Marriage Radio: Helping Your Marriage

If you knew that you’d done something that might hurt your spouse, would you tell them? Maybe you have a porn addiction that they haven't discovered. Perhaps you have a gambling problem, have had an affair, or one of the hundreds of other possibilities. Any one of these could be devastating to your spouse and your relationship. So is there ever a good time to not share everything?The answer is complicated. At Marriage Helper, we advise that you weigh the benefit versus the cost. Think about the outcome of telling your spouse and ask yourself who it will benefit. For example, if your secret is decades old and your relationship has continued to grow, then it is possible the costs would greatly outweigh the benefits. This is only one of the many questions you’ll need to answer before you can decide to tell your spouse what you’ve done.

It can be very frustrating when you can’t get your spouse to understand what you feel, saying, or how their actions affect others. Or maybe you need to talk to them about the fact that what they're doing is causing more harm than good. Is there something that you think you just must discuss with each other, but your spouse doesn't even want to do that?Join Dr. Beam and Kimberly as they offer some ideas about how to get your spouse to understand your point of view.How do you get your spouse to understand you? This is part 2 of "How Do I Get My Spouse To Understand Me." For part one, listen here - https://www.buzzsprout.com/1725542/10594625Episode mentions:The Exploring Reconciliation Course is available by speaking to a Client Representative either via the chat at the bottom of  marriagehelper.com or by calling 1-866-903-0990.Marriage Helper Workshop: https://marriagehelper.com/workshops/

The experiences and traumas from your past can significantly impact your current life and marriage. This week, our Director of Marketing, Gemma sits down with Shel to discuss the tumultuous times that caused her marriage to fall apart and how she’s using Marriage Helper to try and rebuild herself and her marriage. Shel discusses both of their parents’ past use of drugs and how that affected them differently, the stresses of 12 years of failed conception, and how depression played a part in their problems. She has realized through these struggles that the picture she had for her life might have only been part of the picture. And while she's still mired in the troubles of her marriage, she sees the hope for her future.

It can be very frustrating when you can’t get your spouse to understand what you feel, saying, or how their actions affect others. Or maybe you need to talk to them about the fact that what they're doing is causing more harm than good. Is there something that you think you just must discuss with each other, but your spouse doesn't even want to do that?How do you get your spouse to understand you?Join Dr. Beam and Kimberly as they offer some ideas about how to get your spouse to understand your point of view.Mentions:SMART Contact Toolkit: https://marriagehelper.com/product/smart-contact-toolkit-product/Marriage Helper Workshop: https://marriagehelper.com/workshops/

Reconciling a marriage is a long and challenging process. You may feel at times that you and your spouse are getting along and becoming close again. Yet, other times you might feel them pulling back. So how do you handle these cycles of emotion or false starts?Today, we look at four steps to avoid false reconciliations when trying to repair your marriage. We look at the reasons these can occur, how you can reset this path with STOPs and CORES, and use PIES to work on yourself and look for long-term, lasting damage for both you and your children

Divorce can be as painful and confusing for your children as it is for you. If you've realized "my children won't talk to my spouse," there's still hope.Research from all over the world has proven that marital issues, when children are involved, affect them as well. After divorce occurs, 25% of fathers will no longer see their child after the first year. This percentage increases to 50% around the five to the ten-year mark. So, how can you help to mitigate those chances?How can you help your children’s relationship with your spouse?Listen to this episode of Relationship Radio for the four options to help ensure your children still feel loved and lovely.Forgiveness is a crucial part of letting go of the anger you have toward another person. Reconciliation is optional, but there are many times when it is the best decision to heal the relationship. Especially if there are children involved. Download our free eBook The Ultimate Guide To Reconciliation.

Preparing to have a difficult conversation with your spouse can be nerve-racking and stressful. In most cases, you can already assume that they will react negatively to it. Is there anything you can do to make the situation easier?In this episode of Relationship Radio, we’ll discuss the "two Es" of being prepared, environment, and emotion. Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes break down why each is so important and what you can bring to the table in the way of solutions. The goal of every conversation should be to listen. So, practice your listening skills and take some notes on how to talk about hard things with your spouse.

Communication is a vital part of any marriage. But what is communication? Speaking to each other every day about bills and mundane happenings isn't enough. So, what do you do when your spouse refuses to communicate with you anymore?Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes discuss how to improve your communication skills in this episode of Relationship Radio. Taking a look at how you might be contributing to the rift should be your first step. Look at your body language, your responses, and if you’re genuinely listening when your spouse is talking. Tune in to find out all the ways that Marriage Helper can get the communication flowing again in your relationship.

What do you do when you're trying to save your marriage only to find out your spouse is in love with someone else?In today's episode of Relationship Radio, Lawrence shares his story of how he found strength to continue standing for his marriage despite his wife still being in limerence. Through introspection, self-improvement, and forgiveness Lawrence cultivated unwavering hope for his marriage and his future.No matter what has happened in your marriage, there is hope. There is a way forward. We will show you how.Mentioned in Today's Episode: Understanding Limerence eBookWhy Does My Spouse Hate Me ToolkitSolo Spouse WorkshopInformation about our 3-day intensive workshopshttps://marriagehelper.com/workshops/Get our FREE Mini-Course "How To Get Your Spouse Back"https://your.marriagehelper.com/how-to-get-your-spouse-back-mini-courseSchedule a FREE Call with one of our Team Members:https://marriagehelper.com/marriage-strategy-call/Learn more about our Save My Marriage Course:https://marri

Hate is a strong emotion; it’s intense and passionate. But, we can also define love, especially in its initial stage, using the same words. They are bound together through intimacy, passion, and commitment. But what can you do when your spouse hates you? Is there a way to get your marriage back on the love path?In this episode of Relationship Radio, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes give their five keys to turning the hate in your marriage back to love. Along the way, you’ll learn what Marriage Helper can do to support you in this effort. The path is long, but patience and consistency will get you there.

Hearing that your spouse, who you love deeply, hates you can be devastating. But how did that love turn to hate? Is it possible to save your marriage after that? We believe so at Marriage Helper, and today’s episode of Relationship Radio is geared to help you do so.Understanding how intimacy, passion, and commitment lead to both love and hate can guide you down the path to reconciliation. Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes will inform you how your spouse’s perceived reality can be different from the truth and provide you with several tools to start having a deeper understanding of your road back to happiness.

You’ve decided to end your affair and go back to your spouse. But how do you do it? How honest do you need to be when they ask you details about your affair? Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes will give you their five keys to reconciling your marriage from the perspective of the person who cheated.Affairs can cause hurt for both parties involved. Find out how to deal with the pain by using empathy, speaking truthfully but not hurtful, and other techniques perfected over the 23 years that Marriage Helper has been in business helping families. Do you want to save your marriage? That's what we'll be talking about today in this all-new season 3 of Relationship Radio.Like, subscribe, and turn on notifications to hear more helpful episodes and unique stories from other people going through the same situations you're in right now. We exercise compassion and understanding to all couples and individuals we meet. We know no one is perfect, and people make mistakes. The best thing you can do is become

We at Marriage Helper get a lot of questions about marriage, particularly marriages that are having problems. And people know that one thing we do is that we help people get past extramarital affairs. And as a matter of fact, I have a pretty good record of helping people to do that. And so, a lot of the questions that we get are from the spouse that's been cheated on.But, understand that we do get a great number of questions from the spouse who had the affair. Is there different information for that spouse, the one who had the affair, but now wants to put the marriage back together? Well, actually, to some degree, there is. What would it be? We share more in this season 3 opener of Relationship Radio. Like, subscribe, and turn on notifications to hear more helpful episodes and unique stories from other people going through the same situations you're in right now. We exercise compassion and understanding to all couples and individuals we meet. We know no one is perfect, and people make mistakes. The

While limerence has three very distinct stages, the lines between them can be somewhat blurred. Stage one creates an infatuation with your new limerent object, while stage two crystallizes the feelings you have for each other. Stage three is called deterioration because the infatuation can start to wear off, and you can finally see the flaws.Stage three of limerence can often lead to regret and remorse for the relationship. But does this mean that your significant other will come running back to you? Can your relationship be healed? Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes talk about how limerence ends and give advice on the best way to get through it on this episode of Relationship Radio.Like, subscribe, and turn on notifications to hear more helpful episodes and unique stories from other people going through the same situations you're in right now. We exercise compassion and understanding to all couples and individuals we meet. We know no one is perfect, and people make mistakes. The best thing you can do

While stage one of limerence is about infatuation, stage two is about crystallizing those feelings and knowing that the other person feels the same way you do. The highs and lows continue to an extent, but the feelings turn more toward vilifying their current significant other and pushing them away.Stage two of limerence is when most spouses discover that the affair is taking place. This can be a confusing and challenging time that puts them through an emotional roller coaster of their own. However, there is light at the end of the tunnel, even if you can’t currently see it. Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes will discuss the signs to look for and the underlying principles that can help you get through this phase in this episode of Relationship Radio.Like, subscribe, and turn on notifications to hear more helpful episodes and unique stories of reconciliation from other people going through the same situations you're in right now. We exercise compassion and understanding to all couples and individuals

When people talk about falling madly in love, they’re describing what we in the social sciences call limerence. There are three distinct stages of limerence. We’ll be going through them all, but we’re starting with stage one of limerence on this episode of Relationship Radio.Stage one of limerence is an infatuation, a longing for your emotional connection to be reciprocated. What was once a close friendship can quickly evolve into something much more and supplants your spouse for emotional and even sexual needs. Join Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes as they take you through some of the signs to look for to determine if your spouse is in limerence and how to handle what comes next.Like, subscribe, and turn on notifications to hear more helpful episodes and unique stories of reconciliation from other people going through the same situations you're in right now. We exercise compassion and understanding to all couples and individuals we meet. We know no one is perfect, and people make mistakes. The best

You’ve worked hard at trying to save your marriage, but that doesn’t always make it work. So how do you decide if it’s time to file for divorce?Everyone’s tolerance for pain is different, and understanding how much pain you can stand is an important part of deciding on divorce. Using the P.I.E.S. method that we teach at Marriage Helper can guide you to knowing your threshold.It’s important to ask questions like, is it hurting the kids? Am I hurting myself or my partner? Take time to understand your feelings, and don’t make a snap judgment based on a single event.Please leave a comment below, give us your feedback and opinion, and share this episode with someone you believe needs it. Like, subscribe, and turn on notifications to hear more helpful episdodes and unique stories of reconciliation from other people going through the same situations you're in right now. We exercise compassion and understanding to all couples and individuals we meet. We know no one is perfect, and people make mistakes. The best

Can taking your time getting a divorce actually help save your marriage? If your partner is in limerence, the state of being “madly in love” with someone new, waiting out the newness of that relationship could help.There are ways to do this without becoming someone mean or evil in your partner's eyes. The key takeaways, in this case, are to be firm but fair and don’t let them walk all over you. Your lawyer is trained to handle these situations if your spouse gets agitated in the short term, so listen to their advice.Please leave a comment below, give us your feedback and opinion, and share this video with someone you believe needs it. Like, subscribe, and turn on notifications to hear more helpful videos and unique stories of reconciliation from other people going through the same situations you're in right now. We exercise compassion and understanding to all couples and individuals we meet. We know no one is perfect, and people make mistakes. The best thing you can do is become better for yourself

Watch this video if you are going through a divorce and want to save your marriage. People file for divorce for numerous reasons. They lose compatibility with their partner; there is a lack of intimacy, or they no longer feel liked, loved, or understood by their partner. People don’t leave what they have unless they believe what they’re going is better. This is the underlying motive for separation and the real reason why people file for divorce. Your spouse believes being out of the marriage is better than being in it. That’s something to keep in mind, especially if your spouse wants a divorce and you don’t know what to do. There are many benefits to marriage. According to research at Marriage Helper, married couples live longer, have better financial stability, better mental health, and live happier lives together than divorced couples. Of course, there are exceptions to this claim, like being married to someone abusive or dependent on drugs, but overall, marriage has its benefits, and marriage is worth it.

Our culture over the years has changed dramatically. The number of people willing to participate in an affair continues to grow. More men and women are willing to participate in unfaithfulness because the thought is, "This makes us both happy. And even though I know that you're married to someone else, this was meant to be because it makes us feel good at the moment." And when you live in a culture where it's acceptable to be unfaithful to your spouse, the temptation to do so becomes much, much stronger. Not every single person is like that. But some single people feel so lonely and abandoned that if someone came along, that appears to fulfill their needs, they will choose to engage, even if it isn't healthy to do so. Marriage doesn't solve this problem. Even if a person is married, they might believe at the moment, "This person is just right for me." So it becomes irrelevant that either person is married. And, if the spouse involved in this wants to be involved, they&a