The Terri Cole Show

I am so excited to introduce you to today's guest, Sarah Jenks, an ordained Priestess who, like so many of us, used to be a people-pleaser and codependent. Sarah and I have traveled the same circles for years, yet this is the first time I actually got to speak to her.  She is an expert in the Sacred Feminine and I found our conversation fascinating. You'll learn how to bring more ceremony into your life, how Sarah defines Sacred Femininity, and so much more. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/515 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does Father’s Day bring up hard feelings for you?  Does it give you anxiety because it feels like you can’t escape the endless promotions for Father’s Day?  Or does it leave you longing for a different (or any) relationship with your father?  If so, this episode is for you. I talk about my difficult journey with my father, how to handle grief around Father’s Day, and alternate ways to ‘manage’ the day to make it less difficult. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/514 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am so happy to have my new pal, award-winning copywriter and new author, Laura Belgray, on the show to talk about her experience writing her first book, how it came about, feeling behind in all aspects of life, her unique business tips, and work boundaries! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/513 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you a worrier?  Are you constantly thinking of all the things that could go wrong?  Or do you seek to control situations outside of your control?  If you answered yes, this episode is for you, my friend. I am breaking down what it means to be a worrier, the high cost of worrying, how to know when worry is excessive, and giving you steps you can act on right now to worry less and live more in the present moment. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/512 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's guest, therapist, and author, Minaa B., is an amazing original thinker. I first came across her work on Instagram, and I was blown away by how precise she is with her words and finding the intersection of our humanness. I love her content and wanted to have her on the show to talk about her new book, Owning Our Struggles: A Path to Healing and Finding Community in a Broken World. We also chat about boundaries and Minaa describes how she deals with pushback against having her phone on "do not disturb."  I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I enjoyed having it. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/511 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you feel about change?  Does it make you anxious? Nervous? Uncomfortable? Do you tend to want things to stay the same? Think about how you might feel if your favorite shampoo was discontinued, your favorite grocery shop closed, or someone took “your spot” in a gym or yoga class.  In this episode, I am talking about how to navigate change, growth, and transformation, and where grief fits into this process. We have to grieve the way things were to embrace how things are. This is true even when we experience changes we desire, like getting married, buying a home, or relocating for a dream job. We still need to mourn the loss of how our life used to be. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/510 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am so excited to have my pal and licensed marriage and family therapist, Vienna Pharaon, on the show to talk about her new book, The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate The Way We Live & Love. We take a deep dive into original injuries: how you can identify yours, the 5 types of wounds, the wounds each of us experienced, what inspired Vienna to write this book, and so much more. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/509 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you ever wonder why setting boundaries feels like a struggle? Why it is difficult to speak up when you have something to say?  Or why it can feel impossible to set a limit when you don’t want to do something?  If you are nodding your head, this episode is for you. I am giving you the top five boundary blocks I have seen in my 25+ years as a psychotherapist and suggesting ways to overcome them. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/508 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you struggled with "mom guilt"?  Do you find yourself emotionally activated by certain things your child does? Or do you feel like being a mother is harder for you than it is for others? (Especially when you look on social and find picture-perfect families?) Then this interview with Zoe Blaskey, host of The Motherkind Podcast and a transformational coach, is for you. Zoe has first-hand knowledge of how difficult it is to navigate modern motherhood and offers insight and wisdom on how to give ourselves more grace and compassion. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever experienced “mom guilt”? Do you try to get it all done and then feel like you’re failing in one area or another (or all of them)?  Does it feel like everything will fall apart if you take five minutes for yourself? If you are nodding your head, you are not alone. “Mom guilt” is a common experience. But as I’ve seen with many therapy clients, healthy boundaries can help mitigate this experience. It is time to stop feeling bad about being human (which is really what “mom guilt” is about). In this episode, I give you the top five essential boundaries for empowered motherhood to lessen mom guilt. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/506 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It was a joy to have Kassandra Reinhardt on the show to discuss being an online creator, finding "balance" within that, being exactly where we are supposed to be, inner elder work, the struggle with people-pleasing, aging, and so much more.  Yoga With Kassandra is one of my fave yoga channels. Her 10-minute morning routines are perfect if you're busy and don't have time for a longer practice. Give her channel a look! Read the show notes for this episode at terricole.com/505 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, I am sharing my mental wellness journey publicly for the first time.  You’ll discover why I began therapy at age 19, why I left my career as a talent agent, and how I discovered my dharma in psychotherapy. If you have ever wondered why I am passionate about vibrant mental health or why I put out tons of free content, you will find your answer in this episode.  And if my mission aligns with your values, near the end, you’ll find an invitation to help me create a movement to make mental health information more readily accessible to others. ♥️ Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/504 Sign up for the membership I mentioned in today's episode at the special founders' price of $11/month here: terricole.com/member Plus, I'm offering a free live training starting May 16! Get more info at terricole.com/training Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am thrilled to have Nedra Tawwab, best-selling author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace, on the show to chat about her new book, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships. Because let's be honest, most of us come from dysfunctional families in one way or another.  Nedra and I start by talking about boundaries and then move into what a dysfunctional family is or could look like, the types of dysfunction Nedra sees most often, what you can do about family dysfunction, codependency in family, and the pressures we face when we are the first to break a dysfunctional cycle within a family.  I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/503 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever left a doctor’s appointment feeling confused, dismissed, or completely misunderstood?  Do you find it challenging to communicate your preferences with medical professionals?  Or are you at a loss for how to advocate for yourself to receive adequate healthcare?  If you’ve had these experiences, this episode on creating healthy, effective boundaries with the medical community is for you. By the end, you will know the best way to prepare for a doctor’s appointment and when it might be a good time to ditch your doc.  I am passionate about medical boundaries because of my experience with a cancer diagnosis many years ago. It is at the forefront of my mind again because many of you are writing in about perimenopause and menopause and dealing with dismissive doctors. I wanted to give you some of my hard-earned wisdom because boundaries have everything to do with this.  (Disclaimer: I am not an MD, so this information is not medical advice. I am sharing my story with you from a patient experience. Alway

Laura Danger is one of my favorite people to follow on Instagram (@thatdarnchat). Her whole commentary on emotional labor and learned or weaponized incompetence is so refreshing and on point. She breaks down the negative stereotypes of men and women in society in an easy-to-understand way, too.  I invited Laura on the show to chat more about creating equity at home, and she shares some great insights and solutions in this conversation. I hope you enjoy it as much as I enjoyed having it. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/501 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you find yourself exploding when you finally set boundaries because you waited too long to communicate them? Is it difficult for you to assert your preferences and desires? Or does it feel like you can’t control your tone of voice or the energy you bring to a boundary conversation?  If this resonates, you are not alone. Many of my clients and students experience these challenges. And while it might feel like setting boundaries is ineffective right now, this does not have to be where your boundary journey begins and ends.  Because I see this so often, this entire episode is about bringing the appropriate tone and body language to the boundary-setting process. You’ll also get proactive boundary success steps to ensure your tone and body language match what you say and how you want it to be received. Read the show notes for this episode at terricole.com/500 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wanted to do something "big and scary" in your life? Like become an actor? Get your Ph.D? Change careers? Write a book? Then this episode is for you. Today's guest is Steven Pressfield, author of Put Your Ass Where Your Heart Wants To Be, which is a step-by-step guide to outsmarting your own resistance and do what you really want to do in life. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/499 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you have a lot of responsibility as a child? Did you consistently make dinner for younger kids, babysit, clean the house, take care of a sick or compromised parent, or pick up siblings from school? If you handled adult responsibilities like these as a child, this episode is for you. I am breaking down the causes of parentification, the long-term impact of child parentification, and the steps you can take to begin to heal. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/498 This episode is sponsored by Green Chef. Go to GreenChef.com/terri60 and use code terri60 to get 60% off plus free shipping! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does your stuff own you? Does your house actually function well for you? Or do you ignore some cluttered rooms or spaces because they fill you with a sense of overwhelm? If any of this resonates, check out my conversation with @tracy_mccubbin on how to become more intentional with the things we own. Tracy has been in the decluttering biz for over 15 years and has amazing tips and insights for us.

Do you minimize your negative past experiences?  Or do you have selective memory, where you only remember the good from a painful relationship or time in your life? Almost like hyper-positivity with past experiences? Do you feel tempted to return to these toxic relationships or experiences? If you’re nodding your head, you are not alone. I see this in many of my therapy clients, and I figured if it is happening with them, maybe you are experiencing this, too.  In this episode, I am talking about euphoric recall – what it is, why it’s dangerous, and how to protect yourself from falling back into old, toxic patterns or relationships. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/496 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices