The Gender Knot

The author of hit book ‘The subtle art of not giving a fuck’ talks to Dan about how pornography and the way it’s impacted men’s interest in sex, and tips on how to have more fulfilling sex. Also check out Mark’s upcoming book ‘Everything is fucked’ and his speaking tour by heading over to https://markmanson.net/speaking-tourDan and Nas also have a quick talk about expectations on women due to the increasing use of pornography. We’d love your experiences and to talk about this topic more so please write to us at thegenderknot@gmail.comGuest: Mark Manson, author https://markmanson.net/Hosts:Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel CarrollProducers:Sam Baker and Jonathan BlackwellAdditional links:Kasia Urbaniak’s masterclass at The School of Life in London on June 22nd 2019, get tickets here https://www.theschooloflife.com/london/classroom/a-masterclass-with-kasia-urbaniak-ruben-flores/Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a coffee!https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot Write to us at: thegenderknot@gmail.c

This episode we discuss the line between courting someone and stalking. What can often start off as something innocent looking can very easily turn into a frightening situation. Laura Mucha, author of the book Love Factually, joins us to discuss this and more! For help with stalkers, abuse, etc visit www.thehotline.org in the US, or https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/healthy-body/getting-help-for-domestic-violence/ in the UK.Hosts:Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel CarrollProducers:Sam Baker and Jonathan BlackwellAdditional links:Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a coffee!https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot Write to us at: thegenderknot@gmail.com The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Grouphttps://www.thegenderknot.com/https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/ Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Welcome to Season 5! We’ve re-branded the podcast, and going to be focusing on trying to get men and women to get along. We chat about this new direction a little and catch up on some of your mail from over the hiatus period. Hosts:Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Daniel CarrollProducers:Sam Baker and Jonathan BlackwellAdditional links:Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a coffee!https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot Write to us at: thegenderknot@gmail.com The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Grouphttps://www.thegenderknot.com/https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/ Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

All female episode this week, Nas and Sam chat about self care and ask if it’s bullshit. Self care has become very popular among women, especially on Instagram. Does self care empower women to take care of themselves or is it just another thing to add to our to-do lists and stress us out even more? We are on hiatus until 15th April, when we’ll be back with a new season. Sponsor:Blinkist - key takeaways from the world’s best nonfiction in audio or text. Get your free 7-day trial by heading over to: www.blinkist.com/thegenderknot Hosts and producers:Nastaran Tavakoli-Far and Sam BakerAdditional links:Buzzfeed article: ‘How Millennials became the burnout generation’ by Anne Helen Peterson https://bit.ly/2YAAIfiNas’ BBC documentary about women and wellness https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/w3cswrknPatreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a coffee!https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot Write to us at: thegenderknot@gmail.com The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Grouphttps://www.thegenderknot.com/https:/

As a man, who do you talk to about sex? What about feelings? How about everything else? This week Dan and Jonny are hosting a Men Only episode with guest German Villegas to discuss who men can talk to about what’s going on in their lives. And yes, we make sure to plug mens groups! Be sure to check out German’s podcast Modern Manhood https://modernmanhood.org/ and his organization Next Gen Men https://nextgenmen.ca -- Also, we are on hiatus until 15th April when we'll have a new season. Sponsor:Blinkist - key takeaways from the world’s best nonfiction in audio or text. Get your free 7-day trial by heading over to: www.blinkist.com/thegenderknot Hosted by: Daniel Carroll and Jonathan Blackwell Co-producers:Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Additional links:Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a coffee!https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot Write to us at: thegenderknot@gmail.com The Gender Knot podcast https://www.thegenderknot.com/ Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Cr

So, you’ve hurt someone or done something bad and want to make amends? We run through our experiences on the best ways to do this. We also revisit last week’s topic of emotional labour and hear from our audience on what is a very messy, very difficult and very real dilemma. Also, we are on hiatus until 15th April when we'll have a new season. We'll be back in 3 weeks with a mini-episode.Sponsor:Blinkist - key takeaways from the world’s best nonfiction in audio or text. Get your free 7-day trial by heading over to: www.blinkist.com/thegenderknot Host and producer:Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far Co-host:Daniel Carroll Co-producers:Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Additional links:Interview about emotional labour with Arlie Hochschild in The Atlantic https://bit.ly/2DPkpUd Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a coffee!https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot Write to us at: thegenderknot@gmail.com The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Grouphttps://www.thegenderknot.com/https://www.facebook.com/group

What exactly is emotional labour? Nas talks about it all the time, Dan is still unclear about what it is, so he speaks to Gemma Hartley, Author of ‘Fed Up: Emotional labor, women and the way forward’, to find out more. Guest:Gemma Hartley, author of Fed Up: Emotional labor, women and the way forward http://www.gemmahartley.com/Host and producer:Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far Co-host:Daniel Carroll Co-producers:Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Additional links:Sign up to our newsletter via our contact page https://www.thegenderknot.com/contact/ Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a coffee!https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot Write to us at: thegenderknot@gmail.com Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Last week we talked about the importance of men being allies even if they haven’t been perfect in their behaviour towards women, but is there a line to this? Today’s guest tells us of a time he was called out and ended up having to question his role as an ally to women, and we hear from author and educator Jackson Katz on this dilemma. Guests:Omar Aziz, co-host of The Samovar Network podcast http://www.thesamovarnetwork.com/podcast/ Jackson Katz, author and educator, TED talk on 'Violence against women, it's a men's issue' https://www.ted.com/talks/jackson_katz_violence_against_women_it_s_a_men_s_issue?language=enHost and producer:Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far Co-host:Daniel Carroll Co-producers:Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Additional links:Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a coffee!https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot Write to us at: thegenderknot@gmail.com The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Grouphttps://www.thegenderknot.com/https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/ Music: G

We brainstorm a list of things men can do to be allies to women, and how women can best encourage men trying to be allies. And we want to hear from you on what has or hasn’t worked in your own lives. Sponsor:Blinkist - key takeaways from the world’s best nonfiction in audio or text. Get your free 7-day trial by heading over to: www.blinkist.com/thegenderknot Host and producer:Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far Co-host:Daniel Carroll Co-producers:Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Additional links:Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a coffee!https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot Write to us at: thegenderknot@gmail.com Gender Knot merch available at TeePublichttps://www.teepublic.com/stores/the-gender-knot White Fragility: Why it’s so hard for white people to talk about racism https://robindiangelo.com/ and New Yorker essay https://bit.ly/2JNOEdj The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Grouphttps://www.thegenderknot.com/https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/ Music: Government Funded Weed by Bl

Why are meltdowns gendered? Do we ever talk of men having meltdowns? If not then why not, and what does this mean about our expectations of how women and men can express themselves? We get some help from our friends at the hit podcast A Gay and a NonGay to figure this out. We’re off to rest over the festive season and will be back on 7th January 2019 – speak to you then.Guests:A Gay and a NonGay podcast hosts James Barr and Dan Hudsonhttp://www.gaynongay.com/ Host and producer:Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far Co-host:Daniel Carroll Co-producers:Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Additional links:Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a latte!https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot The Gender Knot podcast https://www.thegenderknot.com/ Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Nas often feels like she’s walking on eggshells on this show; she has to be honest with men but also keep them engaged and not annoy them so much that they tune out of the show, and these conversations, altogether. Dan and Nas try to figure out this delicate balance. We also hear more from Kasia Urbaniak, the former Taoist Nun, former Dominatrix and women’s power coach who told us how women can ask for what they want a few weeks ago. Kasia fills us in on the ways in which women silence each other in a bid to survive and how telling a man the truth is an act of love. Guest: Kasia Urbaniak , women’s power and influence coach and founder of The Academy https://www.kasiaurbaniak.com/Host and producer: Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far Co-host: Daniel Carroll Co-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Additional links: Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a latte!https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknotFormer Gender Knot episode: How can men best help feminism? https://radiopublic.com/the-gender-knot-Wk

You’ll have noticed we’ve been changing the direction of the podcast over the past few weeks, with there being fewer abstract explorations of ideas and more delving into the nitty gritty of how men and women can actually better relate in these confusing times.As such we’ll have having more audience participation, so send us your thoughts. Men’s coach David Lion helps us to help an audience member with a dilemma, and tells us about his online summit called Evolving Men, which is all about helping men figure out how to live more wholeheartedly. The summit features exclusive talks from 25 expert men and runs until 8th December.And we also delve back into the topic that keeps on coming up: disenfranchised men. Guest: David Lion, men’s coach and founder of the Evolving Men online summit, running until 8th Dec 2018 https://summit.evolving-men.com/ Host and producer:Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-FarCo-host:Daniel CarrollCo-producers:Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Additional links:Patreon page – support the podcast f

Porn is pervasive in today's internet culture. But does the typical male gaze leave women out of the viewing audience? And what does this one-way perspective do to our real-life sexual and personal relationships? As Nas and Dan take a break this week, co-producers Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell tackle the subject of porn and real world sex and how we can make online content for everyone. We talk to sextech entrepreneur and pioneer, Cindy Gallop from MakeLoveNotPorn and education and psychology lecturer, Sam Carr, from the University of BathGuests: Cindy Gallop, Consultant & Founder/CEO of Make Love Not Porn https://makelovenotporn.tv/Sam Carr, Senior Lecturer in Education and Director of Studies for Education with Psychology, Department of Education, University of Bath, UK https://theconversation.com/profiles/sam-carr-156110/articlesHosts and co-producers: Sam Baker & Jonathan BlackwellAdditional links: Patreon page – [support the podcast](https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot) for the cost of a lat

Our listeners are annoyed! Many of you were unhappy with our take on disenfranchised men last week after we interviewed former New York Times reporter and author Andrew Yarrow, who has written Man Out about men on the sidelines of American society. We read out some of your emails and invite one of our audience members to figure out: what do we do about disenfranchised men? Should we do anything at all, and exactly who should be getting involved?Guest: Alex, listener of the podcast Host and producer:Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-FarCo-host:Daniel CarrollCo-producers:Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Additional links:Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a latte!https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot Gender Knot merch available at TeePublichttps://www.teepublic.com/stores/the-gender-knot The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Grouphttps://www.thegenderknot.com/https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/ Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Former New York Times journalist Andrew Yarrow joins us to talk about why so many men in America feel disenfranchised, and how this is impacting everyone else.Men around the world have seen their position shift drastically over the past few decades. Some of the key reasons given include the rise of women and big changes in the global economy, leading to some of the political unrest and upheavals of the past decade. So, what do we do with disenfranchised men?Guest: Andrew Yarrow, journalist and author of ‘Man Out: Men on the sidelines of American life’https://www.andrewlyarrow.com/Host and producer:Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-FarCo-host:Daniel CarrollCo-producers:Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Additional links:Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a latte!https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknotGender Knot merch available at TeePublichttps://www.teepublic.com/stores/the-gender-knot The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Grouphttps://www.thegenderknot.com/https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085

A few weeks ago Dan tried to convince us that the stereotype of men having commitment issues was exaggerated and false, and he made a good case for this. But Nas was still left wondering where these assumptions come from and realized that Dan had evaded the key issues entirely! So this week we come back for a second round to delve in further. Host and producer:Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-FarCo-host:Daniel CarrollCo-producers:Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Additional links:Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a latte!https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknotGender Knot merch available at TeePublichttps://www.teepublic.com/stores/the-gender-knot The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Grouphttps://www.thegenderknot.com/https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/ Sponsor: E-squared Fitness – a pay as you go app to book fitness classes in London.https://www.esq2.com/ Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

It’s a year since allegations against Harvey Weinstein broke, leading to a real opening of conversation about sexual harassment and assault against women, be it at the hands of powerful men or in day to day life.We speak to a Hollywood insider about the situations and we also dig into the mixed messages men have been getting over the past year: what exactly do women want from men during these sensitive but important times? Guest:Steph, works in the film and entertainment industry in Hollywood Host and producer:Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-FarCo-host:Daniel CarrollCo-producers:Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Additional links:Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a latte!https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknotGender Knot merch available at TeePublichttps://www.teepublic.com/stores/the-gender-knot The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Grouphttps://www.thegenderknot.com/https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/ BBC documentary on why women have taken to wellness, mentioned in the episode https://

Hit podcast Slow Burn just spent their second season looking at the saga around Bill Clinton’s impeachment. They revisited Bill Clinton’s affair with then 22-year old unpaid intern Monica Lewinsky, and looked at the varied reactions from feminists, as well as Juanita Broderick’s allegations that the president had raped her. The season went out at while Brett Kavanaugh’s senate confirmation hearings were happening, which made for especially timely and important listening, and allowed the audience to compare current events to those of the recent past, with often some of the same politicians and political operatives being involved in both situations.We wanted to know about how making this season affected Leon’s own perceptions of gender in US politics, and how he looks back on President Clinton as a result. Guest:Leon Neyfakh, host of the podcast Slow Burn and journalist https://slate.com/slow-burnHost and producer:Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-FarCo-host:Daniel CarrollCo-producers:Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell

Former dominatrix and Taoist nun Kasia Urbaniak teaches women about power and influence at her school The Academy. She walks us through this unique time where women are finally speaking openly and honestly and expressing their rage, and how we can best get men and women to support each other through the necessary but transformative mess ahead.Guest:Kasia Urbaniak, women’s power and influence coach and founder of The Academyhttps://www.kasiaurbaniak.com/Host and producer:Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-FarCo-host:Daniel CarrollCo-producers:Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Additional links:Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a latte!https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknotGender Knot merch available at TeePublichttps://www.teepublic.com/stores/the-gender-knot The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Grouphttps://www.thegenderknot.com/https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/ Sponsor: E-squared Fitnes – a pay as you go app to book fitness classes in London.https://www.esq2.com/ Music: Government Funded

The love, sex and relationship guru and host of the Savage Lovecast gives us his thoughts and tips!Note: this episode is very Not Safe For Work – save for later if that’s relevant!Also, co-host Jonathan Freeman is leaving us and signs off!Finally, The Gender Knot is on hiatus until 15th October. We’ll be back with a new season then.Guest:Dan Savage, sex and relationship advice columnist and Savage Lovecast host Host and producer:Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-FarCo-host:Jonathan FreemanCo-producers:Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell Additional links:Gender Knot merch available at TeePublicThe Gender Knot podcast and Facebook GroupMusic: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)