Principles Into Practice With Kain Ramsay

Have you ever found yourself self sabotaging a relationship? And have you ever thought for a moment as to why you would even do this? One of the things that may help you to recognise self-sabotaging behaviour is to recognise that you are actually trying to protect yourself rather than sabotage yourself. We all have a survival part that is programmed into us, psychologists refer to this part of us as our defence mechanisms. They get activated by fear and go into action in the attempts of protecting us from getting hurt. You might find yourself operating from an unhelpful belief that tells you something along the lines of, "I can't deal with emotional pain," so, you end up finding yourself fleeing uncomfortable relationship situations, or engaging in some other self-protective/self-sabotaging behaviour, as if there is a real physical threat, when in reality the only threat is coming from your very own thoughts and beliefs. As I mentioned in on one of the Section One stories, we become who we believe we are