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This was meant to be a just 3 min announcement, but based on your reaction to the news Dean Street Society is closing, I felt we needed another moment to just hang and process.   Pay The Value Closing Sale: DeanStreetSociety.com/closing   Also read information shared via email, by clicking “Hear More” at the bottom, and you can catch up on all emails sent since December 1st.

You asked for help choosing joy now and in the new year, after a hard year or season.   Can you relate to any of these?   You’re wishing time would go faster to get to something good or past something heavy? Feeling a case of the winter blues? Walking through disappointment? Or feeling energized about making 2024 your best year yet?   Today’s 5 Q’s with my teaching on each from my own life currently are for you! Review these after the teaching to come up with your own answers: 1. What do I have that others don’t have? // Gratitude 2. Who have I seen rebound that reminds me it’s true? // Evidence 3. What dark came before my dawns? // Receipts 4. What have I handled well, grown in, how have I healed? // Confidence 5. What is good right now? // Present   And enjoy my list of happy company this season: Knockemout book trilogy No Hard Feelings Zainab Johnson Mike Brubiglia Single All The Way   See you over on Instagram @HilaryRushford for more.   

The closer we get to a due date, the more I’m overthinking the name we have picked.   Here’s my advice on naming, plus what I’m looking for in case you have ideas?   Share this one with anyone working on their baby names.   Or to spark some conversation this holiday if you’re done with naming in your family.  Links in this episode:   Instagram post to give suggestions once you listen! ← Will be linked when post is live Truly, Internet Aunties (and a few uncles) thank you for your help!  

Sadly, much of a surrogacy journey is bracing for disappointment. However the positive side of that, is when things are easy you feel so incredibly lucky.   This week Jeremy, myself, and my mom all flew out to meet our surrogate’s family, our doctor, do a hospital tour, and have our 20-week anatomy scan.   All in a whirlwind 6 hours!   It was hilarious (y’all, our doctor is both an angel and a SNL character), a bit awkward, slightly triggering, and super heartwarming.   May it bring you more compassion, all the good feelings, and make you want to watch Bette Midler and Lily Tomlin this weekend! (wink) Would be so grateful if you’ll share this episode with anyone it might bless, tag me @HilaryRushford on Instagram, and take a minute to leave a review.    So grateful you’re here!  

A breakdown of my last 24 hours and the choices I made when there was too much on my plate.   Things are a lot right now.    Today I’m sharing exactly what I’m preaching, practicing, and sending in voice memos to my girlfriends.   We’re talking about:   How to avoid triggering people and *being* “that person” when someone’s struggling How to get out of unsolicited advice convos #palmtoface The #1 action to keep yourself and those around you more safe in the storms of life How to get saved or have something solved when times are tough   I want to help you do better not by trying harder, but by trying more gently.  Links in this episode:   Last chance to get your burnout score! → HilaryRushford.com/13signs Enrollment for Healing Burnout closes Friday Nov 10th! → HilaryRushford.com/burnout My honest IG video I reference at the top The book from the PS section   Please share this episode to bless someone else and tag me @HilaryRushford if on IG Stories so I can see what spoke to you. And

I’m watching friends navigate life from a place of burnout vs healing, and the difference is astounding.   Comparison (their grass is greener) keeps us chasing goals harder than we should.   Yet, the opposite of envy is even more destructive to our burnout, and far less talked about.   Today we’re healing the crippling mindset that keeps us chasing a dream until it nearly kills us. Anxiety and depression are two manifestations of the same burnout root.   Whether today you’re sprinting to keep a million balls in the air, or struggling through a sad fog to get much of anything done – it’s burnout.    The great news is that you can heal burnout!    You don’t have to stay here.   Let’s start creating space for hope today…   Links in this episode: 13 Signs of Burnout Assessment is live for the LAST time with me on November 1st + 2nd at HilaryRushford.com/13 signs ← Get your score + map for healing Enrollment for my Healing Burnout course opens on November 1st as I guide a final cohort through with up to 6 we

What if some of the biggest choices in your life actually came from outside your head, not inside your heart?   That’s the hard truth I’ve been grappling with.   I’ve been coming up for air a bit after a season of grief (with my book story) that (I see now) was followed by a season of hustle and determination to put life back together again.   I’m remembering how it felt in my body to dream many years ago with more hope, less disappointment, and less outside voices.   And now I understand why choosing the wrong dreams led to burnout and never enough These are the complex choices in life, and this is a safe space to tell the truth to yourself. Links in this episode: 13 Signs of Burnout Assessment is live for the LAST time with me on November 1st + 2nd at HilaryRushford.com/13 signs Then doors for my Healing Burnout course open on November 1st as I guide a final cohort through with 6 weeks of LIVE coaching! Save your seat at the link above to get an invite. Would love to hear your thoughts after on Inst

So many are struggling lately, both personal friends and members of our community.    I had a different episode planned for today when a friend called with hard, hard news and I wanted to share part of what we discussed.   Listen in to hear:   What to text a friend when you want to help, or need it yourself Two specific steps to make metaphorical winter seasons in our life harder or easier Why these are tools we’ll use repeatedly throughout life My mid-episode aha on the deeper issue with “and they all lived happily ever after” Bonus: How I’m applying this to a better mindset around literal winter here in NYC   It’s the message you or someone you love needs when the way is feeling dark, and you’re wishing to feel more hope and faith.    With all my heart, you’re welcome, in advance.  Links In This Episode:   The Healing Burnout Course is coming back this fall for the last time LIVE with Hilary for 6 weeks to coach you through. Join the waitlist to hear more + so you don’t miss it: HilaryRushfo

What advice would you give? Would you want?    The last two weeks while in Italy, I was swept away in the best romantic story.   A dear friend unexpectedly met someone while traveling internationally far from home and texted, “I might have met my husband.”   The wrinkle is that a life with him means a major fork in the road, leaving possibly forever things she’s loved, and for various reasons the decision is going to be made quickly.   When you have a major life decision, how can you be confident you won’t regret whatever you choose? Over hours of voice messages back and forth I reflected:   The advice I’m giving her is so much different than I would have 10 years ago. What I learned from my IVF, surrogacy, and book journey that gave me wisdom. What we really want to know, and are never going to.  How to avoid self-shame/blame if it doesn’t work out. The biggest difference between taking risks in your teens/20’s vs your mid-30’s and beyond    The questions I guided her through, I found myself as

Join us on the road from Tuscany to the Italian Riviera via Rome on: My 3 biggest takeaways from the 1st trimester of our pregnancy and surrogacy journey  Who we’ve shared the gender of the baby with and why/why not  The 2 extra special places we found on our first time in Tuscany (will share links on IG after our trip!) The Italian political perspective on surrogacy that I can’t help but think about while here  We get lost, have to change audio sources halfway through, and I don’t allow for silence so we don’t have to make edits once we arrive in Positano so he doesn’t have much time to chime in (ha.)  Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. If you think this would help someone you know please share and tag me so I can see and chime in! And thank you in advance (wink) for leaving a review, they mean so much in helping more people!  

Ciao from Rome! When we’re in a bad mood, we know so much we could do to make ourselves feel better.   Yet how often do we not do it in the moment when we’re rushing, flooded, frustrated?    Recently I’ve found a new self-coaching prompt I’m actually remembering to use. I’ve asked it to myself in those little moments in the day: When you’re trying on clothes that don’t fit When the commute was exhausting When no matter how hard you work you’re still behind When they’re upset even though you swore you tried your best I’m asking myself this simple Q when I’m cranky… because it feels light.   It doesn’t require as much mental work as past options, and comes with a lot less shame. Try it out for yourself today, and let me know if you agree?   I’ve been using it in Rome (more on my surprising thoughts about this city, travel, enough, fomo and more in the PS!) and it’s making my days sweeter.   Links in this episode: Healing Burnout at HilaryRushford.com/burnout ← coming back this fall, don’t miss it

A girlfriend chat going back to the future, around the world, and ending with more ease. (Don’t miss the PS!) In today’s episode we’re talking about how to live in the flow of love.   That sounds hard to pin down, but I’ll tell you exactly what to do and it’s so simple. The people you love most will thank you the deepest for listening.  Links in this episode: Friday, September 22 enrollment closes! What Makes Women Feel Beautiful → HilaryRushford.com/Beautiful Friday, September 22 replay expires! “How to Finally Feel Confident and at Peace in Your Body (+ save time, energy, and $2,000 per year)” ← HilaryRushford.com/BodyPeace    Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. If you think this would help someone you know please share and tag me so I can see and chime in! And thank you in advance (wink) for leaving a review, they mean so much in helping more people!  

A few months ago I got messages from 2 women in one week who were both hiding, on opposite ends of the same spectrum, each thinking they had the most to be ashamed of.   As I sat with their stories I realized: we all think we’re hiding the most, or more than others. When the truth is everyone is either hiding in some way, or has healed from hiding but used to be there so they can relate.   Today we’ll explore exactly how we heal, learn to trust, and why it matters so deeply to our health and happiness. Links in this episode: “How to Finally Feel Confident and at Peace in Your Body (+ save time, energy, and $2,000 per year)” ← HilaryRushford.com/BodyPeace join me TODAY + TOMORROW for a LIVE keynote speech with your free VIP ticket  The doors to What Makes Women Feel Beautiful will be opening today! HilaryRushford.com/Beautiful Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. If you think this would help someone you know please share and tag me so I can see and chime in! And thank yo

I went back to the site of past shame and was so grounded in myself, it was noteworthy.   How did I stay more present than self-analytical, despite being in a room of wealthy people I had once felt so much smaller than?   This is a different experience of confidence and freedom (of time, money, energy) than I’ve felt before.   And I’m sharing exactly what I did to get there! Links in this episode: Sept 13 + 14 join me for a LIVE Keynote Speech with your free VIP ticket at HilaryRushford.com/bodypeace ← “How to Finally Feel Confident and at Peace in Your Body (+ save time, energy, and $2,000 per year)”   Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. If you think this would help someone you know please share and tag me so I can see and chime in! And thank you in advance (wink) for leaving a review, they mean so much in helping more people!  

How often do you double shame yourself? Part of the shame is warranted: we’re imperfect and insecure.    Yet from that place how often do we also take on a double helping of guilt, instead of being able to see that the people or circumstances around us were also flawed and problematic?   Sharing a story about a chance meeting that left me with so many insights about myself 20 years ago, and myself today – both how I’ve grown and what the next level of healing is.   Links in this episode: What Makes Women Feel Beautiful is opening again soon, get on the list now! Order your Elegant Excellence Journal today to start healing more deeply   Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. If you think this would help someone you know please share and tag me so I can see and chime in!   And thank you in advance (wink) for leaving a review, they mean so much in helping more people!

I had my first experience with mom shame, and I couldn’t believe I caved so quickly!   I knew what was and was not a priority for me, but one little sentence… and I took an action purely out of shame and fear. #PalmToFace   I was genuinely flabbergasted that I could feel pressured so easily on a decision I’d made very clearly over a year ago.   I came home determined to shore up my confidence and identified 3 steps to remaining confident in your decisions when others disagree.   This conversation includes how to feel less triggered by the unsolicited advice of others, avoid burnout and overwhelm, and live with less stress, more peace.   Links in this episode: What Makes Women Feel Beautiful is opening for the 2nd time only and earlier than expected! Open for one week only, don’t miss it by getting on the list here: HilaryRushford.com/Beautiful Ep 172: The #1 insensitive Q to please stop asking pregnant people    Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. If you think this woul

We got a call from our surrogate that she was spotting, shaken, and headed to the hospital.   I’ve been sharing how much I’m confused by the peace I’m feeling around surrogacy and pregnancy.   As someone who’s always been prone to anxiety, how the heck am I SO CALM?!   I’m thrilled I am! But I literally don’t recognize this feeling of living in my body.   I wondered if perhaps I just hadn’t been tested?   Maybe the peace will prove less strong if something goes wrong?   How I handled the next 12 hours of not knowing whether we were miscarrying, shocked me even more.   The next day I started journaling: I want this same peace in other areas of my life! So HOW did I get here?!   I went back to 2018, followed the path, and identified 5ish steps you’ll learn in this episode.   I’ve taken new steps myself this week from the wisdom in this conversation!    I believe we can both create more almost unbelievable peace for ourselves by the end of 2023.   Let’s give each other updates on how it’s going in the months to

For years I’ve been endlessly making big decisions.   Did we want to have kids or not?    Were we supposed to leave NYC, and if so to go where?   These decisions were the two longest and hardest I’ve ever had to make, but I’m so grateful for this process that eventually lead me to peace.   As I wrestled with these decisions over the years, I took notes for you. Listen in for the 7 steps that helped me make these big choices in a way that left me with confidence when it came time. Links in this episode: Making big or small decisions in your life, year, priorities? Order your EEJ at ElegantExcellenceJournal.com today!  My new favorite root touch-up stick Earlier episodes on my decision to have kids or not: Ep 112: Motherhood: Yes, no, maybe Ep 113: Motherhood, the things I was afraid to say in the last one Ep 170: Our Fertility Journey (part 1) Ep 171: Our Surrogacy Story (part 2) Ep 172: The #1 insensitive Q to please stop asking pregnant people     Would love to hear your thoughts af

I’ve had 5 years of being asked this question. #PalmToFace   It’s one I asked others over the years! It seemed innocuous and I didn’t realize how triggering, personal, or just awkward it can be.   This question is asked whether someone is pregnant, using IVF or conceiving naturally, or even had children years ago.   Please note this isn’t to shame any of us who have asked (or answered!) over the years.   We did the best we could with what we knew then.   Now we know better, so we’ll do better for both parents and children.  Links in this episode: For peace, clarity, and confidence in your life choices, order your ElegantExcellenceJournal.com today! A process cultivated over 10 years, with thousands of customers and 5-star reviews, it’s the life coach at your fingertips guiding you to your own inner wisdom. Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. If you think this would help someone you know please share and tag me so I can see and chime in! And thank you in advance (wink) fo

How did surrogacy get on our hearts? What are the misconceptions about surrogates?   Bigger picture, how do you make big decisions (especially when you have no one to ask) and look for clues in the seeds God/the universe has planted around your life?   We’re covering all of that plus the 4 reasons to NOT do surrogacy, why we turned down our 1st two matches, and more.   Links mentioned in this episode: Finding out if we’re pregnant video The night before “mantra for waiting on a dream” video Danny + Mara’s final IVF post My book publishing nightmare   If you’re seeking more peace, clarity, and confidence in your own life choices, order your Elegant Excellence Journal today at ElegantExcellenceJournal.com! A process cultivated over 10 years, with thousands of customers and 5-star reviews, it’s the life coach at your fingertips guiding you to your own inner wisdom. Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. If you think this would help someone you know please share and tag me