The Terri Cole Show

Our guest today excels in so many fields: He’s a former pro athlete, podcast host, published author, and father of nine kids. He’s also a respected personal development guide who helps people elevate their experiences and improve the ways that they show up for others.  Today, we’re taking a deep dive into motivation– Both healthy and unhealthy. Kevin shares lessons from his own life, past and present, and we also touch on being mindfully driven rather than recklessly impulsive. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/537

A few weeks ago, Jonah Hill’s ex-girlfriend, Sarah Brady, shared a bunch of text messages he sent her when they were dating. Among them was the above list of “boundaries.” As you can imagine, this stirred up a lot of discussion online.  I fell into a Reddit hole about it and was stunned by the amount of misinformation out there about boundaries. People are truly unaware of the differences between coercion, abuse, effective boundaries, and control, which is what this episode is about.  I also talk about the signs of coercive control to watch for and why the Jonah Hill situation is more manipulative than it may seem. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/536

I am excited to share this conversation I had with fascia expert and Pilates Pro, Lauren Roxburgh. My sister and I were turned onto Lauren's work at the beginning of the pandemic, and I intuitively knew fascia health was the missing link in my wellness. I love stalking Lauren's Instagram page to see what new practices I can integrate into my routine.  This conversation was fascinating as Lauren shares the newest fascia research with us and explains how it has the potential to impact every aspect of our lives. (and bodies!) Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/535

Have you ever wondered when it is appropriate to cut your parents out of your life? Do you feel like you missed out on life because you spent more time focusing on others than yourself? Have you experienced multiple losses and feel overwhelmed with grief? Or have you experienced unacknowledged sibling abuse?  In this Q&A episode, I answer four questions from the community on these topics. Let’s dive in. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/534

I am so happy to have my pal and design expert, Sabrina Soto, back on the show. This conversation is more like a girlfriend jam as Sabrina and I talk about the effect of decluttering on your mental health, past relationship experiences, codependency, boundaries, manifesting, getting out of your comfort zone, and so much more. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/533

Do you walk on eggshells around certain people in your life?  Do you avoid telling your partner or best friend the truth out of fear they’ll disagree or be unhappy with you?  Would you like your relationships to feel safer?  Then this episode on emotional safety is for you. I go over the signs of an unsafe relationship and give you the steps to create more safety in your relationships. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/532

I am so excited to share this conversation with my pal and breathwork expert, Samantha Skelly.  Sam led a 30-minute breathwork session at a peer mastermind we attended earlier this year, and let me tell you, it was profound. She has 14 years of experience in this space and her energy is so amazing.  I invited her on the show to share her journey and explain how breathwork can help us heal trauma and return to our bodies. I hope you enjoy her wisdom as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/529 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered how your relationship with your maternal impactor has impacted you? Do you feel like your relationship with your mother/mother figure is ‘off’? Or do you find yourself longing for a different relationship with her altogether?  Then this episode is for you. I cover the seven archetypes of mothering and give you deep-dive questions to determine which archetype you experienced and whether you have a mother wound. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/528 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am so grateful to Dr. Anne Peled for coming on the show to share her story and expertise on breast cancer. She explains how to do a self-exam at home, tells us the warning signs to be aware of, shares what we can do to reduce our risk of breast cancer, and so much more. Dr. Peled is a breast cancer survivor AND is pioneering an entirely new way of treating breast cancer with a combined mastectomy and reconstruction technique that preserves the nipple, skin, and sensation.  I hope you learn something from what Dr. Peled shares in this conversation. I know I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/527 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When something bad happens to your partner, does it feel like it’s happening to you, too? Are you compelled to fix what you see as the ‘problems’ in their life?  Do you find areas in which they can improve to help them become ‘better’?  Do you feel like it is your job to prevent them from getting into bad situations?  If you are nodding your head, you might be in a codependent relationship.  In this episode, I break down what codependency is and give you powerful questions you can answer to gain clarity about your codependent behaviors (which is the first step to healing). Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/526 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am so thrilled to have my pal Rachel Luna on the show to talk all about her new book, Permission to Offend: The Compassionate Guide for Living Unfiltered and Unafraid. Doesn't that sound like something we all need?! We chat about how to have hard conversations, handle judgment and rejection, how Rachel's life experience informed her decision to write this book, figuring out who you are and what you believe, and so much more. Read the show notes for today's episode at http://terricole.com/525 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am breaking down why it is hard for us to talk true (as I like to say), where we learn to dishonor how we feel or what we want, the consequences of staying silent, and the steps you can take to be more authentically known by the people in your life. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/524 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am so excited to have Scott Jeffrey Miller on the show to talk about his new book, The Ultimate Guide to Great Mentorship: 13 Roles to Making a True Impact. I love Scott's take on mentorship and found our discussion fascinating.  Whether you are a mentor, want to be one, want to find one, or have been one, Scott has a lot of wisdom to share on the subject. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/523 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you ever surprised by your reactions or feelings?  Does it ever feel like you get hit by a bus of your own emotions, where you’re left wondering what the hell was that about? If you have experienced this, you are not alone.  Emotional reactions can seem kind of mysterious, and understanding our own emotional needs can be challenging.  And becoming aware of your emotional needs allows you to communicate them and get them met. This leads to more fulfilling relationships, which is why today’s episode is all about the steps you can take to uncover your emotional needs.  I walk you through a process of understanding and discovering your emotional needs and suggest what you can do when you discover the unmet needs you have in your life right now.  Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/522 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am so excited to have my pal, Tamsen Fadal, on the show to talk about all things mid-life: aging, botox, menopause, divorce, re-marriage, authenticity, and so much more. I've followed Tamsen's Instagram obsessively over the last two years and I love her take on these topics. I also appreciate how open she is about her experiences. If you like what you hear, be sure to check out her podcast, Coming Up Next: Honest Conversations on Midlife, Menopause and Embracing Change: tamsenfadal.com/podcast. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/521 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you’re on vacation, do you actually take time off and unplug? Or do you anxiously check your phone, afraid you’ll hear from work? Worse, do you come back from a vacation feeling like you still need a vacation because you’re exhausted? It is time to take a real vacation – without work – so you can feel rested and restored instead of frazzled and drained. Below, you will find tips to help you create boundaries on vacation– because I see you, fellow recovering workaholics! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/520 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am thrilled to have my pal Dr. Daniel Amen back on the show for a third time to talk about his brand new book, Change Your Brain Every Day. Vic and I have been working through this book - and let me tell you, it’s so accessible, no matter how busy you are! In this conversation, Dr. Amen gives us some daily habits we can begin for better brain health, and offers his unique perspective on why brain health is just as important as physical health. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/519 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Were you raised in a family with silent agreements?  Were there topics you knew you could not discuss with your parental impactors?  Did big fights or upsetting events happen only for everyone to wake up the following day and pretend they didn’t?  Or do you have unexpressed expectations for your partner, family, or friends and feel disappointed when they fail to meet them?  Silent agreements or expectations are often dysfunctional, which is why, in this episode, I am breaking down the dangers of this behavior and where it comes from. I am also giving you questions to understand where you have silent agreements in your life so you can move to expressed or clean agreements. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/518 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's guest, Mimi Bouchard, is the CEO and Founder of the modern meditation app, Superhuman. As Mimi tells us, she created this app after having the idea to record and listen to 'future self' meditations on the go, which quickly changed her life. Her core belief is if you can visualize the future you want, you can create it. I hope you find this conversation as inspiring as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/517 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you a generous giver in relationships?  Do you give from your heart? From a place of love?  Or are you a little more tit-for-tat, where you expect something specific in return for giving?  If you answered yes to any of these, or you recognize these patterns in your relationship, this episode is for you. I break down the difference between relational unions (more heart-centered) and transactional unions (more quid pro quo).  I also give you steps to become more balanced between the two, because you do not want the pendulum to swing too far in either direction. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/516 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices