The Terri Cole Show

Today's guest is Rainier Wylde, a man who has lived many lives, from managing a Fortune 500 company, to becoming a psychotherapist, to helping people navigate the human soul.  I found Rainier on Instagram - what he wrote about resonated so much that I invited him on the show. We largely talk about the messiness of being human -- dating unavailable people, our shadow selves, infidelity, grief, and so much more.  Rainier has such a gentle soul, and I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/495 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode contains information about (gun) violence which may be triggering to survivors. Do you think something good can come from a traumatic experience?  Or do you feel like awful things simply happen to us, and nothing productive comes from them?  I explore these questions in today’s episode on post-traumatic growth. I talk about the potential for positive experiences after traumatic events, and I share what I have witnessed as a psychotherapist and in the aftermath of my own traumatic experiences. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/494 This episode is sponsored by Green Chef. Go to GreenChef.com/terri60 and use code terri60 to get 60% off plus free shipping. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you struggle with work/life harmony? Could you use a little more of it? Then today's interview with Tina Wells is for you. She is the author of The Elevation Approach: Harness the Power of Work-Life Harmony to Unlock Your Creativity, Cultivate Joy, and Reach Your Biggest Goals.  We chat about our experiences with burnout, workaholism, and the importance of filling up your own cup. I hope you enjoy this conversation with Tina as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/493 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do certain people, conversations, or situations provoke an amplified response from you?  Do you find yourself extremely upset by specific TV or movie content? Or do you get really bothered when people ask you about particular topics?  If you have noticed these somewhat “disproportionate” reactions in yourself, today’s episode on emotional triggers is for you.  I am breaking down the nature of emotional triggers, walking you through a process of decoding what these triggers might mean for you, and giving you action steps you can take to protect yourself. Synbiotic+ and Ritual are here to celebrate, not hide, your insides. There’s no more shame in your gut game. That’s why Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off during your first 3 months. Visit ritual.com/TERRI to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/492 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's guest is narcissistic abuse expert and clinical psychologist, Dr. Jaime Zuckerman, better known as Dr. Z on Instagram (@dr.z_psychologist).  We dive deep into narcissism and explore the differences between narcissistic tendencies and Narcissistic Personality Disorder, give you red flags to watch out for when dating so you can steer clear of narcissists, and share our insights on narcissism from many, many years with clients.  Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/491 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever marveled at how some people turn heads simply by entering a room? Or at how easily some people set boundaries and stand firm?  Or at how others freely speak their mind without the worry of judgment? These are all examples of real self-confidence, and in today’s episode, I am talking about what self-confidence is, where it comes from, what cuts it down, and five simple ways you can build more self-confidence.  Many people think we are either born with confidence or we aren’t. While we are born extroverted or introverted, no matter how you interact in the world, self-confidence is something you can build, and we can always build more of it.  Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/490 This episode is sponsored by Green Chef. Go to GreenChef.com/terri60 and use code terri60 to get 60% off plus free shipping. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am so excited to have my pal, Chela Davison, on the show to share her thoughts and observations on the "quiet quitting" movement. We dive deep into themes like living seasonally, pushing back against workaholism, figuring out our identity outside of work, and why working constantly simply isn't sustainable. We explore what it might be like to do "slow business," too.  Chela is an original thinker and I enjoyed her take on this so much. I hope you do, too. As we said during our conversation, share your thoughts with us below! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/489 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you find yourself ruminating on past decisions, actions, or conversations? How much time do you spend regretting these past experiences? If the answer is more time than I would like, then this episode is for you. I am covering why we hold onto regrets, the high cost of regret, and why we should let regrets go. Most importantly, you will learn how to let go of your regrets with a five-step reflection exercise. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/488 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's guest is Mara Glatzel, MSW, author of the brand new book, Needy: How To Advocate For Your Needs and Claim Your Sovereignty. Needy is a powerful and tender guide to help us grow from self-abandonment to self-partnership, radical self-care, and self-advocacy.  I had so much fun doing a deep dive into self-care, self-abandonment, and self-advocacy with Mara. Everything she says is so on-point. I hope you enjoy our conversation as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/487 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you have “repeat boundary offenders” in your life? People who keep doing the thing they said they wouldn’t do, even though it upsets you?  Are you tired of boundary violations, but don’t know how to get through to boundary bullies?  If you are nodding your head yes, this episode is for you I am talking all about how to create appropriate consequences for boundary violations and how to communicate these violations effectively to the people in your life. It’s time to put a stop to this groundhog day of frustration, pain, and suffering and to be understood.  Of course, setting consequences doesn’t guarantee someone will respect our boundaries, but effective communication (as opposed to no communication) gives them a chance to. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/486 This episode is sponsored by Third Love. Upgrade your bra today and get 20% off your first order today at thirdlove.com/TERRICOLE. That’s 20% off your first order today at thirdlove.com/TERRICOLE. Learn more about your ad choi

Today's guest is none other than best-selling author and psychologist, Dr. Shefali. Her new book, The Parenting Map, and this conversation are for anyone raising a kid in this scary social media-driven environment.  We dive into the walls that parents hit with their children, what to do if your child is "acting out," and what to do about the pressure you might feel to raise a "perfect" child. Dr. Shefali has such amazing insights into parenting and I hope you enjoy this conversation with her as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/485 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you heard the terms “reactive abuse” or “reactive anger” making the rounds on social media? Are you wondering what the heck it means?  Are you curious if passive-aggressive anger factors into this?  Or maybe you want to know: can anger ever be healthy? I have received a number of emails asking me to clarify all of these terms, so in today’s episode, I break down what reactive abuse/reactive anger is, what passive-aggressive anger is, and what healthy anger might look like.  If your relationship with anger has been tenuous at best, or if you are seeking clarity on an abusive situation, this episode is for you. This episode is sponsored by Ritual. There’s no more shame in your gut game. That’s why Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off during your first 3 months. Visit ritual.com/TERRI  Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/484 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's guest is Amy Porterfield, host of the popular podcast Online Marketing Made Easy and my personal teacher from when I transitioned into online business! Amy's work is incredibly accessible and easy to follow, and... Her new book, Two Weeks Notice: Find the Course to Quit Your Job, Make More Money, Work Where You Want, and Change the World, has *just* been released. To celebrate, we're talking all about entrepreneurship, Amy's journey into the online business world, and how you can become your own boss, too. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/483 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does the word “manifest” sound like magical thinking to you?  Or does it remind you of the movie, The Secret, where all you need to do is think about something, and *poof,* it appears right in front of you?  Or perhaps “visualizing” what you want has never made sense to you in the first place. I get it. Even though I teach people how to get what they want in life, I stay away from the word “manifesting” because I feel like it has been used and abused.  If you feel the same and want to know how to take real steps toward getting what you want in life, with real results, this episode is for you. Inside, you’ll find a simple three-step process for going after and getting what you want in life. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/482 This episode is sponsored by Green Chef. Go to greenchef.com/terri60 and use code terri60 to get 60% off plus free shipping. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I would love to introduce you to the podcast Humble & Hungry with Natalie Puche. Grab your cheeseboard and favorite bottle of wine, Natalie is back! Embark on a new journey with her as she juggles motherhood, keeping up with her chef fiancé in the kitchen, and blind-fully navigating through her 30’s the only way she knows best, humble and hopefully not hangry. Listen on Apple Podcasts & Spotify Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's guest is Kimberly Williams-Paisley, someone I met decades ago when I was a talent agent. We reconnected a few years ago, but it has been so fun to watch her flourish. What's amazing about Kimberly is how down-to-earth she is all these years later. She is so giving and her joy is infectious.  She joined me on the show to talk about her journey with her mom, who was diagnosed with Primary Progressive Aphasia, a rare type of dementia. Kimberly candidly shares her family's struggles and how she embraced the changes in her mother despite the challenges they all faced.  We also chat a bit about Kimberly's acting career and how being famous affected her. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I enjoyed having it. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/481 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are your female friendships challenging? Have you struggled to find the right crew? Have you ever needed to “break up” with one of your female friends?  Or have you gone into therapy because of a female friendship? If this resonates, you are not alone. In my 25 years as a psychotherapist, I can’t even begin to tell you how many women have experienced these exact things. The pain and suffering of having not-so-great female friends landed a number of them in therapy long before any romantic relationship.  But female friendships don’t have to be problematic. In today’s episode, I’m sharing the benefits of healthy female friendships, what they look like, and how to create them. I also share my own experience with female friendships and why I couldn’t live happily without my nearest and dearest pals. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/480 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's guest, Amberly Lago, has an inspiring, phenomenal tale of overcoming traumatic experiences, and is the best-selling author of “True Grit and Grace.”  We talked about all the things, from her tremendous motorcycle accident, the pain she still lives with, getting sober, and how her life changed.  I really love her message because it's about how we can build our resiliency muscle one step at a time. I hope this interview leaves you as inspired as it left me. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/479 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does Valentine’s Day bum you out? Maybe you are in a relationship and your partner puts the onus on you to make plans.  Or maybe you do the same thing every year and it’s getting stale.  And, if you are not in a relationship, you might feel excluded from the day altogether thanks to every piece of media being centered on relationships.  I say it’s time to take back Valentine’s Day and make it into something meaningful, fun, exciting, and inclusive.  To help you do that, today’s episode includes a beautiful three-step ritual you can do to celebrate yourself this Valentine’s Day, whether you are single, partnered, or something else. Ready to make this day a self-love experience? Let’s dive in. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/478 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I was a gym person pre-pandemic, but thanks to today's guest, Michelle Briehler, I find myself loving the ease and convenience of at-home workouts. Michelle is a YouTube workout leader and certified health and life coach who has helped thousands of people, including my sister and I, stay fit and feel good about themselves.  In this conversation, Michelle answers the questions I've received from you guys on health and wellness, we chat about our love of trampolines, and Michelle gives some quick tips on how to make changes to live a healthier lifestyle. Read the show notes for this episode at terricole.com/477 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices