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A light girlfriend chat after a hard week. Anyone else just need to feel lighter? We talk about Prince Harry, Pamela Anderson, habit stacking, winter blues, maman guilt (pet or human) – a grab bag of topics. All tying in to less guilt in our actions or inactions (except when it’s warranted as I’ve been personally convicted of lately) and overall how to stop making things heavier for ourselves or others as we choose more lightness. Links in this episode: The [temporary] Elegant Excellence Journal shop site is open! Get a discount on your Elegant Excellence Community membership when you join with a journal! Reels on the story of the site disappearance Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! © 2019 - 2023 Hilary Rushford

What’s the thing you keep trying to solve/fix/change in your life? What should I do for work? Why are friendships hard for me? How can I be less anxious or reactive? Today I’m sharing the history of the Elegant Excellence Journal, which is really the history of my evolution in personal growth — how to heal. I say in this chat, “I wanted healing, I wanted breakthrough, but it felt elusive.” Can you relate? This is what helped. Links mentioned in this episode: Join us inside the Elegant Excellence Journal here Black pens Zebra Midliner highlighters DiverseBee highlighters Heart paper clips Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! © 2019 - 2023 Hilary Rushford

What’s stealing your time? I asked myself that question while using my Elegant Excellence Journal one morning. When we’re behind most of us tend to go to one main reason. Perhaps that’s beating yourself up, or blaming others. Perhaps it’s a sense of failure that makes you procrastinate, or a believe you can solve it through perfection that amps you up into overdrive. What I realized is there are actually 5 different scenarios it could be. By opening up those possibilities, now I opened up my options. I didn’t have to just blame myself, but also sometimes I could take that ownership because I wasn’t making it “my fault” 100% of the time which is exhausting. I didn’t have to just accept it, but also sometimes I could have that acceptance and release because it didn’t leave me empowered that 100% of the time there’s nothing I can do to feel more safe or less overwhelmed. Suddenly I felt less like a failure or a victim. When we realize the habit groove we’ve been creating of one narrative isn’t the only opt

A simple 5-part daily check in on living with peace while surrounded with hard things we can’t control. Trigger warning we speak of suicide and loss of life at a too young age. Though we end with hope, with actionable steps to guide us in what it means to live well each day driven not by a fear of death but an appreciation of life. _________________ The 5 Hand Motions: Heart: Show Love Cheeks: Appreciate beauty Head: Keep a sense of the bigger picture Palms out: Give thanks Wrap: Love yourself as a child of God _________________ Links mentioned in this episode: YWP Ep 59: Permission to heal: social media, Covid + community (Circles of Grief) Article: Young people are more likely to die of heart attacks post-COVID, study finds. But why? Rise Together Podcast Ep 229: You are worthy of unconditional love IG post from t’Witch’s wife Alison: We will continue to live from joy + love Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss a

While in a hard season right now there’s 2 phrases I keep coming back to. One question, and one statement. They’re my mantras, my guides, and goodness are they blessing me. If you’re going through something hard right now it can feel complicated to find words of wisdom that really ring true. Don’t feel trite, don’t fall apart upon further scrutiny and application. Yes. And… sometimes it’s the simplest phrases that hold the most impact because we truly remember them. Listen in to see if they serve you as much as they are me. (PS One of them is from Tom Hanks. Though to be fair it’s also the wisdom inside a book I’m loving right now. Once you hear good truth, you often start to hear it more places!) Links mentioned in this episode: Get on the waitlist before the shop opens: ElegantExcellenceJournal.com  The View Was Exhausting by Mikaella Clements + Onjuli Datta The Idea of You by Robinne Lee Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. Please click the button to subscribe so yo

I’m embarrassed to admit this even happened. Yet a recent appointment made it crystal clear: I am a people pleaser in an unexpected way, with unintended consequences for people I care about (not to mention myself!) Furthermore, I experienced in real time when it’s worth it to be uncomfortable for a moment, to save yourself hours of discomfort if you stay silent. We could call this: The one where my hair was accidentally died red (again) on a day I just happened to have a call with our community here and therefore I had the beautiful accountability to walk back in and show up better for myself. Links mentioned in this episode: The Elegant Excellence Journal is coming so soon. Make sure you’re on the waitlist to hear first!   Journal & discussion Q’s: When do you not speak up and why? When do you cause more discomfort for people close to you by doing so? What is and is not rude, or demanding, or high maintenance? What’s the story you/culture tells you, and what’s the neutral truth? What do you not t

Do you have days it feels hard to get out of bed, or you want to climb back in halfway through? That was today for me, and I decided rather than putting on a happier face to talk about what I had planned, I’d just share. From bed, from notes in my Elegant Excellence Journal. Why do we hesitate to be honest we’re “still” not “over” what happened to us? That we may never be? With honesty, hope, humor, and more honesty… Links mentioned in this episode: The Elegant Excellence Journal is debuting so soon, better than ever. Get on the waitlist + be one of the first to see! Ep 29: 22 Steps to Feel Better in 1 Day (Easier Than it Sounds) Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. I’ll post a reels shortly after this goes live to gather any advice you have for myself + others on the grieving process. Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! © 2019 - 2023 Hilary Rushford

Culture puts much emphasis on the outside of our bodies. We feel confident or insecure based on what others see.  Hearing from a few students of my Healing Burnout course made me ponder a new layer of feeling beautiful that we’re overlooking: how our body feels on the inside, the parts that only we feel. This is inside body kindness, which then becomes more outside body kindness. I’ll explain in the episode! But I’ll tell you this: You deserve to feel beautiful. You deserve to be beautiful. Inside and out. In that order.  __________ Links mentioned in this episode: Join us inside my Healing Burnout Course + Elegant Excellence Community! You’re invited to this safe, supportive place for hope, help, and healing.  __________ Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! © 2019 - 2023 Hilary Rushford

The root reason you’re running so fast may surprise you. There’s the first layer fears. Once I dealt with those… I found a second layer, deeper reasons I didn’t even realize were there. Then I saw a friend go through the same phases, then students inside my Healing Burnout course started to report the same. Here’s the secret: the real magic of life comes when you get past the second layer. It’s where everything feels good. Feels like living. Links in this episode: [Free masterclass] 13 Signs of Burnout: Healing for a more beautiful life. Get your quiz score live with me and stick around for 1-on-1 coaching. Join us inside my NEW Healing Burnout Course + Elegant Excellence Community! Stop being harder on yourself in 2023, but softer with healing, help, and hope. ____ Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. Thank you in advance (wink) for subscribing, tapping the stars, and even leaving a brief review below!   © 2019 - 2023 Hilary Rushford

I have a vision for our new year, friend. One that is softer, more beautiful, yet has more easy strength than we’ve known. In today’s episode I break down how I arrived at a new season of inner confidence, and how that’s different from outer confidence.  We’ll talk about how to think about losses without minimizing them, what it means to feel like a situation broke you or didn’t break you, and importantly how to look a little longer-term when choosing what to prioritize and celebrate in our lives. This episode will feel like a warm cup of tea on a cozy couch. ****NEW: Enter the new year not being harder on yourself with resolutions, but softer with healing, help, and hope. Get on the waitlist for my new Healing Burnout course and Elegant Excellence Community.  Enrollment opens for just the second time ever this month! *** Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford.   © 2019 - 2023 Hilary Rushford

A gentle, delightful exercise to summarize your vision for the year ahead. In a riff off our Slow Sessions inside the Healing Burnout Course and Elegant Excellence Community, music will support you with space to think, write, and hear from yourself after the questions throughout. Whether you feel behind on your annual planning, or are already swimming in your “word of the year” or resolutions, use this session to bring extra clarity and confidence about what matters most to you this year and why. ***NEW: Enter the new year not being harder on yourself with resolutions, but softer with healing, help, and hope. Get on the waitlist for my new Healing Burnout course and Elegant Excellence Community.  Enrollment opens for just the second time ever in January! AND the Elegant Excellence Journal is coming back in 2023 with more new changes than ever before! Get on the waitlist today to be first to hear when she’s back in stock. *** Would love to hear your thoughts after the episode on Instagram @HilaryRushford

How to feel more joy, and hopefully a little less sadness this season, no matter what’s swirling around you. Family drama, work stress, life losses – the holidays can be a bit bumpy emotionally with triggers big and small we’re bracing for or didn’t see coming. During a bit of a tough time over Thanksgiving this phrase of 3 G’s came to me to explain what I was going through, how I was handling it, and why it was helping. Sharing today in hopes it blesses you as well! ***NEW: Enter the new year not being harder on yourself with resolutions, but softer with healing, help, and hope. Get on the waitlist for my new Healing Burnout course and Elegant Excellence Community.  Enrollment opens for just the second time ever in January! *** Would love to hear your thoughts after the episode on Instagram @HilaryRushford.   © 2019 - 2022 Hilary Rushford

Anyone else struggle with this? Using charming life lessons from The Holiday, I’m sharing a mental game that brings me more peace, less comparison or fear of judgment.  We know we shouldn’t care what others think of us, but that’s easier said than done. Using charming life lessons from The Holiday, I’m sharing a mental game that brings me more peace, less comparison or fear of judgment.  Press play for a seasonally appropriate mindset shift! Links mentioned in this episode: Ep 39: Royal Mindset Get on the waitlist for the 2023 Elegant Excellence Journal! Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. PS Thank you so much in advance for tapping the stars below to leave a review and hit subscribe so you see future episodes.   © 2019 - 2022 Hilary Rushford

Rest and leisure is one way we avoid burnout, but what about when it leaves us drained or regretful? Doesn’t feel the way we were hoping it would feel? Ever gone on a trip expecting to be rested and come home drained? Whether a vacation or family holiday, solo or group, simple long weekend or big financial investment.  Listen in for coaching on how to make the most of your time, money, and energy for delightful memories that leave you feeling the way you hope to feel when you plan them! Links mentioned in this episode: Ep 18: 3 Personality Types Get on the waitlist for the 2023 Elegant Excellence Journal! Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. PS Thank you so much in advance for tapping the stars below to leave a review and hit subscribe so you see future episodes.   © 2019 - 2022 Hilary Rushford

What should you rely on more when it comes to big choices? How often do we actually make a wrong decision? Which advice that we’re given is sound, and which might we question? Gain wisdom through the final in this 3-part series on making better decisions with more confidence and clarity. As I say at the end, “I’m working on and growing in having more peace with complicated choices, feeling less anxious about them, living with them more, accepting them, finding the silver linings and the hope that I can’t absolutely know for sure that it won’t be great either way, that the tough spots won’t get better, and from that place of hope and trust, it makes it a lot easier to take leaps and look for the best along the way, which tends to mean we’ll find it.” Links in this episode: Get on the waitlist for the 2023 Elegant Excellence Journal! Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. PS Thank you so much in advance for tapping the stars below to leave a review and hit subscribe so you s

An equation to help in the moments of endlessly waffling back and forth: Should I? Or no?? The more you overthink, the harder it feels to make a choice. Here’s why and a mindset that helps us make peace amidst challenging and important decisions. Links in this episode: Get on the waitlist for the 2023 Elegant Excellence Journal! Episode #112: Motherhood: Yes, no maybe?  Episode #98: The 2-Part Fashion Cocktail Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. PS - Thank you so much in advance for tapping the stars below to leave a review and hit subscribe so you see future episodes. © 2019 - 2022 Hilary Rushford

We spend so much time trying to make wise choices. How do we still get it wrong sometimes?! In this first episode of a three part series, we’ll use the kismet story of meeting our new kitten Freddie Cappuccino to ponder how much we know about what will really make us happy. Plus where is the balance between planning, and leaving room for fate. Links in this episode: Get on the waitlist for the 2023 Elegant Excellence Journal! Episode 112: Motherhood: Yes, No, Maybe? Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. © 2019 - 2022 Hilary Rushford

What’s the #1 cause of these horrible feelings that create so much exhaustion in your life, whether self-loathing, shame, or anger and judgment – at yourself and others? I believe I’ve identified the one core scenario that exacerbates all of these or creates more grace and connection. Listen in to feel more peace, love, and ease for you and everyone in your life. Links in this episode: NEW Healing Burnout course, join the waitlist! NEW Elegant Excellence Community, ditto! The novel I recommend The heavier novel I adored but it’s a doozy! Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. © 2019 - 2022 Hilary Rushford

I’ve missed you! When the ground fell out beneath me this summer, here's what helped me swim back to the surface, plus kept me healthy during a challenging year before that. If you want things to feel a little easier, you are welcome here. If you’re tired or grieving, you are welcome here. If you’re looking for hope or healing, you are welcome here. Links in this episode: My 1st IG post about grief this summer The "disappointment" post that resonated deeply Our new kitten's debut NEW workshop: “13 Signs of Burnout: Healing for a more beautiful life.” HilaryRushford.com/13signs NEW Healing Burnout course and Elegant Excellence Community: HilaryRushford.com/burnout Join the waitlist Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. © 2019 - 2022 Hilary Rushford

Behind the scenes as I walk the walk in making hard choices of less but better in this season. Join the wait list for the Elegant Excellence Goals Journal + Workshops! Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. Submit Q’s or future topics at HilaryRushford.com/podvip.