The Terri Cole Show

The holidays are just around the corner. Today we are going to talk about how to stop auto-accommodating and start enjoying this season. “Give yourself permission to not do something that you'd done in the past.” - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/219 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I talk about how to get out of your own way, why we resist change, what you are gaining out of staying stuck, and much more. “We can go kicking and screaming, or we can accept that change is apart of life.” - Terri Cole Learn more at terricole.com/218 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I talk about how to take a perspective inventory (why we take on a perspective to protect ourselves from pain), simple steps to changing your perspective, and much more. "I feel more empowered looking at a problem and seeing an opportunity." - Terri Cole. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I talk about what emotional labor is, how to find out if you're taking on too much emotional labor, and how to balance it out in relationships. "As women, there is a tendency for us to be like sponges to a degree." - Terri Cole. Learn more at terricole.com/216 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's show is all about transference. It can hold you back if you're not careful. I talk about how to spot transference and what to do about it. Learn more episode at terricole.com/215 “There's a part of you inside - the child within - that's thinking that this time it is going to be different.” - Terri Cole Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There's been a ton of news about the importance of vulnerability, but it is REALLY important that we are CONSCIOUSLY being vulnerable. "We need to fully understand what healthy voluntary vulnerability is." - Terri Cole. Learn more at terricole.com/214 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Shefali is a New York Times bestselling author of two groundbreaking books on parenting. Oprah has named her work as "revolutionary", and I do too! "Meditation is the pathway to self-regulation and self-care and manifestation." - Dr. Shefali. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/213 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

TODAY (Sept 30, 2019) is the LAST DAY to sign up for Boundary Bootcamp 2019! The doors are closing and it won't be available for another year! To prepare for Boundary Bootcamp, this episode is all about 4 hidden boundary killers that you probably haven't thought about. "I want you to waltz into 2020 like 'bring it universe!'." - Terri Cole Learn more at terricole.com/212 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“I knew that I wanted to feel lit up, not trapped in these golden handcuffs of a life.” - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/211 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today's show, I'll talk about some amazing things that you can do all on your own to help heal your trust issues and live a more fulfilled life. "You are the common denominator in your life, just like I am the common denominator in my life." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/210 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How can we change anything without changing our underlying thoughts? I talk about finding real love and reprogramming your mind to be a master attractor. "There was so much more unconscious materials that I had yet to uncover in my own personal therapy, and when I did, I was able to understand my own repeating romantic reality and stop repeating it." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/209 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Love bombing is a term used to describe a form of conditioning or manipulating behavior done with gifts, attention and affection. Listen in to learn more! "Push-back inspires punishment from someone who is using love bombing as a manipulation tool." - Terri Cole. Learn more at terricole.com/208 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are talking all about how to raise your emotional IQ. It isn't the same as being an empath, your emotional IQ is a skill that you can actually BUILD! "When you become someone that you can trust, then the sky is the limit as to what you can create." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/207 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How can you identify your own emotional triggers? I share with you 4 steps so you can respond instead of reacting when you are in triggering situations. "Unresolved trauma can make you very susceptible to having triggers." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/206 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're talking about boundaries in relationships and knowing your non-negotiable deal breakers to help you avoid getting into relationships with narcissists. “How someone responds to you making a simple request, will be very telling.” - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/205 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you walk around feeling like you're waiting to explode at something? Today I talk about the real reasons that you're angry and what you can do about it. It doesn't mean that we're not going to be angry. It just means that nobody taught us how to be." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/204 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The last few episodes have focused on how to spot dysfunctional family systems, but this week focuses on what a HEALTHY family system looks like. “If you effectively draw boundaries, there has to be some consequence at some point if those boundaries are stepped over.” - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/203 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, I debunk some popular "procrastination myths". I touch on how to be aware of your procrastination pattern, and how to STOP procrastinating! “Someone is procrastinating not because they don't care. But a lot of times (especially in reference to the perfectionists), it is because we care way too much.” - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/202 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today's show, I talk about how to be more decisive, the "secondary gain" with indecision, how indecisiveness is related to codependency, and much more. "When one of us gets healthy, the whole world gets just a little bit healthier than it is right now." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/201 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you super dialed into all of environments that you're in? Do you think that you might be an empath? Today we're talking about auto-accommodating or over-accommodating, what to do about it + more. "There is something about having some kind of a dedicated morning practice in stillness and silence that creates expansion throughout the rest of your day." - Terri Cole. Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/200 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices