The Chick Whisperer Podcast

Co-Host Michael Lassen (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/lovefreedom) Deep-thinker Michael Lassen returns for a third time to the show, this time with bold new thoughts on how we as men should prioritize love and freedom in order to live fuller lives, and enjoy fuller and better relationships with women. After all, if you are truly free and have mastered love over fear, how can you possibly be anything but happier and better off? Sound simplistic...even reductionist? Well, Michael came prepared to explain everything. In his mind, it all starts with freedom combining with love in several key ways that most men never even get around to thinking about. For example, what if our attachment to outcomes we hope for is really fear-based, and perhaps keeping us from an even better outcome we don't foresee coming? What if we had the freedom to allow that better outcome to happen? And what if you could focus on what you love in a way that actually gives you more freedom to combine multiple elements for even greater satisf

Co-Host Cyndi Olin (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/create) My guest is dating coach for women extraordinaire Cyndi Olin, who is returning for the second time...even though it feels like about the 80th. You see, back when Clubhouse was a flash in the pan, Cyndi and I hosted a weekly room called Dogs And Cats Living Together. We covered just about every controversial topic you could think of when it comes to men and women relating and getting along. So in the spirit of the old Blues Brothers movie, it was time to get the band back together. And picking up where we left off at Clubhouse, this show is all about the future of men and women relating together. I kicked things off by asking Cyndi to shout out the first issues that come to mind for her, which had the expected result of taking this show in unexpected and entertaining directions. What do you know? She immediately brought up the radical idea of slowing relationship momentum down in a world that seems to be on fast-forward these days. And romance? Yes, sh

Co-Host Doug Noll (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/noll) It's not uncommon for us as men to imagine ourselves as warriors. But the wisest warriors know a valid war isn't about the fighting, it's about the peace at the end. Even soldiers are often tasked as peacekeeping forces. Popular guest Doug Noll returns to discuss how we as men are actually at our best when we're peacemakers. This guy works in maximum security prisons teaching murderers how to be exactly that, with great success...so you know he's on to something. Indeed, Doug hits the ground running with a full-scale explanation of why violence is perhaps the least evolved of possible masculine responses. And when it comes to keeping peace with the women in your life, wait until you hear Doug explain his genius concept of 'listening your girlfriend into existence'. Then, hang in there for Doug's explanation of how another concept can help propel your career as well as your relationships with others, including women. Next, what are the fascinating ways yo

Co-Host Dom Brightmon (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/dom) It's a well-established concept that making other people feel cool is exactly what makes people think you're a cool guy. Well, above and beyond the sheer entertainment value of spending some time with Dom, the beauty of this episode is how we talk about taking that idea to the next level. What are some ways we can strengthen our bonds with people we are already friends with that transforms them into brothers for life? And what's the secret behind 'sharing the wealth' of friendships and acquaintances we have in a way that increases our influence AND our esteem in the minds of others? Next, listen as Dom masterfully explains why books and YouTube videos can only take you so far, but it's real one-to-one human interaction and mentorship that really makes a lasting difference at the individual level. What does Dom mean when he says, 'everything is customer service'? I mean, wouldn't that make our everyday relationships feel a bit too 'businesslike'? How d

Co-Host Emily McKay (https://www.deservewhatyouwant.com) It seems to everyone paying attention that beautiful women enjoy a massive 'halo effect'. It's like they're treated like celebrities--or even royalty--everywhere they go. But what else is going on there? What's it REALLY like to be a sexy, attractive woman out there in the dating world? Well, in my decidedly un-biased opinion, Emily is exactly the right female human being to offer first-hand perspective on all of this. First, off, we talk about how there are two kinds of women...those who rely on their looks, and those who see the bigger picture. What's life like for each? Do women look for reasons to 'reject' men? And what's it like to have to put almost everyone in the JBF Zone? What do truly attractive women really think when a man compliments them? (Hint: it might not be what you were told by the PUA community) Could it really be true that the hotter a woman is, the LESS she gets asked out (even if she's 'hit on' more)? Do women really enjoy their a

Co-Host Nick Sparks (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/sparks) Nick Sparks is one of the OGs in the men's dating space, so he and I have known each other and respected each other's work for, wow...fifteen years now. So when Nick started a series of Facebook posts singing the praises of online dating and apps in THIS day and age, it caught my attention...and raised my eyebrows. Nevertheless, fully realizing Nick typically knows what he's talking about, I invited him onto the show for a friendly debate on the current state of meeting women online. Right off the bat, I'm happy to report this conversation does not disappoint. What are YOU guys reporting to me, compared to the reports NICK is getting? And since Nick is single right now, what is his personal experience like these days? What are the pros and cons of meeting women online compared to meeting them IRL? How many of them are recent developments, and how many are basically the same as they've ever been? What changes have the developers of dating sites and ap

Co-Host Walid El Jebbari (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/walid) A lot of men fantasize about getting women from Eastern Europe, Colombia, The Philippines, etc. Sometimes it's because they're not having any luck finding a woman in their own country, but other times it's because they suppose those women are sexier or more feminine than the ones in their neck of the woods. Well, like me, my guest Walid El Jebbari has traveled all over the world and met all kinds of women. What's more, he has actually dated plenty of them. Wait until you hear his thoughts on what's the same and what's different about women across various geographies, especially as it pertains to both socio-political factors and the masculine/feminine dance. What is the big surprise that awaits most men when they get into a relationship with an Eastern European woman? Are Latinas really 'hotter' than other women? And which women are Walid's favorite in the entire world? (HINT: The answer might surprise you.) And here's a particularly poignant ques

Co-Host Derek Loudermilk (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/derek) My long time friend and world adventure expert Derek Loudermilk returns, this time to discuss another passion of his...supernatural phenomena. More specifically, we're talking about how to potentially incorporate supernatural experiences into being a better man and more attractive with women. Here's the thing, though. At heart, Derek is a scientist...so everything he is curious about and tries is rooted in scientific method. To what extent does Derek believe time travel is possible...and how has he experienced it? What religious experiences are actually backed by scientific reality? How does Derek give new meaning to 'tree hugging'? What are 'heart fields', and what are they constantly doing for us whether we realize it or not? How do concepts we can't empirically measure affect our mindset and our success with women constantly? What about our dream world...is there any actual reality behind that? What about telekinesis, telepathy and 'remote vie

Co-Host Dr. Thomas Jordan (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/jordan) My guest is the author of the bestselling book Learn To Love: Guide To Healing Your Disappointing Love Life. In it, Tom Jordan defines your 'psychological love life' and how it often leaves us straight-up disappointed. We can be disappointed in the partners we choose to begin with, leading us to cycle people in and out of our lives. Or, we can be disappointed in the context of the same relationship over and over, inevitably leading us to feel like we've settled. What if you've made a horrible choice when it comes to the woman you're with? What if you regret your long-term relationship? Do people really keep perpetuating bad relationship choices unconsciously? What changes can be expected from finally becoming conscious? What tragic phenomenon often happens the first time or two a person with a distorted picture of relationships actually meets someone who is potentially healthy for them? And along those same lines, what of the pandemic proportio

Co-Host Joe Buchoff (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/photos) Let's face it, a lot of men have become disillusioned about online dating these days. It seems as if the apps and dating sites have cornered the market on keeping everybody single, lonely and addicted to their product. But here's the thing...it is true--and always has been--that 5 percent of the men online are getting all the women. Nope, they're not necessarily the tall, rich, good looking ones. They're the ones who GET IT...and do the best with what they've got. Joe Buchoff is an online dating photographer out of Austin, TX who specializes in turning men from zeroes to heroes on dating apps. You'll find he has some interesting, if slightly controversial ideas on the subject. In fact, he goes against some of the most basic advice you've heard about online dating pics. Along the way we discuss whether or not women are looking for an excuse to swipe left, whether or not men should post 'selfies', and offer our take on the 'beautiful test' I found on Q

Co-Host Jeremy Gardner (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/mademan) My guest Jeremy Gardner has gone from a rough upbringing to being a high-profile 'crypto bro', which led to being a silicon-valley venture capitalist. But nowadays he has turned his attention almost completely to men's skin care. No doubt, I hear men grumble all the time about how women get all the advantages in the looks department--cosmetics, makeup, etc. And I mean, anyone who has ever seen the 'before and after' pics of female celebs with and without makeup knows exactly how that can play out. So then, what Jeremy advocates is leveling the playing field for us as men...starting with making our skin look its absolute best. He even goes so far as to say this could be THE major factor that will attract women who might otherwise not even notice you. In fact, he strongly advocates TELLING women you practice skin care as soon as you meet them to turn them on. As odd as that may sound, there is truth in the simple fact that women appreciate a man wh

Co-Host Joe Cordell (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/cordell) I felt like I already knew this guy, having heard his radio commercials here in San Antonio for like 12 years now. Maybe you've heard of Joe Cordell also, as his family law firm for men only is in 37 states and the UK now--all supported by radio ads. The real question, however, is why I couldn't have heard of this guy 19 years ago when I needed him! In this unique episode, Joe talks more candidly than any divorce lawyer I've ever met about YOUR rights as a man, the patterns he sees in couples filing for divorce, why most divorces are likely preventable, and how to make the best decisions for yourself AND your family if confronted with the possibility of divorce yourself. Wait until you hear what Joe has to say about when men vs. women file for divorce. He also has surprising comments regarding the oft-used phrase 'in the best interest of the children'. Equally surprising is who Joe suggests you call FIRST when considering divorce (it's not a lawyer)

Co-Host John Mitchell (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/mitchell) 'At 50 I wanted to be married. I saw that was more important than making big money.' That's a quote from my guest co-host, John Mitchell. What's particularly significant about it is we're talking about a guy here who increased his income by twenty-five fold. So when he tells you finding the right woman was important to him, that's how serious he was. And yes...in his estimation he increased his success with women every bit as much as he increased his personal wealth. And no...he doesn't credit the latter with the former. Anyway, considering how David DeAngelo once built an empire out of merely doubling your dating, this is a man you should definitely listen to. Interestingly enough, John says it's all actually scientific. To be more specific, the most profound thing John has ever learned is what's directly responsible for it, and he spills the whole secret for you. What is the biggest problem about modern-day self-help that makes it counter-produ

Co-Host Ken Bechtel (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/yes) My guest Ken Bechtel has given a lot of thought to being true to oneself, or as he calls it, 'following your yes'. Essentially, the conversation on such a topic revolves around doing what we're told vs. thinking, feeling and intuiting for ourselves. Sometimes that's even trickier than it sounds. For example, what if someone else's 'yes' really sounds like it SHOULD be OUR yes also, but it really shouldn't be? So then, what if your yes isn't everyone else's yes? And what if everyone else's yes doesn't seem like yours? How do our heart, head and gut instinct work together properly to make the right 'yes' decisions at the right time? How do different personality types find their 'yes' in different ways? And how does following your 'yes' reconcile with finding purpose and meaning over the longer-term? What if following your 'yes' creates significant hardship in your life, or causes a rift in your family or your social circle? Are certain personality types b

Co-Host Emily McKay (https://www.deservewhatyouwant.com) Who knows why this topic hadn't been covered yet around here? My edumckayted guess is it probably had something to do with repressed memories. Yes, Emily and I both are survivors of first marriages affected by profound illness. And yes...we both strongly agree you would be better off avoiding psychotic people in general, especially the sexy female ones. But when you get right down to it, that's only one kind of woman you should definitely run away from. So why is it, then, that too many of us as men end up with the wrong woman? Is it that we ignore red flags? Is it failure to even recognize red flags at all? Or does low self-esteem compel us to settle, which is at least better than being lonely? Is it about being 'clouded by beauty vision'? For sure, some people--men OR women--are manipulated or even threatened by black-hearted partners into sticking around. Or what if it's something else entirely? Well, here at X & Y Communications we believe in de

Co-Host April Davis (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/april) Bringing up the topic of what women are looking for tends to trigger heavy-duty cynicism in men. After all, we've all met our fair share of golddiggers, and most of us have been thoroughly confused by women's signals our whole lives...especially the sexual ones. Well, my guest today is April Davis, president of the LUMASearch matchmaking firm in Minneapolis, MN. As a professional matchmaker, she spends her days immersed in helping women find exactly the kind of man they want. Naturally, women want some of the very things you suspect they do--and tune in as April mirrors some of my favorite soapbox points on the subjects without any hints from me. However, April's female perspective, balanced and practical such that it is, means you can expect some refreshing (and surprising) takes from her on where women's heads are nowadays. And rest assured, you don't have to lose your wallet or your dignity to thrill a woman. Quite the opposite, in fact. So what if

Co-Host Avrum Weiss (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/avrum) We don't talk about it. Many of us probably don't even admit it, at least not in public. But the vast majority of us as men are afraid of women...in at least one way, shape or form. We're afraid to approach them and talk to them. We're afraid of 'rejection'. We're afraid they'll cry foul and accuse us of doing something we didn't do. Or we're afraid we'll disappoint them, falling short of being a 'hero' of sorts. Maybe we're afraid of 'failing to deploy' when the chips are down, inside OR outside the bedroom. And you can be darn skippy sure plenty of us fear what will happen to us if ever dragged into divorce court. These fears are exacerbated in part because we as men are told we're not supposed to be afraid of anything, but it's all made even worse by the simple fact that we're ESPECIALLY not supposed to be afraid of women. But here's the truly crazy part. Have you ever stopped to consider that for the most part, women have NEVER imposed fear upon u

Co-Host Roger Williams (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/roger) Ever since the movie called The Bucket List came out in 2007, plenty of people have put together their own version of it. Not everyone, however. Plenty of people are apparently content to do the 'suburban sleepwalk', waking up to do what they did yesterday, and what they'll also do tomorrow, ad infinitum. Well, my guest Roger Williams had a wakeup call in late 2020 when he suffered a heart attack. Suddenly, it was obviously a mistake to assume we can wait until retirement to do everything fun or adventurous that we've ever dreamed of doing. These days, he's not only passionate about crossing off items from his own bucket list, he's all about encouraging you to build a bucket list of your own and do the same. He even hosts a show called The Crossing It Off Podcast. So then, what are the kind of items that are perfect to add to our own bucket lists? What would be a BAD reason to add a particular item to it? What are the kinds of things most men compl

Co-Host Jim Wolfe (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/wolfe) A lot of men get 'cold feet' even thinking about a long-term monogamous relationship. It sounds so, well...final to to them. I mean, what if you really do feel buried when you're married? I mean, does the saying have to be true, 'Life's a bitch, then you marry one'? Well, my returning guest and fellow relationship coach Jim Wolfe has some solid ideas on what to do before you even meet a woman to make sure you find yourself with one you're psyched to keep for the long-haul. And after you meet her, how can your masculine leadership have real, tangible effects on how attracted you stay to her over time? Why do people marry when they don't even like each other, let alone love each other? Even if you do love each other and are best friends, how can you proactively guard against resentment creeping into the relationship? What are important ways to stay interesting to each other even after the 'honeymoon period' of raging hormonal lust wears off? Wait a minute

Co-Host Frank Miniter (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/frank) Hard times create strong men. Strong men create good times. Good times create weak men. Weak men create hard times. And so the cycle goes. Where we are at this precise moment in history is open to debate, but one thing is for sure: both my returning guest Frank Miniter from America's 1st Freedom and I are all for being a stronger man rather than a weaker one, regardless. A major part of that is actively embracing masculinity rather than passively sitting on the sidelines. One of the first (and best) ways to affirm that mindset is to actively embrace personal freedom rather than surrendering it. Are you an individual, or are you part of a collective? According to Frank, you're the latter, he cannot see why any woman would take you seriously. And indeed, the same men who lapse into a societal 'coma of comfort' tend to be the same ones who get nowhere in their careers, drown in porn, fail to attract women, and then blame everyone else for their frustra