Diana Kander: Professional Af

This episode is the most practical Professional AF that we’ve done. I had a chance to interview Fran Hauser, a long-time media executive, startup investor and best-selling author of The Myth of the Nice Girl. Fran is best known for her role building PEOPLE.com – one of the biggest media brands online – She made the leap to early stage investing in 2014. And 18 of the 20 companies she has invested in are founded by women, highlighting her broader commitment to increasing the representation of female founders and investors. Fran’s first book, THE MYTH OF THE NICE GIRL: deconstructs the negative perception of "niceness" that many women struggle with in the business world and  resonates with smart women who are looking to take their career to the next level. The Myth of the Nice Girl was named Audible's Best Business Book of 2018 and one of Amazon's Best Business and Leadership Books of 2018. In this episode, Fran is going to show you specific tools you can use to:·       Deliver difficult feedback·   

Over the last 6 months my husband Jason and I have been on an intense journey of mental health and a lot of that growth has come as a result of both of us working with therapists on a regular basis. And of course when you are going through something, you can really see the value in it for lots of others. But in talking about therapy with friends, I’ve found that many found it an intimidating and overwhelming process.  Even I have all kinds of questions about how therapy works, but it just doesn't feel right in the middle of a session. So this week I sat down with Lori Gottleib. She’s a psychotherapist and writes a weekly Dear Therapist Column for the Atlantic.  Lori has written a number of New York Times Bestselling books which have been translated to 20 languages. Her latest book just came out on April 2, and it’s called Maybe You Should Talk to Someone. Lori is going to explain:-       How therapists approach every session and what they are trying to accomplish-       How therapists think about change and h

Self compassion is the simple art of being kind to yourself in moments of despair the way that you would for a good friend.  But most of us are much kinder to our good friends than we are to ourselves. Today, I’m speaking with Dr. Kristin Neff. The top researcher for self compassion in the world.  Kristin will help us understand:How self compassion can help you reduce anxiety, stress, negative head trash, and significantly increase your achievement.  Why we are kinder to our good friends than we are to ourselves.  Why self criticism is not a good way to motivate our selves and push ourselves to be better. Why self esteem is a fair weather fan and always turns on us when we need it most.  And she will help answer the big myths of self compassion:That self compassion is a form of self pity.That self compassion means weakness.  That self compassion will make you complacent.  That self compassion is selfishSelf compassion has had a profound impact on the way my husband Jason and I live our lives and I hope you wi

One day soon, you may find yourself on the other end of woman to woman aggression, and the biological and social research this conversation highlights will help you understand exactly why it’s happening and more importantly – how to keep it from occurring in the first place. As you’ll hear quickly in the episode, I had a really difficult situation with a mentor in my very first professional job who I felt went behind my back. I was so confused when it happened and felt totally powerless in the situation.  So I found this book, In The Company of Women, written by Dr. Susan Murphy.  What a treat to get to find out from Susan: Why problems can arise among women when one of them is promotedHow to build relationships with female superiors, colleagues and those who report directly to youLeadership skills unique to womenThe language (verbal and nonverbal) that we use that can inflame female interactions

n this episode we're talking about charisma and influence.  No matter what your job title, chances are, you’ve got to sell your ideas to others. And when you’re done with your presentation, no one is ever going to say to you that you weren’t charismatic enough; you didn’t command the room; or you weren’t compelling.  So how would you ever know if this is a topic that’s holding you back?  That’s what I wanted to learn. In this episode, I talk to John Neffinger, the author of Compelling People: The Hidden Qualities That Make Us Influential. John is going to share: What is executive presence and how do you make sure that you have it?How people make character judgments about you – that they really only consider 2 things whether they like and respect you.Why women are at a disadvantage in the way these two attributes are judged, and what they must do to be respected but not disliked.What you consciously and subconsciously communicate to others, andWhat strategies you can use to become more charismatic and influent

My guest is Jackie Huba, the author of Fiercely You: Be Fabulous and Confident by Thinking Like a Drag Queen. Jackie is going to tell us: •           Why drag queens can teach women so much about confidence•           The power of creating an alternate persona for business meetings•           The nonverbal behaviors you might not be aware of that are demonstrating your power or lack there of•           The psychological effects your clothes have on your performance•           And what the heck is dragersizing and why is it so powerful

Coming March 18th,  Diana Kander interviews authors and thought leaders who have something to teach women about how to be more awesome at work. Diana acts like a guinea pig for each episode, trying the advice and instruction before each taping to report back on how well it worked for her.