Jerry Banfield

Have you ever found yourself saying "he" or "she" started it? I know I used to say this a lot, and lived my life on a "you started it" basis. What does "you started it" mean? It means someone did or said something that forced you to react out of your own control. In other words, you are not at fault for your reaction since someone else caused it. When you apply this thinking to adult relationships it becomes pretty ridiculous. The idea of "you started it" creates an artificial beginning that ignores everything that happened before it, and takes the responsibility away from the person who did not start it. If you want to feel better about yourself and others, you must first be accountable for your own behavior. Do not let others dictate how you act. I want to thank you for taking the time to listen to this, and as always I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support