Paul Elmore

  In this, the next-to-the-last episode of the STUCK podcast series, we look at the radical idea of loving those that have hurt you as a way of getting UnSTUCK. We look at the origins of this idea, how it’s played out in the media, and, most importantly, why we, as normal human beings, have […]

Your emotional state—also known as your state mind—is THE #1 determinant of success in your daily life. When you’re triggered by things like hunger, pain, fear, or discouragement, trying to accomplish important things seems impossible. In this episode of the STUCK Podcast series, we do things a little differently and play around with changing our […]

If you believe something can’t be done, you devote less effort trying to make it happen. This makes sense if you’re trying to defy the laws of gravity—it’s probably a good thing to move on and invest your energy in something else. But if the impossible thing IS possible, like getting a new job, or […]

In this episode, we look at the second of three main causes of being STUCK—Curses and blessings… better known as the Pygmalion Effect. Many times, people’s opinions of you affect your self-concept and determine how successful or limited you feel and act. What To Listen For In This Podcast  A recap and real-time example of […]

In this, the second of seven podcast on being STUCK (and more importantly, how to get UnSTUCK) we look at The Trauma Cycle… one of the three common reasons you might be feeling like you can’t get where you want to be in life. Because it affects you at such a deep, core level, trauma is one […]

Sometimes we all feel STUCK. We don’t like where we are, what we are, or who we are. But you also may not be sure how to get UnSTUCK. That’s what this series is all about. This is the first of seven podcasts exploring how to ACTUALLY promote change in your life and how to take […]

The biggest question I got from last week’s episode was “HOW do you go from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset?” It’s not easy to change, but it IS possible. Since a fixed mindset usually is learned through experiences, the way you change is intentionally create new experiences for yourself that will challenge the […]

Events are inherently neutral. It is your perspective that determines if something is good or bad. The good news is (actually, it’s REALLY good news) is that you have full control over your perspective of events and experiences of life. YOU get to determine how you move through life. Sometimes, perspectives change. Think back to […]

There are no easy answers when it comes to grieving. There is no way to escape certain levels of pain. And grieving can not be reduced to a simple formula. At it’s very root, grieving is wrestling with the bigger question of pain. Why do we have to endure pain in this world? Why do […]

  You’ve heard that forgiveness is an important step in the healing process. But HOW to forgive is not always as clear. In this episode we look at the 4 Steps to Forgiveness. Identifying the injury and its impact—How did you get hurt? What does it cost you? What is the long term impact? Making […]

In this episode we go over several of the primary topics covered in Failure101 including the purpose of failure, shame vs. Guilt, and Forgiveness. Three Things to Listen For Mistakes are okay, survivable, and necessary for me to grow. Mistakes are an event, NOT a person. Forgiveness is a necessary part of failure in order to […]

(This is the first of a 6 week series on Failure. Each week is presented live at Imago Dei’s Refuge in Portland, Oregon. The people at Imago have been kind enough to allow me to come back each summer and present on a variety of topics including Failure1o1, Shame, Relationships, and Self Esteem.) Want To […]

This is the third episode of a special podcast series from The Codependency Project. Get the entire Codependency Project here. In this episode, we’re talking about one of the more toxic dynamics in unhealthy relationships—covert contracts. Covert Contracts are the “nice” things you do for other people, but you do them in expectation of getting […]

This is the second of three podcast giving you a little sample of The Codependency Project. The Project is actually a collection of 24 projects that you can work through at your own pace to help you have healthy, non-codependent relationships. In this episode, we’re talking about the greatest struggle codependent people have—the inability to […]

  Three Podcasts That Are A Little Different About a year ago, myself and a friend, Dave, created The Codependency Project. The idea came out of the Affinitas series I taught last summer (Affinitas means ‘relationship’ in latin) and is the How-To portion to the information that was presented. The Codependency Project is an audio […]

This is the last podcast of the series and one of the more important ones. It will sound significantly different than the rest of the podcasts, but listen all the way through. If you have comments, thoughts, or strong feelings about this podcast, feel free to leave comments below. The Movie At about the 17:30 […]

  A Night At The Movies This week was a little different in the Self Esteem Series. We spent the night looking at stories and characters from modern movies that became transformed by the adventures they experienced. (I’d suggest watching all the movies discussed. Here’s the list: The Matrix, Ben-Hur, The Lord of The Ring […]

Everyone gets stuck in their thinking every once in a while. It’s when you become permanently stuck in that you begin to have real problems. That’s when you’re in a mental rut. In this episode of the Self Esteem Podcast, we’ll be looking at some of the common reasons why you can’t take action when […]

In this episode of the Self Esteem Podcast we discuss how to start changing your thinking patterns. Here’s some of the stuff we cover: Tools To Promote Change Childlike Curiosity—wonder, Christmas and bugs etc… Experimentation—willingness to try things just to see what will happen. Best vs. right—you may not have all the information, make the […]

Mind maps are the internal representation of the outside world. They are how you “see” the world and how you feel safe. Every second you are receiving millions of pieces of information that you take in through your 5 senses—Sight, Hearing, Taste, Smell, and Touch. This information makes up your mind map. But not all […]