The Terri Cole Show

I am so excited to have one of my best friends on the show, Sabrina Soto. You may know her from HGTV, and she's here to celebrate some amazing news: the debut of The Sabrina Soto Show! (I'm a guest on one of the episodes

Have you ever lost someone close to you?  Or do you worry about the people you love dying? Death and dying have been on my mind a lot because I recently lost a close friend of mine. Knowing that she was going to die brought up a desire to explore and talk about death and dying. Whether you’re actively dealing with this or anticipating it, I hope sharing my experience and what I’ve learned will help you feel more prepared. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/698

On today’s episode, I’ve invited Diego Perez (pen name Yung Pueblo) on to celebrate his newest book, How to Love Better: The Path to Deeper Connection Through Growth, Kindness, and Compassion. We talk all about how to form better connections with everyone you love: How to meet conflict with teamwork, how mindfulness can help you respond rather than reacting, and making space to listen to others when they are overwhelmed with emotion rather than matching their energy. Plus, Diego shares his origin story and his own biggest boundary struggle! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/697

Have you heard the term erotic intelligence before?  If you haven’t, does it sound like it’s all about sex? Before attending a transformative retreat with Esther Perel and Paul Browde, that’s kind of what I thought.  Talk about confronting! I had agreed to attend with a friend after her husband dropped out, without knowing the details, because it was in Costa Rica and who would say no to that? I was surprised to learn erotic intelligence is actually about feeling alive and energized in your life, and I walked away with a renewed sense of vitality.  In this episode, I’ll share what I learned during the retreat as well as the questions and exercises we walked through to help raise your awareness around erotic intelligence. By the end, I hope you’ll feel similarly lit up about life. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/696

How are you actually doing in this turbulent world we're living in right now? If you're feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or ungrounded, you're not alone. The constant barrage of negative news, social media alerts, and global uncertainty can take a serious toll on our mental and emotional well-being. The good news? You are more resilient than you think. But being proactive about protecting your peace isn't just nice to have – it's essential for navigating these challenging times. In this week's episode of The Terri Cole Show, I'm sharing practical techniques to soothe your nervous system and ground yourself, even during the most turbulent times. Plus, I've created a special guided meditation that you can download and use whenever you need a few minutes of calm. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/694

Today I’m sharing a chat with Karena Dawn, a second-time guest on the show! Since we spoke last, she’s been hard at work writing as well as continuing to develop a platform around wellness and mental health awareness. We chat about her new memoir The Big Silence, in which she shares the story of how she and her family coped with her mother’s schizophrenia during a time when people struggled to discuss mental health openly. Plus, she tells us the secret to building a successful community which can become a successful brand. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/693

Are you in a relationship with a high-functioning codependent (HFC)? Are both you and your partner HFCs? In my experience, HFCs tend to flock together. Many of my friends identify as HFCs, and my husband is also an HFC.  Some of you have asked how to navigate relationships with fellow HFCs, especially as you get into recovery and become more aware of (and perhaps annoyed by) their behavior.  If you can relate, this episode is for you because I’m talking about the dynamics of high-functioning codependency in relationships, how I’ve managed this in my marriage, and steps you can take to stay on your side of the street while shifting this dynamic into a healthier space. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/693

Today’s guest has brought optimism and mindfulness to the interior design and DIY space like nobody else I know! I chat with Meaghan about how she got into decorating, writing, and editing– and how she maintains the pragmatic, positive mindset that helps her navigate her success. Plus: How parenting can offer special challenges and lessons for high-functioning codependents like Meaghan and I. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/691

Is flaking - canceling at the last second - the new self-care? It seems to be on the rise and according to an article in The Guardian, the answer for some people is yes. I disagree. Flaking is avoidable with healthy boundaries and self-knowledge, and there are many self-care practices we can do that don’t involve regularly canceling on others. In this episode, I share my thoughts on flaking, explore the nuances of having the right to change our minds (which I stand by), and detail steps to take for actual self-care in your life. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/690

Jen Kem has spent her career marketing for some of the biggest corporate and personal brands–and today, she’s sharing some tips to help you launch your next big idea! We chat about how Jen’s leadership types model can help you construct the team that will help you reach your goals, how structure can help you let go of team members when they no longer serve you in a new season of your career, and Jen’s childhood being told that women needed to be everything at once. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/689

Are you considered “successful” by societal standards, but can’t enjoy your success because you’re busy moving on to whatever’s next? Or do you constantly feel behind, like you could be doing more? Have you checked all the ‘big’ boxes in life (degree, career, love, stuff), but still feel unfulfilled or uninspired by what you’ve achieved? If you answered yes, this episode is for you because I am talking about the power of redefining success for less burnout, especially for high-functioning codependents (HFCs). I’m also giving you real-life examples of how our stories about success can lead us astray and practical steps to take to clarify what success means to you. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/688

Becoming a mother at 18 turned Heather from a self-described under-achiever into a high-functioning codependent. Receiving a stage 4 cancer diagnosis at 28 was the wake-up call that reminded her to live for herself. Heather shares her story, tells how she learned the role of internal resistance in positive change, and gives you tips that will help you take back control when you feel like you just don’t have enough time. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/695

I first found Dr. Bryant on Instagram, where her approachable wisdom about partnerships reeled me in. Today, I’m sharing it with all of you! This conversation is a real talk about why we sometimes seek relationships where people need us instead of want us and overcoming the urge to control everything instead of co-creating with a partner. Plus, we chat about when to cut someone out and when continuing to improve your 50% of the relationship might be a viable choice. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/687

How do you feel about Valentine’s Day? Do you often find yourself disappointed? Does it make you feel alone and down?  Does your partner forget about it, even though you ask to make plans? Do they give you gifts that feel hollow?  Whether you’re single or partnered, I invite you to put a self-consideration spin on Valentine’s Day with my favorite three-step self-love ritual. All the steps are below along with tips on how to avoid disappointment on the day. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/686 Don't miss the chance to join my free Raise Your Love Vibe Kickstart at terricole.com/love!

Some say you should never talk about politics, religion, or money in polite company – But today’s guest doesn’t agree! On today’s episode, Marianne Williamson contextualizes Christianity and Christ to offer insight into modern challenges: Personal hardships, disconnection from others, and even the growing polarization of the political climate. She offers a perspective that harmonizes Christianity with other religious and spiritual ideologies that can guide us to cultivate healthy minds. Plus, Marianne shares the human moments that bring her joy despite her concern about world events. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/685

Is setting boundaries intimidating because you worry that people will get mad or abandon you if you do? Do you avoid telling the truth or setting limits out of fear? Or do you people-please to keep the peace and avoid rejection? If you’re nodding your head, this episode is for you because I’m talking about how fear of rejection is the common root of many of our self-abandoning behaviors, what this fear costs us, and steps you can take to overcome it. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/684

Today I have the pleasure of sharing a chat with my long-time friend and repeat guest Christine Hassler. She shares the incredible story of how she pursued a healthy, mature partnership– And how you can also call that love into your life if you want to be partnered and you’re not. We also chat about ways to self-regulate and soothe your immune system and how to seek love from a mindset of growth rather than suffering or lack.  Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/683

Do you reluctantly agree to things you’d rather not do because you don’t know how to say no? When you’re annoyed about something, do you say everything is FINE rather than saying what’s bothering you? Do you also tend to judge someone if they don’t pick up on how you really feel? In these situations, there’s an expectation that people will intuit our true emotions from the clues we drop.  However, relying on indirect communication can cause stress and resentment in our relationships because how we feel isn’t always apparent to others, even if we feel like it is. The solution is authentic and direct communication, which is usually less comfortable, and why we often act rather than talk things out!  I want to empower you to choose to talk and assert your needs, which is what this episode is about. I’ll cover why we find it hard to speak our minds, why we may find it easier to judge and blame others, and ideas for being more authentic in our communication. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com

Today I’m chatting with Jillian Turecki about her new book, It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life. She shares how acceptance and shared vision for the future can help you create a lasting love, how to tell if your partner isn’t right for you, and some hard truths that will help you get unstuck in love and life. Plus, she answers a question that could change how you approach dating: In order to love someone in a healthy way, do you need to love yourself first? Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/681

Are you overly invested in the feeling states, situations, careers, circumstances, and relationships of the people in your life, to the detriment of your own internal peace? So invested, that setting and maintaining boundaries feels selfish or impossible? If so, you’re not alone, and this episode is for you. I’m looking at the Boundary Boss Bill of Rights from my first book, but through the lens of high-functioning codependency because that’s what my newest book, Too Much, is all about!  For high-functioning codependents (HFCs) who are used to giving, setting boundaries can be challenging, but they’re essential to our relationships. These boundary rights can serve as transformative tools for breaking free from the cycle of over-giving, people-pleasing, and self-abandonment so prevalent in HFCs. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/680