Last First Date Radio

Did you grow up with a narcissistic mother? My podcast guest, Suzanne Manser, PhD is a Harvard-trained psychologist and author who writes about her own experience growing up with a narcissistic mother and how it impacted her life. In addition to her book (I Hate You (A Love Letter to My Mother): Healing Paper Cuts, Mother Wounds, and Intergenerational Pain) and guided journal (I Hate You (A Love Letter to My Mother): A Journal for Healing Your Mother Wound and Transforming Your Life), Dr. Manser writes articles about how to live with self-acceptance and meaning and has given numerous talks and interviews. Though Dr. Manser’s primary role is therapist, she has worn a variety of hats, including clinic director, professor, supervisor, board member, and consultant. Whether through therapy, writing, or speaking, Suzanne is dedicated to helping people heal the pain from their childhood, improve their mental health, and create rich, juicy lives.  In this episode of Last First Date Radio: Why our mothers have the

Are you overthinking everything, especially in dating? Are you a chronic worrier? Do you overanalyze everything people say or do? If you are plagued with constant rumination and second guessing, you’ve come to the right place. Here are six steps to stop overthinking in life and love. (Some of them may surprise you). ►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio  ►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application  ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate  ►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook  and Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9  ►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching  ►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/why

How do you transform conflicts into kind conversations? Lisa Brateman, LCSW, is a psychotherapist, relationship specialist, public speaker, and media commentator with more than two decades of experience. She offers individual, couples, and group therapy in New York City. Her areas of expertise include anxiety and depression, couples therapy—marital and premarital—and conflict resolution. She’s the author of What Are We Really Fighting About?: How to Transform Conflicts into Conversations [Rowman & Littlefield Publishers; September 2024] and The Courage to Walk Away: Move On after Infidelity by Mourning What You Lost, Identifying Your Relationship Needs, and Empowering Yourself for the Future [Ulysses Press; February 2024]. In this episode of Last First Date Radio: What is a successful and helpful fight?   Does it mean you FINALLY AGREE on something?     Will this book help me get what I need/want? A lot of people are afraid of fighting, what would you say to them? What do you mean when you say win

If online dating is not working for you, why not try offline dating? While I believe online dating can be a wonderful way to connect with people you’d never meet in real life, it can also be quite frustrating. You start a conversation that goes nowhere, you get ghosted, you send messages that go unanswered…your self-esteem can take a hit or you might just be burned out and need a break. Enter offline dating! Here are five ways to meet your match in real life. ►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio  ►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application  ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate  ►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook  and Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 

Dr. Marie Thouin is a leading expert and scholar on compersion in consensual non-monogamy. She authored the first-ever scholarly book on compersion as well as two pioneering research studies, and the first-ever encyclopedia entry on compersion. Her work has been featured in several academic conferences, workshops, magazines, and podcasts. In this episode of Last First Date Radio: What is compersion?  5 tips for those who want to develop compersion in their relationships? 3 questions to discuss with your partner when thinking about compersion and consensual non-monogamy?  Can compersion exist in a monogamous relationship? How to move away from the stigmatization of relationships that aren’t monogamous Connect with Dr. Thouin Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/love_insight_dating/  Website: https://www.mariethouin.com/  Free 30 minute exploratory session: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=18830687&appointmentType=13120181  50% discount on Marie’s masterclass about 6 pillars o

If you’re not sure how to identify fake dating profiles, you’re not alone. In fact, if you’ve ever dated online, it’s highly likely you’ve been sent messages from some fake profiles.  They’ll tell you everything you want to hear, but it’s always at a price if you engage long enough. And with the rise in artificial intelligence, it’s easier than ever to create a fake profile and deceive online daters. Did you know that 60% of all online profiles are either inactive or fake? Scammers are getting more clever with the tools they use to trick you into sharing sensitive information or giving them money. Here are seven ways to identify fake online profiles so you can stay safe online.  ►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio  ►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application  ►Join Your Last First Date

How do you maintain passion in a long-term relationship? My podcast guest, Dr. Warren Farrell, has the answers! He has coached couples and psychologists worldwide in couples’ communication for the past 30 years. His popular course is "Role Mate to Soul Mate: The Art and Discipline of Love."   He has been chosen by the Financial Times of London as one of the world’s top 100 thought leaders. His books are published in 19 languages, and include the New York Times bestseller Why Men Are the Way They Are, international bestseller The Myth of Male Power, and 2018's The Boy Crisis. His previous book on couples’ communication, Women Can’t Hear What Men Don’t Say, was a selection of the Book of the Month Club. In this episode: How couples can maintain passion in a long-term relationship How couples can go from ‘role mates’ to ‘soul mates’ Strategies to stop getting defensive with your partner The “Four C’s” that deplete passion and love Social media and website links Website: https://warrenfarr

Do you tend to take things personally, especially in dating? It’s important to develop a thicker skin , especially if you’re dating online, or you’ll soon burn out or question your self-worth. It’s hard to stay positive with all the ghosting, bread crumbing, sexual comments, and unkind or un-engaging messages. The key to developing a thicker skin is not taking anything personally. It’s about having the ability to bounce back and let whatever happens roll off your back. Even the most sensitive person can do this. Here are five valuable tips for developing a thicker skin in dating.  ►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio  ►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application  ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate  ►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of V

What are the secrets of senior dating? My podcasts guests wrote the book on this topic! Dr. Gloria Horsley is a licensed marriage and family therapist, clinical nurse specialist and president and co-founder of the Open to Hope Foundation. Dr. Frank Powers is a licensed psychologist and served as the chairman of the Psychiatric Security Review Board for the State of Arizona. After meeting online and falling in love two years ago, they wrote a book together called Open to Love: The Secrets of Senior Dating, which is now available on Amazon, to help others thrive in the world of dating. In this episode of Last First Date Radio: How these two therapists met online and fell in love Why they decided to write a book together The number one tip for seniors who want to jump back into the dating world  The biggest misstep in dating and how to turn that around in the right direction   Connect with Dr. Horsley and Dr. Powers Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/goldendatingdoctors Website: https://www.goldenda

First date conversations can be a little scary. You’re getting to know someone for the first time, and you might be at a loss for what to say. Maybe you’re afraid of saying the wrong thing. You’re trying to show up as your best, but if there’s some chemistry, you may be awkward and say things you’ll regret. That’s why I’m sharing the top five worst things you can say on a first date and what to say instead. ►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio  ►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application  ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate  ►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook  and Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9  ►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFD

Live Apart Together relationships - are they right for you? My podcast guest, Vicki Larson is a longtime award-winning journalist, author of Not Too Old For That: How Women Are Changing the Story of Aging (2022), and co-author of The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels (2014), named a Best Book of 2014 by PopSugar. The lifestyles editor, columnist and writer at a San Francisco Bay Area newspaper, Larson’s writing can also be found in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Guardian, Aeon, AARP’s The Ethel and Medium among other places. She has also been a guest on numerous radio and television shows as well as podcasts and is considered an expert on live apart together relationships. In this episode of Last First Date Radio: The day-to-day practicalities of an LAT relationship Dealing with stigma and judgment when you’re in an LAT relationship How to navigate sex in these relationships Legal concerns when living apart together Busting the many myths about Live Apart

Texting in early dating can be confusing and frustrating. You match with someone and think there might be chemistry. You want to send a thoughtful text. Should you wait for them to text first? What if you send a text and don’t hear back right away? Or what if they do text back, but they haven’t answered your question or they write way too much? I’m sharing the dos and don’t of early texting to help you feel more empowered and less overwhelmed with texting your online dating match. ►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio  ►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application  ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate  ►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook  and Choice Points in Dating http

How do you heal after a breakup? My podcast guest, Amy Margolis, LCSW, is a licensed therapist and co-clinical director of Santa Monica Counseling who works with individuals and couples and runs groups for clients healing from eating disorders, addictions, anxiety, depression, and related issues. Outside the clinical world, Amy is a trained actor, who has focused primarily on voice-over work. She has worked for Nickelodeon, Netflix, Disney, and on many commercials, podcasts, and video games. Mostly, Amy loves being a momma! She is married to Hank, and together they have three children, a dog, and a cat.  In this episode of Last First Date Radio: What does the grief process look like after a relationship ends? Why do we get so hooked on people? Why do we obsess about our ex and how can we stop?   Why does the grief feel so big when the relationship wasn't that long (how can it help us heal earlier wounds? How do we take what we learned from the relationship and let it inform us moving forward?

Online dating can be very frustrating, especially when men don’t write back. You message ten men and get a response from one (or none). Why is that? According to research, men are much less discriminating than women when it comes to swiping right. However, once they have a match, they’re less likely to contact or respond to messages. It seems like the thrill of getting a match is enough for many men. That’s one of the many reasons why online dating can make you want to pull your hair out. But I have 5 tips that explain why men don’t write back and what you can do about it. ►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio  ►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application  ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate  ►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value;

Do you find it hard to talk about sex? Dr. Evelin Dacker is a Mexican-American Integrative Family Physician who specializes in sexual wellness, menopause and hormones, and vitality throughout life. Her unique approach to health incorporates pleasure as an important aspect for healing trauma and illness. In addition to practicing medicine, she specializes in teaching a sex positive approach to sexually transmitted disease. She’s the creator of the STARS Talk framework for intimacy communication, and that’s what we’re going to be talking about in this interview. In this episode of Last First Date Radio: What is the STARS Framework and why is it so important when discussing sex? Is the STARS talk just one talk?  How to improve your dating life Connect with Dr. Dacker Websites http://maketimeforthetalk.com/ https://www.evelindacker.com/  IG https://www.instagram.com/sexmeddoc/  YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@evelindacker9341  FB https://www.facebook.com/SexMedDoc/  Free gift: STARS Talk Workb

What’s the secret to successful dating, especially in the early stages? I believe it’s all about how you communicate about the important things. But when you’re just beginning to date, it can be confusing about what’s appropriate to bring up. You’re trying to get to know and understand each other, but what if they’re texting too little or too much? Is it needy or pushy to say anything? What if you’re unsure about what they’re looking for. How do you find out without coming across as too serious early on? You want to know how their last relationship ended, but when and how do you ask? That’s what I’m talking about today. ►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio  ►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application  ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate  ►

Are you wondering how to begin dating after divorce? My podcast guest, Bobbi Palmer, is a 60-something, happily divorced, proudly imperfect, sometimes sassy, progressive thinking, animal and man-loving internationally recognized dating coach for women over 40. She is known as The Compassionate Truth Teller and has helped thousands of women around the world write their grownup love story. In this episode of Last FirstDate Radio: Bobbi’s story of marrying at 47 for the first time and divorcing 18 years later Five tips to help women prepare to date again after divorce How to know if you’re ready to date again How to work through the hard parts of dating after divorce Connect with Bobbi Website: https://datelikeagrownup.com  Free gift to help you date again after divorce: https://datelikeagrownup.com/dad ►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio  ►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign

After only three months, the Golden Bachelor couple is divorcing. I’m not interested in spreading nasty rumors about Gerry or Theresa. I don’t know them personally, and there are plenty of videos and posts that have done that already. In this solo episode, I focus on three lessons we can learn from their quick marriage and divorce. ►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio  ►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application  ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate  ►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook  and Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9  ►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching  ►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” h

Have you ever experienced burnout in long-term relationships? My podcast guest, Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC, is a leading psychotherapist specializing in intimacy, sex, and relationships. Based in Houston, Texas, she operates a private practice dedicated to providing exceptional services as a relationship and intimacy/sex psychotherapist.  In this episode: What causes relationship burnout in long-term relationships? Who is responsible for the emotional/physical load a healthy relationship requires? What are the questions couples should ask each other to prevent burnout? Connect with Mary Jo Rapini IG https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini/reels   FB https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini  Website: www.maryjorapini.com  Reaction Reset Handouts and Videos: www.maryjorapini.com/reactionreset  Books: www.maryjorapini.com/books  YouTube: youtube.com/user/mjrapini  ►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio  ►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relations

Slow dating is exactly what it sounds like: people taking time to get to know each other and build connection and trust before deciding if they want to pursue a relationship. Why has this trend emerged? It began with lockdowns and quarantines from the pandemic, where everyone had to slow down and get to know a potential date virtually.  Many people have seen the benefits of slow dating and are still slowing things down so they can have important conversations with matches before meeting. They are thinking more critically about what they want and need in a relationship. Here’s how slow dating can lead to deeper and more meaningful connections. ►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio  ►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application  ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/grou