The Terri Cole Show

Today I’m sharing a chat with my friend Elizabeth Earnshaw, licensed marriage and family therapist and director of A Better Life Therapy, LLC. She shares her thoughts about how the COVID-19 pandemic has impacted different types of relationships, gives tips for starting difficult conversations with your partner, and explains the importance of rituals in building reliability in your relationship. Plus, I ask her about the inspiration behind her brand new book I Want This to Work: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in the Modern Age. Find the show notes for today’s episode at terricole.com/357 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If something is really important to you, can you go to the mat for it? Do you know how to negotiate and stand up for what you want? Or do you avoid the conflict and potentially end up living with regrets? Knowing when and how to fight fair for what you want is part of being a boundary boss and essential to living your most satisfying, self-determined life!  That’s why in today's episode, I'm walking you through how to pick your battles wisely, how to stand your ground, and how to negotiate like a pro.  Find the show notes for today’s episode at terricole.com/356 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m sharing a chat with my friend Dr. Alexandra Solomon, who is a clinical psychologist at northwestern university and expert in relational self-awareness. We talk about love, self-reflection, monogamy, and how the field of relationship psychology has changed in the last 25 years, as well as sharing our own experiences with self-awareness in our intimate relationships. I hope you enjoy listening to this interview with Alexandra as much as I enjoyed interviewing her! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/355 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you're upset with someone about something, do you: Say nothing, but silently keep score? Talk to other people about it? Ice the person out? Send them a passive-aggressive or sarcastic text?  If any of those rang a bell, you are not alone which is why in this week’s episode, I’m breaking down the top 10 indicators that you might be suppressing and/or unconsciously repressing your anger.  Raising your awareness around when you might be acting out feelings of frustration or anger is the first step to expressing yourself in a healthier way. I promise you, learning these skills will improve all of your relationships, including the one you have with yourself.  Find the shownotes for today's episode at terricole.com/354 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I'm bringing back an old episode by popular demand, a girlfriend jam with Danielle LaPorte! Danielle is the creator of The Desire Map series, “A heart centered approach to finding your true power”. She’s also the author of White Hot Truth: Clarity for keeping it real on your spiritual path, and The Fire Starter Sessions: A guide to creating success on your own terms, which also spun off into a coaching curriculum. Named one of the “Top 100 Websites for Women” by Forbes, over 5 million people a month visit DanielleLaPorte.com for her regular #Truthbombs and poetry. Danielle's website has been called “the best place online for kickass spirituality.” Marianne Williamson refers to Danielle “as a bright light in the modern priestesshood.”On today's show, we talk about finding real love, getting honest about secondary gain, letting go of the past, and much more.Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/231 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you think epic love is random?  Is it just a twist of fate for people in the right place at the right time?  Is real love only for the lucky?  The short answer to all of these q’s is...nope.  In this episode, I am teaching you how you can build a rock-solid foundation and infrastructure for a lasting, vibrant, EPIC love relationship. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/352 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Would you like to be more self-assured? You aren’t alone: So many of us want to live our lives with more confidence and less fear. Today’s guest, my long-time friend Anna Goldstein, has some tips. Anna is a certified life and business coach who tells it like it is, and she is going to share steps you can take today to dial into the part of you that is already more confident. Plus, she shares her own lifelong journey building self-confidence and how it inspired her to write her book Be Bold: A Guide to Unbreakable Confidence. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/351 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you ever tempted to look at your partner’s phone? Or if you’re dating someone new… do you ever feel an urge to peruse social media for a glimpse of their ex? Jealousy is normal...but only to a degree. If you or your partner’s green-eyed monster is rearing its head a little too often, then this week’s episode is for you.  I’m going to break down the differences between normal and extreme jealousy and help you locate the origin of a jealous streak so you can decode it, deactivate it, and move into more healthy ways of relating. Learn more about today's episode at terricole.com/350 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you confused about what it means to be codependent? Do you ever wonder what codependency looks like in practice? If you’re nodding your head yes, that’s understandable. In my experience, there is often confusion around the topic of codependency, with a ton of misconceptions and a plethora of myths clouding up what it looks like in real life.  In today’s episode, I’m delivering rock-solid clarity about what codependency is by showing you what it’s not. Ready for some major myth-busting?! Let’s go! Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/349 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m sharing an interview with Gabrielle Stone. She’s an actress, podcaster, director, and best-selling author of two books: Eat, Pray, FML, and her newest book, The Ridiculous Misadventures of a Single Girl. We have a long conversation about love, loss, and self-love, and Gabrielle shares the compelling story of how she moved on from being cheated on by her husband of two years to arrive where she is today. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/348 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you give ‘till it hurts in your relationships? Do you feel responsible for other people’s feelings, problems, and situations?  I can’t tell you how many comments and emails I get asking me: “How can I tell if I’m codependent?” and “What’s the difference between being caring and codependency?” Raising your awareness of these 8 codependency warning signs can help you start to focus on your own side of the street.  In today’s episode, I’m walking you through the most common symptoms and red flags that could point to codependency.  Read more about today's episode at terricole.com/347 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m so excited for you to tune into this juicy chat I had with my girlfriend Africa Brooke. She’s a globally recognized coach, consultant, thinker, and writer who specializes in helping people overcome self-censorship and other forms of self-sabotage. I met her through a virtual event on empowerment. She was the speaker right after me, and I was blown away by what she shared and what she talked about. I think you guys are going to love her work too. Read more about today's episode at terricole.com/346 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you have trouble asking for help? Do you find yourself saying, “It’s just so much easier if I do it myself?” Trust me, you are not alone. In today’s episode, I’ll be sharing how I learned to do less, produce more and ask for help, and I’ll teach you how to do the same. Learn more about today's episode at terricole.com/345 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m interviewing my super smart friend Jayson Gaddis who just released a brand new book called Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High Stakes Relationships. If you are a conflict avoider, you sometimes passive-aggressively communicate your displeasure rather than having a conversation about it, or you just don’t know how to repair your relationship after there has been a blowup or rupture, this episode is for you. Read more about today's episode at terricole.com/344 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you handle ruptures and communication breakdowns in your relationship? Do you avoid talking directly about the blow-ups and conflicts that you have? Do you ever pretend that they haven’t happened or act extra nice to avoid talking about them? I am going to help you understand what is and isn’t normal when you fight in a healthy relationship and give you a couple of in-the-moment strategies to prevent small ruptures from becoming huge problems. Read more about this episode at terricole.com/343 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I have a really exciting interview for you today with my friend Rachel DeAlto, who has a brand new book out called Relatable: How to Connect With Anyone, Anywhere, Even if it Scares You. We talk about social anxiety, how the lockdown has impacted our ability to be confidently social, and what to do with the existential loneliness the last two years has created for many of us.   Read more about today's episode at terricole.com/342 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you ever feel responsible for the feelings of others? Do you overgive and overfunction? Do you suffer from chronic indecision? If any of those things resonate, today’s episode is for you. I am going to share with you five signs that your emotional boundaries need help.   Visit terricole.com/341 for more about today's episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m talking to Jonathan Fields, a friend who I’ve known for many years, about his new book, Sparked: Discover Your Unique Imprint for Work that Makes You Come Alive. I think the book is perfect for the current era, when so many people are reconsidering the kind of work that fills their days. Jonathan shares a summary of  ten "sparketypes" that will help you think about what kind of person you are and what tasks will naturally ignite your passion.  Read more about today's episode at terricole.com/340 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you a giver? Do you find that you are usually on the giving end of things in relationships? If you’re a giver, do you attract takers? In today’s podcast, I explain what can be particularly dangerous about a relationship between a codependent and a narcissist and give you the tools to avoid becoming entangled in one. Read more about today's episode at terricole.com/339 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I am chatting with my friend Cassandra Bodzak about her brand new book “Manifesting Through Meditation: 100 Guided Practices to Harness the Power of Your Thoughts and Create the Life You Want.” She talks about how you can lay down the foundation for attracting what you want in your life and manifest the life of your dreams — all from a perspective that blends spirituality and practicality. She also shares a sneak peak from the book by reading one of her guided meditations for us! Read more about today's episode at terricole.com/338 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices