract the people you do romantically? Do you find yourself dating a version of the same person over and over again...only to eventually be disappointed and frustrated? Or maybe you are in a relationship and you are craving more- more intimacy, better communication, and a deeper connection? If you have ever thought amazing, epic love is for other people or the lucky few who happened to be in the right place at the right time, you are not alone. I used to think the same until I started diving deeper into therapy to understand my own attraction style.  In this episode, I'm teaching you how to identify your romantic attraction style, because it is an important aspect of understanding your romantic experiences which sets the stage for you to create and maintain healthy, vibrant love. Self-knowledge is power and I can attest that real love isn’t for the “lucky,” it is for the self-informed. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/367 Learn more about your ad choices

Recently, many people have been asking me to talk about addiction. During the pandemic there has been an increase in consumption of substances like alcohol, weed, and pills around the world as people use them to cope with difficult times we are going through. Today I invited a special guest, my friend Patty Powers, who is an amazing addiction recovery coach who I have referred my own clients to. We’re sharing our conversation about addiction, relapse, and psychoeducation, as well as Patty’s own incredible battle with addiction.   Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/366 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you feel about New Year’s resolutions? Did you know studies show that only 8% of people keep their New Year’s resolutions and that nearly 80% fail by February? Those aren’t great odds. Why is it so difficult to follow through with our New Year’s resolutions despite our best intentions? From a therapeutic perspective, resolution setting is missing an essential piece; honest self-reflection. For real, lasting change to stick, we need to look back, assess, and find evidence of what’s working and what’s not in our lives. It is only from a place of self-awareness and clarity that true transformation can happen.  That’s why in today’s episode, I’m offering you a therapeutic process to help you unpack 2021, honor your experiences and understand your own growth so you can clear the way for the changes you want to make!  It’s my favorite sacred ritual to start the year feeling energized, clear, and ready to take on 2022! Find the shows notes for today's episode at terricole.com/365 Learn more about your ad choi

Physical and verbal abuse are not the only kinds of childhood trauma that can impact us in our adult lives. Though often overlooked, childhood emotional neglect from parents who were overbearing, overly lax, absent, or dismissive can lead to adult difficulties with self-esteem, emotional literacy, and boundaries. Today I am helping you determine whether you might have experienced childhood neglect and guiding you through some steps you can take to heal now that you are grown up.  Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/364 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m excited to share a chat with my friend Latham Thomas, who is a celebrity wellness and lifestyle guru, doula, and educator. She explains the role a doula can play in a client’s childbirth village. We also discuss the Black maternal health crisis, and Latham shares how she became a doula herself and later launched her doula training program so that more parents could experience childbirth the way she did. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/363 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you stressed out of your mind from anticipating all of the needs of all of the people, all of the time? Do you go out of your way to indulge a particularly difficult family member so that they don’t explode and ruin the family gathering? If you find that you are always anticipating the needs of others, I might be able to help. In this episode, I’m breaking down what I call codependent anticipation and giving you some steps that you can take to stick to your side of the street a little bit more and stress a little bit less. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/363 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m sharing a girlfriend jam with Jennifer Pastiloff. She shares her takeaways about her experiences with the traumatic loss of a parent and her deafness and shared her deafness: How it led her write her book, On Being Human, how to quiet your inner asshole voice with kindness, and how to reach outside your bubble to truly be of service to other humans and feel connected to the world. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/361 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How hard is it for you to apologize when you hurt someone? Do you find yourself starting the apology with “I’m sorry you feel…” “I’m sorry you think…” or “sorry, but I was tired?” Do people feel understood when you apologize, or does it make things worse? In today’s episode, I am going to outline some bad apology habits and then share some tips for how you can avoid them in your life to give satisfying, authentic apologies when you accidentally hurt the people you love. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/360 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m interviewing Lindsey Ellison, a breakup breakthrough coach, author of two books, and podcaster. She gives us some advice about all things narcissist and how to break up without being broken. Plus, she shares her personal experience with discovering her own higher power helped her stop treating a codependent relationship as one. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/359 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you have to say no to someone, do you feel compelled to give them a long explanation of why you are saying no, or do you find yourself defending your right to say no?  How often do you find yourself building a case to convince the people in your life that you’re doing the right thing? When you make a choice do you want everyone to approve of your decision? If you're nodding your head, then this episode is for you. There is an important difference between convincing and providing context when it comes to communicating our boundaries and preferences.  In this episode, I'm breaking it all down for you, because the bottom line is:  You don’t have to convince anyone of anything.  Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/358 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices