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Sharing a brand new teaching that’s come out of writing my style book. You have more power and opportunity that ever before to shift your story of what is beautiful, with a few simple, enjoyable actions. Mentioned in today’s podcast: Ep 29: 22 Steps to Feel Better in 1 Day (Easier Than it Sounds) Please come over to Instagram @HilaryRushford and tell me when you find someone new to follow there. And leave a voice memo at HilaryRushford.com/podvip with Q’s or topics to inspire future episodes.

Do you feel guilty you don’t accomplish more? Beat yourself up for not doing more? Feel failure and shame that your list is so long or you’re so far from where or who you desire? I was shocked in a recent chat on Instagram Stories when 80% of you said yes. Having explored this pain point in my own life for years, I’m sharing 3 core components I believe will give you more confidence, peace, freedom, and permission. Episodes referenced: Ep 47: Mindful Instagram Challenge for the Everygirl Ep 60: The Wand: Change your day in 5 min (+ your inner teen girl) Ep 58: Productivity Guilt during Quarantine + the Idealization of Time Resources referenced: Elegant Excellence Goals Journal Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown Come continue the conversation on Instagram at @HilaryRushford or leave a voice memo at HilaryRushford.com/podvip.

I had an aha while writing my style book. I wrote this on a post-it: “Write for her, not for critics or activists.” I shared on Instagram Stories and the response was overwhelming. On today’s episode I teach on who you’re called to. Whether friendships that feel hard, social media that feels overwhelming, or creativity that feels terrifying. Imagine a weight being lifted when you realize someone isn’t your responsibility... Picture fresh enthusiasm when you realize who you ARE called to... Listen in to feel more freedom in your relationships, creation, and time… PS We’re hiring! Visit https://deanstreetsociety.com/careers/ to read our current open position. Share this episode and tag @HilaryRushford, and/or chime in with topics and ideas for future pods at https://deanstreetsociety.com/podvip/.

When you’re frustratingly stuck in a scenario, what do you? Whether a creaky home messing with your morning routine, or an impasse with your husband on where to live. Sharing my advice to a few DMs I’ve received…. Links in the episode: Instagram Stories on Shaming Elegant Excellence Goals Journal What would YOU like to chat about next? Leave me a voice memo at HilaryRushford.com/podvip and join the conversation in my IG Stories @HilaryRushford!

“My girlfriends have been complaining about weight gain during quarantine. I think they look great! But it makes me so uncomfortable because I’m a larger size than any of them. I know they don’t mean it, but it makes me self-conscious when they judge their own smaller bodies in front of me. Do you have any advice for how to bring this up without making it awkward?” Let’s talk about The Compliment Sandwich for handling delicate conversations with aplomb. Links in this episode: Episode 49: An Open Letter on Opinion Culture My puzzle mat PS Since recording this episode we had an incredible conversation about shaming on IG Stories which you can find pinned @HilaryRushford. Please come leave a voice memo at HilaryRushford.com/podvip to submit suggestions, Q’s or topics for upcoming episodes!

How do you show yourself grace in decision making? How do you MAKE big decisions around where to live, career, family? Answering your Q’s and sharing some of my personal story on these topics. 8 Q’s + Actions to Consider: Zoom out to 10 years and beyond. What do you want to be true at 70? Do the regret test. If you do or don’t do this, might you regret it? Give yourself grace if you don’t have an answer right now. Trust that means it’s not the right time FOR you to have an answer. Envision your day to day. What will this look like on a very practical level. What clues are in your fantasies? Is there a more practical way you could incorporate these? Think medium term. What if this was just for 3 years? What do you want to have saved financially in 18 months? What gives you buzz in your life? Can you find that in different ways in your options? Test it. Whether a trial run, or mentally through journaling, research and conversation. Put yourself in that reality to see how it truly feels. Listen to Ep 61: Shelt

I’ve noticed something in myself and my Elegant Excellence Mastermind students over the past year. Colleagues and coaches have confirmed it for me, and it’s a growing passion for me to help us break through it. Today the doors open for my brand new course Creative Business Accelerator, with a limited time window to also join my Elegant Excellence Mastermind for the last 6 months of 2020. Join me on a live call Wednesday/Thursday on The Simplest Way to Launch a New Business or Product for more teaching and details. I can help you launch in 3-30 days with less overwhelm and procrastination, for more confidence and revenue. At an incredibly affordable price. Links in this episode: Special Bonus Ep: I Owe You an Apology Ep 61: Shelter-At-Home Style + Dressing Joyfully Photo I mention on my IG feed Gal Meets Glam announcement Have questions? I’m on Instagram @HilaryRushford. Idea for a future podcast? Leave a voice memo with a Q or topic at HilaryRushford.com/podvip.

I asked on IG Stories how you’re feeling amidst our global conversation on racism and racial equity. The most common answers were: Ashamed, horrified, devastated at how much I didn’t know I didn’t know. Overwhelmed. I feel pressure to speak, but to not misspeak; shamed for being silent, judged for misspeaking, I’m frozen. Guilty that I want Instagram to be the place I escape from the anxiety of my day, not the source of it. Everything I read, the heart was empathetic and compassionate. Wanting to help, support, and love. And, struggling with not being full-time activists, yet also having woken up. Unsure how to balance your life, for many entrepreneurs your business, along with not wanting to “move on”. This is what I’ve been wrestling with myself. Authenticity is very important to me. Staying focused on a topic because it’s trendy or there’s pressure, is not the same as a true heart shift. We show heart shifts, when weeks, months and years from now, we show true life shifts. In this episode I share princip

Who made the first move, what’s our best dating advice? You submitted Q’s for Jeremy, who’s making his podcast debut! Interested in our proposal and wedding stories? __________ My brand new course for entrepreneurs and aspiring opens this month in June! Get on the waitlist so you don’t miss the limited first window. Have follow-up Q’s or another topic you’d love to hear on the pod? Would love to hear from you below my latest post on IG @HilaryRushford or leaving a voice memo at HilaryRushford.com/podvip.

Do you reach out to friends more than they reach out to you? Do you think most people probably have more social plans (pre-coronavirus) than you do? Who are we reaching out to more/less these days and why? I gathered these Q’s into a series of surveys on IG Stories and put the insights into today's episode. Our hearts crave more connection. We’re all yearning to hear from one another more. So why are we all letting one another down? Episodes mentioned to re-listen on related topics: Ep 59: Permission to heal: social media, Covid + community Ep 56: Loneliness, Friendship + 3 Steps in Connection Ep 60: The Wand: Change your day in 5 min (+ your inner teen girl) Be sure to hop on the waiting list for my brand new course or entrepreneurs and aspiring launching this month! Would love to hear your thoughts on today’s episode under my latest IG post (whenever you hear this) @HilaryRushford, or Q’s for future episodes at HilaryRushford.com/podvip.

We had big beautiful visions for our 2020 on January 1. A new decade, a new season. We’d just launched the Elegant Excellence Goals Journal. Then before Q1 was even over they had completely changed with a global pandemic. We don’t know when it will be over, what normal looks or feels like, which freedom and choice we do or don’t have. Making plans feels exhausting. Without them we’re aimless, disorganized, unfulfilled. Yet trying to make them, comes with overwhelm about where to begin, what’s certain, what can we guarantee? Do you reschedule your wedding, renew your lease in this city, start the business? Today I’m sharing 7 Q’s that have helped me to navigate: Consider what you’ve discovered is important to you in this time Revisit your 10 + 3 year goals Adjust your 1 year goals Make plans B + C (+ D) Sketch a new Path Make + celebrate very short-term goals Ask in 3 years what will I regret? _____ Want more help? Get one of the few post-dated Elegant Excellence Journals available. Hop on the wait-list for

As I’ve been reading over your DMs, and we’ve been chatting through my IG Stories, there’s something I want to say. If you’re feeling tired, overwhelmed, discouraged, in need of a break, or unsure, this is for you. By the way, I’ve felt all of those things myself and on the rare times that a friend knows me well enough to speak this into my life, it’s such a blessing. If you think this message would bless others please SCREENSHOT + SHARE. Tag me on Instagram Stories @HilaryRushford so I can thank you! Text it directly to a friend. I would LOVE to hear from you with Q’s or topics for future episodes at HilaryRushford.com/podvip if you’ll come leave me a voice memo? PS If you loved this episode, check out Ep 42 The 6 Words You Need to Hear + Ep 43: I Am So Proud of You.

Are you enjoying your closet more or less in this season? And why? I asked this question on Instagram and your responses came into 11 areas. Whether positive feelings we want to KEEP after this season, or negative ones where we might have more choice to CHANGE than we realize, I’m breaking them down. So many of my lessons came back to the heart behind my style class, Style & Styleability, that I decided to open it up for podcast listeners. I’ve shared a replay of my last free class taught in Brooklyn here: HilaryRushford.com/class Two other episodes mentioned in this one are: Ep 60 The Wand Ep 39 Royal Mindset Come tell me your own thoughts on today’s conversation over on Instagram @HilaryRushford beneath my latest post? And look for examples of the styles I mention in my Stories or pinned Stories if they’ve expired.

The most powerful tool I’ve used to change my life, that's still helping me through coronavirus, in entrepreneurship, in my friendships...all the things! For a quick visual: C T F A R C T F A R That’s all. Simple, yet shockingly powerful. Go deeper with these additional podcast episodes (I re-listen to my own episodes ALL the time! Just because we’ve heard it, doesn't mean we are living it!): Ep 29: 22 Steps to Feel Better in 1 Day (Easier Than it Sounds) Ep 39: Welcome to the Royal 20’s! Ep 58: Productivity Guilt during Quarantine + the Idealization of Time If you’re interested in either the Elegant Excellence Journal or Elegant Excellence Mastermind you can hop on our wait lists for more info! Would LOVE to hear your thoughts over on Instagram @HilaryRushford and be so honored if you would screenshot this episode to share. Want to share even more? Send me a voice memo at HilaryRushford.com/podvip to inspire a future episode. PS: Something I’m loving lately, Rob Lowe Autobiography!

Today’s concept of Third Circle Grief has blessed my life for the last few years as I came up with it to process my own experiences. Sharing it, only recently on Instagram, the response was overwhelming as 90% said you too are experiencing this, you just didn’t have language for it. What it is, what it means, and how to process it. A few other gems from this episode: Ep #26 How to Be A Good Friend in Grief Grain free chocolate chip cookie recipe Ep #1 of my IGTV cooking (ahem, comedy) show on what I make for breakfast And Ep #2: A Coronavirus Cookie Fairy Tale starring Harry + Megan Would LOVE to hear your thoughts over on Instagram @HilaryRushford and be so honored if you would screenshot this episode to share. Want to share even more? Send me a voice memo at HilaryRushford.com/podvip to inspire a future episode.

I feel I should be getting more done during this time. Sound familiar? I feel I should be more productive, creative, rested. The “should’s” are piling up during this time and rather than simply swatting them away with a “show yourself more grace,” I think we have a powerful opportunity to ask why. What would happen if we did not, in fact, do these things on the “should list”? And deepest of all, have we made time the enemy all these years… only to realize the enemy is actually within ourselves? If we don’t do ____ while we have more time (for those of us who do right now) what does that say about us in the long-run? Would LOVE to hear your thoughts over on Instagram @HilaryRushford and be so honored if you would screenshot this episode to share. Want to share even more? Send me a voice memo at HilaryRushford.com/podvip to inspire a future episode. And don’t forget, if you’re curious about starting, scaling or pivoting any sort of side income, product, or business be first to hear about my brand new course rig

If you’re unsure what your special gift is, how to stand out in your industry, or succeed doing something you’re naturally brilliant at -- I’ve got a story for you! I recorded this conversation with my dad over Christmas, and it has the hope and big-picture-dreaming I feel we all need in this challenging season of coronavirus and recession. Right now, many of us are scared or stuck, in our work and our dreams. From our family to yours, may you create your own story worth telling, COVID setbacks and redirections and all. Would love to hear your thoughts and experiences. Come share with me on Instagram @HilaryRushford. Or send me a voice memo on this or other topics you’d love to discuss here on the podcast at HilaryRushford.com/podvip. P.S. Be the 1st to hear about my brand new course for entrepreneurs and aspiring! #ComingSoon

Are you feeling more or less connected in the past few weeks? I’ll share how I’m feeling, as well as some timeless insights into these emotions that can feel all the more relevant in this current reality of sheltering at home for much of the world. This is the final in a three-part series, exploring the NYT best seller Lost Connections: Why You’re Depressed and How to Find Hope by Johann Hari. Part 1: Ep 51: Healing Our Depression + Anxiety, with Beauty + Joy Part 2: Ep 55: What We Want Out of Work + How to Create It What would you love to discuss on the podcast next? Come leave me a voice memo! HilaryRushford.com/podvip And please come hang out with me on Instagram @HilaryRushford!

Why are 87% of us disengaged or enraged with our work? For those who are fellow entrepreneurs, what does this mean when it comes to our own team and employees? This episode is the second in a three-part series, exploring the NYT best seller Lost Connections: Why You’re Depressed and How to Find Hope by Johann Hari, and the issues most relevant to us at Dean Street Society. Part one is here: Ep 51: Healing Our Depression + Anxiety, with Beauty + Joy Whether you or somebody you know has struggled with depression and anxiety, this is a topic that needs all of us to lean in, think deeply, and truly take action. For more timely conversation on work during Coronavirus for those seeking additional income, stay tuned for a video coming to IGTV @HilaryRushford this week. And till then get your daily dose of joy with one of my new most watched style videos un-sponsored by a little boutique I found here on the road called Walmart. (wink) What would you love to discuss on the podcast next? Come leave me a voice memo! Hil

Choosing grace and releasing control. That’s the message I feel we all need in this challenging season. Both our in-person relationships, and our online ones (where we tend to feel even more loose in our boundaries). Listen in to understand why you’re feeling how you are, and make sure you’re loving those around you as best you can. With all the heaviness, we need gentleness more than ever! And joy, hence my shout-out for this IG profile. Would love to hear your thoughts and experiences? Come share with me on Instagram @HilaryRushford. Or send me a voice memo on this or other topics you’d love to discuss here on the podcast in this season at HilaryRushford.com/podvip. Links in this episode: Ep: 49: An Open Letter on Opinion Culture IG Account: goodnews_movement