Dr. Judy Wtf

Unprotective mothers, by their act of omission, do tremendous damage to their children by not speaking up and keeping them safe. Children who are scapegoated in this way often become the little spose sexually and emotionally. They grow up overstimulated sexually, and often times act out like being promiscuous or filling the whole in the soul by abuse. Betrayal is a common theme and it is difficult to shine the truth light on this dysfunction as the consciousness are both legal and familiar, and is very extreme.

Before you think of divorce, think of mediation. it is less expensive and you have more control and the outcome will be ,pre tailored to your induvial design. When initiating a divorce, have all your ducks in order and gain as much information as possible. If you are fear trigged by the situation, call the experts. Colleen O'Neil:colleen@collenoneil.com

The Inner injured child who is not mirrored and attuned to, is devoid of a healthy core sense of self. As a result of this they do not know how to trust and connect to others. Often times this whole in the soul that they are left with, will create a desire to fill it with substances, unhealthy habits like over eating, electronic devices, or simply turning off and shutting down. In order to develop a true sense of self you have to have healthy parents to build them from the outside in.

Sometimes the effects narcissistic mothers on their daughter are very subtle. Non=verbal communication can cut deep. Hand gestures, non eye contact, smirking, rolling eyes, can create core believes that are i am not loveable. Pay attention to these non-verbal demeaning gestures so you can identify them and heal.

Family estrangement is the result of a system gone wrong. Parents often time alienate their children from each other creating sibling rivalry in order to be in control. Sometimes children are silenced in their needs because parents do not want to emotionally regulate them, so they extinguish their normal childhood means. In order to shift the system out of this narcissistic one, we must go back to the childhood wounds and dismantle negative core beliefs that get triggered to breakdowns.

Narcissistic mothers do not want their daughters to outshine them. as a matter of face they like to use their children to fill the whole in the soul. This leaves terrible psychological scars that live them lost, alone, and worthless unless they are pleasing mother. The healthy independence never develops because there is a toxic pull to stay in the confides of the psychologic family prison. IN order to break free, the daughter must identify these wounds and release the toxic feelings behind the wounds and separate and individuate.

Living with a narcissist can take quite a toll. The effects include, depression anxiety low self esteem aches and pains and feeling like you are going crazy. It is very hard to leave these dynamics, especially when you have years of history or family with the induvial. At the end of the day, you have to make discussions on your best interests and the best interests of your family. There are no right answers, however it is only fair to make a last ditch effect to shift the darkness into the light.

When it come to letting love in, parents set the bar. When they leave you messages like you don't matter; or you are not important or loveable; it is hard to believe when people act or speak contrary to those messages. In order to surprise the bar and let love in, it is important to heal our childhood wounds so that we can develop the capacity to be givers and taker and create a synergistic relationships.

When children are neglected and abused severely and when their primary care taking is disrupted, babies and children lose their ability to regulate their emptions and become easily dysregulated. As a result they may become hyper vigilante or start shutting down. This very disruptive form of parenting or lack thereof has severe conclusion on human emotional cognitive and physical development. Psychoeducation and prevention are key to making sure that parents can form strong healthy bonds with their children and repair reputed ones.

When divorcing a narcissist, it is important to psycho educate yourself legally and psychologically. Boundaries become important and sometimes it is very import to keep a paper trail in the event that your ex tries to manipulate the truth. Children who are caught in the middle, suffer greatly and sometimes have to choose, one parent of the other. In healthy families children are never put in this position.

Satanic ritual abuse is one of the, if not THE horrific forms of abuse. In many cases it is multigenerational and the victim are groomed by their own families which are groomed by their families. Association is a common way of handling pain including associative identity disorder and psychosis. Unprocessed trauma is so deep that many people erect so many defense mechanism and they never get to cause, which is: sexual, psychical, and/or verbal abuse by the family members. Raquel had the courage to expose her wounds and as a result she is experience the deepest level of healing that she has ever obtained. Thank you Raquel for having the courage to speak on this subject.

Some people are symptoms bares of their family's. They are groomed to be people pleasers. Children are groomed to be people pleasure and also encoded with them horrible messages such as "I am not good enough," or "I am a bad person and don't deserve to live." In order to release the toxic feeling of guilt it is important to go back to the cause. Don't implode, don't explode, unload. Self reflect and self correct. Guilt is never a pathway to healing

Even when we can not control our global systems gone wrong, we can be the cause of healing individual which will then allow us to help ourselves and thus evolve other people. By self correcting, and looking in the truth mirror, we can begin to focus on identifying childhood wounds that have shadowed over us and have created us to break down. It is only through our individual healing that we can be the cause of making a difference globally. I invite everyone instead of identifying only with being an ism to remember that first and foremost that we are all human beings and part of the human race. I invite you all to join the human race.

In order to keep the focus off the narcissistic abusive person, they will blame shift on to you. This is a great way for them to avoid taking responsibility for their abusive behavior and induce you to question yourself. The best way you can prevent yourself from falling victim to their "tricks" is to psycho educate yourself about this narcissistic system as a terrible system gone wrong that affects families multi-generational and across cultures. Sibling rivalry is an unfortunate common fallout of this system gone wrong.

Guilting and shaming are ways to control and manipulate and divert the attention away from the narcissist victim. One way the narcissist will do this is by offering up fake apology that people buy into, that often times lead people into feeling they did something wrong. instead of vice versa. Genuine apologies include a sincere effort to make things right, "I am sorry" is just not enough. Taking the time to make people whole is understanding. Once buttons have been deactivated to healing, people are no longer a victim to be setup to feel guilt and shame that do not belong to them.

Parents have to earn the right to be honored. If they provide you with the emotional and physical nutrients to help you thrive, they deserve to be honored. If they are abusive, neglectful, and unemphatic, don't feel bad about not honoring them. Honor them to the level that you feel is right for you, there are no right answers and in some cases, light connect, no connect, and low connect is appreciate. The most important thing is to process the anger and resentment that you have been holding in throughout your life, so that you can be a cause of a better outcome or a part two of your life.

In these trying times, it is best to concentrate on being the light rather than fighting the darkness. We have splintered off and fractured our humanity and now it is time for use to heal individually to heal globally. It does not take much, yielding in traffic, showing empathy to others that are tired or lonely or hungry. Lets work on ourselves individual to bring it to others and to use our curse by designs as to way to teach others how to overcome what we have worked hard to overcome for ourselves.