Self-aware Millennial

What is the "good girl" problem? It's a complicated construct that has all of us, especially women, stuck in a loop of "shoulds," "supposed tos," and arbitrary rules designed to keep us in line and quiet.Being a "good girl" means following the rules and doing what society dictates is "right" or "appropriate." Though there are some merits to societal conditioning, like encouraging people to share and use manners; however, the idea that these rules are required for someone to be worthy of love, attention, or happiness are problematic.When these created constructs of who we "should be" go unquestioned, it leads to internal conflict, self-blame, self-hate, anger, and outward violence. When you try to force yourself into a box that was never designed for you, you better believe it's going to cause some intense problems in your life.Join me in my conversation with Kimberly Pendleton, PhD, all about the problem with the good girl constru

Sex is such a prevalent conversation in society...or is it? Despite all the messaging we get about sex in school, from our parents, media, and social platforms, candidly speaking about our sexualities and sexual experiences is still taboo. Hell, we're still trying to dictate and control what people do with their own bodies, who they do it with, and how it's done. What. The. F***? When will we agree to be authentic about how important a healthy relationship to sex is, no matter your orientation or preferences?Let's start now, with this episode! I sit down with a new friend, Kelsey Scotka, and candidly talk about all the ways in which bringing self-awareness to our sex lives has been a game changer. The biggest secret we uncover? Sex isn't really just sex — it's a full-body, whole-spirit experience that has enormous potential to teach you who you are, what you want, and how to advocate for yourself.

The hiatus is over! Season 2 episodes are back, and there are some exciting things happening.First, I explain why I've been so sporadic with episodes this year and what I learned from it. Then, I share some exciting updates for the show and the Get Your Joy On™ book and online course launching at the end of May.What's in this episode for you? I discuss the consciousness level of Shame, how it's showed up for me, what to do when you experience it, and an action step you can take right now to break free from it. This goes back to our discussion in episode 1 of this season about Dr. David Hawkins' Power v Force scale (Map of Consciousness). We'll spend the next few weeks walking through each level and exploring possibilities for how we can use that experience to become more authentically and joyfully ourselves.

In this episode, the tables are turned; interviewer becomes interviewee! Kelsey Henry, host of the Positively Delighted podcast (I interviewed her in episode 14), puts me in the hot seat and asks me great questions about my journey to self-awareness and how I approach life in general.At the essence of this episode, I share why self-awareness is the path I've taken and how it empowered me to go from depressed binge drinker to ecstatic lightworker.Plus, we have a few good laughs, discuss StrengthsFinder, and Kelsey shares her experience with one of the coolest services I offer, Soul-Seeing. Honestly, there are a lot of hidden gems in this episode (because Kelsey asks such amazing questions), so sit back, relax, and enjoy!

Sex is a complicated topic that affects all of us in one way or other. Whether we're having it, not having it, doing right, enjoying it or not, the messaging about sex in our society is confusing at best. So, how are those of us on self-awareness journeys to figure out sex and sexuality for ourselves?To start, I took a look at the ancient Eastern practice of Tantra. Tantra is a combination of texts, techniques, rituals, monastic practices, meditation, yoga, and ideology estimated to originate in the 7th century. This deeply reverent practice was passed down from guru to disciple as a way for people to find Oneness within themselves and the Universe.Listen to this episode to learn from the founders of Ecstatic Hearts, Melanie and ScottieO McClure, what Tantra is and how their practice has changed their lives for the better.Trigger Warning: Though we do not discuss sexual trauma in any form, we are talking about sex which can be a deeply personal and (unfortunately) traumatic topic for some. If you are som

Sometimes you get so caught up doing the work, you forget to have fun along the way! In this week's episode, I interview host of the Positively Delighted podcast, Kelsey Henry, all about fun and Laughter Yoga. It's important to remember that everything we do is in service of how we feel. That means, you go to work, make plans, choose food, and make all of your decisions based on how you expect them to make you feel. Even seemingly logical choices like going to work to make money to pay your bills come down to a feeling; maybe it's feeling secure, safe, and in control. You choose to eat a salad at lunch so you feel light and healthy. You choose to hang out with friends on Friday night so you can feel included, like you belong, and have fun.No matter your subconscious/internal motivations, it's important not to get so caught up in the work of it all you forget to enjoy the process! In fact, enjoying the process makes achieving your desired state that much easier and more worthwhile. As Miley

Perfectionism is something so many of us struggle with. Often, we don't even realize we're in it, and when we do, it feels impossible to leave. It doesn't help that we live a world that constantly reinforces the idea we need to hustle for our worth, achieve an excess of accolades, and never get tired to be worthy of love and attention.In this week's episode, I interview mindset coach and host of the Perfectionism Project, Sam Laura Brown all about the downfalls of perfectionism and how you can start breaking free from its vicious cycle.Listen to this episode if you're a perfectionist, think you might be, or know someone who is, so you can begin recognizing destructive patterns and behaviors in your life. 

Like it or not, money is a huge part of your life. It's the source of a lot of joy while also being one of the top reasons people get divorced. If you're like me, you walked into your adult life with a lot of debt, minimal income, and no clue how to handle it.It's time to start having wholistic conversations about our finances so we can feel encouraged and empowered to create positive change. Whether you think you have enough of it or not, money can only work for you if you're willing to work with it.In this episode, I interview my accountant and trusted business advisor, Roderick Robeson, on how to start shifting your relationship with money. If I've learned anything, it's that if you treat your money right, it'll return the favor.Listen to this episode for practical advice on how to manage your money better and start getting out of debt.

New Year's resolutions are a prevalent component of our lives. There's a sense of hope and promise that the new year will bring with it fresh opportunity and a new lease on life. There's an energy that says, "Things can be different this time!"Yet, most of us don't keep our resolutions. We fall into old habits and feel like victims of another year gone bad. We look in the mirror and feel the guilt and shame of failure. Even if you're one of the few who sticks to their resolution, the sense of accomplishment can be fleeting and lackluster.Listen to this episode to hear Liv's case for ditching resolutions and adopting intentions. We'll also get into how to build sustainable self-worth and why moving from external validation to internal permission is crucial for Millennials and future generations.

"Menstrual blood is the only source of blood that is not traumatically induced. Yet, in modern society, this is the most hidden blood, the one so rarely spoken of and almost never seen, except privately by women..." - Judy GrahnHalf the world has a menstrual cycle, yet this topic feels more like a shameful secret than a healthy body process. I speak with Holistic Health Expert, Diana Lane, about how that stigma started, why it's detrimental to everyone (not just people with cycles), and how de-stigmatizing and connecting with this cycle fosters self-awareness and self-love.Whether you have a cycle or not, this is a topic that affects all of our lives. It's what makes procreation and human life possible. The disconnection from this part of who we are as individuals and as a whole causes deep, unconscious damage that we can heal by normalizing and honoring it.Think about it: if we're all ashamed of where we came from, if we can't even talk about it, if we dishonor it, if we don&apo

Ever wondered why changing your thought patterns makes a difference? Or why people are so obsessed with "positive" thinking? Maybe you've even dared to imagine you have the power to rewire your brain, just by believing you do.Turns out, you can!In this episode, I talk to the Neuro Handyman (and my uncle), Michael Thompson all about self-awareness and our brains. In his thesis, the Neuroscience of Purpose, Michael explores how the voices in your head reveal the neural pathways you've created, and what you can do to change them. Through sharing his story and research, you can begin to understand why it's important to remember you are not your thoughts. Your brain is a magnificent tool you use to experience and navigate the world. And, like all tools, when it's being used improperly, it causes a lot of damage.The goods news? All this self-awareness bullshit is working! It's literally helping you create change, experience yourself and the world differently, and getting you close

If you’re super goal-oriented, it can be hard to see the trees when the forest is so immense. You're always so focused on the big picture, the little things get tossed to the wayside. When you discount the victories along the way, you make it almost impossible to celebrate the big wins!And let me guess, you can’t take a compliment either. People express their awe and amazement at the mountains you’ve moved, and instead of kindly accepting it, you “humbly” shrug it off and make one lame excuse or other. Like, “anyone could have done it”, “it wasn’t as hard as it looks”, or “I had a lot of help.”Ew. Just gross. Stop it. No one thinks that’s cute. No one's buying that disingenuous humility bullshit. It’s not a hot-ticket item. It’s a wet, soggy, undesirable thing we need to take off the market.When you downplay your success, you dishonor yourself and everyone else.Here’s the Truth: you are a spectacular, unique being put here on Earth specifically for your specialness. The truly humble thing to do is a

We all struggle with self-judgment. That inner voice that tells us all sorts of self-defeating and self-sabotaging things.When you want to make more money, it says you don't deserve it, that you haven't earned it. When you want to buy that cool new outfit, it reminds you that your body doesn't look like Kendall Jenners. That time you almost asked that person out on a date, but then that little voice convinced you how they were way too good for the likes of you.That voice is a liar. You know that. But, it's a persuasive bugger, so how do you stop listening to it?In this episode, I talk to Riley Blanks, founder of Woke Beauty, all about how we can shift the way we talk to ourselves by changing the way we treat ourselves. By putting practices and routines into your life that work for you, it's possible to quiet that inner voice.About Riley BlanksRiley Blanks is an Austin-based photographer, storyteller and model. She is the the founder of Woke Beauty; her mission is to encourage women to

<p>You know you're a performative perfectionist when:</p><ul><li>you beat yourself up for things that couldn't possibly be your fault</li><li>you go out of your way to make people who have hurt you more comfortable</li><li>you take every piece of feedback personally as an attack on your character</li><li>saying "no" feels like the worst thing that could possibly happen</li><li>you get defensive for making totally normal mistakes</li><p><b>Perfectionism is so damaging, not only because it creates an impossible standard to live up to but because it traps you in behaviors and thought patterns that convince you that you'll never be good enough.</b></p><p>The most damaging elements of living to perform and please and perfect are the need to get validation from others and the negative self-talk that comes with inevitable failures. By choosing to live in a perfectionist construct inste

<p>There is a lot of noise around you. Whether it's people in your life, at work, social media, the news, or your pets, all the demands on your time and attention can leave you feeling disconnected and confused. To the point you aren't even sure which way is up anymore.</p><p><b>The easiest way to gain clarity in a noisy world is to connect with your gut.</b></p><p>By gut, I mean that place inside yourself that knows the answer. The place that sometimes feels hard to find but is always there, waiting for you to check in. For some, that might literally be in your stomach area. For others, it may be in your chest, your head, or even your toes.</p><p>In this SAM Quick Tip, I'll teach you a method I use to not only connect with my gut, but cultivate a mind + body connection that makes it much easier for me to make decisions. Especially when the world won't shut up long enough for me to think!</p><p><b>Listen to this episod

I’ll say one thing for humankind: we aren’t scared of pain. In fact, a lot of us don’t know how to live without it. We’re so into pain, we’ll spend hours binge-watching other people’s pain. Some of us even take pride in causing pain for others. You’ve heard of the starving artist, the long-suffering rockstar, the emotionally stunted genius who pushes people away and treats them like shit so they won’t see how beautifully screwed up he is about his own pain (I’m looking at you, Dr. House). This is an abusive relationship. Except, it isn’t pain that’s abusing us. It’s us who’re abusing pain. Pain tells us some really significant information: Don’t touch open flames. Don’t trust a chronic liar. Don’t forget sunscreen in the desert. Please, do not run back to the partner that kept stabbing you in the back with their knife of betrayal. More importantly, pain guides us to our shadows so we can shine a light on them and befriend them. Pain has helped me see where I sabotage myself by not speaking honestly, by no

I'm in Bali this week on a very intense leadership retreat, so I've basically been a giant blob of tears. This is some intense shit. That's the truth. I'm working through a lot of old pain, stories, and behavior patterns I need to shed. Because I'm focusing so hard on helping myself, I'm not in a space to help you. So, to honor where I am and be in my authenticity, this week I'm not providing you and helpful tips or insight on self-awareness. Instead, I've gathered a few clips from other amazing people (David Bowie, Dr. Joe Dispenza, & Mel Robbins) that I hope inspire some thoughtful consideration. Thank you for letting me show up as me. And remember, I love you and I like you.

You are telling yourself stories, constantly. From the time you wake up in the morning to the time you fall asleep at night, you're attaching meaning to everything around you. Humans are, by design, meaning-making machines. We can't deal with ambiguity, so we fill in the blanks. With stories. Though these stories are "supposed" to help you find clarity and live to see another day, often times they sneakily sabotage your efforts to walk the path of joy. When you confuse the stories you create with fact, you set yourself up for unnecessary suffering. What are these stories exactly? How do you come up with them? What do you do when you recognize you're telling yourself a story? I discuss all of that and more in this week's episode. Mastering your stories (as they call it in Crucial Conversations) is an extremely important step toward living a more joy-filled life. And it's one of those skills that gets easier and easier and more and more beneficial over time!

You deserve to experience joy...but it doesn't always feel possible. This season, you're going to take what we learned in Season 1 about taking responsibility for your power and harness that to get closer to the joy-filled authentic life you're here to live. In other words, this season, you're going to... GET YOUR JOY ON! In this episode, I introduce the work of David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D.; specifically, his Power vs Force scale. This scale is designed to expose the hidden determinants of human behavior. Dr. Hawkins presents the idea that "...the human mind is like a computer terminal connected to a giant database. The database is human consciousness itself... with its roots in the common consciousness of all mankind. ...The unlimited information contained in the database has now been shown to be readily available to anyone in a few seconds, at any time and in any place." As I continue to learn more and read Dr. Hawkins' work, I'll use this measuring tool as an ancho

Since this is the last episode of this season, I want to talk about the theme of taking responsibility for your power, but first, I want to tell you about a cartoon that’s smarter than half the world’s leaders. One year, my mom gave me a framed Peanuts drawing by the creator, Charles Schulz. It’s a simple four-panel piece of art featuring good ol’ Charlie Brown and his blanket-toting friend, Linus. The pair are behind a red brick wall, heads resting on their hands, looking contemplative. Charlie asks Linus, “Do you ever think much about the future, Linus?” “Oh, yes...all the time,” Linus says. Charlie turns to his friend and asks, “What do you think you’d like to be when you grow up?” Linus turns to Charlie, and with all the confidence in the world responds, “Outrageously happy!” Outrageously. Happy. What an answer! That grand, simple message is hanging in my dining room, where I pass it every day. I’ve been overexposed to it, and so I’ve taken it for granted. But, every now and then, I stop to rer