Love Life With Matthew Hussey

You find a man sexy…but you don’t want to have sex with him just yet. If you flirt with him, does it make you a tease? In today’s episode of LOVE Life I coach a caller named Lauren who is hesitant to let guys know she is attracted to them because she is saving sex until marriage.  I show her the secret to communicating desire and her standard at the same time so men feel validated while still respecting her boundaries. If you need help pacing your relationship – whether you’re waiting for your honeymoon or your third date – this episode is for you!

Remember that old saying, “You never get a second chance to make a first impression?” It’s corny, but true. Today I’m handing you 5 seemingly obvious - but constantly overlooked - tips to send the message that you’re likeable, capable, and confident the moment you walk into any room, whether it’s for a job interview, an audition, or an important first date.

What do you do if your guy has every quality you want – attractive, funny, smart, loving – but there’s just one thing missing: he’s not satisfying you sexually? You really want to make it work, but how do you improve the situation without crushing his masculinity? I tackle this tough topic in today’s episode, telling you exactly when, how and where to talk to him about sex (hint: it’s not in the bedroom). When done right, your man will actually end up thanking you for it (and you’ll be pretty pleased yourself)!

If a guy were attracted to you, would you be able to tell? Sure, some signs men give are obvious, but many of them are much more subtle. In this episode I reveal 7 foolproof – and sometimes surprising – ways to be sure he’s totally into you

Today, I want to talk to you about the power of compliments… But not in the way you might think. I don’t want to focus on GETTING compliments and how that improves your self-esteem, but rather how GIVING compliments can create rapport with men and dramatically improve your love life. Make sure you listen until the end, because I’ve got a challenge for you, and I’ll also hand you 3 quick tips to make you instantly more attractive to everyone you meet.

Warning: if you enjoy playing the victim, don’t listen to this episode!  I explain why it’s impossible for someone to “steal” your boyfriend, and how to get closure if he leaves you for someone else.

Ok, I’ll say it…I think it’s a ridiculous idea that there’s just one person out there for each of us.  But before you go calling me a cynic, I want to share with you my theory about what makes someone “The One” for you…and I think you’ll find my approach to choosing the man you spend your life with is far more romantic than “love at first sight.”

When you’re out socially, one of the worst feelings is to be approached and feel like you’re “trapped” in a conversation. Today, I have some great tips, both for body language and what you can actually say, to gracefully enter and politely exit a conversation. I’ll even share a trick that allows you to approach a group of guys and then turn the tables, leaving them wanting more so they are desperate to reengage with you!

It’s a delicate dance… You’ve had a romantic dinner with the guy you really like and then the check comes to the table. Do you reach for it? Feign searching in your handbag for your wallet? Let him pick up the tab so you don’t bruise his ego? And if you’ve been dating for a while, does this change the dynamic? I’ll share the secret thoughts men have on this issue that they would never tell you, and give you specific advice of when and how you should “treat” your man.

Flirting over text message is a great way to connect – and amp up your sexual chemistry – with that guy you like. But what exactly do you say? You want to come off as fun, confident, playful and not at all needy. In this episode of LOVE Life I’ve got you covered… I’m literally going to have you take out your phone and type in foolproof texts that are guaranteed to drive him wild. He won’t be able to get you off his mind!

When a guy you’re not into hits on you, what should you do?  You don’t want to waste precious time in a lame conversation and, worse, you don’t want to give him the wrong idea that he has a chance with you. But wait—before you give him the cold shoulder, there’s something you need to know.  How you handle this situation could have a huge impact on whether that hot guy across the room you’ve had your eye on ends up approaching you, or dismissing you altogether. I break it down in today’s episode of LOVE Life.

How do you get a super hot guy – or any guy in general – to approach you? If you’re not the best looking woman in the room, do you even stand a chance? You might be surprised by my answer. Hint: Your competition is not as threatening as you think it is, and I’ll show you the one thing that will win a guy’s interest over looks any time.

Uh oh… you have a crush on a guy from work.   This could get tricky… Should you try to ignore your feelings and keep it professional?  Hope he makes the first move?  Make a pass at him in the elevator?  My answer is “none of the above.”  In today’s episode, I’m going to give you some practical, risk-free tips for you to test the waters and see if he’s ready to move out of the “work zone” and into the “flirt zone.”

You’re dating a great new guy.  Things couldn’t be going better.  You start to really feel yourself falling for him and then – all of a sudden – he starts to back off and act strange and non-committal.  What’s going on here, and how can you reignite his interest?  I share the secret to becoming the sexiest woman alive to him, and it’s not what you’d expect.

Valentine’s Day masquerades as a holiday of love and romance, but for many of us it’s actually filled with pressure and disappointment. No matter what your situation – single, dating, in a (complicated) relationship – I have tips for you to actually enjoy this day (which is JUST, by the way, A DAY…) and how you can use 1% shifts in your attitude and behavior to guarantee it’s filled with love.

It’s the question every single woman dreads.  Even if the guy asking means it as a compliment (“How is it that someone great like you doesn’t have a boyfriend already?”) it’s still a loaded question and if you don’t answer it skilfully you could end up sending the wrong message that you’re desperate, jaded, or undesirable.  In this episode of LOVE Life I’m giving you the exact words to say to communicate that you are high value, in demand, and any man would be lucky to win you as his girlfriend.

What’s your biggest fear when you think about striking up a conversation with a man you’re attracted to? That you’ll run out of things to talk about, of course. We all feel that way. In today’s LOVE Life I’m going to give you 3 tips for becoming an amazing conversationalist – including my #1 tip that guarantees you’ll never have another awkward silence again.

Chill for a minute… So that guy you want to talk to is super hot.  Before you let your nerves get the best of you, leaving you a giggling, babbling mess, listen to today’s LOVE Life.  I’m going to tell you how to take your power back and remain in control of the conversation.  That’s right – YOU are going to set the pace and tone with this guy, which will make you seem confident and magnetic on the outside (no matter how nervous you are on the inside).  Who’s the ridiculously hot one NOW???

Dinner?  Movie?  Dinner AND a movie?  What makes a great first date?  None of the above!  In this episode of LOVE Life I’m going to give you 4 fresh ideas for a dynamic first date that encourage connection, intimacy, flirtation and fun, and explain exactly why they work.  Try one of these out next time you meet a guy you really like and you’ll get a second date, guaranteed.

No relationship is perfect. You’re going to have your ups and downs, your disagreements and your rough patches. At times, you may feel the need to talk to someone outside of your relationship to get emotional support or even just another point of view. So what’s the appropriate way to do that without being disloyal to your partner or souring others’ opinion of him? Let’s dig into this delicate topic together and I’ll give you my two best pointers to protect the emotional energy of your relationship, even in its most precarious moments.