Jerry Banfield

What are you willing to do today to have what you need? How hard are you willing to work today to make you're dreams come true? Today, I ask myself how I can be of service, and what I can do for others. In the past, I often wanted things I did not want to work for. For example, when I was a teenager I always wanted a girlfriend but I was never willing to put the work in to developing a healthy relationship. This principle applies across all facets of life. You may want a job the pays more money, but are you willing to put in the time and training to get a better one? Happy holidays! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

The four basic problems are hungry, angry, lonely, and tired. I use the acronym HALT to identify the simple problems I may be having on any given day. Fundamentally, all of the problems I am having arise from being hungry, angry, lonely, and/or tired. Everyday I see this principle at work with my baby daughter, and our basic needs do not change very much even throughout adulthood. I am thankful today to be able to see the simplicity of my problems, and solve them much more quickly! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

The judgmental thoughts I have are a reflection of what I have learned and not who I am. The is a very important power thought for me because I used to get down on myself when I would think of others in a judgmental way. For example, just the other day I passed by a trailer park and the first thought that came in to my mind was wow, those people must not have a lot of money. In the past, I would have gotten down on myself for having these thoughts, but now I know that they are simply a reflection of what I have learned and not who I am. After all, I have never lived in a trailer park, so my perception was formed through someone else. Now when I have judgmental thoughts, I take a moment to think of where or who the thought came from. Thank you for taking the time to be here with me, and I hope you are having a happy holidays! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

Why do we work so hard to level-up when soon we will have to start over? When I use this term level-up, I mean leveling up in a game, career, reputation, relationship, etc. Why do we work so hard to build up things that will eventually be forgotten? A good example of this occurs in the game Call of Duty. Every year people will grind to max level and some people even play gametypes they don't even enjoy to get the maximum amount of experience. So, what becomes of their hard work? Every year a new Call of Duty is released, and most fans of the game buy the new one, and work to achieve the highest level again. The message I wanted to share with this video is don't do things in life simply as a means to an end, because you will miss the things that are worth enjoying in life. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

Whatever I think of other people is always what I think of myself. This is a huge shortcut for me that produces miracles in my life, today. When I am judging other people or looking at other people a certain way, what I am really doing is projecting my inner reality out on to other people. In other words, if i am calling another driver stupid because they are moving too slow, I am really feeling stupid on the inside. If I wasn't feeling stupid on the inside I would understand why that driver was going so slow, and I wouldn't feel the need to call them stupid. I am thankful that I can now identify when I am in a bad mood or negative frame of mind, and I can be more understanding of those around me. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

For every one expectation someone puts on me, I place 10 on myself. In other words, for every one thing the world expects me to do, I expect ten things out of myself. In the video, I am playing a Kill Confirmed game on Black Ops 3 with my friends. So, what do my friends expect me to do within the game? My friends expect me to be a good teammate. They would like me to contribute to the objectives within the game and do my best. What do I expect out of myself? I want to be at or near the top of the leaderboard at the end of the game, I want to end the game with a good K/D ratio regardless of the game type, and most important I want to win. Many games I am able to meet my own expectations, but the ones I do not I often find myself feeling frustrated. Nearly every game I meet the expectations of my teammates. The expectations you place on yourself may vary, but the point of this is to show you that we cause our self pain and suffering with expectations we place on ourselves, not what society places on us. I want

The most precious part of any relationship is the friendship. I have noticed this many times throughout my relationship with my wife, and it is these moments I cherish most. The beautiful thing is you can have friendship with anyone. You can be a good friend with your spouse, family members, and co-workers. There is no limit on what you can offer in terms of being a good friend. Thank you for taking the time to be here with me, and I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

Whatever happens in life is what's supposed to happen. This as a principle gives me relief because I know that I do not need to argue with how things happened in the past. In fact, I wouldn't be where I am today without each and every event that took place in my life. I appreciate all of the lessons I have learned in the past, and I am thankful they have put me in a position to be here with you today! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

Praying for help with what I am doing each moment gives the fastest results. Praying to stay focused on the moment gives me almost immediate results, and helps me to focus on the here and now. For example, if I am driving I pray to be a good driver. Right now, I pray to be a good video producer. When I pray to be mindful of the moment and focus on what I am doing, I am often thankful for the things that don't happen. If for example I pray to be a good driver, chances are I will follow the rules of the road more closely and have more patience with other drivers, therefore avoiding an accident. I want to thank you for taking the time to be here with me, and I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

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Everything I ask for I receive. Often it arrives in an unexpected way. For example, if I ask for help and I receive it, it encourages me to ask for more help. On the other hand, if I ask for more pain and suffering, I will get that too. However, the caveat with this is that help often comes in unexpected ways. For example, if I ask for better health I may pick up some better habits that allow me to be a healthier person. Alternatively, I may get sick or suffer from an ailment that forces me to change my eating/exercise habits. For most of my adult life I suffered with alcoholism, and when I finally decided to ask for help I found the support group I now attend everyday. Thank you for taking the time to be here with me, and I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

There is no shame in failing! There is no shame in mixing something up, or making a mistake! I have learned this lesson the hard way many times throughout my life, and today I am grateful to appreciate failure as a learning opportunity. In the past, failure was unacceptable to me. I would go to great lengths to avoid making mistakes. I would stay up all night to make sure my papers for school were perfect, spend hours making sure my clients were happy with my work, and even stress out at my own wedding making sure everything was perfect. However, looking back on my life, I learned some of the most important lessons by failing. Failure is natural! We as humans are born to fail. What we learn from our failures is ultimately what is most important. Thank you for taking the time to be here with me, and I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

What kind of world am I living in today? I have a peaceful life that is filled with beautiful things, and I am happy to live in it every single day. I appreciate each and every moment in my life because that is all I have. For this reason, I am patient. I am living in a world of gratitude where I am thankful for the things I have, because I do not think about having them. All forms fade, nothing will last forever. Ultimately, everything I create, own, or achieve will either fade away or be forgotten, so what is more important than this one moment? I would like to thank you for your continued support, and I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

I hope this gives you the motivation to not make fun of people, to not trash talk people, and not put other people down. Sometimes I can learn a lesson the easy way by learning from someone else's mistake, but this video shows me learning a lesson the hard way. I have been working on saying nicer things to people in my life, but when it comes to playing video games I continue to talk badly about others. In video games, especially Call of Duty, I fall in to the ego trap of thinking I am too good. In reality I am not, and I am often humbled by getting embarrassed within the game! Thank you for taking the time to be here with me, and I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

When I love my family, my soul expands in the worship of the creator. In other words, when I love my wife the love I have for her points back to that which created her, and created me to love her. I couldn't possibly love the form of my wife any more or less than that which created her. I have heard something similar when it comes to seeing your children. People say that you won't know what true love is until you see your child, and now that I have a daughter I finally can see the truth in this phrase. This has helped me to learn that I do not need to condition my love upon a specific form. Thank you for taking the time to be here with me, and I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

Trusting inspiration consistently proves more effective for me than planning everything. I hope this video proves helpful the next time you have a choice that conflicts with something you planned out ahead of time. I used to plan out everything in advance, but have found that using inspiration to do what is right in the moment, often produces the best results in my life. I trust that I will be able to make the right decision, in the moment, because I can better judge the situation than In the past. Today, I am grateful to be able to see inspiration in the moment. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

Is more money better? Having more money often brings a completely new set of limitations that may not be obvious prior to being in the situation yourself. I am sharing this message with you because you, or someone you know, may have the mindset that money will solve all your problems, and the more you have, the happier you will be. This is simply not the case, and I have been on both sides of the wealth spectrum. It may be counter-intuitive, but I had the most freedom when I had just enough money to live a comfortable, stable life. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

I am never upset for the reason I think I am. This is a power thought that helps me live my life each day. What this means is first, I don't really understand the reason why I am upset. I might think or know that I am upset, but the underlying reason may be unknown to me. Second, it helps me to see there is more to whatever it is that's going on. For example, if I think there is a person or thing that is making me upset, I am never upset for the reason I think I am tells me that there is more to the situation than meets the eye. When you think you are upset with something the world has done, or something you hear in the news, or something you see on Facebook, you have no control over the situation, so you invariably feel unhappy. Ultimately, being upset is a natural reaction to resisting how things are. I am thankful that today I can catch myself when I become upset, and know that I am never upset for the reason I think I am. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

Having no secrets allows me to live without shame. Sharing my secrets with others allows me to live a life today where I feel connected with other people, where I feel connected to all of the universe, and where I feel whole as a person. Finally, sharing my secrets allows me to avoid doing shameful things that require more secrets. I have stopped keeping secrets for a little over a year now, and it has relieved what once was a terrible burden. I stopped keeping secrets once I became involved with Alcoholic's Anonymous, and any support group works great for sharing things you might not want to share with the rest of the world. Today, I am willing to not have have any secrets. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

Why do we feel bad about having certain thoughts? Why is it when I have a certain thought I will feel ashamed or that I am a bad person, and I will have different thoughts that make me feel as if I am a good person? Just like in the game Fallout 4, we are often presented with situations that give us different ways to respond. In the game, I can respond to a situation by going along with the group, saying I will think about it, or taking an aggresive "no" approach that will result in a fight. Life is often the same in that we do not have much control over what happens around us, but we do have ability to react in whichever way we see fit. So, why do some thoughts make us feel guilty even if we do not act them out? I think we have been trained to feel shame based around our thoughts. You are not a bad person for having negative thoughts, because most thoughts come without action. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support