Cupid's Coach With Julie Ferman

Julie has Brian Howie in the Guest Chair today, Creator of the Great Love Debate. How has his love life evolved over 7 years and 400+ live shows about dating? Which are the best cities and the worst cities for dating? Brian addresses the evolution of our gender issues and the contribution that the pandemic has made to our dating culture. Plus, why is Brian hopeful, enthusiastic and encouraged about dating in 2021? 

Might you be wise to rethink the kids issue? Is the type of person you're hoping to date likely to go for you...at this time in your life? Join me as we address the sensitive fertility/age issue. Hear how Holly handled things when her boyfriend's ex re-entered the picture. And how to gracefully spin a political mismatch.

Why is it that I typically encourage men and women NOT to hire a matchmaker? How might you meet someone without even becoming the matchmaking client? What's a Mitzvah Match and how can you get in on that action? Listen in as I share inside scoop on how to get "in" with your local matchmaker, even if you're not the one in that high priced hot seat.   

Coach Rori Raye is in the hot seat today, teaching us about Modern Siren Skills, the subtle energy shifts that serve to draw a man in. She sheds light on the words and the body language that inspire romance and commitment. What can we learn from boredom and discomfort? And why chaos and messiness can sometimes be a good thing!   

What is love addiction? How can we know if our cravings and desires have crossed the line into obsession? Psychotherapist Sherry Gaba guides us through a thought-provoking, eye-opening discussion that reveals the nature of, and the impact, of love addiction. How it originates, how it takes hold and also how we can release it. She gives us tools for rewiring our brains for true love, first for ourselves. enabling us to then...have a fighting chance at loving and being loved by others! 

Have you missed opportunities for partnership and companionship based on something related to...money? Are your expectations around money realistic today? At this time in your life? In today's world? Dive in with me on the exploration of money and how it impacts our decisions regarding dating and relationships. Where are you on the Entitlement Scale? What resentments have built up over time for you in the arena of money / finances? What to do about it? Join me in this grown-up conversation as we call out fantasy and build new cultural ground together!

First dates by Zoom are increasingly commonplace. Don't avoid them; rather, join in on my discussion with Rachel Greenwald on how to prepare for your Zoom date. Rethink how you're entering and exiting your online dates. Discover the power in your voice as your connection tool and the gift that is your focused presence. Creating topics, questions and tactics to cause connection and intimacy, even through a computer screen. What's the difference between charisma and connection?  How to groom your voice for this new medium, and why a cough drop can make all the difference!   

How might your alcohol habit or dependency be impacting your dating life? Join in on my conversation with James Swanwick, author of "The 30-Day No Alcohol Challenge" to take a peek at what may be a pesky little (or not so little) deterrent to your creating the relationship you truly desire. Could it be that choosing to release alcohol from your lifestyle will result in greater freedom, enhanced confidence and ... access to a higher quality individual? 

Is "your type" the right choice for you, in reality? Listen in on Robin's story, as she and I wrestle with that question, and as she develops the courage to consciously choose to engage with men who are off-type. And how one guy got the girl through patience, persistence, confidence, and a bit of yard work!  

Join in on my conversation with Kathryn Alice, on recovering from loss and discovering the blocks that both protect us and limit us. How to release unhealthy attachments to a past love, former lifestyle or limiting belief, to clear space for fresh, new beginnings. What is Crazy Love? How to manage hot chemistry and how to recognize a true soulmate candidate. Plus, secrets to aligning on the pace of dating, and learning how to nurture a smarter, slower, more conscious courtship process!  

How large is your generosity of spirit? How courageous and compassionate have you been being with your communication? When we screw up, the value in a sincere apology and how to restore trust and engagement. Is why you're single related to your alcohol or pot smoking habits? Is it time to do a 30-day No Alcohol Challenge? What might happen to your dating life if you carved off that extra 10-20 pounds? How broken is your picker? How to negotiate politics and the pandemic paranoia quotient and how your most effective flirting tool today is....your facemask.

Listen in to discover how curiosity is more powerful than judgment in dating. How one new couple is negotiating finances, sex, political differences, who eats what, and who sleeps where. Surprisingly romantic dates over fast food and long, lazy road trips. The slippery slope that unhealthy habits are and how to get back on track. And how Jake transformed from awkward to awesome, simply by being willing to try, to learn, to venture out and to use dating as a vehicle for growth and his own evolution. 

Have you uncoupled consciously from your past relationships? Join me as Katherine Woodward Thomas shares why looking back into our history, with a guide, is essential in getting prepared for a healthy, mature future relationship. What is it to settle - with others and with ourselves? What do our patterns, triggers and choices say about us, and what does it take to move beyond what has been and what is now to what might be in the future?

Love as a powerful motivator, now more than ever! Listen in as I share real life stories of courageous men and women who are finding creative ways to date, even today.  Picnic dates with fresh lilacs, patio, portal and poolside dates, and spontaneous magic under a Cottonwood tree. A socially distant speed-dating event at a shelter in a park in Washington State. What great sports people are being! How one self described Plain Jane built her own social community and how a once separated couple are learning to live together and parent together, turning a crisis into a second chance for love!

Listen in as I interview Match.com's Chief Dating Expert Rachel DeAlto on the art of being relatable. The nature of expectations and why "your type" might not be working for you. Why calling cards are back in fashion and how women can be more assertive in early courtship. Remote video date flops and tips. Connecting through smiles, playfulness, sincerity, and contribution. Taking more chances, and learning to lean into each other!  

Creating dating magic...even now! Stark contrasts, and how do you receive opportunities? Are you a Human No Machine, or do you welcome and embrace opportunities and invitations? How to tell before meeting who's solid - and who's a hot mess?  How to have magical first dates by Zoom and how to have a romantic park bench date. Fun questions and topics for pandemic era first dates. Using this down time to build your black book and to fall more deeply in love with yourself, and how to save a date from going south!

Tune in on my conversation with Christina Weber, founder of Deepen, as we explore bonding through vulnerability. Does loneliness reflect selfishness? Are we truly more isolated when alone or when we're super busy? How does a guy go in for a kiss in today's germ-phobic culture? Transforming fear and skepticism into universal trust by embracing our soul's life journey. Activities that foster and enable relational skills and connection, and how magic is  is available just outside our comfort zones!  

Listen in as I tap into the wisdom of Dr. Ava Cadell, renowned sexologist regarding managing loneliness and depression. Nurturing loving kindness, water therapy, self-care; healing from fear, pain, loss, toxic relationships, releasing shame and guilt. Creating space, holding space, especially in tight quarters.How to come out of this better than before. Can courtship happen via video chat, without pheromones? How to connect and develop intimacy first, saving the bedroom for later. Deepening self love and intimacy with a new love interest through White Tantra. Sex toys, fantasies, erotic talk, roleplaying, developing a healthy body image, good porn vs. bad porn, and why seniors are having fantastic sex! 

Join in on a lively, edu-taining discussion with Jim Cathcart about developing confidence amid uncertainty. How to discover the opportunities in unintended consequences. The power in the word "yet" to shift from stuck to forward movement. The secret to developing discipline and healthy habits. Managing mindset, yours and your date's, and how to get out of a funk. Managing relationships while under pressure, in tight quarters. Creating and respecting boundaries, knowing what to ask for, what to let go of, and when to compromise!

Listen in as Arielle Ford shares how soulmates get magnetized. The healing nature of partnership; how to date, relate, and engage in relationship - even as an imperfect, flawed person. When to and how to reveal our weaknesses, flaws and critical deal-breakers. The secret to getting into alignment on finances and sex. What women can do to nurture masculinity in men and when to let go of being "right" in favor of and in honor of love. How to have more loving moments, how to choose love, appreciation and gratitude, even when things get ugly. What's your part in creating your own happiness and utter contentment?