The Terri Cole Show

I am so excited to have my pal, bestselling author and personal finance expert, Farnoosh Torabi, on the show.  We are talking about her new book, A Healthy State of Panic: Follow Your Fears to Build Wealth, Crush Your Career, and Win At Life, which Newsweek chose as a "Best Book of 2023." I don't know about you, but the title definitely resonates with me! In this conversation, Farnoosh shares how she shifted from being limited by fear to constructively responding to fear. She also offers a few tips you can use if you struggle with fear around money and reveals what we can learn from fear if we allow it a chance. Read the show notes at terricole.com/577

Are there couples in your life who make you think, what do they know that I don’t know? They seem so happy! How do they do it? Or do you see couples in movies or TV and wonder, does the kind of love they have exist, and if it does, where can I find it? If you think other people have love all figured out and you aren’t sure how to figure it out yourself, this episode is for you.  I am sharing my personal 20 tips for curating, creating, and attracting epic love in your life whether you are single OR partnered! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/576

I am so excited to have award-winning TV host and cook, Daphne Oz, on the show. Daphne and I have known each other for over a decade and it has been so fun to watch her career flourish. I love watching her cooking and makeup tutorials on Instagram, too.  If you love Daphne's recipes, I think you'll enjoy this girlfriend jam because we go much deeper into Daphne's food philosophy, the childhood experiences that shaped who she is today, how she navigated the trial-by-fire of a college book tour and being a co-host on The Chew in her 20s, and so much more. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/575

Do you think true love is never having to say you are sorry? Do you think boundaries are unnecessary with real love? How do you feel about unconditional love? Do you believe it exists? Or that it is something to aspire to? Many of us were indoctrinated to believe in these myths about love, but from my 25 years as a psychotherapist and my own experience, I believe real, epic, healthy, and amazing love is boundaried and conditional. Read on to discover why. I also cover questions you can ask to unearth your downloaded blueprint around unconditional love and I’m sharing some concrete steps you can take toward better, healthier love in your relationships. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/575

I am so excited to welcome my pal and brilliant clinician, Dr. Mariel Buqué, to the show! Her new book, Break the Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma is a salve the world needs right now (in my opinion), and I am so grateful for the wisdom she shared in this conversation.  We talked about how to start to heal intergenerational trauma, what it looks like, what causes it, and so much more.  If you have, or suspect you have been affected by intergenerational trauma, you'll want to watch this. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/573

Do you undervalue your accomplishments? Do you brush off compliments about your work? Do you use self-effacing humor to put yourself down before anyone else can? If you answered “yes,” let me ask you this: How do you feel about your own worthiness? From your emails and comments, I know many of you struggle with self-worth. If this is you, you are not alone, and I invite you to read on as this episode is all about worthiness. I cover why many of us feel unworthy, my own experience with worthiness, and how you can begin to feel more worthy in your life, because you deserve it. Read the show notes for today's

I am so excited to have my pal (and one-half of the Astrotwins), Ophira Edut, back on the show to talk about horoscopes for 2024. Ophira explains the big themes for next year and also breaks down what each sign can expect to see in the first and second half of the year. (Mine is pretty accurate

How do you feel about change? Do you resist it? Are you afraid of it? Or are you someone who sees new possibilities in change? If your relationship with change is not where you want it to be, this episode is for you. I cover the highs and lows of change, our natural and often ingrained fear of change, and how we can relate to change in a healthy way because it will happen whether we resist or not. Read the show notes for today's episode at http://terricole.com/570

I am thrilled to have my pal, actress and author Josie Bissett, on the show today! Josie and I recently reconnected and in this girlfriend jam, we reminisce about our days in and around Hollywood and Josie's time on Melrose Place. We also chat about what Josie has been up to- her children's books, getting back into acting, and working on better boundaries.  I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did! P.S. Josie is offering personalized, signed copies of her award-winning children’s book, the 'Tickle Monster Laughter Kit.' This could be a perfect gift for your little ones or a cherished addition to your family’s bookshelf. To make one of these special copies yours, simply send an email to ticklemonsterbook@gmail.com. They’ll email back with more details and instructions. You can also go to www.josiebissett.com to buy an unsigned copy of Tickle Monster Laughter Kit. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/569

Do you feel like nothing ever works out for you? Like you never get what you want? Like good things only happen to other people, but not you? Do you often blame other people for your unhappiness? If any of this resonates, listen in, because this episode is all about a powerful perspective shift you can use to move from an unempowered state of mind to a much more empowered place. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/568

I am thrilled to be joined today by none other than the Supernanny herself, parenting expert Jo Frost.  We covered so much in this episode, from Jo's thoughts on kids having phones and being on social media, to the importance of raising awareness of anaphylaxis, and the biggest struggles families are facing right now.  I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/567

Are there particular people at family, work, or friend gatherings you would rather avoid? Is it painful to interact with them because they ask intrusive questions or love to complain? Or do you simply find social gatherings tricky to navigate? Whether you are attending family gatherings, friend celebrations, or holiday work parties, in this episode I am giving you a few ways to get out of seemingly impossible social situations.  If you feel stuck between not wanting to answer a deeply personal question and not wanting to seem ‘rude,’ I have scripts for you. And if you are tired of people who tell inappropriate jokes or make rude comments, I have you covered there, too.  Ultimately, this is about your right to be selective about whom you share information with and focus on how you want to feel in these situations. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/566

**Trigger Warning** This episode contains a story about gun violence and narcissistic abuse. If this is distressing for you, please skip it! Katre has a phenomenal story of escaping a toxic, narcissistic abusive relationship that highlights the resiliency of the human spirit. She shares how she escaped, what brought her to the moment of needing to get out, and how she healed afterward.  Those of you who have experienced narcissistic abuse may see yourself in Katre's journey. She shares it to help others feel less alone because when you go through something like this, as Katre shared, people in your life may not understand the extent of the abuse. Many of her friends waved off her ex's behavior as emotionally immature.  But Katre was able to leave this relationship in 2018 and has worked on healing in the years since, even becoming a mentor and coach to others. If you can relate to her story, consider joining her Facebook community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1917430661795072/ Read the show notes for toda

What are the stories you tell yourself about the things you want in life? Do you have limiting beliefs, ideas, or thoughts about your capabilities and worthiness? Does it feel safer to long for something than to have it? Many of you have written to me wanting to understand, on a deeper level, what stops you from taking action toward the things you say you want. If any of this rings true for you, read on because I am talking about why many of us find wanting more comfortable than having, and how we can get unstuck and take actions aligned with our desires. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/564

I am thrilled to welcome back my pal Dr. Perpetua Neo. She is an expert in high-functioning, overachieving women, as well as trauma bonding and abusive relationships.  In this conversation, we talk about the realities of trauma bonds, mainstream misunderstandings around therapy speak, and the pitfalls Dr. P sees in her high-functioning clients and what they can do to regulate their brains.  We end with a discussion about respecting our hormones, my experience with perimenopause and menopause, what Dr. P learned about her own cycle, fasting, and more. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/563

Are there people in your life who don’t respect your boundaries? People you can’t talk true around, who use your words against you later? People who don’t support what is best for you? People who take and take, leaving you drained? If you are nodding your head, you might need more discernment when it comes to who has access to you, and how much. In this episode, I am covering what discernment is, why being discerning with the people in our life is important, how to practice discernment, and how discernment can improve the quality of your life and your relationships. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/562

I had so much fun interviewing my pal Dale Moss. You might know Dale from The Bachelorette in 2020, where he got engaged after a few episodes and shook up the season. Dale is also a former NFL wide receiver and is currently exploring his love of storytelling and film by executive producing three docu-series, which he talks about near the end.  We cover his childhood, how the unconditional love he received from his parents influenced how he continued to show up in the world despite being the repeated target of racism, his experience on The Bachelorette, his current relationship, his love for his sister and the Special Olympics, and so much more. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/561

Do you feel frustrated or unsatisfied with life? Do you want more success? More abundance? Are there situations or relationships you wish would change? To be in a better (or different) relationship? Then this episode is for you. I am walking you through the six-step process I personally use to intentionally create what I want in my life on an ongoing basis. These are the same six steps I teach my therapy clients and students. Anyone can follow this process because it is all about harnessing the mind-blowing power of your own intention to create what you want in life with mindfulness (and action!). Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/560

I am so happy to have Rae McDaniel (they/them) on the show. Rae is a non-binary Speaker, Therapist, Certified Sex Therapist, Coach, and Transgender Diversity and Inclusion Educator. They are also the author of Gender Magic, which came out earlier this year. Rae's style of teaching is so accessible and inviting, and we cover their backstory, setting boundaries while staying true to yourself, moving from fear into empowerment, finding chosen family, intimacy and friendships, and so much more. I love following Rae on Instagram because I always learn something from them, and I think you will, too. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/559

Do you have a difficult relationship with your maternal impactor or your mother? Do you suspect your mother is a narcissist?  Then this episode is for you.  One of the most-watched videos on my YouTube channel is about how daughters of narcissistic mothers can survive and thrive. I thought it might be time to update this for those of you just discovering the term ‘narcissist’ and what it might mean to have a narcissistic mother.  We cover the common signs of narcissistic personality disorder and what it is, how having a narcissistic mother may impact your life and your relationships, and ways you can begin to heal. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/558