Parenting In The Thick Of It With Louise Clarke

In Chapter 7 (“Interpersonal Intuition”) of the amazing book “The Gift of ADHD” by Lara Honos-Webb PH.D, the author discusses how we can channel and enhance our child’s interpersonal intuition and emotional sensitivity into a deep connection with others. It can be very hard for your child to know what else to do other than be “defiant” especially when they have been labeled this for years. How can they not identify with this and find themselves caught in a downward behavioral spiral? Dr Honos-Webb equips you with wonderful exercises which will help your child become aware of their emotions and whose emotions he/she might be picking up on and what to do with them. And the most exciting thing of all is that I will be interviewing Dr Honos-Webb on the podcast in a few weeks. Stay tuned…   The Gift of ADHD by Lara Honos-Webb, PH.D  Amazon.com link to the book here: https://amzn.to/2Sqgsgp Follow Me Online Here: Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/louisec

 In today’s episode, I talk about what Lawnmower parenting is and why this parenting “trend” might be wreaking havoc on our kids. One of the hardest things a parent can face is to have to watch their child trip, fail, come up against obstacles, and face tough challenges. It’s so hard. But what happens when we clear the way for them and effectively eradicate the obstacles and challenges they should and need to face, and solve their problems for them? They fail to develop the very skills that we want them to have: perseverance, confidence, a sense of capability, self-agency, self-efficacy, self-reliance. Tune in, it’s super important…   Follow Me Online Here: Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/louiseclarkeyourparentingpartn/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourparentingpartner/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/YPPartner You Tube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqdQ1_fC72bKutwr5EfavQA FB Parent Support Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingI

When you can’t control what’s happening in front of you, the only way to deal with it is to first challenge yourself to take full control of yourself. If you find that your child is being controlling, meeting their control with control simply won’t work. When you try to control your crying child, they will not be able to calm down. When you try to control your defiant child, they will ramp up the undesirable behavior. So what do you do? The only way in which we can support our children through their emotional outbursts is by holding the space for them to experience their emotions and in so doing, create an environment where they feel safe. They are after all having the meltdown because they are scared - they don’t know how to tolerate NO, take their turn peacefully, be told what to do and they respond with big heartfelt emotions which then scares us!    Follow Me Online Here: Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/louiseclarkeyourparentingpartn/ Faceboo

When we show up aligned with our values and standing in our truth, we need no approval from the outside because we are being authentic to who it is we are. It is so vital that we role model this to our kiddos so that they can do the same but to do this, we need to help them understand that they have to approve of who it they are and not look to others for approval or try to be someone they are not (particularly important for our teens and tweens and the influence of social media on their developing "identity". This is a delicate balance to achieve when parenting because there are certain things that we have to approve of when it comes to leading and guiding them, but there are also many things that they do not need our approval for. We have to be able to see our kids as being the uniquely spirited individuals they are and let them stand in their own truth. Tune in... This episode was inspired by Dr. Rebecca Ray from her Daily choices instagram poster. You can find her at: @drrebeccaray  Follow Me Online

When is the last time you went outside and sat in Nature with the sole intention of just sitting there? I highly recommend it because it is quite remarkable just what it can do to lift your spirit, motivate and inspire you! Tuning into Nature’s vast silence and stillness is so restorative and grounding. The gratitude I have for the wonder that is Mother Nature is beyond anything else. I have always felt a deep, deep connection to her. As I sat outside today, I felt myself filling up on Nature’s offerings and the more grateful I was, the fuller I became. When I just sit and take in the enormity of it all and realize that I am ONE with all of that, it is one of the most inspiring things I can do. I need to remind myself to do this more than I do and hope that this is a reminder to you to add more of this into your life. It will be richer for it and the impact that it will have on your ability to stay non-reactive and more cool, calm and collected with your kiddos is the cherry on the top! Tune in as I share my

In Chapter 6 (“Showing the Way: Ecological Consciousness) of the amazing book “The Gift of ADHD” by Lara Honos-Webb PH.D, the author discusses how you can use your child’s innate love of Nature as a way in which to tap into his attention and focus building skills. What I love about this book is the author gives practical exercises for you to try with your child, each of them orchestrated to meet the goal of the chapter. Research now strongly indicates and demonstrates the positive impact of time spent in nature on attention in general and ADHD specifically.   Dr Honos-Webb really helps you appreciate the power that the environment can have on your chid’s behaviour and finding ways in which you can create environments that are a good match for your child’s differences and gifts. It is a sad sign of the times when there are public service announcements advocating the health benefits to children for playing outside and recommending a prescribed daily dose of outside time. Tune in…  The Gift of ADHD by

When I finally understood the real benefit of chores, not the actual chore itself, but what kids develop within themselves from doing them, I made more of an effort to holding my kids accountable to doing them. It can be all too easy to let the chores slip and just do them ourselves but this does our kids no favours whatsoever. In fact, I believe that kids not doing chores can have a negative effect on them and rob them of the opportunity of them developing some much needed skills. Tune in as I discuss it all...   Follow Me Online Here: Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/louiseclarkeyourparentingpartn/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourparentingpartner/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/YPPartner You Tube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqdQ1_fC72bKutwr5EfavQA FB Parent Support Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingInTheThickOfIt/ Podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/parenting-in-the-thick-of-it-with-louise-clarke/id1358492950 Parenti

There are few things more frustrating than being met with resistance. Especially when it comes to asking your kids to do something that you know they are perfectly capable of doing for themselves and should be doing for themselves. So what do you do? How do you not fuel the fire? And more importantly, how do you stay non-reactive in all of it? Tune in... Follow Me Online Here: Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/louiseclarkeyourparentingpartn/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourparentingpartner/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/YPPartner You Tube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqdQ1_fC72bKutwr5EfavQA FB Parent Support Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingInTheThickOfIt/ Podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/parenting-in-the-thick-of-it-with-louise-clarke/id1358492950 Parenting In The Thick Of It Family Organizer: https://parentinginthethickofit.com/ Medium: https://medium.com/@mlouiseclarke iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/pare

In the rush, busyness and chaos of life today, it is all too easy to lose our patience for things including our kids. When we are rushed, frazzled and pushing ourselves to the max, and our kids need us to be patient, they often get a very different thing - impatience and being "pushed" to get from one thing to another. Until we can learn to be more patient with ourselves, and let go of pushing ourselves to do just one more thing, we will not be able to respond to our children in the way they need us to - with patience. Tune in... The title for this episode was inspired by a beautiful Daily Choice post I saw on Instagram by Dr. Rebecca Ray who is a writer, speaker, and clinical psychologist. She has just published a wonderful looking book called : "The Universe Listens To Brave" which you can pre-order via her website here: https://rebeccaray.com.au/ You can also follow her on Instagram at: @drrebeccaray   Follow Me Online Here: Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp Pinterest: https://www.pint

The more I understand about thoughts the more I am able to manage them so they don't control me and sabotage me from being able to be present. When you develop an awareness for your thoughts, you can effectively choose which ones to "follow" and which ones to let go of. The problem is that we are wired to attach to negative thoughts five times more easily than we are to positive ones. And given they create our feelings and our feelings create our actions, being able to let go of the negative thoughts before they create the associated feelings within us is a good thing. Tune in... Follow Me Online Here: Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/louiseclarkeyourparentingpartn/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourparentingpartner/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/YPPartner You Tube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqdQ1_fC72bKutwr5EfavQA FB Parent Support Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingInTheThickOfIt/ Podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/paren

Have you ever considered that creative genius or inspiration requires a certain type of openness or spaciness? And precisely the sort of spaciness and openness that your child probably displays. In Chapter 5 of the book, "The Gift Of ADHD", the author Lara Honos-Webb PH.D. discusses the gift of creativity and the other traits that can often accompany it, traits that are typically seen as being negative, traits that kids with ADHD typically possess. Lara Honos-Webb helps the reader reframe these "negative" traits into more positive ones and I have found doing so incredibly valuable in helping me shift my perspective on this when parenting my child who had ADHD. Tune in... The Gift of ADHD by Lara Honos-Webb, PH.D  Amazon.com link to the book here: https://amzn.to/2Sqgsgp Follow Me Online Here: Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/louiseclarkeyourparentingpartn/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourparentingpartner/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/YPPartner

With the invention of smart phones and the surge in texting, SnapChat and other communication platforms, we have become so accustomed to being able to get almost instant replies that when we don't, it can leave us impatient or prone to worrying unnecessarily. Do you worry when you text your child and they don't reply instantly? Do you expect them to reply to your texts immediately so you know exactly where they are and what they are doing? This can have negative effects on your relationship with them and your child knowing that you trust them. Tune in... Follow Me Online Here: Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/louiseclarkeyourparentingpartn/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourparentingpartner/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/YPPartner You Tube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqdQ1_fC72bKutwr5EfavQA FB Parent Support Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingInTheThickOfIt/ Podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/parenting-in-the-thick-of-it-wi

Parent's are often left reeling at their child's chosen behavior, thinking what on earth just happened? And why? Why on earth did my child do that? Using the iceberg analogy for decoding behavior can be a useful tool for parents and one which I recommend. In other words, get curious as to what might be going on beneath the surface. Your child might be whining, shouting, crying, or being aggressive. These are the surface behaviors, the ones you see, but you have to look beyond this to what might be going on beneath the surface because it is this that usually drives the behavior. Beneath every behavior is an unmet need and it is up to us to be the Chief Inspector of Behavior in order to work out what it might be! Tune in... The link to the Parent Talk Podcast can be found here: https://parenttalk.ca/ Follow Me Online Here: Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/louiseclarkeyourparentingpartn/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourparentingpartner/ Twitter: https:/

When I finally understood that my emotional response has less to do with the things I experience and more to do with the thoughts and beliefs I have, boy oh boy, did it help me with my parenting. This was HUGE for me, tune in...  Follow Me Online Here Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/louiseclarkeyourparentingpartn/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourparentingpartner/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/YPPartner You Tube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqdQ1_fC72bKutwr5EfavQA FB Parent Support Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingInTheThickOfIt/ Podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/parenting-in-the-thick-of-it-with-louise-clarke/id1358492950 Parenting In The Thick Of It Family Organizer: https://parentinginthethickofit.com/ Medium: https://medium.com/@mlouiseclarke iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/parenting-in-the-thick-of-it-with-louise-clarke/id1358492950 Website: https://yourparentingpartner.com/ Spotify: https://open.sp

How often do you give yourself a time-in, or any time to just sit and be. Time to sit and ponder, reflect and lap up some quietness, solitude and silence. Silence nourishes us from within and allows us to develop an awareness of our minds and ultimately be able to give our minds a much needed break from the incessant thinking. Tune in...   Follow Me Online Here: Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/louiseclarkeyourparentingpartn/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourparentingpartner/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/YPPartner You Tube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqdQ1_fC72bKutwr5EfavQA FB Parent Support Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingInTheThickOfIt/ Podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/parenting-in-the-thick-of-it-with-louise-clarke/id1358492950 Parenting In The Thick Of It Family Organizer: https://parentinginthethickofit.com/ Medium: https://medium.com/@mlouiseclarke iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/parenting-in-th

In today's episode, I discuss Chapter 4 from the book "The Gift of ADHD" by Lara Honos-Webb PH.D and it's a good one! It is super useful to be aware of the common barriers to becoming your child's advocate so that you can learn to navigate them and become what your child needs you to be. I learned so much from this chapter and have shared all the nuggets here for you.  Tune in: The Gift of ADHD by Lara Honos-Webb, PH.D  Amazon.com link to the book here: https://amzn.to/2Sqgsgp Follow Me Online Here Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/louiseclarkeyourparentingpartn/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourparentingpartner/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/YPPartner You Tube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqdQ1_fC72bKutwr5EfavQA FB Parent Support Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingInTheThickOfIt/ Podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/parenting-in-the-thick-of-it-with-louise-clarke/id1358492950 Parenting In The Thick Of It Family Organ

Being able to control our own behavior in the face of any behavior our child might throw at us takes a huge amount of awareness and self-control. Losing it, yelling and joining them in the "ring" doesn't teach our children what they most need to learn - that being self-regulation and being able to handle their own big emotions. Tune in as I discuss what you can do...  Follow Me Online Here Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/louiseclarkeyourparentingpartn/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourparentingpartner/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/YPPartner You Tube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqdQ1_fC72bKutwr5EfavQA FB Parent Support Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingInTheThickOfIt/ Podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/parenting-in-the-thick-of-it-with-louise-clarke/id1358492950 Parenting In The Thick Of It Family Organizer: https://parentinginthethickofit.com/ Medium: https://medium.com/@mlouiseclarke iTunes: https://itunes.apple.co

I am right in the thick of college applications and admissions processes with my eldest son and it's crazy!!! There's such a delicate balance required from us in assisting them but not doing it for them and assisting them enough that they don't feel overwhelmed by it all. In this episode, I share with you what I have been doing and it seems to have worked... so far!! Remember that how you cope with it will strongly influence how your child will ultimately cope with it. Tune in...   Follow Me Online Here Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/louiseclarkeyourparentingpartn/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourparentingpartner/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/YPPartner You Tube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqdQ1_fC72bKutwr5EfavQA FB Parent Support Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingInTheThickOfIt/ Podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/parenting-in-the-thick-of-it-with-louise-clarke/id1358492950 Parenting In The Thick Of It Family Organ

Whatever it is your child might be struggling with, it is so hard for us to watch the struggle. Whether it is emotional pain or physical pain, it can be such an uncomfortable place to find ourselves. We just want to fix it and take it away for them. But doing this robs our kids of developing some pretty vital life skills. Tune in...   Follow Me Online Here Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/louiseclarkeyourparentingpartn/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourparentingpartner/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/YPPartner You Tube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqdQ1_fC72bKutwr5EfavQA FB Parent Support Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingInTheThickOfIt/ Podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/parenting-in-the-thick-of-it-with-louise-clarke/id1358492950 Parenting In The Thick Of It Family Organizer: https://parentinginthethickofit.com/ Medium: https://medium.com/@mlouiseclarke iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/parenting-in-the-thic

Being aware of what we consume is so very important and not just in terms of what we eat! So what do you consume? What do you eat, read, listen to (besides this podcast LOL), think? Who do you hang out with? Does it all align with you positively? Does it fuel you and help you grow? In this episode, I discuss many ways in which we can hone and refine our consumption. Life is precious, why waste your time consuming anything that is not good for your mind, body and spirit. Tune in...   Follow Me Online Here Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/louiseclarkeyourparentingpartn/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourparentingpartner/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/YPPartner You Tube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqdQ1_fC72bKutwr5EfavQA FB Parent Support Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingInTheThickOfIt/ Podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/parenting-in-the-thick-of-it-with-louise-clarke/id1358492950 Parenting In The Thick Of It Family Orga