The Terri Cole Show

I’m sharing another interview this week where I’m on the other side of the microphone– This time, with host of Passion Struck, John Miles. We chat about the journey of self-discovery that led me to leave my job, pursue grad school, and start a new career in the mental health field. Plus, how I learned how to prioritize my own needs and desires and set healthy boundaries as I did it! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/597

How fluent are you in your own emotions? Are you able to identify and feel your feelings, or is it a struggle? Do you tend to focus more on what other people are feeling?  If so, you are not alone.  This episode is all about becoming more emotionally resilient. We will explore why emotional resilience matters, the four common blocks we tend to experience around it, and ideas for putting the focus back on you. Read the show notes for today's show at terricole.com/596 Go here for more information and to enroll in boundary bootcamp: terricole.com/boundarybootcamp Visit boundarybossworkbook.com to order my brand new Boundary Boss Workbook!

Today I’m so excited to share this older interview I did on The Good Life Project podcast with Jonathan Fields. I hope you’ll learn something new from this episode, whether or not you already know my story.  We chat about my early experience with alcoholism, how I left my career as an agent to fulfill my purpose as a therapist, and how we both balance being ourselves with being the face of our brands. Then, I share some advice about becoming and staying connected in long-term partnerships! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/595

Does your family disrespect your boundaries, making it challenging to set and maintain them? Does your family of origin still treat you like a child? Or do they simply get mad when you try to set limits or assert your preferences and desires? If you are nodding your head, then this episode is for you, my friend, because I am diving into why many of us struggle to set boundaries with family and what you can do about it. I also give you a few scripts for when your family of origin offers you unsolicited advice.

Are you tired of constantly putting others' needs before your own? Do you feel like you get taken for granted in your relationships? I am so excited to share this interview I did on Danny Morel's show, The Higher Self. Danny asked such amazing questions and we had a candid conversation about boundaries: the good, the bad, what people get wrong, how you can improve at setting boundaries, and so much more. I also share boundary scripts you can use.  Very thankful to Danny and his team for allowing us to share this with all of you. Make sure to check Danny's show out here: https://youtube.com/@DannyMorelshow Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/593

How often do you check social media throughout the day? Do you feel the need to respond to comments or DMs right away? Do you procrastinate by scrolling rather than doing something productive or nourishing?  Do you feel like you might be addicted to tech and are you inseparable from your devices? If you answered yes to any of these, this episode is for you. I am sharing the common struggles we all face with social media and tech addiction, what the science says about it, and ways you can begin setting boundaries around tech and social.  Let’s dive in.  Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/592 Go here for more information and to enroll in boundary bootcamp: terricole.com/boundarybootcamp Visit boundarybossworkbook.com to order my brand new Boundary Boss Workbook!

I am so excited to have my pal Dr. John Delony back on the show to talk about his new (and much-needed) book, Building A Non-Anxious Life.  Since the pandemic, so many of my clients, friends, and family members are anxious in a way they've never been before. I've even noticed it in myself, and I do not consider myself an anxious person! I love the accessibility of John's work and his ideas. During the episode, he reviews six practical ways we can choose to do things differently to build non-anxious lives. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/591

When we think about boundaries, we often think about how we relate to others. But what about boundaries with ourselves? How we relate to ourselves is just, if not more important, than how we relate to others. We need to get clear on our relationship with ourselves first, which is why this episode is all about strengthening internal boundaries: self-talk, self-regulation, self-care, self-soothing, and self-love. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/590 Go here for more information and to enroll in boundary bootcamp: terricole.com/boundarybootcamp Visit boundarybossworkbook.com to order my brand new Boundary Boss Workbook!

I am so excited to have my pal, psychologist and couples therapist, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish on the show to talk all about relationships.  She is such an original thinker and I love the way she presents information on Instagram (@drtracyd) because it's accessible. Her book, I Didn't Sign Up For This: A Couples Therapist Shares Real-Life Stories of Breaking Patterns and Finding Joy In Relationships...Including Her Own, is full of wisdom for anyone trying to navigate challenges within their relationships.  We covered a ton during our conversation, and if you resonate with high-functioning codependency or feel resentful about having to do it all, you'll want to listen as we touch on this throughout. (Because no surprise, we've both been there!) Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/589

Does your job exhaust you?  Do you feel like you need to respond to your colleagues as soon as you receive a message from them, even after you’ve ended your workday? Do you say ‘yes’ to tasks you don’t have the capacity for? Many of you have told me you struggle with work boundaries. In this episode, I am sharing tips and tools you can use to make your job work for you with more ease and less frustration. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/588 Go here for more information and to enroll in boundary bootcamp: terricole.com/boundarybootcamp Visit boundarybossworkbook.com to order my brand new Boundary Boss Workbook!

I am so excited to have Dr. Ramani on the show today to discuss concepts from her new book, It's Not You: How to Identify and Heal from Narcissistic People. Many of you are likely familiar with her work, and for good reason– she is a brilliant clinician who breaks down narcissism in an accessible way, which helps people heal. I've been a fan of hers for years and I am thrilled to bring you this conversation where we explore everything ranging from how narcissists are made, the impact of love bombing on victims, how narcissistic supply works and what it is, the difference between narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and what the healing process looks like.  I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/587

How is your relationship with money? Do you tend to overspend? Neglect your bank account balance out of fear? Self-soothe by making impulse purchases? Many of you struggle with financial boundaries, and in this episode, I talk about your money blueprint, how it influences your relationship with money, and how you can develop a better awareness of your spending habits. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/586 Go here for more information and to enroll in boundary bootcamp: terricole.com/boundarybootcamp Visit boundarybossworkbook.com to order my brand new Boundary Boss Workbook!

Today I’m doing something a little different: I’m sharing an episode of my friend Marie Forleo’s show where I am the guest!  She asks me about my own origin story, shares a listener question, and we talk about finding the courage to express preferences, desires, and dealbreakers– And how you might express them differently in close vs. distant relationships.  I hope you enjoy today’s episode, including the chance to see me as the interviewee rather than the interviewer. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/585

Do you people-please to avoid hurting them? Are there decades-long friendships you’re afraid to lose, despite having outgrown them? If you are nodding your head, this episode is for you. I am talking all about boundaries with friends: why some of us have misguided loyalty, the qualities of a good and healthy friendship, and how to raise your awareness around disordered behaviors in your friendships. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/584 Go here for more information and to enroll in boundary bootcamp: terricole.com/boundarybootcamp Visit boundarybossworkbook.com to order my brand new Boundary Boss Workbook!

I am so excited to have my pal and award-winning podcast host, John R. Miles, on the show to talk about his new book, Passion Struck: Twelve Powerful Principles to Unlock Your Purpose and Ignite Your Most Intentional Life.  I'm excited because intentional living is how I live my life, and I teach all of my clients and students to do it, too. There is nothing quite like harnessing the mind-blowing power of our own intention.  But what does that look like in practice? John is here to break it down with examples from his own life and case studies from the book. I hope you enjoy this conversation with John as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/583

Does Valentine’s Day feel meaningless without someone to spend it with? Does it cause more disappointment than happiness? Or are you simply tired of all the hype around it? You are not alone, my friend. I am not a big fan of Valentine’s Day myself.  What if we did something different? What if we focused on the power of self-love this year? What if you fell wildly in love with yourself this Valentine’s Day? If this sounds better than the usual alternative, I got you covered with three steps you can take to celebrate YOU, whether you are single or partnered. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/582 Take my quiz to learn more about your boundary style: boundaryquiz.com Go here for more information and to enroll in Boundary Bootcamp: terricole.com/boundarybootcamp

Welcome to a super special edition of The Terri Cole Show where I am doing something I've never done before: interviewing my husband, Victor Juhasz, along with bestselling author, Steven Pressfield.  Vic and Steven collaborated on Steven's new book, The Daily Pressfield, which is an excellent companion for anyone giving a creative endeavor their all. (Currently me, writing my second book!) Vic provided the illustrations and the book is filled with Steven's wisdom from the many years he's spent in the writing trenches.  In this conversation, we talk about how the book and illustrations came together, our experiences with resistance and creativity, imposter syndrome, fear, self-sabotage, inspiration, and so much more.  You can get a signed copy here: https://sassmediallc.com/products/the-daily-pressfield-hardcover-signed-copy Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/581

Welcome to part two of a two-part series I am doing on high-functioning codependency.  In part one, I talked about the high price we pay for over-giving, over-doing, and over-functioning. I also share my personal and professional experiences with it. If you missed it, read it here. In this part, I break down the 6 archetypes of high-functioning codependency and give you tools and strategies you can use to free yourself from it.  When you raise your awareness of these disordered behaviors, you can change them. You do not have to live in the endless exhaustion of high-functioning codependency. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/580

I am so excited for frequent-flyer guest, Ross Rosenberg, to be back on the show. Ross is an expert in pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and attachment trauma. He is also the CEO of the Self Love Recovery Institute.  We cover so much: Ross's definition of codependency, why codependents and narcissists are attracted to one another, how to detach from a narc (Ross's technique is called "observe, don't absorb"), why narcissists try to induce conversations, love bombing, and so much more. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/579

Are you endlessly giving and doing for all the people all the time? Do people come to you when they need something because they know you’ll get it done, no matter what? If you are nodding your head, you might just be a high-functioning codependent, and this episode is for you. I am covering what high-functioning codependency is, the considerable cost of being a high-functioning codependent (on you, your relationships, and others), and sharing my own experiences with these disordered relational behaviors– both personally and professionally. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/578