Gender Reveal

In this week’s episode, Tuck makes several exciting announcements and answers more listener questions with activist Z Griffler (they/them). Topics include: “How to pick a name?!” Would gender exist if gender roles didn’t exist? How do I come out at work? What’s the gender-neutral version of “sir”? What IS the future of gender, anyway? Here are our sources for this week’s This Week in Gender. Read the NYT story about nonbinary fashion here. NEW STUFF: Visit our website! Read episode transcripts! Follow us on Instagram! Hire us for gender competency training! Apply for the Gender Reveal grant!!! Questions? Comments? Feelings? You can reach us at our new website; via gendereveal@gmail.com; or on Twitter or Instagram. You can also submit questions anonymously here. We greatly appreciate donations via Patreon or PayPal or Cash App. Donate $5+ to receive stickers and other fun stuff. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

In this week’s episode, Tuck speaks with musician, author, filmmaker, and visual artist Vivek Shraya (she/her). Topics include: Viewing Hindu gods as queer role models Writing pop music about racism, gender, and biphobia Why we should reject “love is love” as a queer slogan Chronic suicidality / how to live when the world wants you dead [CN: 42-49 min] How do we keep going if we don’t think we’re going to win? Learn more about our This Week in Gender topic here and here. Buy I’m Afraid of Men here. Listen to Angry and Part-Time Woman on Spotify. More of Vivek’s work can be found at vivekshraya.com. We're on Instagram now! Follow us @gendereveal. Send us your comments, questions, and feelings via gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here. We greatly appreciate donations via Patreon or PayPal or Cash App. Donate $5+ to receive stickers and other fun stuff. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

In this week’s episode, Tuck speaks with trans advocates Joanna Cifredo (she/her) and Rebecca Kling (she/her), hosts of the Trans Specific Partnership Podcast. [CN: mention of murder @ 18:30] Topics include: Summer camp for trans kids! The experience of being trans and Latina in Latin America. Trans legislative battles to keep an eye on. How to be an activist without getting overwhelmed. What’s it like to be a trans student these days? Learn more about our This Week in Gender topic here and here. You can read the original paper here.  Listen to the Trans Specific Partnership Podcast here. Send us your comments, questions, and feelings via gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here. We greatly appreciate donations via Patreon or PayPal or Cash App. Donate $5+ to receive stickers and other fun stuff. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

In this week’s episode, Tuck speaks with cis writer, comedian, podcaster and actress Gaby Dunn (she/her). [Content note: passing mentions of suicide (19:50) and domestic violence (22:50)]. Topics include:  Is “born this way” a concept invented to placate straight cis folks? (Almost) breaking the law via through gender nonconformity Financial advice for queer and trans folks Does “bisexual” exclude nonbinary folks? Advice for cis people, by cis people Causing controversy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Learn more about our This Week in Gender topic here. Preorder Gaby’s new book here, listen to her podcast here, and follow her on Instagram @gabyroad. Send us your comments, questions, and feelings via gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here. We greatly appreciate donations via Patreon or PayPal or Cash App. Donate $5+ to receive stickers and other fun stuff. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

In this week’s episode, Tuck speaks with Madin Lopez (they/them). [Content note: brief mentions of suicide (20:13) and slavery & assault (36:20)] Madin is the founder of ProjectQ, which serves LGBTQIA+ homeless youth. Topics include:  Working with queer homeless youth of color to create currencies outside of capitalism (and more!) Using gender-affirming haircuts as a social justice tool Exploring identity and expression as a Black genderqueer person Choosing not to pursue hormones or top surgery Learn more about our This Week in Gender topic here and here. Buy ProjectQ merchandise here and become a member here. You can also donate to ProjectQ’s facebook fundraiser here. Send us your comments, questions, and feelings at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here. We greatly appreciate donations via Patreon or PayPal or Cash App. Donate $5+ to receive stickers and other fun stuff. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

In this week’s episode, Tuck speaks with TC Frost (he/they) of the Venture Out Project. Topics include: Transitioning, de-transitioning, and re-transitioning Learning to love and accept an androgynous body Struggling to feel safe in the world as a nonbinary trans person Hiking with other queer and trans folks “Am I a shapeshifter?” Learn more about our This Week in Gender topic here. Send us your comments, questions, and feelings at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here. We greatly appreciate donations via Patreon or PayPal or Cash App. Donate $5+ to receive stickers and other fun stuff. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

In this week’s episode, Tuck (literally) finds their way out of the wilderness, and we share the second episode of a brand new nonbinary podcast. Thank you to Ave Bisesi (they/them) and Mac Maclean (they/them) for letting us share the second episode of Public Trans. In addition to subscribing to the show, you can find Public Trans on Twitter, Facebook, and Patreon. Wanna know if Tuck actually made it out of the woods? You can look for them on Twitter and on Instagram. You can also reach us gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter, and can submit advice questions anonymously here. We greatly appreciate donations via Patreon or PayPal or Cash App. Donate $5+ to receive stickers and other fun stuff. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

In this week’s episode, Tuck hikes through the wilderness, and radio producer Sarah Esocoff (she/her) steps in to share the stories of several queer and trans individuals grappling with what it means to be femme (or not femme). Thank you to Sarah and SiriusXM’s Spoke Studios for allowing us to air their three-part series Femme. Don’t forget to check out Sarah’s new queer podcast, Paperweight.  Send Tuck your news updates on Twitter, and find photos of their hike on Instagram (probably?). You can also reach us at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter, and can submit advice questions anonymously here. We greatly appreciate donations via Patreon or PayPal or Cash App. Donate $5+ to receive stickers and other fun stuff. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

In this week’s episode, Tuck speaks with award-winning journalist and author Meredith Talusan (she/they), the executive editor of them. Topics include:  Third gender traditions in the Philippines Becoming the first openly trans staff writer at BuzzFeed Existing as a minority who often passes as “””normal””” (cis/white) Adding specificity, nuance, and good faith to the American feminist movement Learn more about our This Week in Gender topic by listening to our previous episode, Gender 201.  Referenced essays: How #MeToo Stands to Marginalize Trans and Gender-Nonconforming People by Meredith Talusan I’m a Trans Woman Who Detransitioned to Become a Mom by Lara Americo On Being Queer and Happily Single — Except When I'm Not by Brandon Taylor Twitter Needs to Treat Misgendering Trans People as Hate Speech by Meredith Talusan Send us your comments, questions, and feelings at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here. We greatly appreciate donations via Patreon or Pa

In this week’s episode, Tuck answers more listener questions with filmmaker and activist Z Griffler (they/them). Topics include: Pronoun go-arounds and cis fragility Advice for coming out Writing about trans folks without becoming the next Jesse Singal What does butch mean? Read more about our This Week in Gender topics at the following links: Maine, courts, Ireland, Kerala, Pakistan, Scarlett Johansson. Questions/feedback/feelings? Hit us up at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here. We greatly appreciate donations via Patreon or PayPal or Cash App. Donate $5+ to receive stickers and other fun stuff. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

In this week’s episode, Tuck speaks with Ryan Cassata (he/him), an award-winning singer-songwriter, actor, performer, writer, LGBTQ activist & motivational speaker. Topics include: “I was forced into activism to survive.” Barging into the principal’s office to advocate for trans kids. Coming out—and getting misgendered—on Larry King Live. Navigating bathrooms as someone who doesn’t always pass as male or female. “I just want people to stop being afraid of trans people.” Read more about our This Week in Gender topic here and here and here and here. Send us your comments, questions, and feelings at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here. Find Ryan on Spotify, Patreon, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram! You can also watch the “Daughter” music video on YouTube. We greatly appreciate donations via Patreon or PayPal or Cash App. Donate $5+ to receive stickers and other fun stuff. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

In this week’s episode, Tuck speaks with writer and Ph.D. student Ari LaRae Monts (they/them), whose research focuses on queer women of color and non-binary people of color. Topics include: Grappling with family trauma by writing a love letter to butch queers. Using federal dollars to study queer SM communities of color. Rethinking “femme” as an identity beyond an aesthetic. Practicing Christianity as a queer and trans person. Exploring nonbinary identity at A-Camp. Read more about our This Week in Gender topic here. Find Alaina’s writing on Autostraddle, and follow them on Twitter (@alaraemonts). Send us your comments, questions, and feelings at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here. We greatly appreciate donations via Patreon or PayPal or Cash App. Donate $5+ to receive stickers and other fun stuff. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

In this week’s episode, Tuck speaks with cartoonist Mattie Lubchansky (they/them). Topics include:  Coming out as queer and genderqueer as an ancient dinosaur. Googling “Matt[ie] Lubchansky gender” (and finding tomatoes). Nike’s pink triangle shoes—yikes! The flourishing world of queer comics! Read more about our This Week in Gender topics here and here and here. Check out the comics we mentioned on the show: “Visibility Has Its Rewards: Six Cartoonists on Gender and Transition” “Compared To What” “Brands Love Pride!” “The History of the Rainbow Flag” Find more of Mattie’s work at the Nib, and follow them on Twitter for some top-notch content. You can also support them on Patreon to get a sneak peek of their newest project. Send us your comments, questions, and feelings at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here. We greatly appreciate donations via Patreon or PayPal or Cash App. Donate $5+ to receive stickers and other fun stuff. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Bre

In this week’s episode, Tuck speaks with Indigenous Diné transdisciplinary artist Demian DinéYazhi´(they/them). Demian is the founder and director of the artist/activist initiative R.I.S.E.: Radical Indigenous Survivance & Empowerment. Topics include: “The only option for being queer was death. And the only option for being a Native person was death, as well.” Decolonializing concepts of sex, love, gender identity, and sexual orientation for future generations. Defining “radical indigenous queer feminism.” Creating resources and platforms for queer, trans, and Two-Spirit Indigenous artists. Growing up queer during the AIDS crisis. Read more about our This Week in Gender topic here and here. (And please let us know your thoughts!) Find Damien’s work on Tumblr and Etsy. Damien is also on Instagram at @heterogeneoushomosexual and @riseindigenous. Send us your comments, questions, and feelings at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here. We greatly appreciate do

In this week’s episode, Tuck speaks with musician Mal Blum (they/them). Topics include: Is NYC Pride™ evil? Depression tips (and how medication doesn’t fix being constantly misgendered) Questioning the value systems of gay bars Uploading your gender onto the server! Read more about our This Week in Gender topic here, here, here, and here. Read Mal’s Autostraddle article about NYC Pride here. Send us your comments, questions, and feelings at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here. We greatly appreciate donations via Patreon or PayPal or Cash App. Donate $5+ to receive stickers in the mail! Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

In this week’s episode, Tuck speaks with writer and scientist Naseem Jamnia (they/them). Topics include: Why biological sex isn’t a binary (and why everything you learned in biology class is wrong) Busting myths around Islam and queerness Is it a good idea to prove trans identity through brain scans? Should we include nonbinary folks in women-only spaces? CW: mention of police brutality @ 3:30 Happy Pride, babiesssss! Send us your comments, questions, and feelings at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here. Find Naseem on Twitter (@jamsternazzy) and support their work on Patreon. Don’t forget to check out their recommended articles, “The Lab Is Not Neutral” and “What Does Your Story Add To The Conversation.” We greatly appreciate donations via Patreon or PayPal or Cash App. Donate $5+ to receive stickers in the mail! Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

In this week’s episode, Tuck speaks with Riley J. Dennis (she/they), best known for her YouTube videos about LGBTQ+ subjects and intersectional feminism. Topics include: Can you be trans without dysphoria? Is it transphobic to have a genital preference or refuse to date trans folks? Is it possible to be nonbinary, a trans woman, and a lesbian? Being a trans YouTuber who doesn’t make transition videos—and why that’s so rare. Plus: Why you should never read the comments on Riley’s videos. Read/watch/hear more about our This Week in Gender topic by searching “Stonewall Riots.” Have fun! Also, here’s Krista Burton’s NYT opinion piece about pride. Questions/feedback/feelings? Hit us up at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here. Support Riley on Patreon here. We also greatly appreciate donations via Patreon or PayPal or Cash App. (Donate $5+ to receive stickers in the mail!) Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

In this week’s episode, Tuck answers listener questions with filmmaker and activist Z Griffler (they/them). Topics include: Misgendering yourself Using they/them pronouns in solidarity Should nonbinary people apply for “women’s” scholarships? Is it possible to be nonbinary and a trans woman? What the hell does femme mean?! “Why the Popular Phrase “Women and Femmes” Makes No Sense” “Women and Femmes Unite” (counterpoint) Read more about our This Week in Gender topic here. Read about FOSTA/SESTA here and here, visit survivorsagainstsesta.org, and donate money here. Questions/feedback/feelings? Hit us up at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here. We always appreciate donations at patreon.com/gender or PayPal or Cash App. If you donate $5 or more by April 30, we'll send you stickers and an extra surprise. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Additional music: Night Owl by Broke For Free Sponsors: YOU! Thank you SO much!

In this week’s episode, Tuck speaks with activist AC Dumlao (they/them), the founder of Call Me They and @menswearselfcare. Topics include: Celebrating “genderFULL fashion” as self-care. Shifting your gender presentation to try to appeal to folks you’re dating (yikes!). Writing an open letter to cis folks angrily sharing news of the transgender military ban. The importance of TLDEF’s free legal name change services. Read more about our This Week in Gender topic here. (This one felt weird because I can't tell if it's really cool or not? Help!)  Questions/feedback/feelings? Hit us up at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here. We always appreciate donations via Patreon or PayPal or Cash App. During the month of April, if you donate $5 or more, we'll send you a bunch of stickers and a special limited-time-only surprise. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!

In this week’s episode, Tuck speaks with Kirby Conrod (they/them), a PhD candidate in linguistics. Among other subjects, Kirby specifically studies the use of they/them pronouns.  Topics include: Tips for folks who struggle with they/them pronouns. Reasons why those folks might be struggling more than other people. Being a nonbinary person in academia. Coming into a nonbinary identity in Taiwan. What is syntax?!? Read more about our This Week in Gender topic here and here. Read Kirby’s Medium post: “How to do the absolute minimum (with pronouns)”. Questions/feedback/feelings? Hit us up at gendereveal@gmail.com or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here. We always appreciate donations at patreon.com/gender or PayPal or Cash App. If you donate $5 or more, we'll send you stickers and an extra surprise. Logo: Ira M. Leigh Music: Breakmaster Cylinder Sponsors: YOU! Thank you!