Dudes Spankin' Dudes

Doug (from episode 30 about Hot Seat Retreat) is back to talk some more. He and Scott and Jaden worked on a great video to hopefully keep all you dudes entertained during our shared Coronavirus Lockdown, featuring interviews with guys involved with Sting, SpankThis, Bad Ass Weekend, and others. Check out the video at Hotseatps.com. In the Real Dudes Spanking Real Dudes segment, Doug shares what it’s like to be married to another spanking fetishist, how their relationship works, how they negotiate play with other guys, how they handle issues, and how they keep their fetish interest fresh. It’s a useful discussion for anybody thinking that they might want to settle down with a spanking partner some day. In the Fantasy Life of Spanking, Doug reveals that he lives out a very common spanking fantasy: Being punished by a personal trainer. Yes, he over the past several years has been literally whipped into shape. He talks about how he got started and what people should think about before they actually try to get a

Scott is joined this month by buddy Mike, who was his next-door neighbor at March's Hot Seat Retreat. In the Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes segment, Mike is a big fan of self-spanking, and in a time where we shouldn't be out trying to hook up with each other, no matter how badly we need a spanking, Mike has tips on applying heat to your own seat. In the Fantasy Life of Spanking we talk about fantasies about real life "accountability" spankings and punishments. How do you know you really want to be spanked for real-life reasons and how is it different from just wanting to get spanked. Mike explains. Oh, and speaking of real-life spanking accountability, check out the Dudes Spankin's Dudes Twitter feed and weigh in on how much Scott should have to paddle himself for his terrible, terrible quarantine Mohawk: https://twitter.com/DudesSpankDudes

Hot Seat Retreat in Palm Springs has come and gone and was a wonderful success (with a few things we'll need to hammer out in future retreats--and there WILL be future retreats). Scott and Jaden are joined by Doug, the guy who actually came up with the idea of putting on a new spanking event in Palm Springs, and we talk about how things went and what we learned. Also, a short discussion about fetish play and the coronavirus. In short, treat social distancing seriously. We have members of the spanking community who are in risk categories because they're older or HIV positive. If you want to know when Colby Jansen's spankathon video is set to come out, follow his Twitter feed: https://twitter.com/COLBYJANSENXXX And keep an eye out the official Hot Seat Retreat website. We're already hammering out the dates for next March!: https://www.hotseatps.com/

It's our last podcast episode before Hot Seat Retreat in Palm Springs in March. Jaden joins yet again with friend Anthony. In our "Real Dudes Spanking Real Dudes" segment, Anthony talks about his first experiences attending fetish events. He went to Bad Ass Weekend for the first time last October and Mid-Atlantic Leather for the first time in February. With Hot Seat Retreat just around the corner, we discuss a number of tips to make your first time at a big fetish event more successful. In our "Fantasy Life of Spanking" section, Anthony and Scott share a love of fantasies and stories that revolve around the use of spanking machines. We talk about what turns us on about the sadism of automated punishment. And maybe it doesn't have to be just a fantasy?

Jaden is back with another spanking buddy, Kevin, here to talk about their fun time at Mid-Atlantic Leather (M.A.L.) in January. Speaking of which, in the "Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes" segment, M.A.L. got some negative publicity from a young gay conservative at the Washington Examiner who thinks that fetish and leather play makes the LGBT community look bad. Scott, Jaden, and Kevin discuss the problems with his opinion piece, which you can read here: https://www.washingtonexaminer.com/opinion/dcs-degenerate-leather-weekend-annihilates-gay-progress In the Fantasy Life of Spanking, Kevin and Jaden discuss what it's like to start filming your own amateur porn. If you're interested, there's a lot of fun to be had. And Hot Seat Retreat is just a month away! There's still time to register here: https://www.hotseatps.com/

What better way to celebrate ringing in the new year with a discussion of Adult Baby/Diaper Lovers (Or ABDL) and their connections to the spanking scene? Scott is joined by regular and Whappz co-founder Jaden and his buddy Richard, a member of both the ABDL and the spanking scene. We discuss what the two communities have in common and the opportunities for daddies out there in the spanking scene to find some guys in some firm need for discipline. In other news, Camp Red Tails is back on for July! And Jaden and Scott give the latest update on how things are going with Hot Seat Retreat in March. For more on Hot Seat Retreat and to register, visit the site here: www.hotseatps.com/

Jaden is back to join Scott as we announce some big news: The launch of Hot Seat Retreat, a new spanking weekend event planned for March 5-8, 2020 at CCBC resort in Palm Springs, California. Scott and Jaden go over what prompted them to launch this new event and want to encourage all y'all to come on out. Also: Unfortunately, Camp Red Tails this summer is in trouble; RedSpankScott is now also HotBotScott when he's feeling like a bratty bottom, and Jaden and Scott go over their participation at the 10th Anniversary of Bad Ass Weekend. For more on Hot Seat Retreat and to register, visit the site here: https://www.hotseatps.com/ If you want more info about CCBC, the host resort, visit them here: https://www.ccbcresorthotel.com/

For episode 25, Scott is joined by the long-awaited straight dude! Cutter the Sourpatch Kid, who is on the board of the L.A. BDSM society Threshold, joins Scott to talk about why he likes spanking other dudes, the right way to approach heterosexual guys if you’re interested in spanking play with them, a bunch of things you SHOULDN’T do when approaching hetero dudes, and what fantasies straight dudes do and do not have. More about the Threshold Society here: https://threshold.org/

Scott is joined for the latest episode by J.R., whom listeners know better as Bossman. Yes, the guy who beats Scott's butt on the regular stops by for a chat. And maybe a threat or two. In the Real Dudes Spanking Real Dudes section, J.R. talks about his membership in Avatar, an L.A. club that teaches men how to engage in safe BDSM play, including spanking. We discuss how the Internet and the rise of millennials own interpretation of leather and BDSM culture has changed the way we look at the scene and how these organizations are adapting. Avatar's Facebook page can be found here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/AvatarclubLA/ In the Fantasy Life of Spanking, Scott and J.R. respond to some messages to a young newbie top in the spanking scene who is afraid to actually get involved because he's worried about his heavily sadistic fantasies. We talk about how it's actually pretty normal to have extreme and even nonconsensual fantasies. What matters is how you adapt those fantasies into safe and consensual play w

Some good news to start. The Los Angeles Moonburn spanking party is back at it's old location at Threshold at the familiar day and time (the first Saturday of the month from noon-4 p.m.) Scott explains the details. Then, Scott is joined by David and Bruce, two of the organizers of Bad Ass Weekend, the all-male weekend spanking gathering held in Augusta, Georgia. This year marks the 10th anniversary of the even, and David and Bruce explain the amount of work that goes into pulling this all off. This year's gathering is from Oct. 17-20. Scott is again planning to be there. Get more information here: https://www.bawevent.com/

Jaden is back to let us all know that his spanking app Whappz is now available for Android devices, yay! And Scott updates on what's going on with the L.A. Moonburn parties. In the Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes segment, Jaden talks about the work that goes into hosting private spanking parties, and what you'll want to keep in mind if you're thinking of having some of your own. In the Fantasy Life of Spanking segment, we talk about the spanking erotical legacy of Cliff's Spanking Central site, which has ceased production of new movies but is still around and you can still join and download past videos here: http://spankingcentral.com/ And we take a question from a listener wondering how much he should "act" like he's struggling as a bottom, even when he's not.

Jaden from Whappz is back joining Scott for an episode that has some fun news from Jaden (Whappz coming to Android; fun at Mid-Atlantic Leather) and some bad news from Scott (Moonburn loses its home; Tumblr kicks out porn). Before getting to the main event, Scott explains the sudden and surprising closure of Threshold, the BDSM club in North Hollywood where the monthly Moonburn spanking party takes place. Moonburn organizers are busy looking for a new location, so stay tuned. In the Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes segment, Jaden reports from Washington, D.C., where he attended the annual Mid-Atlantic Leather (MAL) convention and had lots of fun spanking and being spanked. In the Fantasy Life of Spanking, we talk about how Tumblr made the rather radical decision to dump all adult content from the site (essentially committing suicide) and where people are going as an alternative (check out bdsmlr.com). All this and a question from a listener about how to introduce a partner who isn't into spanking but is w

Podcast co-creator Brian/Croup returns for an episode because he and Scott just came back from a whirlwind spanking good vacation in Augusta, Georgia, for Bad Ass Weekend #9. They get into details about spankings, both delivered and received (and that includes Scott) and how amazing the entire event was. Y'all should consider going next year! Details about Bad Ass Weekend here: www.bawevent.com. In other news, Scott has decided to take a spin at self-publishing some of his spanking fiction. An anthology of his early chapters of "Aaron's Game" are now available as a Kindle ebook for the low-low price of $2.99. Check it out here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07JFJSFCS

A very special guest joins Scott for Episode 19: Hunky porn star (PornHub's 2018 Top Bear Performer), and rugby jock Colby Jansen. Scott has been spanked by Colby twice now (and apparently there' s more to come). In the "Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes" segment, Colby talks about how he got into the porn scene, how he discovered he was into spanking and BDSM, his escort work, and some etiquette if you're looking to find an escort to help you fulfill your spanking fantasies. In the "Fantasy Life of Spanking," Colby and Scott talk about how we all can push the major porn studios like Kink.com to maybe show a bit more spanking in their videos and the right way to give them feedback. Want to see more of Colby? Check out his fan site here: https://onlyfans.com/colbyjansenxxx Also, in other news, Scott is going to be attending Bad Ass Weekend in October in Augusta, Georgia. Several other of his podcast regulars will also be in attendance. There's still time to register. Information on the event here: http://baw

Sidney's back to join Scott to talk about some more heavy-duty bottom stuff. Also, porn star Colby Jansen showed up at the Moonburn Party and it took Scott all of 60 seconds to go flying over his knee for a spanking. So now he and Sidney have that in common. There was also an accidental death in the BDSM community in Los Angeles, and Scott and Sidney go over what happened. It's an important subject for anybody who is using spanking as a springboard into other parts of S&M play. For the rest of the podcast: In the "Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes" segment, Scott and Sidney talk about double-teaming--when a single bottom submits to two spanking tops. Scott has done it a bunch as a top (and as of a week ago, once as a bottom). Sidney has done it a bunch as a bottom. We discuss what you should think about before submitting to an intense experience. In the "Fantasy Life of Spanking" we discuss leather and leather daddy fantasies. Leather, of course, plays a huge role in the gay BDSM scene. It's less prominent

Scott's Guest for Episode 17 is Copper, an extremely well-known member of the American scene of dude-spankers. If you don't know him for his role in Man's Hand spanking videos, then you most certainly have seen his spanking artwork. For our "Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes" segment, Copper talks about his role in helping the Los Angeles spanking community get together and torment each other and the sorts of challenges he and the leaders of the Moonburn group have in keeping a party going for years. In our "Fantasy Life of Spanking" section we delve into Copper's background in spanking art, the struggles of trying to find markets for fetish art in the era of the internet, and how to support fetish-friendly artists.

We've got Big Daddy Vegas back for a third episode. And we've got info on a new spanking party in New York City appropriately called "Welts." (Check out the host's Tumblr page here: https://nycinfernoparty.tumblr.com/) In our "Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes" segment, it's been a while since we've talked about particular implements. Daddy Vegas is a master at the belt and straps, so we spent some time talking about how to use them, and how they feel, and what to do when you're inexperienced with them (watch out for those balls!). In the "Fantasy Life of Spanking" section, humiliation plays an important role in nearly every fantasy that involves spanking, so we decided to take some time to discuss why that is, how humiliation play allows for longer scenes, and how it allows for individual sessions to be more memorable and unique. All this and a question from a newcomer struggling with online communication with tops about getting spankings.

Jaden is back as a co-host this episode! We have fun news for Dudes into Spankin' and also into IPhones. Also, there's some straight dudes into spanking with other dudes who are willing to answer your questions. In "Real Dudes Spanking Real Dudes," Jaden is here to follow up on Episode 7, where we introduced Whappz, a connection site for dudes into spanking Jaden has designed to become an app. But it was a struggle to get Apple to let it into the App store. It's finally available, and Jaden talks about what he had to go through to get Apple to approve an app to help people with specific fetishes connect. In the "Fantasy Life of Spanking" segment, Jaden and Scott talk about "headspace" and how fantasies help you get in the mindset for spank play. We tend to associate this behavior with roleplay, but it's a bit more complicated than that. It's not just a performance. It's about psychologically putting yourself in the right mental space to accept and enjoy the spanking experience. Jaden and Scott talking abou

Happy New Year! Big Daddy Vegas is back with RedSpankScott for another episode. We've got a bit of an update on the state of Whappz, focus of episode 7. Beyond that: In our "Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes" segment, we talk about resolutions for the New Year, particularly in terms of spankings, obviously. But also in terms of making friends and communicating with other guys in the spanking community. In our "Fantasy Life of Spanking" segment, Scott and Frank share a fondness for jocks, as do many dudes into spanking dudes or dudes who are into dudes in general. We talk about the fantasy and about Frank's background as an actual, honest-to-god Jock. We've also got a couple of questions from listeners at the end. And apologies for the drop in sound quality for the last 10 minutes or so. Clearly it's time for Scott to get a new headset.

Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah , and Happy Holidays in general. Scott is back after taking November off and joined by Big Daddy Vegas. Apologies for the break between episodes, but Scott had a good reason, which he explains. Also, if you're in the Pittsburgh area, we have info on a relatively new spanking party. In our "Real Dudes Spankin' Real Dudes" section, the podcast has been kind of bottom heavy (Scott does like his dudes a little bottom heavy). So Big Daddy Vegas and Scott go over a bunch of "Tips for Tops" about the kinds of things tops, especially less experienced tops, should plan for when playing with a new dude. In our "Fantasy Life of Spanking" section, December is the perfect time to look at the role Santa Claus plays in spanking fantasies. He's practically a celebrity among spankos and we explore why that is.