Love Life With Matthew Hussey

One of the biggest frustrations about red flags is that they can be filtered out by our rose-colored glasses, only allowing us to see them clearly in hindsight. But there are ways to appropriately respond to red flags in early dating (if you can spot them), and in this episode, I show you one way to “crack the code” . . . That is, of course, to always have a North Star. This week, I walk through what, exactly, a North Star is, why it’s so important to have in order to be successful in dating, and how to choose one . . . --- Design Your North Star With Men & Be Confident in Every Decision. Claim Your Early Bird Discount for The Virtual Retreat at MHVirtualRetreat.com --- Follow Matt on Insta: @thematthewhussey --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com

Don't "jump the gun" and get ahead of yourself just because you meet someone you like. If you fall hard for people too early, this message from Matt is for you... --- Join our Love Life Club and become a VIP member where you'll get access to live coaching sessions and our community of thousands of amazing women. Go to ASKMH.com and sign up today. --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com --- ►► FREE guide to download: “3 Secrets To Love” → 3SecretsToLove.com

Want to know what he's really thinking on a first date? What do men worry about when looking for love? Matt and Stephen asked thousands of men in our audience about their BIGGEST insecurities and the answers were pretty amazing. If you want a real eye-opening window into male fears and his psychology in dating, you're going to love this.  ---  Join our Love Life Club and become a VIP member where you'll get access to live coaching sessions and our community of thousands of amazing women. Go to ASKMH.com and sign up today.  ---  Follow Matt @thematthewhussey  Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey  ---  Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com  ---  ►► FREE guide to download: “3 Secrets To Love” → 3SecretsToLove.com 

So, this wasn't the episode we planned to release this week. But an online conversation turned into something so unexpected that we scrapped the original plan and recorded something new, because I couldn't wait to talk about it. I asked men about their specific insecurities when it comes to early dating. And what we got back was more vulnerable and real than anyone expected. Not only that, but the women's responses to the men's candid comments were beautiful. The incredible responses also brought up some themes, which I decided to take closer look at in this episode. These include: - Men's top insecurities, including how they feel insecure about being insecure - Helpful ways to validate our partner if they feel insecure - How to manage our feelings when the insecurity we see in someone else reminds us of our own insecurities. This episode is all about bravery and kindness, and my goal is that by the end of it, you will understand and be able to relate to men a little better. Your coach, Matt --- Join our Love

Ever felt let down from someone who promised to call but never did? Listen to this clip of Matt live coaching on how to move on when you feel disappointed from ghosting and build your confidence back today. --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback at podcast@matthewhussey.com --- Join our Love.Life Club and become a VIP member where you'll get access to live coaching sessions and our community of thousands of amazing women. Go to ASKMH.com and sign up today. --- Follow Matt on Instagram @thematthewhussey --- ►► FREE guide to download: “3 Secrets To Love” → 3SecretsToLove.com

Is it too picky to want to date who shares similar qualities to you? And when should you be more open-minded about who you choose a relationship with? Join Matt and Stephen to talk about pickiness, standards, and mindsets that can make finding love harder. --- Download your FREE guide at 9Texts.com  --- Follow Matt @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com

When you’re dating in 2022, you can almost be sure that the person in front of you on that first date is dating multiple people at the same time. This omnipresent truth can make you nervous as you so desperately want to stand out from the crowd. The truth is, we all want so badly to be unforgettable on a date . . . but actually making that happen can feel tricky. In the pursuit of “making someone like us,” we may give in to the knee-jerk reaction of trying to impress them, or worse . . . people please. Even though we told ourselves we’d be chill and genuine, we suddenly find ourselves working our most spectacular moments into conversation, hoping they’ll see us for the treasure we are. Or we get so nervous that our walls go up and we lose all warmth and become sarcastic and cutting instead. These performances will often have us showcasing the more insecure sides of ourselves, taking the focus away from the purpose of being on that date in the first place: connection. But luckily, truly connecting—and making y

Do you ever find yourself getting attracted to people who are unavailable (emotionally or otherwise)? Treat you poorly? Or simply aren’t interested in you? Why does this happen? Why do we conveniently keep getting attracted to the least convenient people? It can be deeply frustrating, especially when there might be someone who does like us but who we just don’t want. In this video, I explain two fundamental reasons why this keeps happening. At the end of this video, I give you a practical “mind trick” you can do on yourself to change this... Learn the 2 mistakes that keep you from meeting the right person... --- Let's Create Magic in Your Life, Together. Join Me In-Person for the Return of The Matthew Hussey Retreat (May 30th - June 5th) → http://www.MHRetreat.com --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com --- ►► FREE guide to download: “3 Secrets To Love” → 3SecretsToLove.com

It’s very common that we hear from women who say “men are intimidated by me!” But what causes this? Is it male insecurity? Do men instinctively get turned off by a woman’s success, income, or assertiveness? In this episode, Matt and Stephen sit down to talk about how this happens, what it means for our dating lives, and the dating dynamics between men and women. --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com

Do you get nervous that you’re not good enough? Feel a deep inner worry that you’re a “fraud” waiting to get found out? This is called “Imposter Syndrome”, and it’s a common trap that can make us live with SO much unnecessary anxiety and it holds us back from opportunities. In this clip, Matt explains how to defeat imposter syndrome with a simple mindset reframe. --- Let's Create Magic in Your Life, Together. Join Me In-Person for the Return of The Matthew Hussey Retreat (May 30th - June 5th) → http://www.MHRetreat.com --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com --- ►► FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.SayThisToHim.com

When it comes to sex, some of us have very specific ideas about what it should be like in a relationship. There’s the “sexual destiny” mindset, which says that sex should be amazing from the start and is entirely about natural chemistry. Then there’s the “sexual growth” mindset, which says that sex can improve over time and couples can work out sexual differences. In this episode, Matt and Stephen discuss the difference between these mindsets and what they mean for a potential relationship. --- Let's Create Magic in Your Life, Together. Join Me In-Person for the Return of The Matthew Hussey Retreat (May 30th - June 5th) → http://www.MHRetreat.com --- Follow Matt @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com

When a relationship with someone we had strong feelings for (or even loved) ends, we tend to get overwhelmed with emotions. Whether we were with them for a short period of time or in a long, committed relationship, these feelings are universal. They can come in the form of raw heartbreak, the feeling that we’ve lost control over our happiness, a paralyzing fear that they might move on, an overwhelming desperation to get them back, or simply the pain of missing someone who used to be a constant in our life. The trouble is, when heartbreak, control, fear, desperation, or pain are at the wheel, the desire to make ourselves feel better becomes insatiable and this will in turn start to dictate how we conduct ourselves. The solution? Setting yourself a goal. Perhaps you’ve heard of the “No Contact Rule” but don’t know exactly what it entails, or maybe it sounds a little too counterintuitive for how you feel right now, especially if you’re holding out hope that you could still get back together . . . Well, I’m here

Has this ever happened to you? You’re on a first date... and... He’s charming, handsome, and you feel like you have chemistry… But at the end of the night… he doesn’t ask for a second date (nevermind a third or fourth). If this has happened to you (or keeps happening), you’re likely missing one of the two essential things that make him reach across the table and say: “I’d really like to see you again.” In this clip, I tell you EXACTLY what to say so that he’ll ask you out again (and again, and again)... (You might be surprised at how simple this is AND how often you’re skipping this step when you’re interacting with a guy you like, especially in the early stages of dating...) It’s genuinely crazy to me how obvious the phrase in this video is, how simple it would be for people to say, how many more second dates it would get them… and yet, they still aren’t doing it. I’m excited to read your thoughts in the comments. --- Let's Create Magic in Your Life, Together. Join Me In-Person for the Return of The Matthew

What do you do if you feel a special connection, but he keeps you waiting on the big question of commitment? In a spontaneous Instagram live, Matt recently coached a follower who was struggling with this exact dilemma. If you’re sick of sitting in the “waiting room” and hoping for something to change, make sure you listen to this message. --- Let's Create Magic in Your Life, Together. Join Me In-Person for the Return of The Matthew Hussey Retreat (May 30th - June 5th) → http://www.MHRetreat.com --- Follow Matt @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey --- FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” http://www.9texts.com FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” http://www.SayThisToHim.com --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com

Few things can match the heady exhilaration of dating someone and building momentum through regular texting and a sense of closeness. But what about when the texting on their end is . . . kind of slow and intermittent . . . where there are big gaps in your text exchanges that leave you feeling unsure as to where, exactly, you stand with that person? Feeling this way might even lead you to start analyzing their relationship with their phone the next time you’re with them, looking for clues as to whether their sporadic phone usage is consistent in their life or reserved just for you. At some point, they might’ve even shared a generic line with you like, “I’m so rubbish with my phone,” or “I’m really bad at replying to people!” But is this really true? In this week’s video, I not only answer these questions, but I dig into a really common mistake people make in this area. --- Let's Create Magic in Your Life, Together. Join Me In-Person for the Return of The Matthew Hussey Retreat (May 30th - June 5th) → http://w

What should you look for BEFORE you even enter into a new relationship, to figure out if your attachment styles are compatible? Having a reliable and steady partner may not get as much attention as other “sexier” attributes, but it really is a beautiful thing. Knowing you can depend on someone romantically, physically, and emotionally can draw you even closer together—strengthening your growing bond. In this episode, Matt explains what it takes to avoid codependency and have the kind of healthy partnership that means you both flourish, instead of creating a scenario where you are excusing toxic behaviour. --- Let's Create Magic in Your Life, Together. Join Me In-Person for the Return of The Matthew Hussey Retreat (May 30th - June 5th) → http://www.MHRetreat.com --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com --- ►► FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http:

How do we find the right person if we're always falling for the wrong one? It's a common problem, one that can make you feel doomed to always be in unsatisfying relationship cycles over and over again. In this episode, Matt, Stephen and Jameson talk about why we feel this way towards certain people with negative traits and how we can heal so we align with the right kind of partner for us. --- Let's Create Magic in Your Life, Together. Join Me In-Person for the Return of The Matthew Hussey Retreat (May 30th - June 5th) → http://www.MHRetreat.com --- FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” http://www.9texts.com FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” http://www.SayThisToHim.com --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com

What does it mean when someone you dated—a guy you still like even though things fizzled out—is still engaging with your social media Maybe you went on a few dates, had a connection, and even got physical, but it didn’t quite go anywhere. Yet, strangely, he still seems to be keeping a watchful eye on what you get up to on social media. Immediately, the gears of your mind start turning as you analyze the timing and the meaning of each emoji he sends in response to the photo of your night out with your friends. In this week’s brand-new episode, Matt dives into the psychology behind his actions to reveal exactly what it means when someone likes your social posts (but doesn’t reach out in any other way) . . . . . . and most importantly, what you should do about it. --- Let's Create Magic in Your Life, Together. Join Me In-Person for the Return of The Matthew Hussey Retreat (May 30th - June 5th) → http://www.MHRetreat.com  --- FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” http://www.9texts.com FREE download: “5 Compl

It doesn't matter how many great qualities they have if they have one or more lethal negative traits that make it impossible to get your needs met. In this episode, Matt talks about toxic relationship behaviours to watch out for in every stage of dating. --- Let's Create Magic in Your Life, Together. Join Me In-Person for the Return of The Matthew Hussey Retreat (May 30th - June 5th) → http://www.MHRetreat.com --- Follow Matt @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com

No matter how far we’ve come, there is still a stigma in society for people who choose to remain single for longer than the average person.   And this leads to all kinds of judgment: you must be sad, you must want a partner, you must have a problem…   Matt, Stephen, and Audrey discuss why “single-shaming” persists and how to avoid feeling the pressure from society in influencing your decisions about your romantic life. ---  Let's Create Magic in Your Life, Together Join Me In-Person for the Return of The Matthew Hussey Retreat (May 30th - June 5th) → http://www.MHRetreat.com ---  Follow Matt @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey ---  Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at podcast@matthewhussey.com