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Aloha! This episode was recorded from beautiful Kauai where Amy and April celebrated two of the most important women in the world..their mamas! The duo share shame, daddy issues, New Years resolutions, and more. Enjoy!

Ev’Yan Whitney is a sex educator, sex activist, and sexuality doula who helps facilitate, educate, and hold space for women and femme-identifying folks who want to step out of sexual shame and into erotic empowerment. She's the host of The Sexually Liberated Woman podcast and the creator of the wildly successful Sensual Selfie Challenge on Instagram. You can find out more about Ev'Yan's work at sexloveliberation.com and see her brazenly showing off her sexuality on Instagram @evyan.whitney  

In this quickie episode we interview Dr. Sara Tanza, Pelvic Floor Physical Therapist (see episode #31 from previous interview) about sex after pregnancy and some of the common issues women run into - even years after giving birth.  To learn more about Dr. Tanza visit https://pelvicpotential.com In or near the Santa Cruz area? Come to her workshop (co-facilliatated by our very own Amy Baldwin) on January 8th, 2019. To sign up visit the Pure Pleasure Shop Website  

Ceara Lynch has a ten+ year career as a self-described humiliatrix, catering to a wide variety of sexual fetishes over the internet, and gaining exposure to a unique part of the human psyche. Visit her website at https://www.cearalynch.com, as well as her podcast at https://standardpodcast.com to learn more. 

Episode #64 titled What Women Wished You Knew About Oral Sex was one of our top episodes. So naturally we decided to bring back Shaun from the Love Drive Podcast to discuss What Men Wished You Knew About Oral Sex :) Shaun is a writer and host of The Love Drive, a playful and honest podcast that looks into the broad and captivating world of modern sexuality and intimacy. He brings humor and depth to the often awkward, scary topics of the heart and the loins. This podcast is unabashedly sex-positive, bright, and alive. To learn more visit thelovedrive.com We also answer this sex question: How can we both relax and not feel this intense pressure for him to get hard? Should we get drunk or something? I can't help but feel unwanted and unattractive :( And I'm sincerely bored of all the foreplay and I don't reallly want to do it anymore.   

There is no manual for navigating intimate experiences and too often doubt and confusion limit our capacity to feel pleasure. Do you ever wish you could deepen your intuition when it comes to knowing how to please your lover(s)? Learn how to access your intuition so you can be a more attuned and skilled lover while increasing your own capacity for pleasure!  Dr. Alison Ash is a sex and intimacy coach and sexual empowerment educator who has been exploring the intricacies of sex and gender for more than a decade. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, Aly has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences. A champion for others overcoming shame and deepening pleasure, Aly helps her clients radically explore and courageously express themselves. Aly designs workshops and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to discover their desires and confidently pursue them. TurnON pleasure, intimacy and...lov

Wednesday Martin's newest work of non-fiction, UNTRUE: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust, and Adultery is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free cuts through the junk science and regressive cultural narratives that have shaped our beliefs about female infidelity for centuries, revealing a truth both liberating and disconcerting: women are no more “naturally monogamous” than men; nor are their libidos shrinking violets. Far from it. Offering insights from thirty experts as well as real women from all walks of life who refuse monogamy, UNTRUE also analyzes cultural shifts from plow agriculture to polyamory; introduces readers to two important "hidden figures" of American sex research; and takes readers on an immersive, fascinating journey—from the bonobo enclosure at the San Diego Zoo to an exclusive all-female sex party in Manhattan where most of the revelers identify as heterosexual. UNTRUE asserts that monogamy is a tighter fit for the fairer sex; that females of many species evolved

In this episode we dive deep into the the world of orgasms with Susan Bratton, “trusted hot sex advisor to millions”. Topics include top tips for better orgasms, hot sex in long term relationships, as well as Susan’s 14-year Expanded Orgasm/Orgasmic Meditation Practice. We also answer a sex question: I’m 23, sexually active, and never had an orgasm. Susan Bratton is a champion and advocate for all who desire passionate relationships. Considered the “Dear Abby of Sex,” Susan’s fresh approach and original ideas have helped millions of people of all ages and across the gender spectrum transform sex into passion. Susan has been featured in The New York Times and on CNBC and the TODAY show as well as appearing on ABC, CBS, The CW, Fox, and on NBC as the “Marriage Magician.” She has authored 20 books including her International #1 Amazon best-seller, Sexual Soulmates: The 6 Essentials for Connected Sex, and she has created and published numerous online courses including her wildly popular Revive Her Drive and Steam

In this episode Amy chats with sex educator, coach and author Stella Harris about the G-spot, female ejaculation AKA squirting, and vulva mapping. Stella Harris is changing the way people experience their sex lives. As a certified intimacy educator and sex coach, she gives her students the tools and confidence to explore their sexuality safely and free of shame. A national and international speaker, Stella teaches everything from pleasure anatomy, to communication skills, to kink and BDSM. Stella writes a weekly sex advice column for Portland's Willamette Week newspaper, and her erotic fiction has appeared in more than a dozen anthologies. Check out her latest book, Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships, as well as her website at stellaharris.net References: OmgYes.com/shameless - $5 off Bijoux Indiscrets Horoscope line - Use code SHAMELESS for 15% off  

Ellice Apostolos - owner of Santa Cruz's premier pole dancing studio, Steel and Grace - is back to talk about the art of the erotic dance, and how we can apply it to sexy time with our lovers. This interview was recorded immediately after April and Amy took an advanced S-Factor class, so not only are they all charged up from the sensual practice, but they also get testimonials from a few participants, including Badass Boss Mentor Meghan (see info below).  About Ellice:  Ellice Apostolos empowers every woman to connect to her body's innate wisdom and pleasure so she can move through the world in​ her​ fully expressed radiance. As a certified​ S Factor instructor, Ellice offers deeply transformative trainings where what begins as a personal erotic movement practice within the studio walls can become a sustainable practice that enriches every area of life. Ellice also guides women entrepreneurs to build the life of their desires through her online programs. She empowers them to put deep self-care and pleasure at

In this episode April and Amy expose some of their own shame and sex/relationship struggles, followed by a discussion about consent and the dangers of positions of power - specifically in the Tantra community. 

Rain DeGrey is an international educator, writer, presenter, podcaster, and performer that has been writing articles and teaching classes, focusing on kink, relationships, and sex education, since 2009. After getting her start as a fetish model and Pro Domme, she was motivated to branch out into education, something she is extremely passionate about. Demystifying sexuality and presenting in a clear and humorous way are trademarks of her teaching style and she believes strongly in making sex education fun. She has taught on a wide variety of topics at Harvard University, Northwestern University, Kink.com, The Citadel, Dark Odyssey, Pure Pleasure, Stormy Leather, Folsom Fringe, The Looking Glass, KinkAcadamy, PassionateU, Mission Control, Pink Bunny, and Boundcon in Germany. Her work has been featured in such places as Playboy TV’s “69 sexiest things to do before you die”, Seattle Erotic Arts Festival, The SF Fetish Ball, Exotic Erotic, Rope::Burn, Kink-e-zine and Femina Potens. In 2017 she was named the dirtie

In this touching episode Terah Harrison, LPC, shares her trauma story for the first time on air, alongside tips and tools for finding great sex and deep connection in the aftermath. Thank you, Terah, for speaking up and sharing your vulnerability with us. Also, we answer a sex question about pegging (when a female-bodied individual tops/penetrates a male-bodied individual via a strap-on). About Terah: Terah Harrison is a Licensed Professional Counselor and hosts the podcast Make More Love Not War which has a clear mission of helping people have more sex and less fighting. She discovered the need for her podcast as she saw male clients at her private practice in Fort Worth Texas, who were struggling to understand their female partners. Most of these men were striving to be better partners but their strategies to achieve this only made things worse. Many times a simple change would improve their relationships dramatically.   With this amazing information that would benefit men and the women they love in hand Te

In this episode we answer YOUR sex questions alongside friend and guest Kristen from the high-end German sex toy company Fun Factory.  Why are some peoples turned on by golden showers?  What's the deal with clit pumps? Is oral sex legit without swallowing?  How do I slow down during sex? Why do I feel empty after sleeping with a lot of people? How do I navigate (conversations about) period sex? References:  Our online video series Fun Cups mentraul cups Miss Bi by Fun Factory OMGyes.com/shameless Lube special at Pure Pleasure: use code OCTLUBE18 for 20% off*

Join is for this fun interview with a high-end straight male escort. What is the difference between an escort and a Gigolo? Is Gigolo still PC? What does a day in the life of a high-end escort look like? How does one become a Gigolo?  About our guest: Anthony Asanti is a Washington, DC-based Straight Male Escort providing warm, sensual & professional companionship full-time to women only. A Sensual Warrior who's the world's first and only Straight Male Companion catering exclusively to women certified in Bondassage and providing it exclusively to women. To learn more visit http://anthonyasanti.com Also be be sure to check out: Our online Erotic Empowerment video series: https://www.shamelesssex.com/shop/erotic-empowerment-online-series-pre-sale Sex Ed For Parents:  https://www.purepleasureshop.com/collections/sex-ed-classes/products/10-24-18-lets-talk-about-sex-a-workshop-for-parents OMGyes.com: https://www.omgyes.com/shameless Pure Pleasure (use code SHAMELESSPP for 15% off all sex toys): https://www.

Recorded on stage during Brooklyn's Sex Expo, we chat with Lorrae from Slutty Girl Problems. We apologize if it sounds like we were yelling; we were right next to the Sybian sex machine, so it was a bit loud :) Slutty Girl Problems is for the self-identified women who embrace this empowered lifestyle. They offer a sex-positive, feminist, judgement-free zone with daily content to entertain, educate, and empower women around in all aspects of their lives. What is a slut, you might ask? A slut is empowered in her sexuality. She is confident, in control, and doesn’t let anyone define her or her sexuality. She defines herself, and makes choices that are right for her. Many people use the term “slut” to break women down and shame them for their natural sexuality. The folks at Slutty Girl Problems boldly reclaim this derogatory word as an empowering, sex-positive term – free from society’s shame and judgement. Being a slut isn’t about sleeping with everyone, or anyone at all. It’s about having the choice to expr

Join us for a quickie interview with Kimberly from Evine - a live home shopping network based out of Minneapolis. Kimberly and the people at Evine are some of the first people to promote sex toys on live television in the US. 

In this episode April and Amy share their personal stories about their threesome (and sometimes foursome+) adventures. Also, a few tips on how to navigate threesomes with more grace and ease.  Also, a sex question about how to find that third person (AKA unicorn) when introducing threesomes in a marriage. 

Why is it important to understand edges vs boundaries? How can they lead to hotter, more exciting sex? Melissa Fritchle, LMFT, is a Holistic Psychotherapist, Sex therapist, a certified clinical trauma professional, a certified Mindfulness Meditation Teacher, and the author of The Conscious Sexual Self Workbook. She currently runs a private practice in Santa Cruz, and will soon offer online courses. Learn more at mf-therapy.com Also, a sex question: my partner takes too long to orgasm, and my body gets tired during sex. What can we do to help him orgasm faster?   

Recorded from an RV (don't mind the hum of the air-conditioning in the background) at this past week's Burning Man, Amy discusses the idea of soulmates with Lisa Nicks-Balthasar and Chris Balthasar - “Soul Purpose Success” coaches, best friends, lovers, mirror soulmates, and husband and wife. Lisa and Chris walk their talk, living fully in a deep loving “Sacred Soulmates” relationship after losing their beloved first soulmates to death and divorce.  To learn more about their offerings, visit www.sacredsoulmates.com Also listen to Chris' past episode, #43 BEmpowered, as well as Lisa's episode, #45 Heart Of Manifestation