T&a Talk Sex

What if sex really was as important as eating, drinking, and sleeping in our every day lives? Amy Jo Goddard, accomplished sexpert and author, chats with T&A about how she got into this line of work, her own sexual education, and the lens of sexuality through which she sees the world!  A true honor to have this leading expert, speaker, and workshop educator join us with her honesty and enthusiasm around this topic.  She also explains the detail that went into making this book, based on her experience with clients and their personal journeys, and her commitment to accurate drawings of genital anatomy!  Show Notes Our culture devalues sexuality all of the time for many reasons (9:42).  We learn to treat sexuality as something that we only pay attention to when we want to fix it, not something that can be used throughout our lives for growth. (10:32) For most people, they learn sexuality from partners, so it’s luck of the draw what you learn. (13:20) Is sexual energy the same as creative energy? Why is

With a new year ahead, forward motion means we have to stop and take stock of where we are and where we've been.   In this episode, T&A share some of their most important insights, and question some of their dating & relationship habits that may be holding them back in life.  Listen in and get inspired as the girls have an in-depth and honest conversation about balancing love and career, evaluate their compulsions and desires in life, and come up with some new habits for 2016 to help them reach their goals.   Show Notes What are T’s mantras for the year?  (1:35) What’s been A’s theme for the year? (2:18) What prompted A to do a 5-year review of her life?  What one thing did she see that was consistent all the way through?  (8:05) Is there safety in the drama of relationships that is keeping A from focusing on what she really wants to be doing? (10:35) What pattern has T noticed in the men that she chooses? (11:17) What realization did A have about herself and the men that she dates? (14:51) Wh

It's time to take stock, and make sure our ducks are in a row, as we close out 2015 and begin a new year!  Comedians and Roast Battlers, Rena Hundert, Sarah Afkami (Comedy Central tv writer), and Robbie Kirkhuff (featured on The Todd Glass Show), join T&A to reminisce about 2015 - the good, bad, and the ugly! Robbie's Halloween takes an interesting turn with his first threesome, Rena masters the art of sexting, and Sarah gets honest about finding her focus in 2016! T&A share their personal journeys, what they gained from their lovers, and push this gaggle of comedians to consider what they really want for 2016. + You can Instagram or tweet us with the hashtag #2015sexcount or email T&A with a photo of your sex count number displayed, and the best entry wins a destiny card reading from yours truly, 'A'! Beware: this episode is a rollicking good time & may send your holiday hot toddy shooting through your nose with laughter!  Show Notes What is ‘spit roasting?’  (5:49) Out with it-who had the

Giselle Jones, a sex therapist at The Center for Healthy Sex, mindfulness facilitator, yoga instructor, and licensed pyschotherapist (phew!), talks with T&A about how to clear our minds and connect with our bodies for better sex! She's left no stone unturned in all the factors that contribute to a stymied orgasm.  She shares her wisdom, common issues that come up with patients, and most importantly, how we can all solve this problem with a few practical tools.  She even guides a mini meditation at the end of this episode.  Her voice is so soothing, your tension melts when she says 'hello'!  Show Notes We are bombarded with sexual images that are not realistic that can affect our sexuality. (09:10) What is the definition of mindfulness? (9:48) What is the enemy of enjoyable, juicy sex? (11:30) Listen here for an interesting description of the UCLA MARC Institute’s secular study program for mediation. (15:12) On an evolutionary level, our brains have not advanced that far from prehistoric times when i

T&A talk with Mark W. Gray, the man behind 'Professor Puppet' on sex as a mature man, the choice of wether or not to have kids, and how to make the holidays special wether you're single, alone, married, or divorced.  PLUS, Professor Hans Von Puppet tells us how to spice up the romance for the holidays. Show Notes Why should men masturbate before a date?  (08:31) If you see something, say something!  Speaking up about what’s bothering you in your partner is essential to your relationship. (21:43) A lot of things can change our perspective on life, but the nice thing about having a child is that it’s another person that you are connected to for life. (27:00) He’s found that having two children is almost easier because it takes the pressure of the single child. (29:03) Can we make ourselves change our outlook on having children? (33:00) We are pulled in two different directions because we’re taught to have a career at the same time as we’re being societally pressured to have children. (34:40) Are we

So many factors out there in the world affect our sexuality and ultimately, our ability to orgasm, including media, myths, education, mis-education, , on and on...  In this episode we talk with Sheri Winston, author of 'The Anatomy of Female Arousal' and founder of the Intimate Arts Center, about the myths and the realities of the female orgasm, how to orgasm with your parnter and perhaps even during penetration.  While romance novels and say we should be having mind blowing orgasms while riding a horse... in the rain... on command and with no foreplay, the reality is quite different- and it doesn't mean we're broken. SHOW NOTES: Quick Note:  Stay tuned through this episode to hear about our special holiday discount codes.  Information at end of show notes!   Do you feel broken because you don’t orgasm in a certain way, or even at all, with your partner?  We get some pretty bad ideas about orgasm from media and culture and many women think that there’s something ‘wrong’ with them if they’re not having the

Reid Mihalko joins T&A to answer a question that has been on the minds of our listeners: How can I get my partner to open up sexually? or at least, how can I even get my partner interested in sex, and hopefully its exploration? Reid guides us through the larger picture of why we might be having sexual roadblocks in relationships, and how we can create clear communication with those whom we desire to have great sex! From there, T and Reid role play a common scenario of how a husband can approach his wife about reengaging in active intimacy and more enriching sex for both of them.  We get nuts & bolts, along with a deeper understanding, and how to find resources from here! Find Reid at www.ReidAboutSex.com and find more about our specific discussion at www.ReidAboutSex.com/TATalkSex Find our Holiday discount codes on site: www.TATalkSex.com Show Notes Our culture does not teach us to assess if someone is actually a good fit for us so we end up with someone who may be ‘nice’ but may not be on our same

Comedians, Ester Steinberg (@esterk) & Matty Goldberg (author of Brain Humor), join T&A to reflect on this Thanksgiving about past sexual regrets and what we've all learned about love, life, relationships, and how we could of handled that one night stand a little better.  We all share intimate stories, and laugh along the way - A feel good episode about those cring-worthy moments! Show Notes What are the top 5 things people regret on their deathbeds?  (7:09)  “I wish I had lived truer to myself and not what other people expected of me” (7:59)  What type of guys was Ester into?  Did that work out for her?  (9:40) What scene from movie ‘Sideways’ makes Matty think of his biggest sexual regrets? (12:15)  Does it really help to say that you’re sorry for being a dick after the fact?  (15:04)  One of Ester’s pet peeves is men assuming she wants a relationship just because she’s female-can’t she just have meaningless sex too?! (15:34)    Find Refs & FULL Show Notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/

In all this talk about gender equaity in the workplace, T&A tackle the deeper equality issue of approaching work and success with feminine qualities versus masculine, and how both men and women can benefit from ditching their old paradigms and finding a new way of approaching success.  The girls talk with Lisa Marie Jenkins, professional coach, speaker, & author of 'WAKE UP, BEAUTY! It's Not About the Prince' on how exactly we can go about this,  why it's so important and how this affects our male/female relationships. Show Notes Historically, men were protectors and providers; women were compassionate nurturers. Both sexes were playing very specific roles (11:40) The 70’s moved women into the angry, bra burning stage which was necessary to get the ball rolling but that is NOT what feminism is about (11:51) The year 1985 is a benchmark-that’s the year when women started earning 50% of all college degrees (12:12)  Today, we earn 60-65% of all degrees, Bachelors and Masters’ combined and we’ve been

A woman's period is largely resented by both men and women, one of the 'downsides' to being a woman.  But can a woman's cycle be a missing key to greater sex and intimacy- for men and women?  T&A talk with author, midwife and sexuality teacher, Sheri Winston, founder of the Intimate Arts Center to learn about the cycle in a whole new way.  Hear how to shift your perspective, and your approach to you or your partner's period, and most importantly, why.  Plus, why having sex durring a period is a great thing! Show Notes The words moon, menstruation and lunar all come from the same root.  Before the advent of light, a woman’s cycle was literally dictated by the stage of the moon (7:45) If we think about that lunar cycle, it makes it easy to understand why our energy also waxes and wanes in tune with the fullness of the moon.  When the moon is full, we ovulate, and our energy is at it’s highest because Mother Nature is telling us it’s time to procreate  (9:15) Find all relevant links & FULL show notes

T&A, both diagnosed with HPV at varying points in their lives, get to the bottom of why there's so much conflicting information around HPV out there.  Expert, Dr. Diane Harper, who has been heard on NPR, Katie Couric, CNN, and other sites, fills us in on the 101 of HPV to the research and why it's important to have regular checkups for healthcare and prevention.  How does HPV work? Why is it so common? How can I prevent it? Do the vaccines work? Why don't they test men?! All of your questions are answered in a clear, concise way, thanks to Dr. Harper!  We know you'll feel as relieved as we do after listening to this episode.   Show Notes HPV is a tiny virus that has been with us forever-literally since the time of dinosaurs! (4:15) It literally bounces around on skin.  It does not live in blood or other bodily fluids (5:53) What are the avenues of transmission for HPV?  Hint: it’s not only our sexual organs (06:04) It’s definitely a survivor.  The way  it infects the skin cells allows it to hide from

T&A chat with Joe Praino, super dude, and host of both the Dirty Sports and Kooks of Komedy podcasts, about women and when the ladies cross the line at a bar or in the bedroom! Do women take liberties that men can't and is that okay?  Where do we draw the line? T&A also interviewed prominent podcasting men at the LA Podfest about their experiences with feeling violated by a woman. Interview SoundBites at LA Podfest from: Walker Uhl of The Deeper Dive Podcast , Mike Siegel of Travel Tales Podcast, and Murray Valeriano of Road Stories Podcast        Show Notes For a typical guy, if a girl is coming on super strong, then he’s probably going to be into it. It has to bepretty weird and over-the-top to scare a guy away.  (2:50) There’s a perception by some women that you can’t ever really cross a line because men stereotypically are ‘game’ for action (5:51) The most attractive to a guy is the woman who wants him  (6:22) But, coming on so strong that it jumps normal steps in the process can throw everyt

The first FDA approved female , Flibanserin(aka Adyii), will be available for consumers this October, 2015!  BUT, before you jump on the band wagon there's a few things about the creation of this drug you might want to hear about...  T&A talk with Liz Canner, director of the documentary film 'Orgasm inc.' about the race for the pharmaceutical's holy grail, how the 'need' for this drug even came into being, and big pharma's influence on our sexuality.  Fascinating, informative and uncomfortably eye-opening. Watch Orgasm inc. on Netflix, iTunes and everywhere else: www.orgasminc.org And, check out A's blog, 'Female : A Cautionary Tale'  for a deeper look at Flibanserin's story Show Notes In clinical trials, the subjects kept a daily diary and across the board, they recorded no significant daily increase in sexual desire (03:47) Who started the rumors of sexism and injustice at the FDA?  (05:09) Flibanserin was originally developed as an SSRI to treat depression, but it didn’t work as an anti-depressan

'A' got a surprising diagnosis that threatens her reputation with her lovers...A bad smelling vagina can totally happen to you, but let's talk about it, so you don't feel ashamed, and you know what to do when it happens to you.  How the common medical recommendation of "have less sexual partners" just won't cut it anymore for the modern woman!  And guys, as awkward as this might sound, you want to listen up, because the more you know about vaginas, the better you'll be able to love them.  Show Notes Bacterial vaginosis is caused by E. coli in your vagina      (07:00) The mouth also carries the E. coli bacteria        (07:51) What are the popular themes and stigma surrounding female problems? (09:05) Can you get bacterial infections without being sexually active? (09:21) Bacterial vaginosis is NOT an STD and one of the major contributors is actually nylon underwear (11:30) What is the “Boric acid trick”?  (16:20) Vaginal problems can happen in times of high stress because the nervous system is tied to

'A' reads her blog post on the film, Suffragette, starring Carrie Mulligan and Meryl Streep, directed by Sarah Gavron.  A's experience of the film screening at Telluride Film Festival provoked emotional turmoil, and brought up many of her own frustrations with the current state inequality in America.  While Suffragette follows the story of women fighting for the right to vote in the early part of the century, 'A' felt the impact from centuries of oppression for the female gender to present day - how insecurity and fear have been deeply embedded in our psyche as women, and how we might go about eradicating these hindrances slowing us down, and how we as a society, including men, can find a balance in allowing our feminine energies to exist without shame.  .  

Melissa Silverstein (@melsil), writer, activist, and leading expert in gender parity in Hollywood (founder of www.womenandfilm.com and the Athena Film Festival talks with us about the facts of gender inequality in entertainment and how the disparity impacts our lives more than we think! After, T&A chat with eachother about how we, as women, grapple with erasing a history of silencing women in the public sphere.  Show Notes Are people aware that there is a lack of opportunity for women in film? (03:00) How many women are really working on the Top 250 grossing films? (03.25) Are the stats any different for TV?  (03:55) 84% of first-time TV directors are men and that affects a woman’s future in film?  (04:35) Women don’t get the opportunities to direct $100m movies (06:32) We all live in a world where an unconscious bias affects us  (08.28) There is an assumption that animated movies and action movies such as Superman are geared towards males and therefore even the characters and extras are overwhelm

T&A talk about T's first experience at Burning Man and how it's not all drugs and sex!  Hear her stories and what made Burning Man so unique to her, her challenging assimilation back into society, and what made it such a stress free environment- despite no showers and dust storms. T goes to Burning Man for the first time and is here to tell you how amazing it is!  To begin with, T was really resisting going to Burning Man, even thinking about selling her ticket at the last minute!  But, she realized that because she was resisting it so strongly, that was a sign that she needed to go andpush her boundaries.  What an experience!  It’s so powerful and beautiful that it’s hard to express in conversation but we’re going to give you the highlights.  Stereotypes and Rumors The further you get from Black Rock City, NV, where the event is held every year, the less people understand it.  Burning Man is surrounded by myths and clichés, with tales and visions of a free-for-all of drugs and sex.    Resources &a

Love, can often come from a selfish place, even when it doesn't appear to be so.  But can we spot the difference between real love and false love?  T&A Talk with Dr. Richard Cookerly, relational psychotherapist and co-author of the book, Real Love False Love on the difference between the two, why learning real love can literally save our lives, and exactly how to go about changing our love practices.  A fascinating examination of the ways the American culture has learned to love and how to go about changing it.  Check out Dr. Cookerly's work at www.whatislovedrcookerly.com  

Part 2! Sorry for the audio with this half everyone, still working out tech difficulties.  A bit of an echo but still AMAZING info so bear with us and keep listening!  Thanks for your patience, and if you'd like to read the transcript instead, click here: http://www.tatalksex.com/transcript-of-should-we-legalize-prostitution-with-author-dr-melinda-chateauvert-part-2-only/   T&A are very excited to talk with Dr. Mindy Chateauvert, historian and author of the book, 'Sex Workers Unite: A History of the Movement from Stonewall to Slutwalk' in part one of this two-part show.  Sex worker's rights are a hotly debated topic and everyone seems to have an opinion about its possible legalization- but do we really know what we're talking about?  Mindy answers all of our questions and gives us  an incredibly educated and eye-opening account of all sides of the debate.  Plus, A shares her experience from being in the industry and the girls talk about the damaging affects of America's 'Whorephobia' with Mindy (Mindy's

T&A are very excited to talk with Dr. Mindy Chateauvert, historian and author of the book, 'Sex Workers Unite: A History of the Movement from Stonewall to Slutwalk' in part one of this two-part show.  Sex worker's rights are a hotly debated topic and everyone seems to have an opinion about its possible legalization- but do we really know what we're talking about?  Mindy answers all of our questions and gives us  an incredibly educated and eye-opening account of all sides of the debate.  Plus, A shares her experience from being in the industry and the girls talk about the damaging affects of America's 'Whorephobia' with Mindy (Mindy's term, we can't claim that one). See Dr. Melinda Chateuvert's work at www.sexworkersunite.com and follow her @whorestorian