Wilde About Wellbeing

NO ONE EVER PICKED UP A DRINK THINKING “I’M GOING TO GET ADDICTED TO THIS.”   We don’t always make our decisions about our habits consciously. The ones that end up not serving us are, indeed, the most unlikely to been stepped into knowingly.   Maybe you took a drink to steel your nerves for a first date, love? Or found that you were ‘lucky’ when you won a bet? Perhaps you were feeling lonely in your relationship, and porn filled the intimacy gap?   The problem is that EVERY HABIT is on a SEESAW. It starts out serving you - you’re less shy; you feel lucky; you don’t feel so lonely, etc.   Gradually you move towards the seesaw’s pivot point, and that’s where the trouble starts. After the pivot, comes the ‘downhill’.  The habit has become UNSERVING.   The drinks mean you’re at work with a hangover. The bets mean you’re scared to look at your bank account. The porn means you feel constant shame.   YOU DIDN’T KNOW THAT WOULD HAPPEN.   People say BS like “Oh alcohol is always a slippery slope - (s)he must’ve known