Nourishing The Mother

How do you lean into trusting your child and trusting yourself when the weight of advice, information, research and authorities are bearing down on you? What if you could create a lean-back effect that makes parenting and holding yourself easier, by overlaying a really beautiful and basic blueprint of what your children are trying to work out, integrate and establish? This is what we offer you in this week’s podcast. In this episode we discuss:- Leaning into trusting your child rather than the intellectual- Affirming safety for healthy development - Parenting the fears of ourselves - Creating physical safety vs nervous system safety - Our children borrow a sense of safety from our own narratives- Am I okay? Is the world okay? Am I lovable?- When children test the limits of behaviour and safety in a relationship - What each stage of parenting requires of you as a mother - The developmental overlay framework by Duey FreemanTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit

Family freeloading on your unpaid labour is REAL. So what is service, and what is enabling/over-functioning? It requires you to hold high expectations and a level of self-worth on your minimum standards for how others treat you, and how you treat yourself. In this episode we discuss:- It’s overfunctioning when you’re running from a threat- It’s service when you’re connected to your heart- It’s enabling when you limit their potential for growth - The paradox of holding ‘not being liked’ and maintaining love and respect in a relationship - Watching your co-dependent merge tendencies, rather than checking in on your greater alignment - Subconscious tendencies to stack more load on ‘easier’ kids - Sibling conflict as a way to balance family systems - Self-worth as a barometer for what you tolerate in your home - A willingness to be disliked by your child as you call them to accountabilityTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore c

Firstly, ouch. That’s a hard place to be. How do you get out of the burnout and resentment cycles and into a parenting relationship that feels more equitable? First, you’ve got to look at why you’re overfunctioning, what your emotional set point is, and how you can step out of the way. So let’s get on the co-parenting train!In this episode we discuss:- Our motherhood can be shaped by how supported or unsupported we feel- Feeling trapped and alone- Trauma responses of self-sufficiency and people-pleasing- Our own ‘puff-up’ and ‘beat-down’ cycles - How to hold your own personal standards- Releasing your trauma responses on your partner- Your partner’s parenting relationship is not yours to steer or control - Being okay in your lean-back - Trusting your kids to build their own relationshipsTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://w

When you put a ring on it, the work is not done. But we can tend to find ourselves working our current relationship off an old program and set of agreements. There’s only freedom if you’re choosing it, so let’s talk about how to get out of feeling trapped.In this episode we discuss:- Your own confirmation bias - Whatever you look for, you find- Limiting beliefs that cap what you want and ask for - The discontent of relationship pushing you into choosing yourself - Dedicating years to undervalued care work - Getting back the pieces you think are missing- How your body reflects your value system - Partnering with someone who has the opposite values to you- Renegotiating relationship terms - Less pressure and more ease when you stop expecting your partner to be everything- Resourcing yourself and your life for more- Finding freedom rather than convincing yourself to stayTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parentin

What is it with the “mid-life crisis”? And why do relationship break-downs often bear the brunt of it? When your shut-down becomes apathetic, and you’ve given up on bringing your needs into the relationship…and then the relationship ends, often, he’s blindsided. Typically, when you blow up a relationship, you’re seeking a release from an overburdened, over-stressed life. What would it be like, if you considered these things first, before you make a big decision…?To explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

We all hope on a wing and a prayer that it will all turn out okay. That all our agonising over conscious parenting, pays off. In the euphoric aftermath of Julie’s son’s 18th, she shares the lead-up, the hot tips, and the unexpected jelly shots that brought family together. Check out Julie’s kids business, Inflatable Nights here: http://www.inflatablenights.au (http://www.inflatablenights.au)To explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

When we’re trying so hard to mother in ways that we were not mothered, we can find we exhaust ourselves at the altar of ‘perfection’. What would it look like to stop parenting from a place of lack or fear, and start parenting from a place of love and wellbeing. Let’s find out…  In this episode we discuss:  - The need to overperform to feel okay - Parenting from a place of lack, fear and anxiety - Being socialised into intensive mothering, with an endless capacity - Venomous blame cycles, vs overflow of service where we feel balanced and fulfilled - Pushing and performing, vs feeling good in your motherhood - We adapt to the environment, privilege included - They will not appreciate what their ‘set point’ is - We can’t save our children from having voids - Make sure you take your wellbeing with you  - Have areas of your life that are nurtured outside of your children  - Taking separation personally, and clawing your relationship back  - Looking at your child’s movement towards you and away from you as normal,

In deciding the type of mother that we want to be, often that’s informed by our experience with our own mother. The view we have of our mother will shape the view we have of ourselves, and therefore, the fuel we draw on in our own mothering, can be created by what was missing or not met by our own mother.   In this episode we discuss:  - Constantly ‘conscious’ and centering your child is outside the realms of what’s possible for any single human  - The deep shame we feel when we perceive we perpetuate what was done to us  - In moments of stress we regress; it’s why triggers are visceral  - Meeting a collection of moments of deep attunement rather than ‘perfect mothering’ - Holding the polarity paradox and complexities of motherhood and humanity  - Feeling controlled by a tiny dictator  - Letting go of unrealistic expectations we beat ourselves against  - Liberating yourself from judgement  - Your freedom is NOT being the complete opposite of her  - Sometimes your dreams are at odds with your mothering  - Real

It’s held up as the pinnacle of perfect mothering in our culture, but is it really? Often, what you’re over functioning on, is related to what is intolerable for you to be.   The more practiced we can be at examining our subconscious motives ahead of time, the less shock we feel when we get angry.   So let’s go on a self-examining journey into the shadow side of the selfless mother.   In this episode, we discuss:  - Nothing is ever completely selfless or altruistic  - Where there’s selfless, there’s selfish  - Where you’re giving you are gaining  - Often shame is attached to focusing on the self, and receiving  - Whatever is unacceptable behaviour for ourselves, we make sure our child doesn’t behave like  - Overfunctioning and hyper-dedication is often a control strategy  - To change the ‘mother-as-selfless’ narrative would undermine our social and patriarchal structures and systems  - Deriving our self-worth from being in service to others  - Examining where over-functioning is a strategy to mask or avoid so

We all want our children to be pleasant, kind, repair well…and so it’s shocking when we see them as inconsiderate, rude, harsh, or on the receiving end of any of these things. As a parent, when do you step in, and when don’t you?In this episode we discuss:- When you feel like you need to get involved with your child’s social dynamics- When your kid’s social situations are normal, vs a problem- Remembering as parents we’re blinded by our lens on our children- Building resilience and fostering a courageous sense of self - Observing what our kids are learning from their “teacher”; the child they’re currently orbiting with - Trusting their ebbs and flows of knowing who they are, and recognising that this will shape who they attract- Allowing learning through social observation - How we see our child becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy - Meeting your kids where they’re at, and having conversations around marginalisation, neurodiversity, trauma and struggle - The home environment is still the best teacher for relati

The longer you “go without”, the harder it is to get it back. To bring back your intimate vibrancy, and chuck out the ‘roommate vibes’, you need to know what’s blocking you, and why, and what you’re going to do about it.So let’s move beyond obligation, complacency, resentment and neglect, and let’s centre the wellbeing of the self, the relationship and the family unit, to bring back sexual connection.To explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

How do you as a mother embrace the change as your child grows up, but navigate the grief you feel, with grace?This podcast gives you three clear tools and processes to avoid getting stuck when you cling on to particular ages and stages of your child’s development.In this episode we discuss:Shifting your focus on keeping them closeA loss of control can feel like a loss of safetyThe acute awareness of separateLooking back and our tendency to either catastrophise or wear rose-coloured glassesOur children are not committed to us, they’re committed to their own highest valuesWhere there’s loss, there’s gainIf you’re stuck in a story, you need to balance it by the oppositeWe can find ourselves focussing so much on how to ‘become’ the mother and embracing matrescence, that we forget there can be equal pain, suffering and growth in unbecoming that centralised figureThe invitation this can be to find more of youTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenne

The struggles are different, but are they harder? In the generations gone by, where women were relegated to ‘home duties’, there was a confinement, but also a simplicity. Today, there’s privilege, and also struggle as a result of that privilege.In this conversation we open up some key points for you to consider as you wrestle with this question.In this episode we discuss:Was the intense overwhelm always the case? Or are we becoming ‘too soft’?There’s a burden of responsibility when we know more about child and human developmentNowadays kids tend to have bigger behaviours because of unprecedented sensory overload on the nervous systemThe cultural blaming of mothersPatriarchial mothering systems creating mental & physical load-hoardingWorldview comparison creating struggle to be in the life you’ve createdNuclear functioning of the family unitRecognising the privilege in thriving vs survivingTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To

As we grow in our adulthood and authenticity, inevitably, what also grows is not being liked.Our level of comfort or discomfort involved in not being liked, will determine the level of fulfilment and freedom, or disconnection and futility we feel.So let’s talk about:Your magnetism and what’s working for youChoosing yourself over others versus focusing on being the peacekeeperBalancing your self-infatuation with your light sideLearning how to like the pieces of you that you’ve cast in shadowTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

Do you ever think “If I can just get this done…I’ll feel worthy” only you never quite feel enough? What would it be like to separate your list, from your worth? Let’s go there in this conversation.In this episode we discuss:When we look outside for our value, we devalue our workYou can make not getting to your list mean something negative, or you can make it mean an investment in your valuesMotherhood invariably holds the paradox of one foot in ‘fun’ and one foot in ‘responsibility’Where are you feeling weighed down and resentful and what are you choosing to believe about that?There’s some truth in ‘clear space, clear mind’And the inverse is equally true, where we’re using cleaning as a control strategyRigidity creates the punishmentBeing in conversation with your kids’ valuesThe lower your self-worth, the more the list will feel like your worthTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherh

Let’s talk about the swing of resentment and infatuation with our children - which is completely normal! Let this conversation and tools unlock you so you can gain capacity, gratitude and heart-bursting love back again. In this episode we discuss:- What spacious, attuned and respectful communication with our children really looks like - Denying the value of your authentic expression - Acknowledging your anger where it’s authentic- The power of self-acknowledgment for the impact that your child’s behaviours have on you - Regulated means connected to yourself - Authentic communication means connected to you truth; not shutting it down or vomiting it over - It’s hard living with the expressions of your repressions- The natural in-breath and out-breath of love and parenting - The goal is to embrace the synthesis of infatuation and resentment, because that is loveTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and ins

Let us walk you through a practical process of connecting and holding your power physically, mentally and spiritually so that you can feel deeply connected, authentic and powerful in your own life, irrespective of outside circumstances or people. In this episode we discuss:- How to stay connected with yourself within the pressure of motherhood- The governance you have over your body, rather than shutting down - Your perceived responsibility to ‘hold it all’ creates a stress response- Learning the language of your body - Changing attachments and perceptions to change how you feel - The ‘reset’ so you can come back to yourself - What’s your bigger picture and vision?- Being the woman who lives up to that visionTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

Most of our listeners are fairly in touch with their own experience of being mothered, and based on that, will lead themselves with one of two choices: 1. Replicate the experience. 2. Do the opposite. Through heartfelt story and potent wisdom, in this episode we give you the insights to lead yourself in heart-connected mothering and grand parenting by opening yourself up to different experiences so you can create a mothering experience that is aligned and inspired, not obligated or in reaction. In this episode we discuss:- Grandparent goals- Letting your children lead themselves, and your parenting meeting them where they’re at- Allowing for a child’s normal developmental struggle, not seeking to remove it- Infatuation with your provision - Easing burden versus taking away valuable struggle - The mother archetype that gives permission to rest and return to herself - Appreciation deactivates expectation - Our responsibility is to the relationship we’re creating - Holding yourself in what’s uncomfortable so you

In this episode we give you 10 easily accessible, easy-to-do ideas on how to break the BS cycles of disconnection and resentment and get back on the connection train that’s taking you to destination ‘the relationship’ you want to live. In this episode we discuss:- What are you an energetic match for?- What do you feel worthy of?- What are you available for?- Asking for what you want - Halting disappointment cycles - Growing who you are to grow your relationship - It takes way more energy to ‘hold back’ than it does to give love - The part of you that’s not dialled into your intimacy needs- Ten easy, cool ideas to get back on track!To explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

The point of this podcast is to leap before you’re ready, and do the thing that makes no sense, even though it’s hard. We want you to have the courage to back your dreams instead of staying in the excruciating agony that is ‘the waiting place’.Don’t focus on perfect, and move forwards with us, through our lessons and learnings that you can implement straight away.In this episode we discuss:- Just fucking starting!- Embracing the peaks of the experience, and the valleys when it all feels too hard.- There’s medicine and service in your pain and wobble- Holding yourself in the valleys, be reconnecting to why you’re here, that’s not dependent on outcomes- Waiting to ‘have space’ after you tidy ‘this mess’ is folly- Life doesn’t get easier, you just get more accountable- All parts of you need a creative pursuit- If you wait for perfect you’ll wait forever- The scared part within us is there to listen to, and check in with, so you can move into greater alignment- Stop waiting for people to agree with you- Moving be